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East Oregonian
Saturday, October 2, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Daughter forbids contact with grandchild
Dear Abby: My daughter “Faith” has be involved in an open relationship.
Since I mentioned it, she no longer has
started dating “Kane,” a new guy she met
anything to do with me. She
online. He seems like a stand-up
ordered me not to call her or come
guy. Her old boyfriend, “Blake,”
to her house. I have a 2-year-old
was out of the picture, but since
grandson I have helped her care
she’s started seeing someone else,
for since he was born. It hurts me
he constantly shows up. Mind you,
deeply that I can’t see him. Please
Blake is supposed to be engaged to
give me your opinion and tell me
the woman living with him.
if I owe her an apology. — Mom
Faith tells Kane that Blake is
Who Means Well
“like a brother” to her. Since he’s
JEANNE
Dear Mom: It appears your
constantly coming around, I asked
PHILLIPS
daughter and her ex are not entirely
her if she has told her boyfriend
ADVICE
through with each other. If Kane is
she used to date Blake, that he puts
being led to believe he and Faith
his vehicle in her garage and she is
asking him to do things around the house as have an exclusive relationship, he’s being
if he’s her man. I think she needs to level with deliberately misled, and shame on her. She
Kane, so he can decide whether he wants to may be keeping him around for insurance in
case her relationship with Blake falls through
again. You do not “owe” your daughter an
apology for speaking your mind, but you
may have to off er one if you want to see your
grandson.
Dear Abby: My spouse and I had our fi rst
child early this year during the pandemic. It
was a diffi cult time because we couldn’t have
any family with us during the delivery. We
live in the same town as my in-laws, and this
is their fi rst grandchild.
Abby, their behavior toward this child
has become possessive and intrusive. My
spouse and I have tried to set boundaries,
to no avail. We tried explaining that we are
new parents in a very diffi cult time in this
world right now, and there is more stress than
there would normally be. They listen and
acknowledge what we are saying, but their
behavior doesn’t change. This is causing us
more anxiety in an already anxious time. We
would never want to restrict access to their
grandchild, but every day is too much. Other
than moving, what are our options? — New
Mommy in Pennslvania
Dear New Mommy: Another option
would be for you and your spouse to set
specifi c times when the in-laws are welcome
to visit. If they pop in when they are not
expected, do not let them in. Explain fi rmly
that they need to adhere to the schedule you
have set because your stress level is already
above where it should be. They may not like
it, but if the alternative is you moving, it
would be less expensive and disruptive for
you.
DAYS GONE BY FROM THE EAST OREGONIAN
100 Years Ago
Oct. 2, 1921
Are there any expert crow hunters in Umatilla county?
Ed Dupuis who lives east of Nolin has a lot of them to
spare at his place. Every morning they pass his farm in
huge fl ocks. He thinks they roost at night in groves near
Echo and they come east in the mornings. He declares that
he has counted as many as 5,000,000. The fact that they
are good harvesters is what peeves Ed. He has crops of
apples, sunfl owers and corn on his farm, and the crows are
adepts in helping him gather his stuff . They knock more
apples down than they eat, and the hogs in the orchard
fi nish the cooperative stunt by coming along and dispos-
ing of the fruit. He’d like to get rid of his feathered friends.
50 Years Ago
Oct. 2, 1971
Four months ago a black puppy wandered into the
Umatilla County Road Dept. shops near Pendleton. In
moments he won the hearts of the dog lovers who work
there. They named him “Bo,” fi xed a place for him to sleep
and saw that he got plenty to eat. Bo returned aff ection for
aff ection and set himself up as a watchdog as well. “The
petty thefts that used to occur at night stopped,” says Jim
McMahon, purchasing agent for the department and one
of Bo’s new friends. A couple of weeks ago, Bo was hit
by a car and nearly died. But no bones were broken and he
recovered consciousness. His friends dug into their pock-
ets and paid Bo’s hospital bill. Today Bo is back on the
job, walking a bit gingerly but with a sparkle in his eye.
25 Years Ago
Oct. 2, 1996
The Tower Fire south of Ukiah reached its peak a
little more than a month ago after a 44,000-foot high
smoke plume dominated the horizon. Evening cooled the
90-degree weather on the river, causing the chimney-like
process to collapse onto itself and blow fi re for miles,
pretty much killing everything as if a bomb had gone
off . While most fi res are wind and topography driven,
the plume-dominated fi re created its own thunderhead,
lightning and rain, and the high-intensity burns had fl ame
lengths in excess of 100 feet and sucked air from miles
around. The unusual fi re patterns, remote location and
varied topography of the Tower Fire area present a reha-
bilitation challenge to Forest Service offi cials who say
it will be “a couple generations (recovering) and in our
lifetime it will never be the same.”
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Oct. 2, 1869, polit-
ical and spiritual leader
Mohandas K. Gandhi was
born in Porbandar, India.
In 1890, comedian
Groucho Marx was born
Julius Marx in New York.
In 1919, President
Woodrow Wilson suff ered
a serious stroke at the
White House that left him
paralyzed on his left side.
In 1941, during World
War II, German armies
launched an all-out drive
against Moscow; Soviet
forces succeeded in hold-
ing onto their capital.
In 1944, German troops
crushed the two-month-
old Warsaw Uprising,
during which a quarter of
a million people had been
killed.
In 1967, Thurgood
Marshall was sworn as an
associate justice of the U.S.
Supreme Court as the court
opened its new term.
In 1970, one of two
char tered twin-engine
planes f lying the Wich-
ita State University foot-
ball team to Utah crashed
into a mountain near Silver
Plume, Colorado, kill-
ing 31 of the 40 people on
board.
In 1984, Richard W.
Miller became the fi rst FBI
agent to be arrested and
charged with espionage.
(Miller was tried three
times; he was sentenced to
20 years in prison, but was
released after nine years.)
In 1986, the Senate
joi ned the House i n
voting to override Pres-
ident Reagan’s veto of
stiff economic sanctions
against South Africa.
In 2002, the Wash-
ington, D.C.-area sniper
attacks began, setting off
a frantic manhunt lasting
three weeks. (John Allen
Mu ha m mad a nd Lee
Boyd Malvo were fi nally
arrested for killing 10
people and wounding three
others; Muhammad was
executed in 2009; Malvo
was sentenced to life in
prison.)
In 2005, a tour boat, the
Ethan Allen, capsized on
New York’s Lake George,
killing 20 elderly passen-
gers. Playwright August
Wilson died in Seattle at
age 60. Actor-comedian
Nipsey Russell died in
New York at age 87.
In 2017, rock superstar
Tom Petty died at a Los
Angeles hospital at the age
of 66, a day after suff ering
cardiac arrest at his home
in Malibu, California.
In 2019, House Demo-
crats threatened to make
White House defi ance of a
congressional request for
testimony and documents
potential grounds for an
article of impeachment
against President Donald
Trump. Secretary of State
Mike Pompeo acknowl-
edged for the first time
that he had been on the
phone call in which Trump
pressed Ukraine’s presi-
dent to investigate Demo-
crat Joe Biden.
Today’s Birthdays:
Retired MLB All-Star
Maury Wills is 89. Movie
critic Rex Reed is 83. Sing-
er-songwriter Don McLean
is 76. Cajun/country singer
Jo-el Sonnier is 75. Actor
Avery Brooks is 73. Fash-
ion designer Donna Karan
is 73. Photographer Annie
Leibovitz is 72. Rock
musician Mike Ruth-
erford (Genesis, Mike
& the Mechanics) is 71.
Singer-actor Sting is 70.
Actor Robin Riker is 69.
Actor Lorraine Bracco
is 67. Country musician
Greg Jennings (Restless
Heart) is 67. Rock singer
Phil Oakey (The Human
League) is 66. R&B singer
Freddie Jackson is 65.
Singer-producer Robbie
Nevil is 63. Retro-soul
singer James Hunter is
59. Rock musician Bud
Gaugh (Sublime, Eyes
Adrift) is 54. Folk-coun-
try singer Gillian Welch is
54. Country singer Kelly
Willis is 53. Actor Joey
Slotnick is 53. R&B singer
Dion Allen (Az Yet) is
51. Actor-talk show host
Kelly Ripa (TV: “Live
with Kelly and Ryan”)
is 51. Rock musician Jim
Root (AKA #4 Slipknot)
is 50. Singer Tiff any is 50.
Rock singer Lene Nystrom
is 48. Actor Efren Ramirez
is 48. R&B singer LaTo-
cha Scott (Xscape) is 49
Gospel singer Mandisa
(TV: “American Idol”) is
45. Actor Brianna Brown
is 42. Rock musician
Mike Rodden (Hinder) is
39. Former tennis player
Marion Bar toli is 37.
Actor Christopher Larkin
is 34. Rock singer Brittany
Howard (Alabama Shakes)
is 33. Actor Samantha
Barks is 31. Actor Eliza-
beth McLaughlin is 28.
CHURCH DIRECTORY
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/
PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
201 SW Dorion Ave.
ONLI NE and I N-PERSON SERVI CES
SUNDAYS
| 8:30 AM & 9:45 AM
541.276.1894
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
|
712 SW 27TH
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make
disciples who make disciples
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
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CHURCH
Celebration
of Worship
Celebration
of Worship
Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
Midweek Service
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
Overcomer’s
Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’ High
Jr./Sr.
Pastor Sharon Miller
541-278-8082
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Pastor Sharon Miller
Our
Lady of Angels
www.livingwordcc.com
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
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