COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, January 2, 2021
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Woman is hurt to be kept at arm’s length by sister
Dear Abby: I have spent years trying to
have a close relationship with my older sis-
ter, but it is clearly not a priority for her. We
are very different people, but I was hoping
our shared history and family bond would
be enough for her to prioritize me and my
son. We come from a very small family on
both sides and, one day, we will be some of
the few remaining family members.
I haven’t heard from her in months
during the pandemic, which has been hurt-
ful. I’m a working single mother, trying to
take care of my son during this dark time,
and she hasn’t bothered to check on us even
once.
She once told me that the only things
she cares about are her own son and her
dogs. I don’t understand how she can have
such a loving heart for animals but no con-
cern for her own family. She can be very
selfi sh and has had no close girlfriends
during her adulthood.
her will never happen.
Growing up, she was jealous of me, but
For whatever reasons, she isn’t capa-
I thought things would be different after I
ble of giving you what you need. You will
struggled with a divorce and other life stress-
fi nd the closeness you crave by developing
ors. I received no support from her
stronger relationships with your
during my divorce. In fact, she
friends. Sadly, for your sister, she
seemed to take my ex’s side despite
won’t give herself the gift of these
his having emotionally abused me
important and rewarding kinds of
for years. Should I expect that we
experiences.
will ever have a closer relationship
Dear Abby: I recently separated
or just accept that it won’t happen?
from my husband of 16 years. He
— Hurt in Alabama
is an alcoholic who refuses to seek
Dear Hurt: If your description
help. He can’t hold a job or help
J EANNE
of your sister is accurate, she has
with household expenses when he
P HILLIPS
drawn a tight circle around her-
does work.
ADVICE
self that she doesn’t want breached.
We have been separated for fi ve
You stated that the two of you are
months, and he feels that I “owe”
very different people, but on some level
him another chance. I gave him warning
you haven’t allowed yourself to accept what
after warning for six years — and there was
that means. You will be hurt less once you
no change. I continue to tell him repeatedly
accept that your fantasy of closeness with
that I have moved on and I’m tired. Things
got so bad I eventually had a mental break-
down and had to seek professional help.
I’m currently in a new relationship, and
I have never been so happy. My husband
threatens this new man and calls him names.
I’m in the process of fi ling for divorce, but
he makes me feel I am obligated to give
him the chance to make things right. Am I
wrong for wanting to move on? — End Of
My Rope in Nevada
Dear End: No, you are not! You have suf-
fered enough, so do not backtrack. You are
not obligated to give your alcoholic husband
more time than you have already devoted.
If you allow him to wear you down, there
will only be more of what you have already
experienced. (If you are even tempted, call
your therapist!)
That he refuses to seek treatment speaks
volumes. If you and the new man in your
life feel threatened, fi le a police report.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 2, 1921
A year of fond hopes and bright possibilities was wel-
comed by Pendleton at 12 o’clock last night with varied wel-
comes extended by a populace that awaited the New Year’s
coming. Watch services in homes and churches and dancing
parties entertained hundreds until the hand of time crossed
12 on the dial and ushered in the year 1921. Pendleton was
happy and orderly. It was a Volsteadian New Year obser-
vance and the new year was welcomed with a sober and gen-
uine greeting. Most of Pendleton realized the possibilities of
the future and made resolutions to make the most of them.
A big public dinner at noon was the outstanding feature of
the Indians’ observance of New Year’s day. The Presbyte-
rian Indians, who have been encamped for the holidays at
Tutuilla church, enjoyed a roast of pork, jackrabbit stew and
other delicacies today and also had services in the church.
Last night at the midnight hour the natives in the style of
their brothers in the city welcomed the new year with noise
and jollifi cation.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 2, 1971
Old man winter has moved in and clutched Eastern Ore-
gon by the throat. Temperatures made a mad dash for the
bottom, diving to 15 below at Tollgate, 12 below at Meacham
and two below at Baker. Pendleton fared a little better with
an overnight low of 14 downtown. The low at the Weather
Service at the airport was 18. Highs are expected to peak at
about 35 today and tomorrow with a low of 12-18 overnight.
Skies are expected to remain fair, however. Despite the cold
weather, sledding is great in the Blue Mountains. Sleds, sau-
cers, inner tubes — anything that will slip across the snow
is fun. But best of all, according to some, is a fast-moving
sled on the slope at Emigrant State Park.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 2, 1996
A Umatilla trucker has been named a National High-
way Hero for risking his life to save another. Shawn Dyke
of Umatilla, who drives for North American Van Lines, and
fellow trucker Vincent Carr of Pleasant Valley, N.Y., jumped
in front of a freight train to save an unconscious man in a
pickup. The accident occurred last September near Gallup,
N.M. Dyke, 30, saw the pickup driver pass out, apparently
from a seizure, just as the man drove up alongside his rig.
Carr, driving for J.B. Hunt, was in a rig just behind Dyke.
The pickup struck Dyke’s truck, then crossed the median
and came to rest on some railroad tracks just as a train was
coming. Dyke and Carr stopped and ran to pull the man to
safety. Reports say they were just fi ve paces away when the
train hit. The men were among six truckers honored as high-
way heroes by Goodyear Tire & Rubber Co. Even though
he is based out of Umatilla, Dyke’s career keeps him away
from home sometimes for six months at a time. But he keeps
in touch with his family, calling his mother, Darlene Asbell,
every three to four days to check in.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Jan. 2, 1974, Presi-
dent Richard Nixon signed
legislation requiring states
to limit highway speeds to
55 miles an hour as a way
of conserving gasoline in
the face of an OPEC oil
embargo. (The 55 mph limit
was effectively phased out
in 1987; federal speed limits
were abolished in 1995.)
In 1811, Sen. Timothy
Pickering, a Federalist from
Massachusetts, became the
fi rst member of the U.S.
Senate to be censured after
he’d improperly revealed
the contents of an executive
document.
In 1959, the Soviet Union
launched its space probe
Luna 1, the fi rst man-made
object to fl y past the moon,
its apparent intended target.
In 1960, Sen. John F.
Kennedy of Massachusetts
launched his successful bid
for the presidency.
In 1967, Republican
Ronald Reagan took the
oath of offi ce as the new
governor of California in
a ceremony that took place
in Sacramento shortly after
midnight.
In 1971, 66 people were
killed in a pileup of spec-
tators leaving a soccer
match at Ibrox Stadium in
Glasgow, Scotland.
In 1981, police in Shef-
fi eld, England, arrested
Peter Sutcliffe, who con-
fessed to being the “York-
shire Ripper,” the serial
killer of 13 women.
In 1983, the original
Broadway production of the
musical “Annie” closed after
a run of 2,377 performances.
In 2007, the state funeral
for former President Ger-
ald R. Ford began with an
elaborate service at Wash-
ington National Cathedral,
then moved to Grand Rap-
ids, Michigan.
In 2015, California began
issuing driver’s licenses to
immigrants who were in
the country illegally. Little
Jimmy Dickens, a diminu-
tive singer-songwriter who
was the oldest cast member
of the Grand Ole Opry, died
at age 94.
Today’s Birthdays: TV
host Jack Hanna is 74. Actor
Wendy Phillips is 69. Actor
Tia Carrere is 54. Actor
Cuba Gooding Jr. is 53.
Model Christy Turlington is
52. Actor Dax Shepard is 46.
Actor Kate Bosworth is 38.
Jazz singer-musician Trom-
bone Shorty is 35.
CHURCH
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
orship
Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
401 Northgate, Pendleton
210 NW 9th St. Pendleton Oregon
Celebration
of Worship
Celebration
(Peace Lutheran Church)
Sunday worship 8:30pm
541-276-2616
of Worship
Sundays 10:00 am
Youth:
0-6th
grade
Midweek
Service
Midweek Service
Open Hearts,
Open Minds, Open Doors
Patty Nance, pastor
108 S. Main St.
Pendleton
Sunday at 10:30am
Wednesdays 6:00 pm
Overcomer’s
Outreach
Youth: 0-6th
grade
’ High
Jr./Sr.
PendletonFaithCenter.com
Pastor Sharon Miller
“A Come as
You are Church”
541-278-8082
www.livingwordcc.com
Pastor Sharon Miller
www.livingwordcc.com
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
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ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
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CHURCH
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
-Presbyterian Church (USA)-
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Pendleton
Sunday Worship Service
Service of Worship - 10:00 am
Children’s Sunday School -
10:20 am
Fellowship - 11:00 am
www.pendletonpresbyterian.com
10:30 - Worship Service
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
Sunday Mornings
COME AS YOU ARE
Open Hearted...
Open Minded
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
9:30 - Sunday School
Wednesday Bible Study
Includes Children’s Services
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Join Us
Us
Join
On Our Journey
With Jesus.
Join us on ZOOM 9:00 AM Sunday
Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link
N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston
PH: 567-6672
We are an all inclusive Church
who welcomes all.
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
Community
Presbyterian
Church
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Wednesday Evenings
541-567-6937
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.