COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, February 16, 2019
East Oregonian
DEAR ABBY
C5
PUZZLES
Young divorcee is reluctant to talk about her marriage
Dear Abby: When I was
my ancestors so I can tell sto-
ries about them to my kids.
18, I married someone who, at
The thing is, my boyfriend
the time, I loved very much.
doesn’t like the idea, and any-
It happened sort of spur of the
time I say or do something, he
moment. Not even six months
criticizes me about it. He’s also
into the marriage, he cheated
very controlling and manipula-
on me.
tive. He feels it’s his way or the
I am now 20, divorced and
finally feel ready to move on.
highway. That’s why I want out
J eanne
But how do I go about dat-
— for the sake of my life and
P hilliPs
ing at my age being a divor-
the kids. I have no money and
ADVICE
cee? I don’t know how to talk
nowhere to go. What should
about it. I have friends who
I do? — Crying in Western
don’t even know I was married.
Washington
How should I handle it? — Divorcee in
Dear Crying: I agree the situa-
tion you describe isn’t healthy for you
Illinois
Dear Divorcee: Unless you are plan-
or the children. If you have no family
ning to meet men on a dating site that
to help, you will have to work toward
requires you to disclose that information
independence in small steps. Contact
as part of your profile, I see no reason
the National Domestic Violence Hotline
why you have to mention it. If you are
(thehotline.org or 800-799-7233) for
asked, however, be honest about your
suggestions on how to disengage from
status. All you need to say is that you
your abuser (oops! I meant “boyfriend”)
married, very briefly, at the age of 18,
without any of you being harmed. Then
and it didn’t work out because you were
find a job so you won’t be penniless, and
both too young. It’s the truth, and there
start saving your money.
is no shame in it.
Dear Abby: I feel petty complain-
ing about this, but my wife has a habit
Dear Abby: I am a 39-year-old
female, and I want to know more about
I can’t stand. We keep a stick of butter
on a butter dish and replace it when it’s
used up. However, when my wife uses
it, instead of cutting off thin slices, she
scrapes her knife across the entire top
of the butter cube, gradually whittling it
down. Not only do I find it unsightly, but
I also think it’s unsanitary.
Needless to say, when I’ve mentioned
it to her, she has strongly disagreed. I’m
reluctant to bring it up anymore as it is
settled, in her mind. I have tried using a
different stick of butter, which I keep in
the refrigerator and unwrap every time I
want to use it, but she criticizes me for it,
saying we shouldn’t have two sticks in
use at the same time.
I suppose there’s an upside — I’m
using less butter, which my doctor
approves of. What do you think about
this habit of hers? — Butter Wars in
California
Dear Butter Wars: It seems there
is a power struggle going on between
your wife and you. Because you have
expressed to her more than once that you
find what she’s doing unappetizing, she
should respect your wishes. However, if
she continues, she should look the other
way when you use your own butter stick.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Feb. 16-17, 1919
We know know why the kaiser
quit. Nine hundred ruddy faced, strong
armed, strong limbed men of the 65th
Coast Artillery arrived here this morn-
ing en route home from St. Michael,
the Argonne and way points. One good
look at them shows why the Germans
grew tired and yelled “kamerad.” The
splendid physical appearance of the
men attracted the attention of everyone.
Despite their 70 days in the fighting line
on the western front, the Sixty Fifth is
still ready to go, though the one desire of
the boys now is to see the folks at home
and bite a pumpkin pie or smoother class
of food not carried by the army kitchens.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Feb. 16-17, 1969
Eight hundred cattle took to the hills
today when someone opened eight gates
at the Johns-Smith-Beamer feed lot near
Rieth. Bob Sphar, manager of the feed
lot, reported the gate opening to the sher-
iff’s office and then started a round-up.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Feb. 16-17, 1994
A Stanfield police officer is in seri-
ous condition today at a Portland hos-
pital after he was run over by a bur-
glary suspect trying to escape in a
patrol car Tuesday. Ralph “Butch”
Parrish, 24, suffered several broken
bones and a spinal injury after he was
struck by the car and dragged around
the parking lot at Premier Apartments
about 2 a.m. The suspect, Damon Lee
Petrie, 28, also was taken to Good
Shepherd with a gunshot wound to
the left arm. Stanfield Police Chief
Alan Humphrey shot Petrie to stop the
rampage. Petrie’s wound was superfi-
cial and he was taken to the Umatilla
County Jail in Pendleton.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Feb. 16, 1959, Fidel
Castro became premier of
Cuba a month and a-half
after the overthrow of Ful-
gencio Batista.
In 1804, Lt. Stephen
Decatur led a success-
ful raid into Tripoli Har-
bor to burn the U.S. Navy
frigate Philadelphia, which
had fallen into the hands of
pirates during the First Bar-
bary War.
In 1862, the Civil War
Battle of Fort Donelson in
Tennessee ended as some
12,000 Confederate sol-
diers surrendered; Union
Gen. Ulysses S. Grant’s vic-
tory earned him the moni-
ker “Unconditional Surren-
der Grant.”
In 1868, the Benevolent
and Protective Order of Elks
was organized in New York
City.
In 1945, American
troops landed on the island
of Corregidor in the Philip-
pines during World War II.
In 1961, the United
States launched the Explorer
9 satellite.
Thought for Today:
“There are two kinds of
man: the ones who make
history and the ones who
endure it.” — Camilo Jose
Cela, Nobel Prize-winning
Spanish author (1916-2002)
Universal Crossword
Edited by David Steinberg February 16, 2019
ACROSS
1 Put on
4 Lumberjack’s remnant
9 Los Angeles NFL team
13 Actress Thurman
14 Cooking oil choice
16 Yemen neighbor
17 Evacuation, redundantly
19 Zilch
20 Big shrimp
21 $$$ sources
23 Laser sound
24 Result, redundantly
28 Like 3 but not 4
31 ___ liver oil
32 College bigwig
33 Greek life group
35 Bygone Swedish
automaker
38 Nights before
40 Outlook, redundantly
44 Filly’s mom
45 Poi root
46
47
49
51
52
57
58
59
63
65
68
69
70
High heel, e.g.
Where nickels are made
Easter mo., usually
Carry a balance
Unite, redundantly
Drawback
“___ & Ollie” (2018 film)
“Star Trek” officer
Miami University’s state
Extra, redundantly
Give temporarily
___-loo (gawker)
Martinique, par
exemple
71 Trim, as a lawn
72 One at an awkward age
73 Green or black drink
DOWN
1 Landfill
2 Actor Epps
3 Probing org.?
4 Naturally beautiful
5 Luxury ___ (Monopoly
space)
6 Game with Reverse
cards
7 Jazz or verb type
8 Demoted planet
9 Director Howard
10 Alexa’s device
11 Polite address
12 Potions professor
Severus
15 Clear ___ (unclear)
18 Personal ad abbr.
22 Really expensive
25 Sensitive bloodhound
part
26 Get used (to)
27 Stalactite locales
28 Not quite right
29 Bongo, for one
30 Pattern-finding
process
34 Famous shroud site
“ONCE IS ENOUGH” By Trent H. Evans
sudoku answers
36 Notre Dame’s
Parseghian
37 Fictional Kazakh
journalist
39 Pack away
41 Leases
42 Tenth grader, briefly
43 “Told ya”
48 Completely wreck
50 Corned beef sandwich
52 “Kevin’s Heart” rapper
53 Gasped with
amazement
54 Wonder Woman
portrayer
55 Fund
56 Greek P
60 Group of troops
61 “No running,” e.g.
62 On the Caribbean, say
64 “___ to Joy”
66 Barely make it (by)
67 Craps roller