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East Oregonian
Saturday, August 7, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Friend forced to play role in couple’s melodrama
this year he told me that he was not planning If you disclose what you know, you will lose
on getting back together with her, but he’s your housemate. The message you want to
here almost every day, insisting on
deliver falls into that category.
From your description of Isaac, he’s
spending time with us.
It’s frustrating since I feel Jen
a user and a player. She would be
deserves more. She’s very anxious,
better off without him in her life.
But she must arrive at that conclu-
and told me during the breakup that
she didn’t want me telling her any
sion herself. (After their breakup,
details about him that she wouldn’t
she should have realized he couldn’t
want to hear. I’m now wondering
be counted on.) Sometimes people
if I have used that as an excuse to
have to learn the hard way, and Jen
JEANNE
spare her from all the things I feel
appears to be one of them. If you
PHILLIPS
she ought to know. I don’t know how
uncouple your life from theirs and
ADVICE
I would even broach the subject,
spend less time with them, it will be
and it’s making me irritable around
healthier for you.
Dear Abby: There are several same-
them. Help! — Hoping I’m A Good Friend
Dear Hoping: Jen made clear that she sex couples within our circle of friends and
doesn’t want to hear any bad news from you. former co-workers. Whether male or female,
Dear Abby: I have two good friends who
dated all through college until “Isaac” broke
up with “Jen” in a very stressful and dramatic
way. We were all living together in a house,
and he broke up with her to date a girl he liked
from his newspaper club. We used to host
parties for the club, and the girls would openly
fl irt with him in front of Jen. During the mess
of the breakup, I learned that Isaac had known
for a while he wanted to end things with Jen,
and stayed with her only because he wanted to
have enough people for a nice student house.
Fast-forward three years: We are out of
college, and I still live with Jen. Isaac relies on
her for all his emotional needs and says she’s
his “best friend.” She can’t say no to him or
distance herself because she’s still hoping that
“maybe” something could happen. Earlier
each has a husband and wife. We are not sure
how it is decided who will assume which role;
and we don’t feel comfortable asking what
might be too intrusive a question regarding
their relationships. We would appreciate it if
you could fi nd the answer, if there is one. —
Curious in the East
Dear Curious: Unlike with straight
couples, who defi ne their spouse as “husband”
or “wife,” when male couples marry, both
spouses refer to their partner as “husband.”
With female couples, the spouses are both
called “wife.” Household tasks usually fall
to whomever does them best or wants to do
them. Roles are assigned according to ability
and circumstance, rather than imitating tradi-
tional marital duties. (By the way, the same
applies to some opposite-sex couples as well.)
DAYS GONE BY
From the East Oregonian
100 Years Ago
Aug. 7, 1921
Shortly after noon today the 41 persons representing the
federated commercial organizations of Umatilla county
making the tour of Grant county in the interests of good
roads were ready to proceed to Heppner, where the night
will be spent. A Pendleton-to-California highway is the
solution of the road problems that confront Umatilla, Grant,
Harney and Lake counties, sentiment of Grant county
people indicates. A spirited meeting was held at Ritter last
night which was presided over by County Commissioner
Caverhill of Grant county, and sentiment expressed at the
meeting overwhelmingly favors the construction of such a
road. That the state will be asked to assist in such a program
was the idea that was expressed by several speakers.
50 Years Ago
Aug. 7, 1971
A Chicago banker is giving Dennis and Cleo Gett of
Hermiston’s Western Auto Store an opportunity “to start
paying our bills again.” The banker and his son were back-
packing in a high meadow of the headwaters of the North
Fork of the Imnaha River in the Wallowa Mountains when
they found a checkbook belonging to the Getts. Thursday,
Gett said he and his wife lost the checkbook while on a
special hunt last winter in the Wallowas. The Hermiston
couple owns a cabin and horse corrals in the mountains out
of Baker, and make frequent pack trips in the area.
25 Years Ago
Aug. 7, 1996
After 20 years of service to Pendleton, Amtrak will
eliminate its Pioneer passenger train in November. In an
inter-offi ce memo leaked to the press Wednesday, Amtrak
offi cials in Washington, D.C., said the Pioneer was being
eliminated to “shift capacity that provides the best market
opportunities” and to “improve Amtrak’s bottom line
economic performance.” Pioneer’s thrice-weekly passen-
ger service eastbound to Boise and on to Chicago, and
every other day westbound to Portland and Seattle, will
end Nov. 10. After that, only Union Pacifi c freight trains
will use the line.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Aug. 7, 1998, terror-
ist bombs at U.S. embas-
sies in Kenya and Tanzania
killed 224 people, including
12 Americans.
In 1782, Gen. George
Washington created the
Order of the Purple Heart, a
decoration to recognize merit
in enlisted men and noncom-
missioned offi cers.
In 1789, the U.S. Depart-
ment of War was established
by Congress.
In 1942, U.S. and other
allied forces landed at
Guadalcanal, marking the
start of the fi rst major allied
off ensive in the Pacifi c during
World War II. (Japanese
forces abandoned the island
the following February.)
In 1964, Congress passed
the Gulf of Tonkin reso-
lution, giving President
Lyndon B. Johnson broad
powers in dealing with
reported North Vietnamese
attacks on U.S. forces.
In 1971, the Apollo 15
moon mission ended success-
fully as its command module
splashed down in the Pacifi c
Ocean.
In 1989, a plane carrying
U.S. Rep. Mickey Leland,
D-Texas, and 14 others disap-
peared over Ethiopia. (The
wreckage of the plane was
found six days later; there
were no survivors.)
In 1990, P resident
George H.W. Bush ordered
U.S. troops and warplanes
to Saudi Arabia to guard
the oil-rich desert kingdom
against a possible invasion
by Iraq.
In 2000, Vice President
and Democratic presidential
candidate Al Gore selected
Connecticut Sen. Joseph
Lieberman as his running
mate; Lieberman became
the fi rst Jewish candidate on
a major party’s presidential
ticket.
In 2008, A U.S. military
jury at Guantanamo Bay
Naval Base gave Osama bin
Laden’s driver a surprisingly
light 5-1/2-year sentence for
aiding terrorism, making
him eligible for parole in just
fi ve months. (The U.S. later
transferred Salim Hamdan to
his home country of Yemen,
which released him in Janu-
ary 2009.)
In 2010, Elena Kagan was
sworn in as the 112th justice
and fourth woman to serve on
the U.S. Supreme Court.
In 2012, Jared Lee
Loughner agreed to spend
the rest of his life in prison,
accepting that he went on a
deadly shooting rampage at
an Arizona political gather-
ing in 2011 and sparing the
victims a lengthy, possibly
traumatic death-penalty trial.
In 2015, Colorado theater
shooter James Holmes was
spared the death penalty in
favor of life in prison after a
jury in Centennial failed to
agree on whether he should
be executed for his murder-
ous attack on a packed movie
premiere that left 12 people
dead.
Today’s Bir thdays:
Singer Lana Cantrell is 78.
Actor John Glover is 77.
Actor David Rasche is 77.
Former diplomat, talk show
host and activist Alan Keyes
is 71. Actor Caroline Aaron
is 69. Comedian Alexei
Sayle is 69. Actor Wayne
Knight is 66. Rock singer
Bruce Dickinson is 63. Actor
David Duchovny is 61. Actor
Delane Matthews is 60. Actor
Harold Perrineau is 58. Jazz
musician Marcus Roberts
is 58. Actor David Mann is
55. Actor Charlotte Lewis is
54. Actor Sydney Penny is
50. Actor Greg Serano is 49.
Actor Michael Shannon is 47.
Actor Charlize Theron is 46.
Rock musician Barry Kerch
is 45. Actor Eric Johnson is
42. Actor Randy Wayne is 40.
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Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Redeemer
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241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
All Are Welcome
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Wednesday Bible Study
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Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
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Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
Community
Presbyterian
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14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Solid Rock
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140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
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201 SW Dorion Ave.
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