COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, April 10, 2021
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Man is weighed down by sadness four years after separation
Dear Abby: I’ve been separated from
my wife for about four years, at her request.
It was justified. I wasn’t the best husband.
I wasn’t abusive, but I was sad and feeling
sorry for myself, like now.
I took her for granted and didn’t show
her the affection she deserved, but I have
been going to therapy to work through
issues that I had suppressed for decades
that contributed to me being a bad husband.
I wanted to try counseling with her, but
she was done and refused, which I’m still
saddened by.
As of today, she has a new boyfriend
but still hasn’t filed for divorce. I’m strug-
gling because she and her new boyfriend
hang out with people I grew up with. It’s
my own hang-up, I know, but it makes me
feel embarrassed and like I can never hang
out with my friends again. I get upset when
I see posts on Facebook with her and her
You are doing your best to improve your
boyfriend that my family have added heart mental state, and for that I applaud you. You
emojis or nice comments to.
should not feel embarrassed or
A m I w rong for feeli ng
humiliated because she has found
betrayed in some way? Is my
a new relationship. Please discuss
estranged wife belittling me by
these feelings with your therapist
not filing for divorce and hang-
so you can move beyond them.
ing out with my friends and a
It may also be time to take the
initiative and fi le for the divorce.
new boyfriend? Are my friends
and family betraying me by being
Quit avoiding your longtime
friends with them? — Broken
friends. If you haven’t started
JEANNE
Beyond Repair
dating, some of them may know
PHILLIPS
Dear Broken: Marriages end
women to introduce you to. And
ADVICE
because posts on the internet about
for many reasons. If I read your
your almost-ex and her boyfriend
letter correctly, your wife left
because she could no longer cope with cause you pain, block or delete them rather
someone who was in a chronic state of than obsess.
depression, not because you were a “bad
Dear Abby: My boyfriend has an
husband” or had some fl aw in your char- 8-year-old daughter who lives with us part
acter.
time. Sometimes I watch her when her dad
is out running errands or working.
I’ll be perfectly honest. There are times
she acts like an entitled, spoiled brat. She’s
rude and disrespectful, and when I ask her
to do something, she doesn’t always do it. I
can’t take it anymore.
I know I’m not her biological mom, but
I will not continue to tolerate her behavior
and attitude. Although I have spoken with
her dad about it, he has done nothing to
correct the problem. Please tell me what to
do. — Frustrated “Stepmom”
Dear Frustrated: The next time you are
asked to watch your boyfriend’s daughter,
decline and clearly state the reason why.
Perhaps when it becomes inconvenient for
him, he will assert himself, act like a parent
and insist that his daughter behave respect-
fully. If not, you may have to rethink the
relationship.
DAYS GONE BY
From the East Oregonian
100 Years Ago
April 10, 1921
John Hailey Jr. is not just exactly popular with a bunch
of fi ght fans in Pendleton on account of his action in break-
ing up a little exhibition contest between John Ogle and
E. Corley Friday afternoon. Just when the fi sticuff s were
beginning to be interesting the city probation offi cer inter-
fered and took the men to the police station, and his action
caused a group of men to miss seeing the fi nish of what
promised to be a lively bout. The scrap is said to have started
when Corley refused to accept Ogle’s invitation to shake
hands. In police court Judge Fitz Gerald found that Ogle
was the aggressor, and he was fi ned $15.
50 Years Ago
April 10, 1971
Dust-packing winds, which hit peak gusts of 63 miles
an hour at Pendleton, swept Eastern Oregon Friday. From
about 3:20-5 p.m. the wind averaged 30-35 miles an hour,
according to the National Weather Service.The high-howl-
ing wind was the cause of rear-end collisions involving six
cars between Stanfi eld and the Stanfi eld Junction at about
2:30 p.m. Friday according to Oregon State Police. That
section of Highway 32 covers about one mile.
25 Years Ago
April 10, 1996
A second Pendleton man has been chosen to carry the
Olympic torch on part of its 15,000-mile trek from Los
Angeles to Atlanta, where the games will begin in about
three months. Gary Nowell, 30, is one of 116 Oregonians
who will run one kilometer with the Olympic f lame.
Nowell was nominated for the honor by his stepfather,
David Osborn of Adams, as part of Coca-Cola’s “Who
Would You Choose” program. An earlier round of bear-
ers were selected through a United Way program. Dr.
Andrew Clark, a Pendleton veterinarian, was chosen in
this process.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On April 10, 1947,
Brooklyn Dodgers President
Branch Rickey purchased
the contract of Jackie Robin-
son from the Montreal
Royals.
In 1912, the British liner
RMS Titanic set sail from
Southampton, England, on
its ill-fated maiden voyage.
In 1932, German Presi-
dent Paul Von Hindenburg
was reelected in a runoff ,
with Adolf Hitler coming in
second.
In 1963, the fast-attack
nuclear submarine USS
Thresher (SSN-593) sank
during deep-diving tests
east of Cape Cod, Massa-
chusetts, in a disaster that
claimed 129 lives.
In 1971, a table tennis
team from the United States
arrived in China at the invi-
tation of the communist
government for a goodwill
visit that came to be known
as “ping-pong diplomacy.”
In 1972, the United States
and the Soviet Union joined
some 70 nations in sign-
ing an agreement banning
biological warfare.
In 1981, imprisoned IRA
hunger striker Bobby Sands
was declared the winner of
a by-election to the British
Parliament.
In 1992, comedian Sam
Kinison was killed in a car
crash outside Needles, Cali-
fornia, at age 38.
In 1998, the North-
ern Ireland peace talks
concluded as negotiators
reached a landmark settle-
ment to end 30 years of bitter
rivalries and bloody attacks.
In 2005, Tiger Woods
won his fourth Masters with
a spectacular fi nish of bird-
ies and bogeys.
In 2010, Polish Presi-
dent Lech Kaczynski, 60,
was killed in a plane crash
in western Russia that also
claimed the lives of his wife
and top Polish political,
military and church offi-
cials. “Designing Women”
co-star Dixie Carter, 70,
died in Houston.
In 2015, the Apple Watch
made its debut.
I n 2019, scient ist s
released the fi rst image ever
made of a black hole, reveal-
ing a fi ery, doughnut-shaped
object in a galaxy 53 million
light-years from earth.
Today’s Bi r thdays:
Actor Liz Sheridan is 92.
Football Hall of Famer John
Madden is 85. Actor Steven
Seagal is 69. Folk-pop singer
Terre Roche (The Roches) is
68. Actor Peter MacNicol is
67. Actor Olivia Brown is
64. Rock musician Steven
Gustafson (10,000 Mani-
acs) is 64. Singer-pro-
ducer Kenneth “Babyface”
Edmonds is 63. Rock sing-
er-musician Brian Setzer
is 62. Rock singer Katrina
Leskanich is 61. Actor Jeb
Adams is 60. Olympic gold
medal speedskater Cathy
Turner is 59. Rock musi-
cian Tim “Herb” Alex-
ander is 56. R&B singer
Kenny Lattimore is 54.
Actor-comedian Orlando
Jones is 53. Rock musician
Mike Mushok (Staind) is
52. Rapper Q-Tip (AKA
Kamaal) is 51. Actor David
Harbour is 46. Blues singer
Shemekia Copeland is 42.
Actor Laura Bell Bundy is
40. Actor Harry Hadden-Pa-
ton is 40. Actor Chyler Leigh
is 39. Pop musician Andrew
Dost (fun.) is 38. Actor Ryan
Merriman is 38. Singer
Mandy Moore is 37. Actor
Barkhad Abdi is 36. Actor
Shay Mitchell is 34. Actor
Haley Joel Osment is 33.
Actor Molly Bernard (TV:
“Younger”) is 33. Coun-
try singer Maren Morris is
31. Actor Alex Pettyfer is
31. Actor-singer AJ (AKA
Amanda) Michalka is 30.
Actor Daisy Ridley is 29.
Singer-actor Sofi a Carson is
28. Actor Audrey Whitby is
25. Actor Ruby Jerins is 23.
CHURCH
Featured this Week:
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
First United
Methodist
Church
Pendleton
210 NW 9th St. Pendleton Oregon
(Peace Lutheran Church)
Sunday worship 8:30pm
541-276-2616
Open Hearts,
Open Minds, Open Doors
Patty Nance, pastor
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Tom Inch, Pastor
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA (First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108 • Hermiston, Oregon 97838
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
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Sunday Holy
Communion
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Wednesday
Holy
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Strea pal Chur
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Episc
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
Sunday Mornings
COME AS YOU ARE
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
Community
Presbyterian
Church
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
cebo
M-F Morning Prayer at . 7:00
on Fa a.m. ton
All Are Welcome
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
Includes Children’s Services
FIRST PRESBYTERIAN
CHURCH
-Presbyterian Church (USA)-
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Pendleton
www.pendletonpresbyterian.com
Worship Service on
Facebook
10:00 am Sundays
Open Hearted...
Open Minded
108 S. Main St.
Pendleton
Sunday at 10:30am
Join Us
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Join
On Our Journey
With Jesus.
Join us on ZOOM 9:00 AM Sunday
Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link
N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston
PH: 567-6672
We are an all inclusive Church
who welcomes all.
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
PendletonFaithCenter.com
“A Come as
You are Church”
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
S U N D AYS
541.276.1894
| 10:00AM
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712 SW 27TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship
Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Wednesday Evenings
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
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