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East Oregonian
Saturday, June 12, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Adult daughter still has to check in with parents
Dear Abby: I am a 30-year-old married
woman. My job requires a lot of domestic
travel, which I love. My parents continue to
ask that I “check in” whenever I fl y, and often
text or call asking me where I am, even though
I provide them my schedule.
I feel this indicates a lack of confi dence
that I can take care of myself. They frame it
as “they love me” or “they care,” but, to me,
it feels like a constant putdown. I know it
doesn’t take long to respond, but every time
I do I feel like a child. It’s not as though they
are in a position to help me if something did
go awry. I would be forced to handle it myself,
regardless.
I have tried reasoning with them, but it
hasn’t worked. Can you please help me explain
to them what a normal adult-child relationship
looks like, so we can stop arguing and I can
feel like the capable woman I am? — Capable been very good.
Adult in Pennsylvania
Can you off er any words that could persuade
Dear Capable Adult: Your parents him to accept this gift? You often have a tactful
appear to be having trouble letting
approach that can help to maintain a
go of their parental role. If you are
positive relationship but still allow a
providing them with your schedule
person to accomplish their desired
and itinerary, you are doing enough.
goal. — Proud in New York
One way to win an “argument” is
Dear Proud: If it were my rela-
simply not to argue. If you do not
tive, this is the approach I would take:
wish to check in, don’t do it.
“Uncle Charlie, you have been
Dear Abby: A relative has
wonderfully supportive of me over
recently, through no fault of his own,
the years. (Be specifi c about a couple
JEANNE
of instances; they do not have to
lost a signifi cant amount of money. I
PHILLIPS
have anything to do with money —
would like to help him out with a gift
ADVICE
of money, with no expectation that
in fact, it’s better if they don’t.) You
he would repay the money. However,
would be doing me a great favor if
he’s very proud, and I’m afraid he would be you would please accept this because this past
insulted if I off er him the money. It could also year has been so diffi cult for so many people,
damage our relationship, which has always and I have been concerned about you.” Then
I’d cross my fi ngers.
Dear Abby: I am an RN with a bache-
lor’s degree in nursing. My question is, when
is it appropriate to put BSN, RN behind my
name? For example, I have only my name on
my checks. When I sign for things at work I
always add RN to the end of my signature. The
rest of the time I do not, which brings me to my
next question: When should I put the BSN part
in there? I tend to never use it. It is on my name
tag for work, but when sending faxes to doctors
or clinics, I have been leaving it off . — Nurse
Needs To Know
Dear Nurse: Because you have earned both
degrees, you should use them. In the world
of academia, the college degree is used fi rst.
However, since you are not in that environ-
ment, whichever one you prefer to use fi rst will
be all right.
DAYS GONE BY
From the East Oregonian
100 Years Ago
June 12, 1921
Pendleton’s big new motion picture theatre, now under
construction, will be know as “The Rivoli,” according to the
decision of Greulich & Matlock, owners. The names comes from
the famous Paris thoroughfare which dates back to the days of
Louis the Fourteenth, and which is known to all tourists who visit
the gay French capital. September 1 is the date upon which the
theatre will probably open, although this date is tentative. The
structure is well under way and the furnishings will arrive soon.
A feature will be a $15,000 pipe organ.
50 Years Ago
June 12, 1971
A broken axle turned James Nelson on to soil and water
conservation. It happened years ago when he pulled a plow across
an eroded ditch in a hillside fi eld on his ranch 13 miles west of
Pilot Rock. So he build a diversion ditch to stop the erosion. That
fi rst job took half a day. But he hasn’t stopped since. “I haven’t
broken any more axles, either,” he said, as he conducted a tour
of his farm. Nelson is Umatilla County’s conservation man of
the year. Along with winners in other wheat counties, he now
competes for the state title.
25 Years Ago
June 12, 1996
Angela Pilmer’s graduation gown hangs from the back of her
bedroom door, its soft folds a shimmering green. The gown is the
same color as the money that will be fl owing to the 18-year-old
Pendleton High School senior once she walks down the aisle this
evening. Unlike many students who face a summer of working and
worrying about how they’ll pay their college tuition, Pilmer can take
it easy. Last month she was awarded a $20,000 scholarship from
the National Elks Association as the national fi rst place winner in
the fraternal organization’s Most Valuable Student Program. Add
to that another $7,000 from state, regional and local Elks clubs and
several smaller scholarships in the $500 to $2,000 range. All are
building Pilmer’s bank account before she ever sets foot on campus.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On June 12, 1987, Presi-
dent Ronald Reagan, during
a visit to the divided German
city of Berlin, exhorted Soviet
leader Mikhail S. Gorbachev
to “tear down this wall.”
In 1630, Englishman
John Winthrop, leading a
fl eet carrying Puritan refu-
gees, arrived at the Massa-
chusetts Bay Colony, where
he became its governor.
In 1939, the National
Baseball Hall of Fame and
Museum was dedicated in
Cooperstown, New York.
In 1942, Anne Frank,
a German-born Jewish
girl living in Amsterdam,
received a diary for her 13th
birthday, less than a month
before she and her family
went into hiding from the
Nazis.
In 1963, civil rights leader
Medgar Evers, 37, was shot
and killed outside his home
in Jackson, Mississippi. (In
1994, Byron De La Beckwith
was convicted of murdering
Evers and sentenced to life in
prison; he died in 2001.)
In 1964, South African
Black nationalist Nelson
Mandela was sentenced to
life in prison along with
seven other people, including
Walter Sisulu, for committing
sabotage against the apart-
heid regime (all were even-
tually released, Mandela in
1990).
In 1967, the U.S. Supreme
Court, in Loving v. Virginia,
unanimously struck down
state laws prohibiting inter-
racial marriages.
In 1971, Tricia Nixon and
Edward F. Cox were married
in the White House Rose
Garden.
In 1981, major league
baseball players began a
49-day strike over the issue
of free-agent compensation.
(The season did not resume
until Aug. 10.)
In 1991, Russians went
to the polls to elect Boris
N. Yeltsin president of their
republic.
In 1994, Nicole Brown
Simpson and Ronald Gold-
man were slashed to death
outside her Los Angeles
home. (O.J. Simpson was
later acquitted of the killings
in a criminal trial but was
eventually held liable in a
civil action.)
In 2004, former President
Ronald Reagan’s body was
sealed inside a tomb at his
presidential library in Simi
Valley, California, follow-
ing a week of mourning and
remembrance by world lead-
ers and regular Americans.
In 2015, Joyce Mitchell, a
worker at the maximum-se-
curity Clinton Correctional
Facility in Dannemora, New
York, was arrested on charges
of helping two convicted
killers escape; Mitchell later
pleaded guilty to promoting
prison contraband and was
sentenced to 2⅓ to seven
years in prison.
Today’s Birthdays: Actor
Sonia Manzano is 71. Rock
musician Bun E. Carlos
(Cheap Trick) is 70. Coun-
try singer-musician Junior
Brown is 69. Singer-song-
writer Rocky Burnette is 68.
Actor Timothy Busfi eld is
64. Singer Meredith Brooks
is 63. Actor Jenilee Harri-
son is 63. Rock musician
John Linnell (They Might
Be Giants) is 62. Actor John
Enos is 59. Rapper Grand-
master Dee (Whodini) is 59.
Actor Eamonn Walker is 59.
Actor Paula Marshall is 57.
Actor Frances O’Connor is
54. Actor Rick Hoff man is
51. Actor-comedian Finesse
Mitchell is 49. Actor Mel
Rodriguez is 48. Actor Jason
Mewes is 47. Actor Michael
Muhney is 46. Blues musi-
cian Kenny Wayne Shepherd
is 44. Actor Timothy Simons
is 43. Actor Wil Horneff is
42. Singer Robyn is 42. Rock
singer-musician John Gour-
ley (Portugal. The Man) is
40.
CHURCH
Featured this Week:
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Join Us
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Join
On Our Journey
With Jesus.
Join us on ZOOM 9:00 AM Sunday
Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link
N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston
PH: 567-6672
We are an all inclusive Church
who welcomes all.
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
FIRST PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH
- Presbyterian Church (USA) -
201 SW Dorion Ave. Pendleton
Service of Worship - 10:00 am
Children’s Sunday School - 10:20 am
Fellowship - 11:00 am
www.pendletonpresbyterian.com
Open Hearted... Open Minded
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Wednesday Bible Study
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
Sunday Mornings
COME AS YOU ARE
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/
PendletonLighthouseChurch
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
Includes Children’s Services
201 SW Dorion Ave.
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
108 S. Main St.
Pendleton
Sunday at 10:30am
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
PendletonFaithCenter.com
“A Come as
You are Church”
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
SUNDAYS
| 8:00 AM & 10:00AM
541.276 .18 94
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712 SW 27 TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
Community
Presbyterian
Church
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
Wednesday Evenings
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
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Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
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