A12
East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Thursday, March 21, 2019
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ
Friend sees too much risk
in monitoring home remodel
FOR BETTER OR WORSE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
B.C.
BY JOHNNY HART
PICKLES
BY BRIAN CRANE
BEETLE BAILEY
BY MORT WALKER
Dear Abby: For several years,
friends accept a refusal with good
grace.
my husband and I were good
Dear Abby: Is it possible to
friends with “Pam” and “David.”
“choose” to forgive someone?
About a year ago, we moved to a
My 20-year-old nephew recently
new house just a few blocks from
turned his life around. He has a
theirs. They decided they liked
good job, a nice girlfriend and a
some of the features of our new
baby on the way. But when he and
home and immediately started
J eanne
my sister were living with my late
remodeling theirs to resemble ours.
P hilliPs
mother a few years ago, he trashed
Pam and David both work and
ADVICE
Mom’s basement (where he was
I am retired, so Dave asked if I
living), and it cost her hundreds of
would go to their home throughout
dollars to repair the damage. He
the day, while several workmen did
also stole money from her and once threat-
this extensive remodel. I refused, saying I
ened my life. He smoked and drank as a
wasn’t comfortable alone in someone else’s
teen, quit school, and did nothing more
house with a bunch of strangers milling
than play video games.
about, not to mention the responsibility if
I’m glad he has changed his ways, but he
something was broken or stolen. (The com-
pany wasn’t bonded. They are just random
has never apologized for the way he treated
guys doing side jobs.)
us. It seems I’m expected by everyone to
Long story short, David was extremely
forgive and forget, but I can’t. Please don’t
suggest counseling. He wouldn’t go.
offended that I declined and no lon-
I don’t want to be estranged from his
ger speaks to us. He has shunned other
girlfriend and my great-nephew, but I have
friends for lesser things since then. I’m still
no interest in engaging with him unless he
friendly with Pam, but I can’t help feeling
makes amends for his past behavior. My
that deep down she resents me, too, and
sister always seemed oblivious to his bad
thinks I should have done it because we are
behavior. In her eyes, her son can do no
good friends.
wrong. Is there any way to reconcile his
Was I wrong to refuse, Abby? Should
particular past with the present? — Still
I have done it to keep the friendship, even
Angry in Minnesota
though I wasn’t comfortable? — Resentful
Dear Still Angry: Yes, it is possible to
in the Midwest
choose to forgive. But it doesn’t appear that
Dear Resentful: I not only don’t think
your nephew has completely turned his life
you were wrong, I think you made a wise
around. Part of growing up is becoming a
decision, and for the right reason. If any-
thing had gone wrong with the remodel or
responsible individual. Making amends for
one of the laborers was less than honest, the
past misdeeds is a part of that process your
nephew seems to have skipped.
blame would have fallen squarely on you.
If you would like to have a relationship
Add to that the fact that Dave drops people
with his girlfriend and their child, nothing
he feels let him down for any reason, and
prevents it. But it doesn’t mean you must
you have a recipe for disaster.
have amnesia about the way you and your
If Pam resents you for protecting your-
self, she may not be as good a friend as
mother were treated by your nephew. Talk
you assume she is. True friends should be
to him about this so you can get the closure
you are seeking.
able to say no when it’s warranted, and true
DAYS GONE BY
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
March 21, 1919
A new addition to the town of Pilot Rock
is to be platted and put on the market by
John W. Etter, a prominent resident of that
place. The land lies northeast of Pilot Rock
on the Pendleton road.
The effort will be made to locate the
new high school planned for Pilot Rock on
the new addition. Saturday, the people of
Pilot Rock vote on the proposition of issu-
ing $35,000 school bonds for building a new
union high school building.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
March 21, 1969
Nolan R. Ferguson, social science
teacher at McEwen High School, was pre-
sented a certificate at a student body meet-
ing by Commander Roy Moore, Post 130
American Legion, in recognition and honor
as an outstanding educator in promoting
Americanism to the local school.
The award given Ferguson is the first
given in this area following adoption of a
resolution by the 1968 American Legion
Convention Department of Oregon which
decreed that Legion posts recognize and
honor outstanding educators promoting
Americanism in schools.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
March 21, 1994
Sixteen-year-old Tiffany Lloyd of Board-
man took home the $500 grand prize from
the Kiwanis Kapers talent show. She tri-
umphed over 21 other acts Saturday in
Pendleton’s Vert Auditorium. Lloyd put on
her best Cockney accent for “Wouldn’t It
Be Loverly” from her favorite musical, “My
Fair Lady.” She also danced a few steps.
TODAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On March 21, 2006, the social media
website Twitter was established with the
sending of the first “tweet” by co-founder
Jack Dorsey, who wrote: “just setting up my
twttr.”
In 1556, Thomas Cranmer, the former
Archbishop of Canterbury, was burned at
the stake for heresy.
In 1685, composer Johann Sebastian
Bach was born in Eisenach, Germany.
In 1788, fire broke out in New Orle-
ans on Good Friday, destroying 856 out of
more than 1,100 structures; one death was
reported.
In 1925, Tennessee Gov. Austin Peay
signed the Butler Act, which prohibited the
teaching of the Theory of Evolution in pub-
lic schools. (Tennessee repealed the law in
1967.)
In 1935, Persia officially changed its
name to Iran.
In 1945, during World War II, Allied
bombers began four days of raids over
Germany.
In 1963, the Alcatraz federal prison
island in San Francisco Bay was emptied
of its last inmates and closed at the order of
Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy.
In 1981, Michael Donald, a black teen-
ager in Mobile, Alabama, was abducted,
tortured and killed by members of the Ku
Klux Klan.
In 2007, former Vice President Al Gore
made an emotional return to Congress as he
pleaded with House and Senate committees
to fight global warming; skeptical Republi-
cans questioned the science behind his cli-
mate-change documentary, “An Inconve-
nient Truth.”
Today’s Birthdays: Actress Kathleen
Widdoes is 80. Singer-musician Rose Stone
(Sly and the Family Stone) is 74. Actor Tim-
othy Dalton is 73. Comedy writer-performer
Brad Hall is 61. Actress Sabrina LeBeauf is
61. Actor Gary Oldman is 61. Actress Kassie
Depaiva is 58. Actor Matthew Broderick is
57. Comedian-actress Rosie O’Donnell is
57. Rapper-TV personality Kevin Federline
is 41. Actress Sonequa Martin-Green (TV:
“The Walking Dead”) is 34. Actress Jasmin
Savoy Brown is 25.
Thought for Today: “Never lose your
temper with the press or the public is
a major rule of political life.” — Dame
Christabel Pankhurst, English suffragist
(1880-1958).
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE