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East Oregonian
Saturday, August 21, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Former drug user looks for way out of toxic relationship
happy for once? — Embarrassed in Arizona are fi nancially stable, consult a dentist or a
Dear Embarrassed: You have successfully school of dentistry about what options you
battled drug addiction, so you are
might have besides dentures. The
clearly not unused to “challenges.”
only thing holding you back at this
I applaud you for what you have
point is yourself.
Dear Abby: I am a 37-year-old
accomplished, and others should
respect you for it, too.
mother of three, ages 13, 5 and 3. I’m
Please do not allow your fear of
married and own my home. I am a
being alone to prevent you from
new stay-at-home mom after having
worked for 16 years at my last job.
taking another important step in
reclaiming your life. You and I both
My kids are happy and healthy.
JEANNE
know your abuser is not healthy for
Any time I go to my parents’
PHILLIPS
you. You have already invested too
house or they drop in on me for a
ADVICE
much time in him. If you rely on him
quick visit, they have to “point out”
for fi nancial support, fi nd a job. Make
that it is a mess or that my oldest is
arrangements with friends or family so you can wearing jeans with holes in them. There’s
eventually save enough to live independently. always a negative comment, never a positive
After you have left him, being alone does one. My oldest has started to notice. It makes
not necessarily have to be a bad thing. In your it hard to spend time with my parents since the
case it could be therapeutic. And once you visit is never a happy one without nitpicking.
Dear Abby: I’m a 39-year-old woman
in a toxic relationship with my boyfriend of
almost seven years. We had a child together
but lost custody due to drug use during my
pregnancy. Even though we don’t have our
son, and he treats me badly, I feel I have to
stay with him because we have gone through
so much together.
A couple of years ago, I got dentures
because I ruined my teeth when I was using,
and now I’m afraid no one will want to be with
me because of them. So I’m stuck in a relation-
ship that isn’t good for me. It’s embarrassing to
have dentures at such a young age, and I don’t
know how I will be able to meet someone who
can see past them and my drug history so I
can be in a healthy relationship that I deserve.
I feel like my only choices are to stay stuck in
this toxic relationship forever or end up alone.
How do I move past my insecurities so I can be
I’m wondering what to say.
I can’t even cut or color my hair without
ridicule. My oldest got her nails done and there
was a negative comment about that as well. A
few years ago, there was a blowout between
my mom and me over my son’s haircut. I’m at
the point where I no longer want to go to their
house, but I don’t want to keep my kids from
them. — Annoyed in Idaho
Dear Annoyed: Say something like this to
your parents: “I have noticed, and the children
have started noticing, that when you visit you
usually have something negative to say about
me, my home and even them. It is hurtful and I
want it stopped, because if it persists you won’t
be invited.” And if it does continue, please
remember it is your right as your children’s
mother to buff er them from comments from
their grandparents that make them self-con-
scious about their appearance.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
Aug. 21, 1921
Louis Ragains, about 36 years old, postmaster at McKay,
was shot and killed Sunday morning at 12:20 by Jesse Brunn
at Wright’s cabin, 40 miles southeast of Pendleton. A plea of
self defense is put forward by Brunn who declares that his own
life was threatened by Ragains just before the fatal shot was
fi red. The shooting is said to have been witnessed by two other
men who were in the cabin at the time. The accounts given by
the three men to Deputy Coroner J.F. Brady and Deputy Sher-
iff Wes Spears agree that Ragains was the aggressor in the
action that immediately preceded the shooting and resulted
in his death.
50 Years Ago
Aug. 21, 1971
R.P. “Joe” Smith, Umatilla County district attorney, may be
a candidate for the Democratic nomination for attorney general
in the May primary, following a meeting of the Umatilla
County Democratic Central Committee in Umatilla Friday
night. Smith said in response to a query from an East Orego-
nian reporter on the attorney general candidacy rumor that he
is “testing the water.” The Umatilla County district attorney
is a prominent fi gure in state Democratic circles and in recent
weeks has been making speeches to political groups in Western
Oregon. Sunday he will be speaking at a Democratic meeting
in Sandy. Smith’s candidacy for a state post is expected to draw
considerable interest in Umatilla County.
25 Years Ago
Aug. 21, 1996
Russian-born Anatoly Shimansky is on a cross-country expe-
dition of love and peace. An excursion he is not taking by plane,
train, boat or even automobile, but by horse and buggy. And
Tuesday, Pendleton became part of his journey. Shimansky,
54, of St. Petersburg, has spent the past eight months traveling
across the country in his horse-drawn buggy on a voyage he calls
“From Russia With Love and Peace.” The horse and buggy allow
Shimansky to meet people, but he prefers this mode of transport
because “nobody would give your car apples and carrots.” But,
more importantly, his trek satisfi es a lifelong quest. “It is my
childhood dream to travel around the world,” Shimansky said.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On August 21, 1991,
the hard-line coup against
Soviet President Mikhail S.
Gorbachev collapsed in the
face of a popular uprising led
by Russian Federation Presi-
dent Boris N. Yeltsin.
In 1831, Nat Turner
launched a violent slave
rebellion in Virginia, result-
ing in the deaths of at least
55 whites; scores of Blacks
were killed in retribution in
the aftermath of the rebellion.
(Turner was later captured
and executed.)
In 1911, Leonardo da
Vinci’s “Mona Lisa” was
stolen from the Louvre
Museum in Paris. (The paint-
ing was recovered two years
later in Italy.)
In 1959, President Dwight
D. Eisenhower signed an
executive order making
Hawaii the 50th state.
In 1986, more than 1,700
people died when toxic gas
erupted from a volcanic lake
in the West African nation of
Cameroon.
In 1987, Sgt. Clayton
Lonetree, the first Marine
court-martialed for spying,
was convicted in Quantico,
Va., of passing secrets to the
KGB. (Lonetree ended up
serving eight years in a mili-
tary prison.)
In 1992, an 11-day siege
began at the cabin of white
separatist Randy Weaver
in Ruby Ridge, Idaho, as
government agents tried to
arrest Weaver for failing to
appear in court on charges
of selling two illegal sawed-
off shotguns; on the fi rst day
of the siege, Weaver’s teen-
age son, Samuel, and Deputy
U.S. Marshal William Degan
were killed.
In 1993, in a serious
setback for NASA, engineers
lost contact with the Mars
Observer spacecraft as it was
about to reach the red planet
on a $980 million mission.
In 2000, rescue efforts
to reach the sunken Russian
nuclear submarine Kursk
ended with divers announc-
ing none of the 118 sailors
had survived.
In 2013, Army Pfc. Brad-
ley Manning was sentenced
at Fort Meade, Maryland, to
up to 35 years in prison for
spilling an unprecedented
trove of government secrets.
(The sentence for the former
intelligence analyst, now
known as Chelsea Manning,
was commuted by President
Barack Obama in his fi nal
days in offi ce.)
Today’s Bir thdays:
Actor-director Melvin Van
Peebles is 89. Rock-and-roll
musician James Burton is 82.
Singer Jackie DeShannon is
80. College and Pro Football
Hall of Famer Willie Lanier
is 76. Actor Patty McCor-
mack is 76. Pop singer-musi-
cian Carl Giammarese is 74.
Actor Loretta Devine is 72.
NBC newsman Harry Smith
is 70. Singer Glenn Hughes
is 69. Actor Kim Cattrall is
65. College Football Hall of
Famer and former NFL quar-
terback Jim McMahon is 62.
Actor Cleo King is 59. Rock
singer Serj Tankian (System
of a Down) is 54. Figure
skater Josee Chouinard is 52.
Actor Carrie-Anne Moss is
51. MLB player-turned-man-
ager Craig Counsell is 51.
Rock musician Liam Howl-
ett (Prodigy) is 50. Actor
Alicia Witt is 46. Singer Kelis
is 42. TV personality Brody
Jenner is 38. Singer Melissa
Schuman is 37. Olympic gold
medal sprinter Usain Bolt
is 35. Actor Carlos Pratts is
35. Actor-comedian Brooks
Wheelan is 35. Actor Cody
Kasch is 34. Country singer
Kacey Musgraves is 33.
CHURCH
Featured this Week:
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
Sunday Mornings
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
Includes Children’s Services
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
SUNDAYS
| 8:00 AM & 10:00AM
541.276 .18 94
|
712 SW 27 TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
201 SW Dorion Ave.
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
Wednesday Evenings
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
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