COFFEE BREAK Saturday, January 4, 2020 East Oregonian C5 DEAR ABBY Bride’s choice of groomsman brings back painful memories Dear Abby: I am a 37-year-old be one of my groomsmen. She has man who is getting married expressed that she would like for the first time. My fiancee, her cousin “Gerald” to be one “Holly,” and I went to mid- of my groomsmen, so some- one from her family is in our dle school and high school wedding party. together, but never really got The problem is, Gerald to know each other until a was my main tormentor from few years ago. I love her more eighth grade all through high than words can describe, and school. At one point in 10th I’m happy to be getting ready grade, his cruelty led to my to spend my life with her. J eanne Growing up, I was socially attempting suicide. I carry P hilliPs awkward, partly due to hav- ADVICE the scar from the attempt on ing Asperger’s, which made my right wrist. me a target for bullies. Holly I understand that people and I are now choosing our wedding change and mature as they grow older, party. My sister will be one of her and I’m OK with Gerald attending the bridesmaids. Holly is an only child, so wedding. But the idea of him stand- ing next to me on the biggest day of she doesn’t have a brother who could my life, along with my best friend and two closest cousins, triggers too many awful memories. How can I plead this to Holly without hurting her feelings or looking shallow and petty? — Ner- vous Groom-To-Be Dear Groom-To-Be: Shallow and petty? The scar on your wrist is visible, but clearly there are others, equally painful, that are not. I don’t think it would come across as either shallow or petty if you explain to your fiancee, exactly as you have explained it to me, why you prefer Gerald not be at the altar with you on the most important day of your life. This is something Holly should have been made aware of before the two of you set a wedding date. Do it now. DAYS GONE BY 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 4, 1920 A picture of Miss Jean Reber, daughter of Dr. D. N. Reber of Pendleton was shown in the rotogravure section of The New York Times on Sunday. Miss Reber is featured in a group of New York actresses who are winning success on the stage. Miss Reber, whose stage name is Jean Ribera, is appearing in “The Magic Melody” at the Shubert theatre. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 4, 1970 A new industry is pumping dollars into the Hermiston economy, and its future is bright, according to men associ- ated with the horse training business. Ed Johnson’s Sage- Sand Race Track and Horse Motel along Highway 80-N is a modern facility for training race horses, and business is good. With the season nearing its peak, all of the 90 stalls in the three large barns may be filled. Don McEwen, who now calls Hermiston home, formerly trained on a Las Vegas track. He considers the Johnson facility, plus the mild weather and dry climate, ideal for training horses for the track. McEwen says it is the trainer’s job to understand the temperament of the horse, and each one is different. The veteran trainer is working with 20 head for several differ- ent owners. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 4, 1995 Any book, anywhere, any time. That’s the not-so-dis- tant future of the Umatilla County Special Library District, which plans to hook into the internet courtesy of a $13,800 federal grant. Connecting to the well known worldwide computer web won’t happen overnight. The library dis- trict’s coordinator, Ken Reading, said it may be as late as September before local library users can log on to the infor- mation-rich computer system. Once the district hooks into the internet, library users throughout Umatilla and Morrow counties will be able to track down research, magazines and periodicals from around the country. “We’ll be making our system available to everyone in Eastern Oregon and this globe as we know it,” Read said. THIS DAY IN HISTORY On Jan. 4, 1964, Pope Paul VI began a visit to the Holy Land, the first papal pilgrimage of its kind. In 1809, Louis Braille, inventor of the Braille raised-dot reading system for the blind, was born in Coupvray, France. In 1861, Alabama seized a federal arsenal at Mount Vernon near Mobile. In 1904, the U.S. Supreme Court, in Gonza- lez v. Williams, ruled that Puerto Ricans were not aliens and could enter the United States freely; how- ever, the court stopped short of declaring them citizens. (Puerto Ricans received U.S. citizenship in March 1917.) In 1987, 16 people were killed when an Amtrak train bound from Washing- ton, D.C., to Boston collided with Conrail locomotives that had crossed into its path from a side track in Chase, Maryland. In 1999, Europe’s new currency, the euro, got off to a strong start on its first trading day, rising against the dollar on world cur- rency markets. Former pro- fessional wrestler Jesse Ven- tura took the oath of office as Minnesota’s governor. In 2002, Sgt. 1st Class Nathan Ross Chapman, a U.S. Army Special Forces soldier, was killed by small- arms fire during an ambush in eastern Afghanistan; he was the first American mil- itary death from enemy fire in the war against terrorism. Thought for Today: “The last temptation is the greatest treason: to do the right deed for the wrong reason.” — T.S. Eliot, Amer- ican-born English poet (born in 1888, died this date in 1965). 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