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East Oregonian
Saturday, April 3, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Man talks about his will, but won’t put it in writing
Dear Abby: I have been married to my
husband for seven years. We are in our 60s.
He refuses to make a will. He tells me what
he “would” put in his will and asks me if I am
OK with his wishes.
He has an adult child from his first
marriage and would like to include her in
the will. I’m fi ne with what he wants. This
conversation has been going on for more than
fi ve years now, but he never acts on it. I am
very hurt and frustrated.
The house is in his name, and my name
isn’t even on his checking accounts. I resent
him for this. There are times when I want
to get a divorce because I feel if something
should happen to him, I will have no security.
I also think he is being selfi sh and unloving to
me, and his adult child will leave us in a situ-
ation where we would have to go through the
probate process. Please help me to get through in writing and so should yours. (This subject
to him. — Resentful in Maine
should also be raised with your doctor(s).
Dear Resentful: Your husband
Most people want to keep what
may be afraid to face the idea of his
they have worked for and decide for
own mortality. He wouldn’t be the
themselves what will happen when
fi rst. The two of you need to make an
they die. Death is a fact of life, and
appointment with an attorney who
hiding from it won’t make it go
specializes in wills and estates. If
away.
he doesn’t put his wishes in writing,
Dear Abby: I send out lots of
the assets he has worked so hard for
greeting cards every year for birth-
may be seriously diminished when
days, anniversaries and Christmas.
JEANNE
the state decides “for him” and takes
I keep a large number of them on
PHILLIPS
a sizable chunk out of the estate.
hand so I am prepared.
ADVICE
While you are talking with
I received a Christmas card this
the lawyer, there should also be a
year from an elderly family member
discussion of end-of-life planning. Does he that said: “Thank you for the insulting anni-
want hospice? Palliative care? Do you know versary card.” “Insulting” was underlined
what his wishes are in the event he is unable twice. I was dismayed. Their anniversary was
to speak for himself? Those wishes should be last August. I have no idea which card I sent
since I keep so many on hand. I am guessing
it may have been a humorous card that they
didn’t fi nd funny, but I’m not sure.
Both are very alert and oriented. What is
the proper thing to do here? Do I call them
and apologize when I have no idea what it
said? Should I not send an anniversary card
next year or send a very generic one? I have
been very upset that my good wishes were
so poorly received. Any advice you can
give would be appreciated. Thank you. —
Confused in the Midwest
Dear Confused: Call the couple and ask
what it was about the card that upset them.
Explain that it wasn’t your intention to off end
them, and apologize. Do send an anniversary
card when the time comes, but when you do,
make absolutely certain the message inside
is appropriate.
DAYS GONE BY
From the East Oregonian
100 Years Ago
April 3, 1921
A force of men will be sent to the headworks of the city
water system above Thorn Hollow Monday to start work on the
extension of a line to the additional spring to be brought into
use. This spring is across the track from the Chaplish spring and
about 500 feet distant. The new work calls for a concrete pipe
line 1660 feet long. Of this 950 feet will be 18 inch pipe and 710
feet will be 16 inch. The pipe will be purchased ready made.
50 Years Ago
April 3, 1971
Pilot Rock pitcher Bill Quatepts tossed a one-hit shutout
and teammate Tim Slate slammed out three hits as the Rockets
blasted Weston 10-0 in a non-league baseball tilt yesterday.
Quaempts gave up only a second inning single to Weston’s
Paul Crowl and whiff ed 12 Tigers. Slate collected three hits
in as many trips to the plate, and his eff ort included a one-run
triple. Robin Roehlk added a 2-3 performance for the Rockets.
25 Years Ago
April 3, 1996
The Hermiston Bulldogs survived a Riverside rally, but
more importantly, survived a scary incident in the sixth
inning. Hermiston ace Katie Barnett was struck in the head
with a line drive in the sixth inning, but managed to stay in the
game and get the win as the Bulldogs pulled out a 3-2 softball
victory over the Pirates Tuesday afternoon. Kami Sandlin’s
liner hit so hard off of Barnett’s forehead that the ball bounced
all the way back to catcher Jacque Sielaff .
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On April 3, 1968, civil
rights leader Martin Luther
King Jr. delivered what
turned out to be his final
speech, telling a rally of
striking sanitation workers
in Memphis, Tennessee, that
“I’ve been to the mountain-
top” and “seen the Prom-
ised Land. I may not get
there with you. But I want
you to know tonight that we,
as a people, will get to the
Promised Land!” (About 20
hours later, King was felled
by an assassin’s bullet at the
Lorraine Motel.)
In 1860, the legendary
Pony Express began carry-
ing mail between St. Joseph,
Missouri, and Sacramento,
California. (The deliv-
ery system lasted only 18
months before giving way
to the transcontinental tele-
graph.)
In 1865, Union forces
occupied the Confeder-
ate capital of Richmond,
Virginia.
In 1882, outlaw Jesse
James was shot to death in
St. Joseph, Missouri, by
Robert Ford, a member of
James’ gang.
In 1936, Bruno Haupt-
mann was electrocuted in
Trenton, New Jersey, for the
kidnap-murder of Charles
Lindbergh Jr.
In 1942, during World
War II, Japanese forces
began their final assault
on Bataan against Amer-
ican and Filipino troops
who surrendered six days
later; the capitulation was
followed by the notorious
Bataan Death March.
I n 194 4, t he U.S.
Supreme Court, in Smith
v. Allwright, struck down a
Democratic Party of Texas
rule that allowed only white
voters to participate in
Democratic primaries.
In 1946, Lt. Gen. Masa-
haru Homma, the Japanese
commander held responsible
for the Bataan Death March,
was executed by fi ring squad
outside Manila.
I n 1948, P resident
Harry S. Truman signed the
Marshall Plan, designed to
help European allies rebuild
after World War II and resist
communism.
In 1973, the fi rst hand-
held portable telephone was
demonstrated for reporters
on a New York City street
corner as Motorola execu-
tive Martin Cooper called
Joel S. Engel of Bell Labs.
In 1990, jazz singer Sarah
Vaughan died in suburban
Los Angeles at age 66.
In 1996, Unabomber
Theodore Kaczynski was
ar rested at his remote
Montana cabin.
In 2005, a day after the
death of Pope John Paul II,
the body of the pontiff lay
in state. Millions prayed
and wept at services across
the globe, as the Vatican
prepared for the ritual-fi lled
funeral and conclave that
would choose a successor.
Today’s Bi r thdays:
Conservationist Dame Jane
Goodall is 87. Actor William
Gaunt is 84. Songwriter
Jeff Barry is 83. Actor Eric
Braeden is 80. Actor Marsha
Mason is 79. Singer Wayne
Newton is 79. Singer Tony
Orlando is 77. Comedy
writer Pat Proft is 74. Folk-
rock singer Richard Thomp-
son is 72. Country musician
Curtis Stone (Highway
101) is 71. Blues singer-gui-
tarist John Mooney is 66.
Rock musician Mick Mars
(Motley Crue) is 65. Actor
Alec Baldwin is 63. Actor
David Hyde Pierce is 62.
Rock singer John Thomas
Griffi th (Cowboy Mouth) is
61. Comedian-actor Eddie
Murphy is 60. Rock sing-
er-musician Mike Ness
(Social Distortion) is 59.
Rock singer Sebastian Bach
is 53. Rock musician James
MacDonough is 51. Olym-
pic gold medal ski racer
Picabo Street is 50. Actor
Jennie Garth is 49. Actor
Jamie Bamber is 48. Actor
Adam Scott is 48. Christian
rock musician Drew Shirley
(Switchfoot) is 47. Comedian
Aries Spears is 46. Actor
Matthew Goode is 43. Actor
Cobie Smulders is 39. Rock-
pop singer Leona Lewis is
36. Actor Amanda Bynes is
35. Actor-comedian Rachel
Bloom is 34. Actor Hayley
Kiyoko is 30. Rock musi-
cian Sam Kiszka (Greta Van
Fleet) is 22.
CHURCH
Featured this Week:
DIRECTORY
108 S. Main St. Pendleton
Sunday at 10:30am
PendletonFaithCenter.com
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
First United
Methodist
Church
Pendleton
210 NW 9th St. Pendleton Oregon
(Peace Lutheran Church)
Sunday worship 8:30pm
541-276-2616
Open Hearts,
Open Minds, Open Doors
Patty Nance, pastor
“A come as You are Church”
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
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Sunday Holy
Communion
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edeem 9:00 a.m.
live S of the R
Wednesday
Holy
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Strea pal Chur
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Episc
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
Sunday Mornings
COME AS YOU ARE
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
Community
Presbyterian
Church
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
cebo
M-F Morning Prayer at . 7:00
on Fa a.m. ton
All Are Welcome
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
Includes Children’s Services
FIRST PRESBYTERIAN
CHURCH
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
S U N D AYS
541.276.1894
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712 SW 27TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
-Presbyterian Church (USA)-
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Pendleton
www.pendletonpresbyterian.com
Worship Service on
Facebook
10:00 am Sundays
Open Hearted...
Open Minded
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Join Us
Us
Join
On Our Journey
With Jesus.
Join us on ZOOM 9:00 AM Sunday
Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link
N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston
PH: 567-6672
We are an all inclusive Church
who welcomes all.
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Wednesday Evenings
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
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Audra Workman 541-564-4538
or email aworkman@eastoregonian.com