COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, September 4, 2021
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Son insists couple has obligation for grandkids’ tuition
Dear Abby: What fi nancial responsibility
do parents have to their adult children and
grandchildren? We are a blended family
of 35 years. It is the second marriage for
my wife and me, with four children and
eight grandchildren. One child insists
it is our responsibility to assist with the
cost of educating his two children. Over
the last 15 years, we have given him and
his family well over $50,000. We are
middle income, and trying to stay solvent
enough to assure we are able to meet any
unforeseen expenses of senior living
while enjoying local arts and educational
opportunities in our retirement. What is
customary in other blended families? —
Wondering in the South
Dear Wondering: Your son is off
base, and you have every right to refuse
this demand. The cost of raising and
educating children is something that needs to “make it right by her and her
should have been taken into consider- family” and apologize for his behav-
ation before those children were
ior. My husband doesn’t feel he
born. This responsibility rests
did anything wrong and doesn’t
with him and his spouse, not
particularly want to go. He is
with you, and I hope you will
now feeling manipulated to
resist the impulse to alter your
acquiesce because refusing an
lifestyle to placate him. If you
invitation to a family event will
do otherwise, you may wind up
upset his mother. What should
he do? — Watching From The
in fi nancial trouble.
Sidelines
Dear Abby: My husband and
JEANNE
D e a r Wat ch i n g: You r
his sister had a huge falling out
PHILLIPS
several months ago. It was a long
husband is right. His sister
ADVICE
time coming, and resulted in the
is attempting to manipulate
two of them no longer speaking.
him. He should call or visit his
This week, we received an
mother, explain the entire situa-
invitation from my sister-in-law for a tion to her, and warn her in advance that
family celebration. It was followed by he won’t be going.
Dear Abby: What advice can you give
an email to my husband saying that if
he wants to come to the event, he fi rst me to get my ex-girlfriend back after I
hurt her and broke her trust? It has been
four months, and I have given her space
and tried to improve myself. We work
together, so seeing her every day and not
talking to her is hard. I would like to fi x
things between us, but she’s very stub-
born. We talked every day and every
minute of the day, and I lost my best friend
and my partner whom I love so much. —
Her Former Girlfriend in Kentucky
Dear Former G.F.: You obviously
hurt your partner deeply when you broke
her trust. If you haven’t already told her
how sorry you are and that you love her,
you should. Then ask what you can do
to rebuild her trust. If she still refuses to
communicate after that, you may have to
accept that the damage done to your rela-
tionship is not reparable and start looking
for another job.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
Sept. 4, 1921
The old familiar Round-Up cots made their appearance
on Main street last night when three Pendleton youngsters,
proxies for J.J. Hamley, Earl Williams and Tom Young, after
a vigil which began at 8 a.m. yesterday spent the night under
the stars in order to be fi rst in line when the Round-Up ticket
offi ce made its appearance near Tallman’s today, and to win
positions in line when the seat sale opens Wednesday morn-
ing. Alvin Wilson, proxy for Mr. Hamley, has won the coveted
fi rst place in the line which will form to receive the precious
pasteboards.
50 Years Ago
Sept. 4, 1971
Large pots, pretty vases — jars to fi ll every corner are what
a visitor is likely to fi nd a the Juve home in Hermiston. Ted and
Peggy Juve are into a multi-media trip. The brother and sister
team is experimenting in many art forms. Ted’s bag is pottery,
sculpture and some weaving. But Peggy is more interested in
painting, charcoal and macrame. The Hermiston High School
students are the children of Mr. and Mrs. Arnold Juve. The
creative teenagers say they have received a lot of encourage-
ment from both their parents and school. Each thinks the other
is “good enough” to make a career out of art.
25 Years Ago
Sept. 4, 1996
Every month for the past four years the image of sitcom star
Steve Erkel has visited Jane and Doug Pope. But not in cellu-
loid. Polaroid. This mounting collection of snapshots are of
the 12-inch Erkel doll, based on the character from television’s
“Family Matters.” The pictures show the doll in various poses
or performing silly stunts. Sometimes there are two Erkel
dolls in one photo. The Erkel dolls are apparently well-trav-
eled, because the Polaroids come from all over the world,
places like Thailand, Ireland and France. But the Popes don’t
know who is sending the pictures. And they don’t know why.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Sept . 4 , 1957,
A rka nsas Gov. O r val
Fa u bu s u s e d A r k a n -
sas National Guardsmen
to prevent nine Black
students from entering
all-white Central High
School in Little Rock.
In 1781, Los Angeles
was founded by Spanish
settlers under the lead-
ership of Gov. Felipe de
Neve.
In 1862, during the
Civil War, Confederate
forces led by Gen. Robert
E. Lee began invading
Maryland.
In 1893, English author
Beatrix Potter first told the
story of Peter Rabbit in the
form of a “picture letter”
to Noel Moore, the son of
Potter’s former governess.
In 1944, during World
War II, British troops liber-
ated Antwerp, Belgium.
In 1969, the Food and
D r u g Ad m i n i s t r at ion
issued a report calling
birth control pills “safe,”
despite a slight risk of fatal
blood-clotting disorders
linked to the pills.
In 1972, U.S. swimmer
Mark Spitz won a seventh
gold medal at the Munich
Olympics in the 400-meter
medley relay.
In 1974, the United
States established diplo-
matic relations with East
Germany.
In 1998 , inter net
services company Google
filed for incorporation in
California.
In 1999, Israeli Prime
Minister Ehud Barak and
Palestinian leader Yasser
Arafat signed a break-
through land-for-security
agreement during a cere-
mony in Sharm El-Sheikh,
Egypt.
In 2006, “Crocodile
Hunter” Steve Irwin, 44,
died after a stingray’s barb
pierced his chest.
In 2014, comedian Joan
Rivers died at a New York
hospital at age 81, a week
after going into cardiac
arrest in a doctor’s office
during a routine medical
procedure.
I n 2 018 , A m a z o n
became the second
publicly traded company
to reach $1 trillion in
market value, following
closely behind Apple.
Today’s Birthdays:
Actor Mitzi Gaynor is
90. Soul singer Sonny
Cha rles is 81. Actor
Kenneth Kimmins is 80.
Singer Merald “Bubba”
Knight (Gladys Knight
& The Pips) is 79. TV
personality and veterinar-
ian Dr. Jan Pol (TV: “The
Incredible Dr. Pol”) is 79.
World Golf Hall of Famer
Raymond Floyd is 79.
Actor Jennifer Salt is 77.
World Golf Hall of Famer
Tom Watson is 72. R&B
musician Ronald LaPread
is 71. Actor Judith Ivey is
70. Rock musician Martin
Chambers (The Pretend-
ers) is 70. Actor Lawrence
Hilton-Jacobs is 68. Actor
Khandi Alexander is 64.
Actor-comedian Damon
Wayans Sr. is 61. Rock
musician Kim Thayil is 61.
Actor Richard Speight Jr.
is 52. Actor Noah Taylor
is 52. Actor Ione Skye is
51. Actor-singer James
Monroe Iglehart is 47.
Pop-rock singer-DJ-mu-
sicia n-producer Ma rk
Ronson is 46. R&B singer
Richard Wingo (Jagged
Edge) is 46. Rock musician
Ian Grushka (New Found
Glory) is 44. Actor Wes
Bentley is 43. Actor Max
Greenfield is 42. Coun-
try singer Granger Smith
is 42. Singer Dan Miller
(O Town) is 41. Singer
Beyonce Knowles is 40.
Actor-comedian Whitney
Cummings is 39. Actor-co-
median Kyle Mooney (TV:
“Saturday Night Live”) is
37. Folk-rock musician
Neyla Pekarek (formerly
with The Lumineers) is
35. Pop-rock singer-song-
writer James Bay is 31.
Actor Carter Jenkins is
30. Actor Trevor Gagnon
is 26.
CHURCH
Featured this Week:
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/
PendletonLighthouseChurch
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
Celebration
of Worship
Celebration
of Worship
Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
Midweek Service
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
Overcomer’s
Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’ High
Jr./Sr.
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
SUNDAYS
| 8:00 AM & 10:00AM
541.276 .18 94
|
712 SW 27 TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
Pastor Sharon Miller
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
541-278-8082
www.livingwordcc.com
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Pastor Sharon Miller
www.livingwordcc.com
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Join Us On Our Journey With Jesus.
Join us on ZOOM 9:00 AM Sunday
Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link
N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston
PH: 567-6672
We are an all inclusive Church
who welcomes all.
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
541-567-6937
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
201 SW Dorion Ave.
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
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