B6 East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Tuesday, July 2, 2019 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Unexpected parenthood keeps mismatched couple together FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE Dear Abby: Four years ago, I Have people grown so self-cen- tered and uncaring about other peo- became friends with a co-worker ple’s feelings that they think posts and things took off too fast. Within like this are appropriate without a couple of months, I became preg- nant. We were thrown together asking the immediate family’s feel- ings on the matter? It seems to me without really even knowing each it’s a self-serving grab for attention other because, deep down, we and sympathy without any respect wanted a family and decided to for the immediate family of the stick it out. J eanne deceased. I really cannot find a way Well, it’s been a hell of a ride. I P hilliPs to forgive her actions. — Hurt and ended up having to leave because ADVICE Angry in the East neither one of us was happy, and it Dear Hurt: Please accept my wasn’t the greatest environment to sympathy for the loss of your raise our daughter in. I came back a mother. What happened is one of the regret- few months later, and we have been trying table aspects of living in the 21st century. our best to get along and be great parents for Your cousin may be part of the generation her. But our past issues with each other con- stantly raise their ugly heads and cause prob- that thinks every detail of their lives must be put online for consumption by an audi- lems that make us want to split up. ence waiting with bated breath. If my guess I have suggested individual and couples is accurate, then I agree doing it without counseling, but he isn’t into it, and it’s always first running it by the immediate family was a blame game between us. I’m beyond tired insensitive and thoughtless. of it. My head says go, but my heart says stay. Not knowing your cousin, I don’t know Any advice would be greatly appreciated. — whether it was a “self-serving grab for atten- Weighing the Pros and Cons tion.” However, what’s done is done. It’s over. Dear Weighing: Your child’s father may I hope you won’t allow this to ruin your rela- prefer to play the blame game because he’s tionship with this relative or your memories unwilling to own up to his part in the prob- lem. Dragging an unwilling partner to coun- of your dear mother. seling would be unproductive. However, Dear Abby: I’ve always wondered when it’s appropriate for a couple to start giving that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go without gifts as a couple vs. individually. I’ve seen him. If you do, you will have a clearer under- standing about whether and why you should couples who start early on in their relation- ship and others who have been together for continue living together. Keep in mind that what feels like forever who still individually a household where there is conflict is not a give gifts. — Wondering in Texas healthy environment for a child. Dear Wondering: There are no hard and Dear Abby: My mother passed away a fast rules about something like this. It may short time ago, and my cousin immediately depend on all the circumstances involved, posted about the funeral on social media and also may have something to do with how without even mentioning me in her post, or independent from each other the couple is. asking me how I felt about such a posting. DAYS GONE BY 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian July 2, 1919 Pendleton employers who take back into their service the boys and men who were in their employ at the time of enlistment in the army or navy will be presented with engraved certificates issued by the war and navy depart- ments, according to announcement made by Colonel Arthur Woods, assistant to the sec- retary of war. These honor certificates are to be given to any employer in the United States who notifies Colonel Woods that he has com- plied with the requirements by re-employing returned solders and sailors where were in his service previous to the date of their enlistment in the army and navy. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian July 2, 1969 Eastern Oregon will get another lake, Kelly Prairie. The Oregon Board of For- est Conservation opened the way Tuesday by approving purchase of the site by the U.S. Forest Service, the Associated Press reported from Salem today. The lake site now is mostly grassland. It is a 648-acre site in Kelly Prairie on a tributary of Potamus Creek in Morrow County. The creek runs into the North Fork of the John Day River. The Oregon Game Commission will partici- pate in the project, building a dam across the creek and creating a 516-acre lake that will be stocked with fish. The forest service will build a campground. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian July 2, 1994 Fire investigators have traced the cause of an early-morning fire Thursday to an electri- cal short in a freezer on the porch of a house on Punkin Center Road in Hermiston. Three men burned in the fire remained in critical condition this morning at Emanuel Hospital in Portland. But fire officials said it’s lucky there weren’t a lot more injuries considering 27 people were living in the house. One of the home’s residents spotted the fire as he came home from work at about 1:30 a.m. Thursday and he woke the people sleeping inside. Most were able to escape without injury. The lone injuries from the fire were the severe burns suffered by Antonio Orta, 23, Jose Macias, 30, and Juan Orta, 22. TODAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN On July 2, 1964, Pres- ident Lyndon B. Johnson signed into law a sweeping civil rights bill passed by Congress. In 1776, the Continen- tal Congress passed a res- olution saying that “these United Colonies are, and of right ought to be, free and independent States.” In 1881, President James A. Garfield was shot by Charles J. Guiteau at the Washington railroad sta- tion; Garfield died the fol- lowing September. (Guiteau was hanged in June 1882.) In 1892, the Populist Party (also known as the People’s Party) opened its first national convention in Omaha, Nebraska. In 1917, rioting erupted in East St. Louis, Illinois, as white mobs attacked black residents; nearly 50 people, mostly blacks, are believed to have died in the violence. In 1937, aviator Ame- lia Earhart and navigator Fred Noonan disappeared over the Pacific Ocean while attempting to make the first round-the-world flight along the equator. In 1961, author Ernest Hemingway shot him- self to death at his home in Ketchum, Idaho. In 1976, the U.S. Supreme Court, in Gregg v. Georgia, ruled 7-2 the death penalty was not inherently cruel or unusual. In 1982, Larry Walters of San Pedro, California, used a lawn chair equipped with 45 helium-filled weather bal- loons to rise to an altitude of 16,000 feet; he landed eight miles away in Long Beach. In 1987, 18 Mexican immigrants were found dead inside a locked boxcar near Sierra Blanca, Texas, in what authorities called a botched smuggling attempt; a 19th man survived. Academy In 1997, Award-winning actor James Stewart died in Beverly Hills, California, at age 89. Today’s Birthdays: Jazz musician Ahmad Jamal is 89. Writer-director-come- dian Larry David is 72. Actor Jimmy McNichol is 58. Actor Owain Yeoman is 41. Figure skater Johnny Weir is 35. Actor Nelson Franklin is 34. Actress- singer Ashley Tisdale is 34. Actress Lindsay Lohan is 33. Actress Margot Robbie is 29. Thought for Today: “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” — Ernest Hem- ingway (1899-1961). PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE