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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Thursday, October 14, 2021
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M. SCHULZ
Mom’s judgment hinders
her daughter’s recovery
FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE
B.C.
PICKLES
BEETLE BAILEY
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
BY MASTROIANNI AND HART
BY BRIAN CRANE
As to what to say to your
Dear Abby: I’m a woman in
mother, try this: “Mom, I know
my mid-30s without much fam-
I need help for my shopping
ily. I’m an only child and have
addiction. I am seeking it now.
no relationship with my father.
While I am in recovery, you
The relationship I have with my
won’t be hearing from me for a
mother is extremely toxic.
while, so don’t worry. We will
I have suffered my entire life
talk eventually.”
from a severe shopping addic-
J EANNE
Dear Abby: I lost my best
tion. I recently relapsed, and
P HILLIPS
friend of 32 years in a car acci-
I’m trying to recover financially.
ADVICE
dent three months ago. She was
I can’t afford counseling right
the best friend a person could
now, and I can’t ask for help
possibly have. She would not
from my mother because of how
horribly she shames me about my addic- only give you the shirt off her back, but
tion. In fact, I have realized that having she would then ask what else you needed.
her in my life at all is a massive trigger We had been through so much together.
because she constantly puts me down for This would be the kind of thing I would
not being financially stable as an adult. turn to her for comfort while going
She also constantly compares me not through. She was cremated, and I didn’t
only to herself when she was my age, but see her before that, so I didn’t get closure.
I feel so empty and unfinished. What do I
to others in my generation.
How can I tell her I no longer want do? — Not Well In The South
Dear Not Well: Please accept my
her in my life for the sake of my mental
health and addiction recovery? — Pull- sympathy for the loss of your dear friend.
The circumstances of your loss make
ing Back In Texas
it more difficult, but it is not in-
Dear Pulling: I’m not sure if you
are already aware of it, but many people surmountable. Because there is no “place”
use shopping as a way of coping with you can go to mourn her, you might
depression. You may be one of them. find closure by writing her a letter tell-
Before taking on that difficult conversa- ing her all the things you weren’t able
tion, do some research and find out what to say before her death. Then choose a
county mental health services may be private site you both used to enjoy, read
available in your area. They are usually it aloud to her and burn it, knowing she
offered on a sliding fee scale. There are will always be alive in your heart. If this
also 12-step programs for compulsive is not sufficient, consider asking your
shoppers that you might find helpful. physician or religious adviser about a
Please go online and research some of grief support group to help you work
this through.
them as well.
BY MORT WALKER
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND JOHN MARSHALL
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
Oct. 14, 1921
Lack of wind saved the little town of Umap-
ine from total destruction from a blaze which
started at 12:30 o’clock Wednesday morning
in the building owned by the Hudson Bay Hall
company and entirely destroyed the grocery
store located in the building and the apartment
in the rear in which the the store’s manager
and his family lived. A moving picture show
brought to Umapine Tuesday evening from
Milton is reported to have been the cause of
the fire as it was from the corner in which the
moving picture machine was stationed that the
blaze started. Faulty wiring connected with the
projector is thought to be the real origin of the
fire. The Williams & Olinger lumber office and
shed, located next to the Hudson Bay building,
was badly scorched from the fire, which was
reported still burning at an early hour Wednes-
day afternoon.
50 Years Ago
Oct. 14, 1971
Interstate 80 North has soared above Pendle-
ton for more than a year, and the city has grown
accustomed to the fact that every vehicle trav-
eling east and west doesn’t have to go through
the business section. The disaster some busi-
ness people feared when the freeway was built
didn’t happen. “The motel business has never
been better,” said Paul Linnebur, manager of the
Tapadara in downtown Pendleton. “We’ve had
the biggest year in our history.” “The complex-
ion of our business changed for a while,”
commented E. M. McClure of the Imperial 400.
“But we’re back to where we were before the
freeway.” “Pendleton is a good tourist town,”
said Les Tinhof, manager of the chamber of
commerce. “It is a natural stopping place.”
25 Years Ago
Oct. 14, 1996
As a domestic violence survivor, Mari-
bel Moreno knows what the clients she helps
at Domestic Violence Services are going
through. Moreno is the sole staff member of
the DVS office in Hermiston, which opened
in May. Though she operates out of an office
little bigger than a large closet at the state office
building in Hermiston, she handles a volume of
calls nearly equal to the Pendleton office. The
Hermiston office was a way for DVS to test the
waters to see if it needed to expand its services.
Based on the number of assistance calls gener-
ated in the past six months, that question has
been answered. In June alone, Moreno handled
136 calls from the crisis line, transported 72
women to the shelter in Pendleton and provided
assistance in court 17 times.
TODAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY PARKER AND HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On Oct. 14, 1947, U.S.
Air Force Capt. Charles
E. “Chuck” Yeager be-
came the first test pilot to
break the sound barrier as
he flew the experimental
Bell XS-1 (later X-1) rock-
et plane over Muroc Dry
Lake in California.
In 1939, a German
U-boat torpedoed and
sank the HMS Royal
Oak, a British battleship
anchored at Scapa Flow
in Scotland’s Orkney Is-
lands; 833 of the more
than 1,200 men aboard
were killed.
In 1944, German Field
Marshal Erwin Rommel
took his own life rather
than face trial and certain
execution for allegedly
conspiring against Adolf
Hitler.
In 1964, civil rights
leader Martin Luther
King Jr. was named win-
ner of the Nobel Peace
Prize. Soviet leader Nikita
S. Khrushchev was top-
pled from power; he was
succeeded by Leonid Br-
ezhnev as First Secretary
and by Alexei Kosygin as
Premier.
In 1968, the first suc-
cessful live telecast from
a manned U.S. spacecraft
was transmitted from
Apollo 7.
In 1981, the new presi-
dent of Egypt, Hosni
Mubarak, was sworn in to
succeed the assassinated
Anwar Sadat. Mubarak
pledged loyalty to Sadat’s
policies.
In 2001, as U.S. jets
opened a second week
of raids in Afghanistan,
President George W. Bush
sternly rejected a Taliban
offer to discuss handing
over Osama bin Laden to
a third country.
In 2008, a grand jury
in Orlando, Fla. returned
charges of first-degree
murder, aggravated child
abuse and aggravated man-
slaughter against Casey
Anthony in the death of
her 2-year-old daughter,
Caylee. (She was acquit-
ted in July 2011.)
In 2014, a second nurse
at Texas Health Presbyte-
rian Hospital Dallas came
down with Ebola after
contracting it from a dy-
ing patient. (The nurse,
Amber Joy Vinson, was
later declared free of the
disease.)
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE