COFFEE BREAK Saturday, September 11, 2021 East Oregonian A11 DEAR ABBY Teen navigates opposing currents of reality, religion Dear Abby: I’m a 16-year-old girl, and I’ve been struggling a little bit. My family is super-Christian. They believe that members of the LGBTQ community are sinful because of who they are. I do not agree. I have a small group of friends. Two of them have come out to me as bi and gender- fl uid. When my family talks about gay people, they say horrible things. I want to tell them what they are saying is wrong and that the mean comments they make apply to my friends, but I’m afraid to give them my opin- ion. I’m unsure whether I should say anything at all. Can you help me? — Keeping Quiet in California Dear Keeping Quiet: You are free to think the way you do, and to support your friends. However, you are not likely to change the way your parents feel on this subject. Your friends have come out to you, but not to your he got upset that I did! He said it was disre- parents. If you out them to your spectful and that I was “treating him parents, they may forbid you from like a child.” seeing those friends. In two years, I apologized if I had hurt his you will be 18, legally an adult and feelings, but he’s still upset with me because I don’t agree it was disre- more able to express your thoughts with fewer negative ramifi cations. If spectful. Am I wrong? Is it disre- I were you, I’d wait. spectful to use your husband’s full Dear Abby: My husband was name when trying to get his atten- annoyed and upset by a cricket in the tion? — Sad in Nevada JEANNE house. He had used insect spray, but Dear Sad: It’s not disrespectful PHILLIPS it was still chirping, so he asked me if you can’t get him to respond any ADVICE other way. I don’t know what your to take care of it. I told him I didn’t know how to get rid of a cricket, husband’s relationship was with since we didn’t know where it was his mother. Perhaps she used his exactly. He was banging around the utility full name when he ignored her as he did to room. I called his name and asked him where you when he was “playing cricket.” The next he had sprayed — no answer. I asked again. time he tells you to take care of something No response. I then used his full name, and you can’t handle, pick up the phone and hire a professional. That way you won’t have to inconvenience your husband. Dear Abby: The owner of a store I shop at every week, who I believe is in her 40s, recently posted on her Facebook page that she was having a sale because it was her birthday. I thought it was greedy and inappropriate, as I was always taught that it’s a breach of etiquette to announce that it’s your birthday, especially as an adult. Am I right? Or am I reading too much into this? — Bothered in the East Dear Bothered: You are reading too much into this. There is nothing wrong about people revealing that it’s their birthday. It doesn’t obligate anyone to fork over anything more than their good wishes. If you decide to shop the sale, all you have to do is say, “How nice! I hope you are enjoying your special day.” DAYS GONE BY FROM THE EAST OREGONIAN 100 Years Ago Sept. 11, 1921 Lester Hurst, who lives six miles southeast of Pend- leton, lost his barn and about 170 tons of hay yesterday as the result of a fi re, supposed to be started by a smok- er’s match. The fi re started just after the noon hour. The damage is estimated at $2000, most of which was covered by insurance. 50 Years Ago Sept. 11, 1971 Melon harvest has peaked in the West End of Umatilla County. Quality of this year’s crop again is good. Many area youths fi nd part time jobs in the melon harvest, and some schools delayed their opening to allow the youths to work. 25 Years Ago Sept. 11, 1996 When it comes to enjoying the outdoors, Eastern Oregon women won’t take a backseat to their men. Nearly 50 homemakers, mothers, and professional women spent Saturday in the woods near La Grande, honing their skills in hunting, fi shing, and general survival tactics. These women aim to be equal partners in the woods with — or without — their hunting hubbies. TODAY IN HISTORY On Sept. 11, 2001, nearly 3,000 people were killed as 19 al-Qaida hijackers seized control of four jetliners, sending two of the planes into New York’s World Trade Center, one into the Pentagon and the fourth into a fi eld in western Pennsylvania. In 1789, Alexander Hamilton was appointed the fi rst U.S. Secretary of the Treasury. In 1814, an Ameri- can fl eet scored a decisive victory over the British in the Battle of Lake Cham- plain in the War of 1812. In 1936, Boulder Dam (now Hoover Dam) began operation as President Franklin D. Roosevelt pressed a key in Washing- ton to signal the startup of the dam’s fi rst hydroelec- tric generator. In 1941, groundbreak- ing took place for the Pentagon. In a speech that drew accusations of anti-Semitism, Charles A. Lindbergh told an America First rally in Des Moines, Iowa, that “the British, the Jewish and the Roos- evelt administration” were pushing the United States toward war. In 1967, the comedy-va- riety program “The Carol Burnett Show” premiered on CBS. In 1973, Chilean Presi- dent Salvador Allende died during a violent military coup. In 1985, Pete Rose of the Cincinnati Reds cracked career hit number 4,192 off Eric Show of the San Diego Padres, eclips- ing the record held by Ty Cobb. (The Reds won the game, 2-0). In 2003, actor John Ritter died six days before his 55th birthday at Prov- idence St. Joseph Medical Center in Burbank, Cali- fornia — the same hospital where he was born in 1948. In 2006, in a prime- time address, President George W. Bush invoked the memory of the victims of the 9/11 attacks as he staunchly defended the war in Iraq, though he acknowl- edged that Saddam Hussein was not responsible for the attacks. In 2008, presidential candidates John McCain and Barack Obama put aside politics as they visited ground zero together on the anniversary of 9/11 to honor its victims. In 2012, a mob armed with guns and grenades launched a fi ery nightlong attack on a U.S. diplomatic outpost and a CIA annex in Benghazi, Libya, kill- ing U.S. Ambassador Chris Stevens and three other Americans. I n 2 015, a c r a ne collapsed onto the Grand Mosque in Mecca, killing 111 people ahead of the annual hajj pilgrimage. Roberta Vinci stunned Serena Williams to end her Grand Slam bid in one of the greatest upsets in tennis history; the 43rd-ranked Italian won 2-6, 6-4, 6-4 in the U.S. Open semifi nals. Today’s Birthdays: Actor Earl Holliman is 93. Comedian Tom Dreesen is 82. Movie director Brian De Palma is 81. Singer-ac- tor-dancer Lola Falana is 79. Rock musician Mickey Hart (The Dead) is 78. Guitarist Leo Kottke is 76. Actor Phillip Alford is 73. Actor Amy Madigan is 71. Rock singer-musician Tommy Shaw (Styx) is 68. Sports reporter Lesley Visser is 68. Actor Reed Birney is 67. Former Home- land Security Secretary Jeh (jay) Johnson is 64. Musi- cian Jon Moss (Culture Club) is 64. Actor Scott Patterson is 63. Rock musi- cian Mick Talbot (The Style Council) is 63. Actor/direc- tor Roxann Dawson is 63. Actor John Hawkes is 62. Actor Anne Ramsay is 61. Actor Virginia Madsen is 60. Actor Kristy McNichol is 59. Musician-composer Moby is 56. Syrian Presi- dent Bashar al-Assad is 56. Business reporter Maria Bartiromo is 54. Singer Harry Connick Jr. is 54. Actor Taraji P. Henson is 51. Actor Laura Wright is 51. Rock musician Jeremy Popoff (Lit) is 50. Blog- ger Markos Moulitsas is 50. Singer Brad Fischetti (LFO) is 46. Rock musician Jon Buckland (Coldplay) is 44. Rapper Ludacris is 44. Rock singer Ben Lee is 43. Actor Ryan Slattery is 43. Actor Ariana Richards is 42. Country singer Charles Kelley (Lady A) is 40. CHURCH Featured this Week: DIRECTORY Community Worship Our Lady of Angels Catholic Church 565 W. HERMISTON AVE. Iglesia Católica Nuestra Señora de los Ángeles PENDLETON LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH 565 W. HERMISTON AVE. Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more! Pastor Dan Satterwhite 541.377.4252 417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801 www.facebook.com/ PendletonLighthouseChurch FAITH LUTHERAN CHURCH in Mission for Christ LCMC Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM Bible Study......10:15 AM Red Lion Hotel ( Oregon Trail Room ) St. Johns Episcopal Church Join Join Us Us On Our Journey With Jesus. 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