COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, October 9, 2021
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Man needs assertiveness training to cut off dependent
Dear Abby: I have a long-distance
friend I met online 10 years ago. I took
pity on her because she was nearly desti-
tute, and I have been helping her pay her
bills. She’s visited me a number of times,
and I care about her a lot. However, her
constant requests for money are starting to
make me uncomfortable. (She can’t work
for health reasons, and there’s a major scar-
city of social services or competent care in
her Rust Belt locality.)
I do not want to continue enabling her.
I have tried suggesting she move closer
to her sister, seek better care, etc., but she
doesn’t have the motivation. I have a hard
time saying “no” to people. I got married
recently, and I don’t want this situation to
negatively aff ect my relationship with my
wife.
In my friend’s current emotional state,
I’m afraid if I end my friendship with her, to contact you until she has moved closer to
she’ll never recover from the emotional her sister so she can fi nd the help she needs.
Do not feel guilty for doing this.
trauma. She even tattooed my
You have been extraordinarily
name on her wrist so she’d see
generous to have let this go on for
it every time she wanted to cut
herself, like she used to do before
a decade.
we met. What should I do? —
Dear Abby: My husband and
Dear Tied To Her
I have good friends who winter
Dear Tied: Start researching
every year in another state, half-
assertiveness training programs
way across the country. For years
for yourself, because you sorely
they asked us to come for a visit.
JEANNE
need more help than I can give you
Last winter, we were vacation-
PHILLIPS
in one column.
ing about six hours from where
ADVICE
Discuss this with your wife
they were staying. We called and
for additional emotional support,
asked if they were available and
if it would be convenient for us to
because you are right — continu-
ing to give your online friend fi nancial help come for three days. They assured us they
will destroy your marriage. After that, tell had no commitments and would love for us
this needy woman you won’t be sending her to come, which we did.
more money, and that you do not want her
In the early morning of the third day,
they announced they had been invited to
go to a ballgame with a friend and would
be leaving almost immediately, adding it
was an hour’s drive away and they would be
gone all day and returning early evening.
They said we were welcome to “just hang
out” and wait for them to return. We said
we would head home the same time they
left for the ballgame.
I was stunned and felt they were incred-
ibly rude. Am I overly sensitive, or was
this an acceptable way to treat guests? —
Taken Aback In A Cold State
Dear Taken Aback: I agree that it was
rude. Your friends had a choice, to fulfi ll
their duties as gracious hosts, or be selfi sh
and go to the game.
By choosing the latter, they damaged
a longtime friendship. I can see why you
were “taken aback.”
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
Oct. 9, 1921
Richard Hanley, athletic instructor and coach of
the Bulldoggers of Pendleton high school, returned
today from Pullman, where he was one of the stars of
the annual Alumni-Varsity game at Washington State
College. Mr. Hanley, who played right half, helped the
Alumni to give the Varsity the worst drubbing in the
history of the college by making a touchdown and kick-
ing four goals. The Alumni team, Mr. Hanley states, was
made up of members of the champion teams of 1915-
1917 and six W. S. C. players who were members of the
Marine team. Despite the poor showing made by the
Varsity team, Mr. Hanley believes that the Washington
players will after some practice spring a few surprises
in the games this fall.
50 Years Ago
Oct. 9, 1971
Another area product — bacon — is winning atten-
tion across the nation, along with Eastern Oregon’s
watermelons, potatoes, apples, wheat and lumber. “We
turn out about 400 slabs a week,” says Wally Gaboury,
one of the owners of Hill Meat Co., Pendleton. Hill’s
sells all its bacon to area markets. Talks with local meat
market operators show that their customers buy Hill’s
bacon and send it to friends and relatives in New York,
Alaska, Minnesota and other states. “You have to start
with good hogs,” Gaboury says. Hill’s buys most of its
hogs from Hansell Brothers at Ordnance. But there’s
more to it than that. Hill’s still uses the old-time meth-
ods. The slabs are smoked with alder to impart the fl avor
that results in the bacon being a sell-out as fast as Hill’s
can process it.
25 Years Ago
Oct. 9, 1996
In the fi ve years since Ken Gray fi rst came to work
for the tribes, he’s seen the fi re department expand from
a 4x4 pickup that served as a fi re truck to a six-bay unit
with nine pieces of equipment. It’s a fi re chief’s dream to
have better facilities and more staff to meet the commu-
nity’s needs, and Chief Gray is seeing that dream come
true on the Umatilla Indian Reservation as a result of
the success of the Wildhorse Gaming Resort. The tribes’
Board of Trustees authorized half a million dollars of
casino-generated funds last year to revamp existing fi re
department structures, expanding the 2,300-square-foot
area to a sprawling 9,500 feet. Gray said the expansion is
in response to the increase in medical calls (281 in 1995)
as well as to the tribes’ economic development. In 1991,
there were 168 emergency calls, and the current count
this year is 239 and climbing.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Oct. 9, 1967, Marxist revo-
lutionary guerrilla leader Che
Guevara, 39, was sum mar ily
executed by the Bolivian army a
day after his capture.
In 1888, the public was first
admitted to the Washington Monu-
ment.
In 1910, a coal dust explosion at
the Starkville Mine in Colorado left
56 miners dead.
In 1936, the first generator at
Boulder (later Hoover) Dam began
transmitting electricity to Los
Angeles.
In 1940, rock-and-roll legend
John Lennon was born in Liverpool,
England. (On this date in 1975, his
son, Sean, was born in New York.)
In 1975, Soviet scientist Andrei
Sakharov was awarded the Nobel
Peace Prize.
In 1985, the hijackers of the
Achille Lauro cruise liner surren-
dered two days after seizing the
vessel in the Mediter ranean.
(Passenger Leon Klinghoffer was
killed by the hijackers during the
standoff.)
In 2001, in the first daylight raids
since the start of U.S.-led attacks
on Afghanistan, jets bombed the
Taliban stronghold of Kandahar.
Letters postmarked in Trenton, N.J.,
were sent to Sens. Tom Daschle
and Patrick Leahy; the letters later
tested positive for anthrax.
In 2004, a tour bus from the
Chicago area f lipped in Arkan-
sas, killing 15 people headed to a
Mississippi casino.
In 2006, Google Inc. announced
it was snapping up YouTube Inc. for
$1.65 billion in a stock deal.
In 2009, President Barack
Obama won the Nobel Peace Prize
for what the Norwegian Nobel
Committee called “his extraordi-
nary efforts to strengthen interna-
tional diplomacy and cooperation
between peoples.”
In 2012, former Penn State assis-
tant football coach Jerry Sandusky
was sentenced to 30 to 60 years in
prison following his conviction on
45 counts of sexual abuse of boys.
In 2014, six U.S. military planes
arrived in the Ebola hot zone with
more Marines as West African lead-
ers pleaded for the world’s help in
dealing with what Sierra Leone
President Er nest Bai Koroma
described as “a tragedy unforeseen
in modern times.”
Today’s Birthdays: Retired
MLB All-Star Joe Pepitone is 81.
Former Sen. Trent Lott, R-Miss., is
80. C-SPAN founder Brian Lamb
is 80. R&B singer Nona Hend-
ryx is 77. Singer Jackson Browne
is 73. Nobel Peace laureate Jody
Williams is 71. Actor Gary Frank
is 71. Actor Richard Chaves is 70.
Actor Robert Wuhl is 70. Actor-TV
personality Sharon Osbourne is 69.
Actor Tony Shalhoub is 68. Actor
Scott Bakula is 67. Musician James
Fearnley (The Pogues) is 67. Actor
John O’Hurley is 67. Writer-produc-
er-director-actor Linwood Boomer is
66. Pro and College Football Hall of
Famer Mike Singletary is 63. Actor
Michael Paré is 63. Jazz musician
Kenny Garrett is 61. Rock sing-
er-musician Kurt Neumann is 60.
Movie director Guillermo del Toro
is 57. Former British Prime Minis-
ter David Cameron is 55. Singer P.J.
Harvey is 52. Movie director Steve
McQueen (Film: “12 Years a Slave”)
is 52. World Golf Hall of Famer
Annika Sorenstam is 51. Actor
Cocoa Brown is 49. Country singer
Tommy Shane Steiner is 48. Actor
Steve Burns is 48. Rock singer Sean
Lennon is 46. Actor Randy Spell-
ing is 43. Christian hip-hop artist
Lecrae is 42. Actor Brandon Routh
is 42. Actor Zachery Ty Bryan is
40. Actor Spencer Grammer is 38.
Comedian Melissa Villasenor (TV:
“Saturday Night Live”) is 34. Actor
Tyler James Williams is 29. Coun-
try singer Scotty McCreery (TV:
“American Idol”) is 28. Actor Jhar-
rel Jerome is 24.
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Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
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Pastor Dan Satterwhite
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541-567-6937
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Redeemer
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(541)276-3809
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Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
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922-3250
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Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
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191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
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