A8 COFFEE BREAK East Oregonian Saturday, March 6, 2021 DEAR ABBY Falling-out with friend group puts wife in awkward position Dear Abby: I’m married to the most patient, loving and wonderful husband in the world. Recently, I had a falling-out with his friend group. I admit I was not a good friend due to mental illness, and I know I may never earn their forgiveness. I’m taking responsi- bility for my actions and seeking help. Now I want to move on and forget I ever knew them. The problem is, my husband still hangs out with them. He defended me when they talked negatively about me, and contin- ues to support me in all my struggles, but they’re still buddy-buddy as if nothing ever happened. I can’t help but think how awkward it is that he hangs out with a bunch of people who hate me. The last thing I want is to break up a friendship, and I know it’s petty to be angry that my husband still hangs with them, but it still leaves a sour taste in my mouth. How them you are working to get better. You should not expect your husband can I learn to let go knowing they will be a to drop his friends because you constant presence in my life and a reminder of how horrible I was? — messed up. They probably will be Keeping Distance present in your lives for the foresee- Dear Keeping: You have a able future, but that doesn’t mean mental illness and you acted out. you will always be at odds. Your illness caused it, and it does Dear Abby: We moved into a not make you a bad person. beautiful new house a few months ago, and we’re having an issue with You cannot wave a magic wand and expect this to go away. You a neighbor whose dog barks all J EANNE night. This has been going on since have already taken an important P HILLIPS fi rst step by admitting to yourself the fi rst night. I have tried to ignore ADVICE that you have a mental illness. If it. I wear earplugs or put a pillow you are now in treatment, you have over my head, but nothing helps, also taken the second step. When you are and it’s starting to affect my mood because strong enough, apologize to his friend group I’m not getting enough sleep. for any pain, embarrassment or disruption I’m receiving mixed advice from family you caused during an “episode” and assure about whether I should talk to the neighbor in person or anonymously submit a complaint with the city. I would go in person, but I’m somewhat shy, and I’m not sure how to start a conversation like that with someone I’ve never met. Any advice on this would be so helpful. — Sleep-Deprived in Arizona Dear Sleep-Deprived: It would be inter- esting to know why your neighbor’s dog barks all night. Is it neglected, hungry or thirsty, tied up outside and wanting to come in? Because you are shy, write your neigh- bors a polite letter explaining that their dog’s barking is preventing you from getting a good night’s sleep and ask if they can do something to help you out. Give them a chance to rectify the problem. However, if the animal is being ignored and mistreated, contact the animal control department in your city and report it. DAYS GONE BY 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian March 6, 1921 When President Wilson just before retiring from offi ce yesterday affi xed his signature to the Sundry civil bill he put the fi nishing touch on a bit of legislation that means a large construction enterprise fi ve miles from Pendleton and an increased water supply for the west end of the county. The McKay reservoir will be located on McKay creek a quarter of a mile above the house on the Jones place. The reservoir will cover 2000 acres of land above the damsite and will reach a distance of two and a half miles up stream. In the purchase of this land there will be 12 owners to deal with and the appraised price of the land to be purchased is over $100,000. The Holmes place on McKay will be right in the middle of the reservoir. The original estimate on the cost of the dam and reservoir is $2,000,000. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian March 6, 1971 The combination of wind and loose paper is posing a major litter problem for several in the North Hill section between Hermiston and McNary Dam. Paper and paper cartons are blowing out of the landfi ll, operated by Hermiston Sanitary Service, which is owned and operated by Forrest Sullivan of Hermiston. Residents complain the paper is littering their yards and adjacent property and businesses say the litter is costing them money and is a general nuisance. The landfi ll is in a big ravine in the Hermiston buttes and is surrounded on three sides by high bluffs. From all appearances it would seem to be a natural site for a landfi ll. But a draft is created and the paper and cartons fl y out over the east bluff. Property owner Warren “Tex” Ross complains that he picks up the Sullivan litter and then pays Sullivan to haul it back to the landfi ll. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian March 6, 1996 They come from the big and small of Oregon. From the high and low. From the wet and dry. Why? Basketball. The 2A state basketball tournament at the Pendleton Convention Center draws players and fans from all regions of Oregon. The largest city is represented by Portland Adventist, and teams from Salem and Corvallis are also in town. But there are plenty of teams from rural Oregon. Bonanza (population 350) is the smallest. Some come from the high elevations of Southern Oregon, then there’s the Willamette Valley town of Amity, elevation 161 feet. Teams from the west side live with about 150 days of rain every year, while arid Nyssa gets less than 50. A city’s name can offer some interesting insight into the origin and character of a town. Bonanza is the Spanish word for prosperity and was applied to the good water in the area. Athena, whose Weston-McEwen athletes are the “home- town” team in this year’s tourney, is the name of the Greek goddess of war, female arts and agriculture. Maybe Pendleton should adopt the name of the Greek god of basketball for the second week of March each year. THIS DAY IN HISTORY On March 6, 1857, the U.S. Supreme Court, in Dred Scott v. Sandford, ruled 7-2 that Scott, a slave, was not an American citizen and there- fore could not sue for his freedom in federal court. In 1475, Italian artist and poet Michelangelo was born in Caprese in the Republic of Florence. In 1836, the Alamo in San Antonio, Texas, fell as Mexican forces led by General Antonio Lopez de Santa Anna stormed the fortress after a 13-day siege; the battle claimed the lives of all the Texan defenders, nearly 200 strong, including William Travis, James Bowie and Davy Crockett. In 1853, Verdi’s opera “La Traviata” premiered in Venice, Italy. In 1944, U.S. heavy bombers staged the first full-scale American raid on Berlin during World War II. In 1962, what became known as the Ash Wednes- day Storm began pound- ing the mid-Atlantic coast; over a three-day period, the storm resulted in 40 deaths and caused more than $200 million in property damage. In 1964, heavyweight boxing champion Cassius Clay offi cially changed his name to Muhammad Ali. In 1970, a bomb being built inside a Greenwich Village townhouse by the radical Weathermen acciden- tally went off, destroying the house and killing three group members. In 1973, Nobel Prize-win- ning author Pearl S. Buck, 80, died in Danby, Vermont. In 1981, Walter Cronkite signed off for the last time as principal anchorman of “The CBS Evening News.” In 1987, the fi rst “Lethal Weapon” movie, starring Mel Gibson and Danny Glover, was released by Warner Bros. In 2002, Independent Counsel Robert Ray issued his fi nal report in which he wrote that former President Bill Clinton could have been indicted and probably would have been convicted in the scandal involving former White House intern Monica Lewinsky. In 2015, during a town hall at South Carolina’s Benedict College, President Barack Obama said racial discrimination by police in Ferguson, Missouri, was “oppressive and abusive” as he called for criminal justice reform as part of the modern struggle for civil rights. Today’s Bir thdays: Former Soviet cosmonaut Valentina Tereshkova is 84. Opera singer Dame Kiri Te Kanawa is 77. Rock musi- cian Hugh Grundy (The Zombies) is 76. Rock sing- er-musician Phil Alvin (The Blasters) is 68. Actor Moira Kelly is 53. Basketball Hall of Famer Shaquille O’Neal is 49. Rapper/producer Tyler, the Creator is 30. CHURCH Featured this Week: DIRECTORY Community Worship Our Lady of Angels Catholic Church 565 W. HERMISTON AVE. Iglesia Católica Nuestra Señora de los Ángeles 565 W. HERMISTON AVE. First United Methodist Church Pendleton 210 NW 9th St. Pendleton Oregon (Peace Lutheran Church) Sunday worship 8:30pm 541-276-2616 Open Hearts, Open Minds, Open Doors Patty Nance, pastor Redeemer Episcopal Church 241 SE Second St. Pendleton (541)276-3809 www.pendletonepiscopal.org Solid Rock Community Church 140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838 541-567-6937 Worship Service: 11:00AM Sunday School: 9:45 Pastor Wilbur Clark The Salvation Army Center for Worship & Service Sunday Worship Service 9:30 - Sunday School 10:30 - Worship Service Wednesday Bible Study ok - 9 a.m er Pendle t a s y Sunday Holy Communion da un edeem 9:00 a.m. live S of the R Wednesday Holy ming ch Communion Noon Strea pal Chur o Episc 5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study Community Presbyterian Church PENDLETON LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH cebo M-F Morning Prayer at . 7:00 on Fa a.m. ton All Are Welcome COME AS YOU ARE 150 SE Emigrant (541) 276-3369 Sunday Mornings 1st Service: 8:30am 2nd Service: 10:30am Includes Children’s Services FIRST PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH -Presbyterian Church (USA)- 201 SW Dorion Ave. Pendleton www.pendletonpresbyterian.com ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES S U N D AYS 541.276.1894 Worship Service on Facebook 10:00 am Sundays Open Hearted... 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Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston PH: 567-6672 We are an all inclusive Church who welcomes all. Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com SundayEvenings Celebrate Recovery: 6:00 We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language Wednesday Evenings Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more! Family Night: 6:00 pm Pastor Dan Satterwhite 541.377.4252 417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801 www.facebook.com/ PendletonLighthouseChurch Pendleton First Assembly of God 1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728 541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com To advertise in the Church Directory, please contact Audra Workman 541-564-4538 or email aworkman@eastoregonian.com