East Oregonian : E.O. (Pendleton, OR) 1888-current, June 27, 2019, Page A12, Image 12

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    A12
East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Thursday, June 27, 2019
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ
Daughter betrayed by mother
struggles with reconnection
FOR BETTER OR WORSE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
B.C.
BY JOHNNY HART
PICKLES
BY BRIAN CRANE
Dear Abby: I have an extensive
she married was the right thing
to do. (“Handle it within the fam-
history of childhood trauma. I was
ily”?!) I can only wonder how
sexually abused by my stepfather
many other young family members
for 15 years. When I turned him in,
your stepfather may have abused in
my family turned their backs on
addition to you.
me. I was told it could have been
Dear Abby: My three sons
handled within the family, and
are all engaged and plan on being
they blamed me for acting “sexy.”
married over the next three years.
My stepfather spent 10 years in
J eanne
Their mother and I are separated
prison and died a few years later.
P hilliPs
and will be splitting the cost of the
I suffer from chronic mental
ADVICE
rehearsal dinner.
health issues including PTSD, anx-
I told the first one to be engaged
iety and suicide ideation, which
that while I will pay for the
have landed me in the hospital
rehearsal dinner, I will not pay for a bar-
10 times in the last two years. My mother
tender or alcoholic drinks. I have been in
wants to have a relationship with me, but
emergency services for more than 35 years
she refuses to apologize or acknowledge
and have seen firsthand the effects of alco-
the abuse even happened.
hol too many times. I no longer drink
In some ways, the betrayal by my mother
socially because of it. Although I explained
has hurt me more than the abuse. I feel
this to my sons as they grew up, they have
guilty for not trying to work on a relation-
ship with her, but on the other hand, I don’t
chosen to drink socially as adults. It is their
choice, and I accept it.
feel my heart can handle any more rejection
The fiancee of my second son to be mar-
from her. We live states apart. What should
ried has sent us a price quote from a venue
I do? — Survivor in Wisconsin
that includes costs for a bartender. (The
Dear Survivor: If you haven’t talked
total is more than twice that of the first
about this with a licensed psychotherapist,
son’s.) I plan to discuss this with him, but
please do it before making a decision about
I’d like your opinion: Am I wrong to make
something this important. I’m not a thera-
pist, but I think it would be healthier for you
this stipulation, given the fact that this is
“their” event? — Teetotaler in the South
to keep your distance from someone who
Dear Teetotaler: You are not wrong.
prefers living in denial rather than facing
You made that stipulation to Son No. 1, and
reality.
in fairness, you should do the same with
At the very least, you are owed an apol-
ogy for the way you were treated by “the
Son No. 2. While it will be his and his fian-
cee’s event, and you are generously paying
family.” You did nothing wrong. The per-
son who should feel guilty is your mother.
for the dinner, you are under no obligation
to pay for their booze.
Blowing the whistle on the child molester
DAYS GONE BY
BEETLE BAILEY
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY MORT WALKER
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
June 27, 1919
A strip of land lying between the railroad
spur to Walters’ Mill and the highway west
of town has been suggested as a possible site
for the proposed Union Oil Co. plant as a
result of the solid remonstrance by the Sis-
ters of St. Francis and the doctors of Pendle-
ton against the location of the plant opposite
St. Joseph’s Academy. According to reliable
information, C.C. Ireland, representative of
the company, did not consider the site on the
north side below the golf links. The site in
question is about a quarter of a mile west of
the mill and a slightly greater distance from
the state hospital. There are no buildings
within several hundred yards of the site and
it would have excellent transportation facili-
ties, both for rail and highway shipping, it is
pointed out.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
June 27, 1969
As a delegation prepared to attend hear-
ings in Washington, D.C., on a bill to dis-
tribute $2.5 million awarded to members of
the Umatilla Indian Tribe, a tribal member
voiced dissent to the full distribution plan.
Antone C. Minthorn said he sought a way in
which to let the committee conducting the
hearings know that there are those on the
reservation who favor about $500 per capita
payment, with the balance to be deposited to
a tribal development fund. The funds were
appropriated by Congress over two years ago
in payment for Indian lands acquired without
payment subsequent to the Treaty of 1855.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
June 27, 1994
Michael Koester received the Dr. V.A.
Salvadorini Excellence in Pathology Award
during the recent University of Nevada
School of Medicine awards ceremony in
Reno, Nev. The award goes to the sopho-
more medical student who best exempli-
fies traits of the late Salvadorini — lead-
ership, scholarship and attitude. Koester,
son of Robert and Elaine Koester of Stan-
field, graduated in 1987 from Stanfield High
School. Koester plans to return to the Pacific
Northwest and practice rural family medi-
cine after completing his studies.
TODAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On June 27, 1991,
Supreme Court Justice
Thurgood Marshall, the
first black jurist to sit on
the nation’s highest court,
announced his retirement.
(His departure led to the
contentious nomination of
Clarence Thomas to suc-
ceed him.)
In 1844, Mormon
leader Joseph Smith and
his brother, Hyrum, were
killed by a mob in Car-
thage, Illinois.
In 1846, New York and
Boston were linked by
telegraph wires.
In 1880, author-lec-
turer Helen Keller, who
lived most of her life
without sight or hearing,
was born in Tuscumbia,
Alabama.
In 1905, the Industrial
Workers of the World was
founded in Chicago.
In 1944, during World
War II, American forces
liberated the French port
of Cherbourg from the
Germans.
In 1974, President Rich-
ard Nixon opened an official
visit to the Soviet Union.
In 1984, the Supreme
Court ended the National
Collegiate Athletic Asso-
ciation’s monopoly on con-
trolling college football
telecasts, ruling such con-
trol violated antitrust law.
In 1988, at least 56 peo-
ple were killed when a com-
muter train ran into a sta-
tionary train at the Gare de
Lyon terminal in Paris.
In
1990,
NASA
announced that a flaw in the
orbiting Hubble Space Tele-
scope was preventing the
instrument from achieving
optimum focus. (The prob-
lem was traced to a mirror
that had not been ground
to exact specifications; cor-
rective optics were later
installed to fix the problem.)
In 2008, North Korea
destroyed the most visi-
ble symbol of its nuclear
weapons program, the
cooling tower at its main
atomic reactor at Yongbyon.
(However, North Korea
announced in September
2008 that it was restoring
its nuclear facilities.)
Today’s Birthdays: Sing-
er-musician Bruce Johnston
(The Beach Boys) is 77. Fash-
ion designer Vera Wang is 70.
Actor Brian Drillinger is 59.
Writer-producer-director J.J.
Abrams is 53. TV personal-
ity Jo Frost is 49. Actor Tobey
Maguire is 44. Gospel singer
Leigh Nash is 43. Actress
India de Beaufort is 32. Actor
Matthew Lewis is 30. Actress
Madylin Sweeten is 28. R&B
singer H.E.R. is 22.
Thought for Today:
“The main dangers in this
life are the people who want
to change everything —
or nothing.” — Viscount-
ess Nancy Astor, Ameri-
can-born British politician
(1879-1964).
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE