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East Oregonian
Saturday, June 26, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Teen’s sudden death comes amid fractured friendship
ing and not communicating with everyone. a friend who is always whispering in his
As I see it, you have several choices:
ear about how terrible I am. My
Send a condolence card, send fl ow-
husband denies it, but I have seen
ers, contribute to a charity in the
the text messages. As far as I know,
young man’s name and/or go unob-
I haven’t done anything to this
trusively to the funeral and sit in the
friend.
back. If, however, you decide to do
Between my husband’s paydays,
this, do not go with any expectation
I help him out fi nancially. We’re
it will heal the breach in your rela-
both close to retirement age because
we married late, and we still have
tionship.
JEANNE
Dear Abby: I was happily
a teenager at home. Do I wait for
PHILLIPS
him to come around, or move on
married for almost 20 years.
ADVICE
with my life? I still love him, but
Suddenly my husband became
withdrawn, obviously unhappy, and
I’m feeling used. — Disillusioned
moved out. He keeps telling me we are going in the South
to spend the rest of our lives together, that we
Dear Disillusioned: You are not only
aren’t divorced, just “taking a break.”
being used, but also being lied to. In addi-
Although I had a great relationship with tion, your in-laws’ behavior is emotionally
his family, they no longer speak to me. My abusive. (Could they have been told things
family still treats him the same. He has about you that aren’t true?) Offer your
Dear Abby: Last year, after a falling out
with someone I have been friends with for
more than 20 years, I was OK with writing
this person off and going on with my life.
From my understanding, this person felt the
same way.
Last week, their teenage son died in a terri-
ble accident. I was heartbroken. I truly cared
about the boy and had watched him grow up.
I reached out and received no response (as I
expected). I’m torn about whether I should go
to the funeral and how it would be perceived.
I want to show support, but I’m concerned
I’m not wanted there. I’m also concerned that
if I don’t go it will look awful and disrespect-
ful, since I have been a part of this boy’s life.
I don’t know what to do. — Cared For Him
in Ohio
Dear Cared For Him: You may not have
heard from the family because they are griev-
husband the option of marriage and family
therapy and a chance to repair what went
wrong. However, if he refuses, quit being so
accommodating, close your checkbook and
move on with your life.
Dear Abby: After an invitation to visit,
how long can I stay before I’m imposing? —
Too Long in New Mexico
Dear Too Long: It depends upon the rela-
tionship you have with the person who invited
you. Usually, when an invitation is extended,
it is for a specifi ed time period — a week, a
weekend, etc.
Two truisms apply here: “Guests, like fi sh,
begin to smell after three days” (Benjamin
Franklin), and “One of the most important
things that Hollywood teaches is to always
leave your audience hungry for a little more”
(Howard Bragman).
P.S. When in doubt, ask!
DAYS GONE BY
From the East Oregonian
100 Years Ago
June 26, 1921
Three new features ordinarily not found in an exhibition of
Western riding will be aff orded spectators of the Camas Prai-
rie Cowboys’ convention which will be held at Ukiah July 4
and 5. The stunts will be a calf branding contest, goat roping
and a pack horse race. The usual cowboy bucking contest,
cowboy and cowgirl relay races, free for all race, cowboy
pony race, a wild mule race, steer roping, quick change race,
stake and maverick races and a wild horse race are some the
other stunts that will insure plenty of activities for the two
days of sports.
50 Years Ago
June 26, 1971
Ed Irby of Arlington will be grand marshal of the Condon
Chamber of Commerce’s “Grand Ole Fourth” parade. Irby, a
resident of Gilliam County for almost 60 years, gained state-
wide recognition the past year as the author and producer of the
fi lm “Beneath the Stilled Waters,” a movie showing the Indians
fi shing at Celilo Falls before the demise of the tourist attraction.
25 Years Ago
June 26, 1996
Umatilla County Republicans wasted no time getting their
message across to U.S. Rep. Wes Cooley. The county’s central
committee faxed Cooley its no-vote on his future political
career on Tuesday. “We thought we needed to tell him right
away,” said Tim O’Hanlon, a Pendleton attorney and chairman
of the Umatilla County Republican Central Committee. The
committee met at noon Tuesday to vote on whether Cooley
should step aside and allow another Republican to retain a
seat in the sprawling 2nd Congressional District. Almost all
of the county’s 60 precinct members showed at the lunchtime
meeting at Pendleton’s Kopper Kitchen restaurant. The vote,
O’Hanlon said, was unanimous.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On June 26, 2013, in
deciding its first cases on
the issue, the U.S. Supreme
Court gave the nation’s
legally married gay couples
equal federal footing with
all other married Americans
and also cleared the way
for same-sex marriages to
resume in California.
In 1483, Richard III began
his reign as King of England
(he was crowned the follow-
ing month at Westminster
Abbey).
In 1917, the fi rst troops
of the American Expedition-
ary Force deployed to France
during World War I landed in
St. Nazaire.
In 1919, the New York
Daily News was f irst
published.
In 1945, the charter of the
United Nations was signed
by 50 countries in San Fran-
cisco.
In 1948, the Berlin Airlift
began in earnest after the
Soviet Union cut off land and
water routes to the isolated
western sector of Berlin.
In 1963, President John
F. Kennedy visited West
Berlin, where he delivered
his famous speech expressing
solidarity with the city’s resi-
dents, declaring: “Ich bin ein
Berliner” (I am a Berliner).
In 1968, President Lyndon
B. Johnson announced his
choice of Abe Fortas to
succeed the retiring Earl
Warren as chief justice of
the United States (however,
Fortas later withdrew in the
face of stiff Senate opposi-
tion).
In 1977, 42 people were
killed when a fi re sent toxic
smoke pouring through the
Maury County Jail in Colum-
bia, Tennessee. Elvis Presley
performed his last concert at
Market Square Arena in Indi-
anapolis.
In 1993, President Bill
Clinton announced the
U.S. had launched missiles
against Iraqi targets because
of “compelling evidence”
Iraq had plotted to assassi-
nate former President George
H.W. Bush.
In 1996, the Supreme
Court ordered the Virginia
Military Institute to admit
women or forgo state support.
In 1997, the fi rst Harry
Potter novel, “Harry Potter
and the Philosopher’s
Stone” by J.K. Rowling, was
published in the United King-
dom (it was later released in
the United States under the
title “Harry Potter and the
Sorcerer’s Stone”).
In 2008, the U.S. Supreme
Court struck down a hand-
gun ban in the District of
Columbia as it affi rmed, 5-4,
that an individual right to gun
ownership existed.
Today’s Birthdays: Jazz
musician-film composer
Dave Grusin is 87. Actor
Josef Sommer is 87. Singer
Billy Davis Jr. is 83. Rock
singer Georgie Fame is 78.
Actor Clive Francis is 75.
R&B singer Brenda Hollo-
way is 75. Actor Michael
Paul Chan is 71. Actor Robert
Davi is 70. Singer-musician
Mick Jones is 66. Actor
Gedde Watanabe is 66. Rock
singer Chris Isaak is 65. Rock
singer Patty Smyth is 64.
Singer Terri Nunn (Berlin)
is 62. U.S. Bicycling Hall of
Famer Greg LeMond is 60.
Rock singer Harriet Wheeler
(The Sundays) is 58. Rock
musician Colin Greenwood
(Radiohead) is 52. Writer-di-
rector Paul Thomas Ander-
son is 51. Actor Sean Hayes
is 51. Actor Matt Letscher is
51. Actor Chris O’Donnell
is 51. Actor Nick Off erman
is 51. Actor Rebecca Budig
is 48. Retired MLB All-Star
Derek Jeter is 47. Country
singer Gretchen Wilson is
47. Rock musician Nathan
Followill (Kings of Leon) is
42. Pop-rock singer-musician
Ryan Tedder (OneRepublic)
is 42. Actor-musician Jason
Schwartzman is 41. Actor
Aubrey Plaza is 37. Actor-
singer Jennette McCurdy
is 29. Actor-singer Ariana
Grande is 28.
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Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
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541.377.4252
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Red Lion Hotel
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Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Redeemer
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241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
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Pendleton
Service of Worship - 10:00 am
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140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
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Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
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