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East Oregonian
Saturday, August 14, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Grandparents are ‘Mommy’ and ‘Daddy’ to toddler
Dear Abby: My daughter passed away last
year, and we received custody of our grand-
son, who was 15 months old at the time. He is
now nearly 2½ years old. My daughter wanted
him to call me Mamaw because that’s what
she called my mother, so I’ve always referred
to myself that way, but recently, he has started
calling me Mommy. I say Mamaw back to
him and sometimes he will say Mamaw, but
more often it’s Mommy.
I’m uncomfortable not honoring my
daughter as his mommy. We display her
photos, and he will say that that’s his mommy,
but I also don’t want to hurt his feelings by
saying I’m not his mommy. His father isn’t
in the picture, so my husband and I are the
only parents he knows. My husband seems
uncomfortable with him calling me Mommy
and when he hears it, he tries to correct him.
Should we allow him to call us Mommy and
Daddy or continue to correct him? — Getting
The problem: When friends and family
It Right in North Carolina
(and sometimes even strangers!) compliment
Dear Getting It Right: Please
me on my ring, it is often accom-
accept my sympathy for the loss of
panied with, “Can I try it on?” or
your daughter. I see nothing posi-
more forcibly, “Let me try that on!”
tive to be gained by not allowing
I would never ask to try on some-
your grandson to call you what he
thing so precious to someone else,
wants. You and your husband have
and I never want to see someone else
made clear that his mommy is in
wearing my wedding rings. How
heaven, but right now the boy needs
can I politely tell them “No way”?
a “Mommy” right here on Earth. It is
— Shocked in New York
JEANNE
not disrespectful of your late daugh-
Dear Shocked: The women
PHILLIPS
ter’s memory to allow him that.
want to see it on their own hand and
ADVICE
imagine for a moment that the ring
Dear Abby: I have been happily
married to my husband for five
is theirs. Feeling as you do, smile
years. When we married, money was tight, and reply, “I never remove my wedding rings
so we agreed to use temporary wedding rings other than to clean them.”
and upgrade to our fi nal offi cial set later. Well,
Dear Abby: I live in Florida, and the rest
we fi nally did it, and my ring is what I always of my big family lives in Canada. Last year,
wanted. It is stunning.
fi ve of my nieces/nephews were admitted to
the hospital for varying health reasons. Rather
than send fl owers, I sent each a check for $50.
I thought money would be more useful.
Well, last week my daughter was diag-
nosed with malignant melanoma after a mole
was removed. After I emailed the news to
my sisters, I received one response from a
sister saying, “Give your daughter our best!”
Other than that, there have been no cards. Am
I petty in thinking they should have at least
sent my daughter a card? — Petty in Florida
Dear Petty: Your relatives apparently
didn’t consider the thoughtfulness you
displayed to their children something to be
reciprocated. How sad. In situations like this,
it isn’t the tangible item that’s most important,
it’s the thought, and it appears your relatives
didn’t want to put in the eff ort. I do not think
it’s petty to recognize that fact and feel disap-
pointment. You are human.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
Aug. 14, 1921
Who killed Matt Jepson? While a crime wave is break-
ing all over the country, developments in the case of
the aged recluse who lived on the mountain south of
Milton, whose body was found Saturday in an open well,
leads the authorities to believe that as black a mystery as
has ever been recorded in the annals of Umatilla county
surrounds the death of Jepson. An axe which bears
unmistakable evidence of having been used to infl ict
the wounds that the authorities believe caused Jepson’s
death, the arrangement of a pair of shoes near the open
well to make suicide appear plausible, and other clews
which have been gathered but which are withheld by the
offi cers are some of the things that lead to the belief that
Jepson was murdered.
50 Years Ago
Aug. 14, 1971
Oregon’s dairy industry may be headed for a big turn-
around and the Hermiston area and Columbia River water
may be the key. Instead of hauling alfalfa and other feeds
to the dairy farmers in Western Oregon, the dairy farms
may move into the Hermiston area with the possibility of a
“Dairy Row” being established in the Juniper Farms area
northeast of Hermiston. Sun Best Farms is located in the
area. Land developer Ervin Edmonds, Pasco, Wash., said
Saturday that “at least ten” dairyman have been here look-
ing at the proposal “and they are anxious to come here.”
The dairy complex idea, according to Edmonds, is for the
“small” dairymen who have up to 200 cows.
25 Years Ago
Aug. 14, 1996
Former Rep. Bob Smith said today he would seek the
Republican nomination for his old seat in Congress. Smith,
who retired two years ago after six terms in the House, will
bid to replace disgraced U.S. Rep. Wes Cooley. Smith said
he wanted to keep the seat in GOP hands. The 2nd District,
covering the vast, mostly rural reaches of Eastern and south-
ern Oregon, has been represented by Democrats only twice
since its formation in 1892.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On August 14, 1935,
President Franklin D. Roos-
evelt signed the Social Secu-
rity Act into law.
In 1848, the Oregon Terri-
tory was created.
In 1941, President Frank-
lin D. Roosevelt and Brit-
ish Prime Minister Winston
Churchill issued the Atlantic
Charter, a statement of prin-
ciples that renounced aggres-
sion.
In 1945, President Harry
S. Truman announced that
Imperial Japan had surren-
dered u nconditionally,
ending World War II.
In 1948, the Summer
Olympics in London ended;
they were the fi rst Olympic
games held since 1936.
In 1973, U.S. bombing of
Cambodia came to a halt.
In 1975, the cult classic
movie musical “The Rocky
Horror Picture Show,” star-
ring Tim Curry, Susan Saran-
don and Barry Bostwick, had
its world premiere in London.
In 1980, workers went
on strike at the Lenin Ship-
yard in Gdansk, Poland, in
a job action that resulted in
creation of the Solidarity
labor movement.
In 1992, the White House
announced that the Penta-
gon would begin emergency
airlifts of food to Somalia to
alleviate mass deaths by star-
vation.
In 1995, Shannon Faulk-
ner offi cially became the fi rst
female cadet in the history of
The Citadel, South Caroli-
na’s state military college.
(However, Faulkner quit the
school less than a week later,
citing the stress of her court
fi ght, and her isolation among
the male cadets.)
In 1997, an unrepen-
tant Timothy McVeigh was
formally sentenced to death
for the Oklahoma City bomb-
ing. (McVeigh was executed
by lethal injection in 2001.)
In 2009, Charles Manson
follower Lynette “Squeaky”
Fromme, 60, convicted of
trying to assassinate Presi-
dent Gerald Ford in 1975, was
released from a Texas prison
hospital after more than three
decades behind bars.
In 2015, the Stars and
Stripes rose over the newly
reopened U.S. Embassy in
Cuba after a half century
of often-hostile relations;
U.S. Secretary of State John
Kerry celebrated the day, but
also made an extraordinary,
nationally broadcast call for
democratic change on the
island.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Broadway lyricist Lee
Adams (“Bye Bye Birdie”)
is 97. College Football Hall
of Famer John Brodie is 86.
Singer Dash Crofts is 83.
Rock singer David Crosby
is 80. Country singer Connie
Smith is 80. Comedian-actor
Steve Martin is 76. Movie
director Wim Wenders is
76. Actor Antonio Fargas is
75. Singer-musician Larry
Graham is 75. Actor Susan
Saint James is 75. Author
Danielle Steel is 74. Rock
si nger-musicia n Ter r y
Adams (NRBQ) is 73. “Far
Side” cartoonist Gary Larson
is 71. Actor Carl Lumbly is
70. Olympic gold medal
swimmer Debbie Meyer is
69. Actor Jackee Harry is 65.
Actor Marcia Gay Harden is
62. Basketball Hall of Famer
Earvin “Magic” Johnson
is 62. Sen. Bill Hagerty,
R-Tenn., is 62. Singer Sarah
Brightman is 61. Actor Susan
Olsen is 60. Actor-turned-
fashion/interior designer
Cristi Conaway is 57. Rock
musician Keith Howland
(Chicago) is 57. Actor Halle
Berry is 55. Actor Ben Bass
is 53. Actor Catherine Bell
is 53. Rock musician Kevin
Cadogan is 51. Actor Scott
Michael Campbell is 50.
Actor Lalanya Masters is 49.
Actor Christopher Gorham
is 47. Actor Mila Kunis is 38.
Actor Lamorne Morris is 38.
CHURCH
Featured this Week:
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/
PendletonLighthouseChurch
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
COME AS YOU ARE
150 SE Emigrant • (541) 276-3369
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
Sunday Mornings
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
Includes Children’s Services
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
Celebration
of Worship
Celebration
of Worship
Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
Midweek Service
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
Overcomer’s
Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’
Jr./Sr. High
Pastor Sharon Miller
541-278-8082
www.livingwordcc.com
Pastor Sharon Miller
www.livingwordcc.com
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
SUNDAYS
| 8:00 AM & 10:00AM
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
541.276 .18 94
|
712 SW 27 TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
201 SW Dorion Ave.
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
Wednesday Evenings
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
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