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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Tuesday, August 21, 2018
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ
Planned baby name renews
pain of tragic loss for family
FOR BETTER OR WORSE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
B.C.
BY JOHNNY HART
PICKLES
BY BRIAN CRANE
BEETLE BAILEY
BY MORT WALKER
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE
Dear Abby: I come from a small,
Dear Abby: My husband and
close family. Last year, we suffered
I have been married for 22 years.
a devastating loss. My cousin and
He’s a diamond in the rough. My
her two children were killed in a
grown children, three boys, have
car accident. We have all been pro-
always just tolerated him. They say
foundly affected by this loss, espe-
he talks too much, doesn’t listen and
cially my aunt and uncle.
still treats the younger two like chil-
dren. I know he can be overbearing
Fast forward: Another cousin is
Jeanne
at times.
pregnant with her second child. She
They have now ganged up and
wants to name her daughter “Daisy” Phillips
Advice
will no longer allow the grandchil-
because she wants all her children to
dren to come stay with me. They say
have flower-themed names. “Daisy”
is the name of one of the children who died. my husband is too harsh in correcting them,
I, and others in the family, are upset by her which isn’t true. The only time he is loud
decision because her reason for choosing the and fast to correct is if the parents aren’t
name has nothing to do with honoring our here to do it. They have offered no alterna-
tive solution.
lost family member.
Two have expressed to my husband how
I understand no one “owns” a baby name,
and she can choose whatever name she they feel. My husband is trying to acknowl-
wants for any reason. But I am having trou- edge their feelings and wants to do better.
ble getting past the fact that I’ll see this child How do we proceed as a family? I’m afraid
at family gatherings and have to call her by they will withhold the grands each time they
my dead cousin’s name for no reason other disagree with us. Counseling is out since we
live in separate cities. Any words of wis-
than it was a cute flower name.
My cousin is set on using this name dom for us? — Hurting Heart In South
despite family protests, and I can’t help but Carolina
Dear Hurting Heart: Look at this from
foresee bitterness ahead for us when we’ve
already dealt with so much. What, if any- your sons’ perspective. When they hear
thing, can we do to make this situation more from your grandchildren that your grouchy
positive? — Name Game In New York
(but well-meaning) husband yelled at them,
Dear Name Game: Your cousin appears as parents, their first instinct is to protect
to have the empathy of a garden snail. Did it their kids.
I can’t guarantee that your sons won’t use
occur to anyone in the family to suggest to
her that there are other flower names besides emotional blackmail in the future, but I can
Daisy — Dalia, Daphne or even Des- offer two suggestions: Your husband should
ert Rose? (Her nickname could be “Desi,” take a deep breath and count to 10 before he
which is cute.) If you haven’t, please do reacts, and he should defer the discipline to
before the baby arrives. However, if she Grandma. And if that isn’t enough to satisfy
refuses to change her mind, it’s time for you your sons, then you will have to visit them
instead of having them visit you.
to start memorizing the Serenity Prayer.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Aug. 20-21, 1918
Clear weather last evening and large
crowds made the second night of the Ber-
nardi carnival quite a success. Special inter-
est was shown in the wrestling matches
between Ray McCarroll, the local man, and
Sampson, who is with the carnival company
and issued a defi to all comers. In his first
match Sampson threw his man easily, a fel-
low named Saylor. With McCarroll he found
a much different proposition. In this Samp-
son contracted to throw the local man in 10
minutes. At the end of the 10 minutes he had
not made a start toward filling his contract.
The result was that McCarroll then agreed to
throw Sampson in 15 minutes and this was a
real live match, with McCarroll the aggres-
sor all the time and Sampson compelled to
extend himself to the limit to save himself
from a fall.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Aug. 20-21, 1968
Power of the insect world is being demon-
strated in Milton-Freewater where the apple
crop next month will be down 80 to 85 per
cent from 1967 largely because the bees
went on strike last spring. County Exten-
sion Agent Dave Burkhart said the apples,
mostly Red or Golden Delicious varieties,
that brought the valley $1,039,500 last year
were hurt also by frosts in April this year,
but poor pollination was the main factor in
the poor crop. Cold, rainy weather made
the bees lazy in some areas where frost had
done little damage so that a grower’s good
or damaged crop depends on location of his
orchard.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Aug. 20-21, 1993
Randy Walker of Pendleton and his
14-year-old son, Steven, now share a rare
experience. Steven was among attendees at
the recent Boy Scouts of America National
Jamboree, Aug. 3-10 at Fort A.P. Hill, Va.
Randy went to the same gathering in 1964 —
then at Valley Forge, Pa. He was a 16-year-
old from Corvallis. Both took their first-ever
airplane flight to the giant campout. Both
went sightseeing in New York City, Phila-
delphia and Washington, D.C. Both traded
patches with other scouts. Twenty-two coun-
tries were represented at Randy’s jamboree.
Steven’s jamboree troop included two scouts
from Italy.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
On August 21, 1831, Nat
Turner launched a violent
slave rebellion in Virginia
resulting in the deaths of at
least 55 whites. (Turner was
later executed.)
On this date:
In 1858, the first of seven
debates between Illinois
senatorial contenders Abra-
ham Lincoln and Stephen
Douglas took place.
In
1911,
Leonardo
da Vinci’s “Mona Lisa”
was stolen from the Lou-
vre Museum in Paris. (The
painting was recovered two
years later in Italy.)
In
1959,
President
Dwight D. Eisenhower
signed an executive order
making Hawaii the 50th
state.
In 1987, Sgt. Clayton
Lonetree, the first Marine
court-martialed for spying,
was convicted in Quantico,
Virginia, of passing secrets
to the KGB. (Lonetree
ended up serving eight years
in a military prison.)
In 1991, the hard-line
coup against Soviet Presi-
dent Mikhail S. Gorbachev
collapsed in the face of a
popular uprising led by Rus-
sian Federation President
Boris N. Yeltsin.
In 1992, an 11-day siege
began at the cabin of white
separatist Randy Weaver
in Ruby Ridge, Idaho, as
government agents tried to
arrest Weaver for failing to
appear in court on charges
of selling two illegal sawed-
off shotguns; on the first day
of the siege, Weaver’s teen-
age son, Samuel, and Dep-
uty U.S. Marshal William
Degan were killed.
Today’s
Birthdays:
Singer Kenny Rogers is 80.
Actor Clarence Williams III
is 79. Actress Patty McCor-
mack is 73. NBC newsman
Harry Smith is 67. Singer
Glenn Hughes is 66. Actress
Kim Cattrall is 62. College
Football Hall of Famer and
former NFL quarterback Jim
McMahon is 59. . Singer
Kelis is 39. Actor Diego
Klattenhoff is 39. Olympic
gold medal sprinter Usain
Bolt is 32. Actor-comedian
Brooks Wheelan is 32. Actor
Cody Kasch is 31. Country
singer Kacey Musgraves is
30. Actor Maxim Knight is
19.
Thought for Today:
“Paradoxical as it may seem,
to believe in youth is to look
backward; to look forward
we must believe in age.” —
Dorothy L. Sayers, English
author (1893-1957).
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE