A16 East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Thursday, September 16, 2021 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Wife of nearly three decades has never initiated intimacy FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE Dear Abby: After 28 years of marriage, don’t want to hurt his feelings. What should is it strange that I would like my wife to I do? — Big Sis in California initiate sex? I would like to know that she Dear Big Sis: Ask your brother if his is interested, not just me. When I offer still stands, since it has been brought it up three weeks ago, her some time since he extended his response again was, “We can when- “generous invitation.” Listen care- ever you want to,” which wasn’t fully to his reaction. If you sense that he may have forgotten or the true because I have been turned down before. Any suggestions? She situation has changed because of stays home all day and wants for COVID, tell him it would not be a nothing. Do you think she’s getting problem for you to book accommo- it somewhere else? — Frustrated dations at a hotel if it’s more conve- in the Bedrood nient. Doing this should not cause Jeanne Dear Frustrated: I hope your hurt feelings. Phillips wife is intelligent enough to recog- Dear Abby: My wife and I have ADVICE nize a red flag when it’s waved in been married 32 years. We are still front of her. I have a strong hunch in love and consider each other that she isn’t “getting it somewhere else.” our best friend. We survived some rough It’s more likely she no longer has a strong patches and learned how to make things sex drive at this point in her life, or she may right. I have one concern at this point in never have. Also, she may not know HOW our journey. My wife constantly says, “I to initiate and need coaching. If you can’t hate myself.” The more she says it out loud, teach her, enlist the aid of a sex therapist. the more I see the impact on her emotion- (Your doctor may be able to refer you to ally. What can a partner do to help? I’m one.) If you do, it may not only spice up but 100% supportive of all she does and totally attracted to her, yet I can’t see this being save your marriage. healthy. Please help and thanks. — Dirty Dear Abby: I live on the opposite coast Words in Connecticut from my family. During the pandemic, my youngest brother and his wife bought a new, Dear Dirty Words: The next time your very large house. He told me they had plenty wife tells you she hates herself, ask her of room and, the next time we come for a why she is being so hard on herself and visit, they want us to stay with them. Well, ask her to be specific about what it is she hates. Explain that you love her exactly as that visit will be in November, but no invi- tation to stay has been extended. Should I she is and worry that what she’s doing isn’t remind my brother about his invitation, or emotionally healthy. (I agree, by the way.) If should we just book a hotel? My gut instinct she persists after that, suggest she make an is to book the hotel, but my brother is very appointment with a licensed mental health sensitive to how the family treats him, and I professional to discuss it. DAYS GONE BY FROM THE EAST OREGONIAN BEETLE BAILEY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY MORT WALKER BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE 100 Years Ago Sept. 16, 1921 “Where did you get those clothes?” When an 18-year-old youth, who says he is Charlie Clifford, told John Hamley this morning that he had “bought them from a fellow,” John disagreed with him and escorted the young man to the police station, because the clothes that Clifford was wearing were stolen from the Hamley residence a few days since. Clif- ford is said to have confessed to the whole thing, and a search made by the police of his rooms disclosed nearly all of the things that John Hamley was missing. Clifford was wear- ing Hamley’s hat, and it was this that caused his undoing because Starling Livermore, who is employed at Hamley’s, saw the stranger in the post office this morning and he recognized the headgear. He telephoned Hamley to get on the youth’s trail. Clifford’s arrest followed shortly afterward. 50 Years Ago Sept. 16, 1971 The former Mabel Strickland, now Mrs. Sam Woodward of Buckeye, Ariz., “is undoubtedly the greatest cowgirl there ever was,” said E. N. “Pink” Boylen of Pendle- ton, who was a Round-Up official when Mrs. Woodward was queen of the Pendleton show in 1927, one of the years in which she also performed at the Round-Up. The first woman elected to the Pendleton Round-Up Hall of Fame, Mrs. Woodward is called by some the greatest flat race and relay race rider ever. She credits Allen Drumheller, another elected this year to the Hall of Fame. “He taught me everything I knew about race horses.” She was 13 when she made her first trick riding appearance. “My folks didn’t think very much of my performing,” she remembers. “In those days, they thought just bad people took part in rodeos.” 25 Years Ago Sept. 16, 1996 A crowd never cheers louder than when a hometown star wins. That’s what it was like Saturday at the finals of the 1996 Pendleton Round-Up when Pendleton’s Tom Sorey won the steer roping title. “It’s something every- body dreams about and I’ve been hearing about it all my life,” Sorey said after his 17.5- second run for a 45.5 average to win the title. “My uncle, Joe Bergevin, won it in ‘59 and our family’s kinda had this thing about the Round-Up ever since.” Sorey was also the recipient of the Mike Currin Memorial Award for the high point Columbia River Circuit timed-event cowboy at the Round-Up. He was joined on his victory lap by his 2-year- old son, Pake. TODAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN On Sept. 16, 1974, President Gerald R. Ford announced a conditional amnesty program for Viet- nam war deserters and draft-evaders. In 1630, the Massachu- setts village of Shawmut changed its name to Boston. In 1908, General Motors was founded in Flint, Mich- igan, by William C. Durant. In 1982, the massacre of between 1,200 and 1,400 Palestinian men, women and children at the hands of Israe- li-allied Christian Phalange militiamen began in west Beirut’s Sabra and Shatila refugee camps. In 1987, two dozen coun- tries signed the Montreal Protocol, a treaty designed to save the Earth’s ozone layer by calling on nations to reduce emissions of harmful chemicals by the year 2000. In 2001, President George W. Bush, speaking on the South Lawn of the White House, said there was “no question” Osama bin Laden and his followers were the prime suspects in the Sept. 11 attacks; Bush pledged the government would “find them, get them running and hunt them down.” In 2007, contractors for the U.S. security firm Blackwa- ter USA guarding a U.S. State Department convoy in Bagh- dad opened fire on civilian vehicles, mistakenly believ- ing they were under attack; 14 Iraqis died. O.J. Simpson was arrested in the alleged armed robbery of sports memorabilia collectors in Las Vegas. In 2012, in appearances on Sunday news shows, the U.S. ambassador to the United Nations, Susan Rice, said there was no evidence that the attack on the U.S. diplo- matic outpost in Benghazi, Libya, was premeditated. But Libya’s interim president, Mohammed el-Megarif, told CBS he had no doubt attack- ers spent months planning the assault and purposely chose the date, Sept. 11. Today’s Bir thdays: Actor Janis Paige is 99. Actor George Chakiris is 89. Blues- man Billy Boy Arnold is 86. Movie director Jim McBride is 80. Actor Linda Miller is 79. R&B singer Betty Kelley (Martha & the Vandellas) is 77. Musician Kenney Jones (Small Faces; Faces; The Who) is 73. Rock musician Ron Blair (Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers; Mudcrutch) is 73. Actor Ed Begley Jr. is 72. Country singer David Bellamy (The Bellamy Brothers) is 71. Actor Mickey Rourke is 69. PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE