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East Oregonian
Saturday, November 21, 2020
DEAR ABBY
Ring presented at engagement ceremony is unhappy surprise
Dear Abby: When my then-boyfriend
asked me to marry him, he didn’t have a
ring ready, but I happily accepted his pro-
posal. We were in our late 20s and had
been dating for almost 10 years. He then
took me to the jewelry store so I could
select one to my taste and liking (within
budget). We took a picture of the ring, and
he told me he would bring his mother back
to the jewelry shop with him so she could
help with the price haggling.
A week later, he told me he had made
the purchase and we both couldn’t wait for
our engagement ceremony as we took the
next step in our relationship. On that day,
to my surprise, the ring he put on my fi n-
ger wasn’t the one I had selected. How-
ever, in front of his family, my family and
probably 40 guests, I pretended nothing
happened.
I wasn’t happy at all and told him later,
in private, that it wasn’t the ring I chose.
His answer was, his mother thought this
won’t be repeated with the selection of the
one would look better (in my opinion,
wedding rings.
cheaper and tackier) than the one I liked
Dear Abby: My husband was a drug
and that I was overreacting. I told him that
addict 18 years ago. It was a very hard
had he not taken me shopping, I
time for us; he went through rehab
would have appreciated any ring
and we almost divorced. Fast-for-
he bought. He brushes me off
ward: He has been doing well, and
when I try to discuss it. Why did
we still have our problems, but he
he take me, and then disregard
hasn’t used heavy drugs for 17
my opinion? Am I overreacting,
years. To calm his anxiety, he just
Abby? — Fooled in California
has an occasional drink or uses
Dear Fooled: You are not over-
CBD oils.
reacting. Your fi ance’s mother
My sister-in-law told me last
J EANNE
had a lot of nerve. She apparently
weekend that my sister told our
P HILLIPS
rules the roost and chose that
son (who was 17 at the time) about
ADVICE
occasion to assert herself. Worse,
my husband’s drug issues when
it appears her son values her opin-
he was younger. We always kept
ion over yours. He owes you an apology.
my husband’s past quiet, feeling that we
If this happened recently and you are
would have that conversation with our son
not yet married to this prize, the two of
eventually, when we were ready.
you should consider making a return trip
I’m furious that she told him. It should
to that jeweler. Hopefully, this scenario
have been our choice, not hers. She has
violated my trust. There has been a lot
of animosity between my husband and
my sister in the past, so I am sure she did
it out of spite. I am so upset, I am afraid
I’ll explode and ruin the tenuous rela-
tionship I have with her. Also, my hus-
band will probably want to disown her for
this betrayal. What do you suggest? —
Betrayed in South Carolina
Dear Betrayed: If your sister knew you
wanted to keep this from your son until he
was older, she did betray your trust. Once
you have calmed down, talk to her, ask if
what you were told is true, and if it is, why
she would do such a thing. Once you have
all the facts, your husband must be told
the cat is out of the bag so the two of you
can decide whether you want to continue a
relationship with this sister. And because
a predisposition toward addiction can run
in a family, have that long-overdue talk
with your son about it.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Nov. 21, 1920
Farcical in its very nature but presented and costumed
with a fi nish far superior to the average high school pro-
ductions, “The Merchant of Venice Up-to-Date” given last
night by the Drama Club of Pendleton high school enter-
tained a large audience for two hours. The play was the
initial offering of the club this season and produced many
laughs. The young actors put a lot of force in their lines and
those of the audience familiar with well known lads and
lasses in the school were entertained by the frequent ref-
erence to them. Teachers also came in for their share of the
mention in Shakespeare’s classic parodied, and a vein of
wholesome humor throughout formed the vehicle for a high
class high school production. Preceding the play, the seniors
gave a skit from their forthcoming production which is also
of the comedy stamp.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Nov. 21, 1970
Corvallis may be number one but Pendleton has to be
a darn close second. It was only by the hair on its chinny-
chin-chin that Corvallis’ Spartans escaped with a 20-14
state AAA high school football semifi nal win over Pendle-
ton’s Buckaroos Friday night. The Spartans took a 20-point
halftime spread over the Buckaroos, but the Comeback Kids
took command in the second half and stalled the powerful
Spartan ground attack. Pendleton was poised to take the
lead as the fi nal gun sounded. Had the Bucks had another
minute to play — who knows? Corvallis Coach Chuck Sol-
bert told the Bucks after the game, “You sure played a lot
better against us than Sunset did.” Sunset, the number one
ranked team in the state at the end of the regular season, was
wiped out by the number two ranked Spartans in the quar-
terfi nals. Pendleton was unranked.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Nov. 21, 1995
Construction worker Jim Taft could barely see the 1936
scrawled on the outside of the copper box. He had to lift it
into the sun to make out the date, holding history in his two
broad hands. “You could still see the pencil writing,” said
Taft, an employee of the construction fi rm working to reno-
vate the old brick Helen McCune building into a brand-new
city hall/library complex. Carved into a cubby hole behind
the cornerstone of the landmark building was a time cap-
sule, soldered shut with lead. Placed in the building when
it was fi rst constructed as a junior high school, the capsule
contained photographs and yellowed East Oregonian clip-
pings. Also inside the box was the offi cial voting tally of
the $50,000 bond levy that paid for the school. The score:
568 yes votes, 76 no votes. The total cost of the building,
grounds, architect’s fee and equipment was $150,000 —
quite a few dollars less than the $2.95 million price tag to
remodel it for modern use.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Nov. 21, 1980, 87
people died in a fi re at the
MGM Grand Hotel in Las
Vegas, Nevada.
In 1931, the Univer-
sal horror fi lm “Franken-
stein,” starring Boris Karl-
off as the monster and Colin
Clive as his creator, was fi rst
released.
In 1967, President Lyn-
don B. Johnson signed the
Air Quality Act.
In 1969, the Senate voted
down the Supreme Court
nomination of Clement F.
Haynsworth, 55-45, the fi rst
such rejection since 1930.
In 1973, President Rich-
ard Nixon’s attorney, J. Fred
Buzhardt, revealed the exis-
tence of an 18½-minute gap
in one of the White House
tape recordings related to
Watergate.
In 1979, a mob attacked
the U.S. Embassy in Islam-
abad, Pakistan, killing two
Americans.
In 1985, U.S. Navy intel-
ligence analyst Jonathan
Jay Pollard was arrested,
accused of spying for Israel.
(Pollard later pleaded guilty
to espionage and was sen-
tenced to life in prison; he
was released on parole on
Nov. 20, 2015.)
In 1992, a three-day tor-
nado outbreak that struck
13 states began in the Hous-
ton area before spreading
to the Midwest and East-
ern U.S.; 26 people were
killed. Sen. Bob Packwood,
R-Ore., issued an apol-
ogy, but refused to discuss
allegations that he’d made
unwelcome sexual advances
toward 10 women over the
years. (Faced with a threat
of expulsion, Packwood
ended up resigning from the
Senate in 1995.)
In 1995, Balkan leaders
meeting in Dayton, Ohio,
initialed a peace plan to end
42 months of ethnic fi ghting
in Bosnia-Herzegovina.
In 2001, Ottilie Lund-
gren, a 94-year-old resident
of Oxford, Connecticut,
died of inhalation anthrax;
she was the apparent last
victim of a series of anthrax
attacks carried out through
the mail system.
Today’s Birthdays: Bas-
ketball Hall of Famer Earl
Monroe is 76. Actor Goldie
Hawn is 75. Rock musician
Lonnie Jordan (War) is 72.
Rock musician Brian Ritchie
(The Violent Femmes) is 60.
Singer-actor Bjork (byork) is
55. Baseball Hall of Famer
Ken Griffey Jr. is 51. Actor
Rain Phoenix is 48. Actor
Marina de Tavira is 47 Actor
Jena Malone is 36.
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