COFFEE BREAK Saturday, May 15, 2021 East Oregonian A9 DEAR ABBY Mixed signals frustrate best friends who wants more why you should put her fi rmly in your friend would you go about writing something on zone. Stop the hugging and snuggling and this topic without off ending someone? — move on, so you can fi nd someone Wondering in Michigan who reciprocates your feelings. Dear Wondering: What you (Absence has been known to make have in mind is practical. If you have the heart grow fonder.) Perhaps a relationship with these relatives, when she realizes that you are capa- why not bring some of these ques- ble of moving on, her feelings for tions up in normal conversation? (I you will change. However, if they assume you know where they were don’t, you will have lost nothing but born.) To ask when people gradu- ated from high school or college isn’t more heartache. JEANNE Dear Abby: Recently, my intrusive. What year someone was PHILLIPS married isn’t classifi ed information dear mother-in-law passed away. ADVICE While writing her obituary, it was either. If you simply start talking, a challenge to hunt down accurate you may fi nd out much of the infor- dates and family information. Many family mation you are after. members chimed in with confl icting informa- P.S. If your relatives are willing to make the tion. To prevent this confusion in the future, eff ort to write down their own stories, it could would it be tactless to ask relatives for some be compiled into a precious family history. of this information ahead of time? If so, how Dear Abby: Our family just got back from Dear Abby: I’m a lesbian. There’s a girl I have liked for a little over a month. We are like best friends. When I told her I was attracted to her, she basically friend-zoned me, which hurt. Then she told a mutual friend she was considering being “friends with benefi ts” with me, and I got excited. Well, she changed her mind again because she was afraid it would be awkward. I still have a crush on her, but I value our friendship. We spend so much time together, and things are easy but also challenging because I just want to grab her and kiss her. We snuggle all the time, and she gives me hugs every day (we live in the same dormi- tory). I want to make out with her. These mixed signals are killing me. What do I do? — Dazed & Confused in Florida Dear Dazed: You’re right. This young woman is giving you mixed signals. That’s a perfect vacation, which included, in addition to my husband and me, my three adult sons, their wives, two grandchildren and my mom. My husband and I paid to rent a house, and we all chipped in for food. When we returned, my sister called and said she was jealous, and she wants to be included next time. I love my sister, but that would very much change the dynamics of our vacation. Is it selfi sh to not want to include her? Is there anything I can say or do to ease the hurt? Due to COVID, we are no longer hosting holidays or other celebrations as we normally do. — Big Family Up North Dear Big Family: Your sister has a right to her feelings. However, that does not obli- gate you to change your family vacation plans to suit her. Because you appear to have trou- ble saying no, tell her you will think about it, which is true and doesn’t obligate you. DAYS GONE BY From the East Oregonian 100 Years Ago May 15, 1921 Paul Bowman of Echo was shot in the legs, with a shotgun, by E.F. Sommers about 9 o’clock last evening. The shooting which has some elements of mystery is reported as due to the fact Bowman had been peeping into the home of Mrs. J.T. Bell whose husband died two weeks ago. Early in the evening a man was seen peeping into a window of the Bell home but Mrs. Bell did not recognize the man. Later the performance was repeated and Sommers who lives across the street was called upon. With shotgun in hand Sommers called upon the man to stop and when the man started to run Sommers fi red. The injured man is about 40 years of age and is married. He is being cared for at his home in Echo. 50 Years Ago May 15, 1971 Only one member of Pilot Rock’s starting lineup failed to get a hit as the Rockets lashed 13 base raps in a fi ve-inning 14-3 win over Umatilla’s Vikings Friday. Five Pilot Rock stickmen each had a pair of safeties, including pitcher Bill Quaempts, who crashed a home run and had two RBIs. Dennis Cook, Robin Roehlke, Terry Tolar and Dale Bonando each collected two hits also. Quaempts allowed four hits, three runs and fanned seven without giving up a free pass. His team- mates backed him up with errorless play in the fi eld. 25 Years Ago May 15, 1996 The win against La Grande Tuesday was the last for Bull- dog coach Rob Phillips, who had decided a few weeks ago that his eight-year coaching stint would end at the conclu- sion of the season. Phillips said it was because of attitudes. “Over the years, the coaches in Hermiston, in general, haven’t been treated very well. I’ve seen eight coaches basically lose interest in coaching, because of the way the were treated,” he said. “In my experience here, all of the coaches that have been attacked, have been attacked on a personal level that has nothing to do with the X’s and O’s of the game.” He said he had lost the desire to continue. THIS DAY IN HISTORY On May 15, 1970, just after midnight, Phillip Lafay- ette Gibbs and James Earl Green, two Black students at Jackson State College in Mississippi, were killed as police opened fire during student protests. In 1602, English naviga- tor Bartholomew Gosnold and his ship, the Concord, arrived at present-day Cape Cod, which he’s credited with naming. In 1918, U.S. airmail began service between Washington, D.C., Philadel- phia and New York. In 1948, hours after declaring its independence, the new state of Israel was attacked by Transjordan, Egypt, Syria, Iraq and Leba- non. In 1954, the Fender Stra- tocaster guitar, created by Leo Fender, was officially released. In 1963, Weight Watch- ers was incorporated in New York. In 1967, the U.S. Supreme Court, in its unanimous In re Gault decision, ruled that juveniles accused of crimes were entitled to the same due process aff orded adults. American realist painter Edward Hopper died in New York at age 84. In 1968, two days of tornado outbreaks began in 10 Midwestern and Southern states; twisters were blamed for 72 deaths, including 45 in Arkansas and 18 in Iowa. In 1972, Alabama Gov. George C. Wallace was shot and left paralyzed while campaigning for president in Laurel, Maryland, by Arthur H. Bremer, who served 35 years for attempted murder. In 1975, U.S. forces invaded the Cambodian island of Koh Tang and captured the American merchant ship Mayaguez, which had been seized by the Khmer Rouge. (All 39 crew members had already been released safely by Cambo- dia; some 40 U.S. servicemen were killed in connection with the operation.) In 1988, the Soviet Union began the process of with- drawing its troops from Afghanistan, more than eight years after Soviet forces entered the country. In 2000, by a 5-4 vote, the U.S. Supreme Court threw out a key provision of the 1994 Violence Against Women Act, saying that rape victims could not sue their attackers in federal court. In 2015, a jury sentenced Dzhokhar Tsarnaev to death for the 2013 Boston Mara- thon bombing that killed three and left more than 250 wounded. Today’s Bir thdays: Actor-singer Anna Maria Alberghetti is 85. Counter- culture icon Wavy Gravy is 85. Former U.S. Secretary of State Madeleine Albright is 84. Singer Lenny Welch is 83. Actor-singer Lainie Kazan is 79. Actor Gunilla Hutton is 79. Actor Chazz Palminteri is 75. Former Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebel- ius is 73. Singer-songwriter Brian Eno is 73. Actor Nich- olas Hammond (Film: “The Sound of Music”) is 71. Base- ball Hall of Famer George Brett is 68. Musician-com- poser Mike Oldfi eld is 68. Actor Lee Horsley is 66. TV personality Giselle Fernán- dez is 60. Rapper Grandmas- ter Melle Mel is 60. Actor Brenda Bakke is 58. Football Hall of Famer Emmitt Smith is 52. Actor Brad Rowe is 51. Actor David Charvet is 49. Actor Russell Hornsby is 47. Rock musician Ahmet Zappa is 47. Olympic gold medal gymnast Amy Chow is 43. CHURCH Featured this Week: DIRECTORY Community Worship Our Lady of Angels Catholic Church 565 W. HERMISTON AVE. Iglesia Católica Nuestra Señora de los Ángeles 565 W. HERMISTON AVE. St. Johns Episcopal Church Join Us Us Join On Our Journey With Jesus. Join us on ZOOM 9:00 AM Sunday Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston PH: 567-6672 We are an all inclusive Church who welcomes all. PENDLETON LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language Redeemer Episcopal Church 241 SE Second St. Pendleton (541)276-3809 www.pendletonepiscopal.org ok - cebo on a F M-F Morning Prayer a at 7:00 . on a.m. dlet 9 .m mer Pen t a ays Sunday Holy edee 9:00 a.m. nd Communion e Su of the R v i l h Wednesday Holy Communion Noon ng hurc ami Stre copal C Epis All Are Welcome The Salvation Army Center for Worship & Service Sunday Worship Service 9:30 - Sunday School 10:30 - Worship Service Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more! 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