Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Friday, January 6, 2017 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Toddler’s taste in clothes stirs up family tensions FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER Dear Abby: My brother and and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) sister-in-law have been dressing my have told me that many parents say 2-year-old nephew, “Charlie,” in that, looking back, they realize that dresses and pink clothes. They say by disapproving, they had sent their these are what the boy has chosen. To child the message that they couldn’t me, a toddler will pick out whatever accept him/her. One child had suicidal gets his attention at the moment, and thoughts at the age of 5 because of children that age have only a rudimen- it. (And yes, sometimes children that tary understanding of gender. young do act on the impulse.) Jeanne It would be one thing if Charlie Phillips Dear Abby: I often read and enjoy were old enough to understand and still the Pennies From Heaven stories that Advice insisted he felt more comfortable in your readers send and decided to share girls’ clothing. But at his age I feel what mine. Although it doesn’t involve a they’re doing will only confuse him. Keep in penny, it’s very special to me. mind, I do not believe this is a transgender My grandmother and I had a special bond, issue. I think people who are transgender and part of it was sand dollars. She taught me should dress and act the way they feel. I just their meaning and would mail me postcards with pictures of dollars on them. When she feel that age 2 is too young to determine this. My parents (the boy’s grandparents) are passed away, I inherited the gold sand dollar worried and angry. My sister-in-law knows necklace she had often worn. this upsets my mother and yet it’s like she’s I moved into a new home several years taunting her with texts and pictures of Charlie ago, and during the home inspection, I found a in pink and/or dresses. sand dollar in the pantry! Everything had been Should we be worried about this or should it emptied out of the house except for that lone be none of our business? Are we overreacting? sand dollar propped upright on a shelf. When Would it be best to approach my brother to tell I saw it, I knew immediately who it was from, him our concerns? — Too Young To Under- and I felt so blessed. It’s comforting to know stand we are being watched over by our loved ones. Dear Too Young: It is likely that Charlie — Sand Dollar Blessing is going through a phase and doing some- Dear Blessing: Your letter made me thing he has seen other people do. But more smile. I wish you had mentioned what your important than what his mother buys for him late grandmother explained to you about the is how others respond to it. A family’s negative meaning of sand dollars, because from what reaction sends a strong message. If Charlie is I have read, some people associate them with innocently testing out his/her authentic self, Christian beliefs, while others insist they are his grandparents’ negative response will signal “coins” scattered by mermaids. Whichever that they disapprove of who he IS, which could meaning your grandmother ascribed to them, have lasting ramifications for him. it’s clear from what you have written that she Counselors at PFLAG (Parents, Families was dearly loved. Thank you for sharing. DAYS GONE BY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 6, 1917 A Pendleton woman, Mrs. Maurice Leeder, figured in an episode in San Francisco on New Year’s morning which resulted in the violent death of J.R. Buckley, a traveling salesman. Mrs. Leeder is the wife of the traveling representative of Folger & Co. in this territory and they have been living in the G.W. Coutts home on the north side. Last month she and her husband left for San Francisco to attend a meeting of Folger’s salesmen. They were members of a party occupying a table at Lamb’s cafe in San Francisco on New Year’s evening. While dancing with Mrs. Leeder, Buckley accidentally bumped into Harry McGuire, who has a reputation of being a professional slugger. After the dance McGuire walked across the room to Buckley’s table and struck him in the face. The management ejected him. He waited outside and when the party came out assaulted Buckley again. The latter was knocked down and suffered a basal fracture of the skull from which he later died. McGuire is being held for murder. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 6, 1967 What would it be like to live in a commu- nity fallout shelter for two weeks? Over 300 Pendleton eighth grade students found out by visiting an actual shelter Thursday. It is part of a science program designed to prepare the students for all kinds of natural disasters, said Bob Peshall, junior high science instructor. Peshall and Lyle Phelps are the teachers in charge of the program. The class was conducted in the basement of the National Guard Armory, where a shelter capable of handling 230 people is located. Tom Campbell, Umatilla County Civil Defense director, stood 24 students in a 240 square foot area and told them, “This would be your living space for two weeks.” He also let the students sample the typical fallout shelter food. For each meal a person would receive eight small crackers, high in protein, and four carbohydrate supplement candy drops for a meal of 333 calories, along with a quart of water a day. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 6, 1992 A 48-year-old Kennewick woman was injured Sunday in the season’s fourth snow- mobile accident near Spout Springs. Andrea Bishop was taken by Athena Ambulance to St. Mary Medical Center in Walla Walla, where she was treated for a chest bruise before being discharged. Ross Snodgrass, director of the ambulance service, said Bishop was a passenger on the back of a snow machine that flew over a small embankment and hit a snow- bank. She was thrown off and landed with her fist between the ground and her chest. She complained of pain in her sternum. Snodgrass said the Athena Ambulance has responded to three other snowmobile accidents since Dec. 23, an unusually high number. THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the sixth day of 2017. There are 359 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On Jan. 6, 1967, U.S. Marines and South Viet- namese troops launched Operation Deckhouse Five, an offensive in the Mekong River delta. The 10-day operation reportedly claimed the lives of 21 Viet Cong fighters along with seven Americans. On this date: In 1017, Cnut the Great was crowned King of England at Old St. Paul’s Cathedral in London, just over a month following the death of his predecessor, Edmund II. In 1540, England’s King Henry VIII married his fourth wife, Anne of Cleves. (The marriage lasted about six months.) In 1759, George Washington and Martha Dandridge Custis were married in New Kent County, Virginia. In 1838, Samuel Morse and Alfred Vail gave the first successful public demon- stration of their telegraph in Morristown, New Jersey. In 1912, New Mexico became the 47th state. In 1974, year-round daylight saving time began in the United States on a trial basis as a fuel-saving measure in response to the OPEC oil embargo. In 1994, figure skater Nancy Kerrigan was clubbed on the leg by an assailant at Detroit’s Cobo Arena. Today’s Birthdays: Country musician Joey, the CowPolka King (Riders in the Sky) is 68. Former FBI director Louis Freeh is 67. Rock singer-musician Kim Wilson (The Fabulous Thunderbirds) is 66. Singer Jett Williams is 64. Rock musician Malcolm Young (AC-DC) is 64. Actor-co- median Rowan Atkinson is 62. World Golf Hall of Famer Nancy Lopez is 60. Actress-comedian Kate McKinnon (TV: “Saturday Night Live”) is 33. Rock singer Alex Turner (Arctic Monkeys) is 31. Thought for Today: “What this generation was bred to at television’s knees was not wisdom, but cyni- cism.” — Pauline Kael, Amer- ican movie critic (1919-2001). PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE