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Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Thursday, May 12, 2016 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Opening the door in a closed adoption invites hard decisions FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE Dear Abby: We have a child who have a large extended family, and was adopted through a closed adop- our daughter sees her grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins all the time. tion. We met the birth parents briely Should we start a relationship with at the hospital, but they wanted no further contact. Both birth parents her birth grandparents? — Uncertain had issues with drug abuse, and our Down South daughter was born with drug issues, Dear Uncertain: I agree with too. your husband, for all of the reasons A few years later we were you mentioned. Your daughter’s birth Jeanne contacted via the adoption agency by Phillips parents made their wishes clear from the paternal birth grandparents. They the outset. You wouldn’t be in this Advice requested some photos because the bind if you had respected them. birth father was getting out of jail and Because your daughter’s birth they thought the photos would help keep him parents are addicts, it is very important for out of trouble. We sent a nice collection of her to understand that she may have a genetic photos and an update on our child. tendency toward addiction herself. If she The next year, the birth grandparents sent would like to locate her birth family when a letter saying they would like more contact, she is an adult, tell her you will help her then. including visits. They provided us with their But prepare her in advance so she will know names and contact info. The birth father, who what she’s in for. now is back in jail, never contacted us and, as Dear Abby: I’ve never seen this question far as we know, does not want any contact. in your column. A female co-worker of mine The adoption agency says they will pass on wears a wig, and it’s getting pretty scruffy. information between us, but doesn’t have any No one acknowledges her hairpiece, yet we advice on what we should do. all know she wears one. Our daughter is 6 and has expressed If it were me, I would want someone to interest in her birth family. My husband tell me it’s time for a shampoo (or replace- wants no contact with the birth grandparents ment?). When it was new, it was lovely. She’s since neither of the birth parents consented a wonderful person, and we don’t want to to contact and it was a closed adoption. He embarrass her. Should we say something, or is also concerned that our other adopted is it none of our business? Your thoughts? — children may be hurt and jealous since they Working Woman can’t have contact with their birth parents for Dear Working Woman: There is no way various reasons. to diplomatically tell a person wearing a I am worried our daughter will be upset hairpiece that she (or he) is fooling no one or when she grows up that we never established that it’s looking ratty. If you do, it will cause a relationship with her birth family, but I embarrassment, or worse, hurt feelings. So really don’t want to be involved with a family resist the urge unless the woman asks for with such complex drug and legal issues. We your opinion. DAYS GONE BY BEETLE BAILEY GARFIELD BLONDIE DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY MORT WALKER BY JIM DAVIS 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian May 12, 1916 So successful was the dancing party given last evening in the Eagle-Woodman hall for the beneit of Pendleton’s campaign for the election of a Rose Festival queen that the committee of young men and women who sponsored it have decided to give another party next Thursday evening. It will be held in the same hall. Despite the fact that the dance last night had been arranged upon short notice and that it had been sandwiched into a week heavy with social events, the attendance was quite large and the net proceeds will be suficient to purchase several hundred votes. Miss Muriel Saling, the Pendleton candidate, was present and the committee sold her dances by numbers, adding materially to the funds by this means. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian May 12, 1966 A 13-year-old pianist, Margie Selover, THIS DAY IN HISTORY BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN of Pendleton, was given a top rating and selected as the winner of District 10 piano auditions held here recently by the Oregon Music Teachers’ Association. The award carries with it an invitation to perform at the state convention of the association in Port- land, June 27. Margie, a pupil at John Murray Junior High, is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Selover of Pendleton. She is a music student of Mrs. W.G. Gerards. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian May 12, 1991 Gov. Barbara Roberts and other state and local leaders lauded the public-private part- nership that created the Pendleton Conven- tion Center at the building’s grand opening celebration Friday. The celebration oficially marked the completion of a $2.6 million project that transformed the Pendleton armory to the Pendleton Convention Center. More than 500 people illed the decorated building for the dinner, which included jazz music and presentations by several noted speakers. Today is the 133rd day of 2016. There are 233 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On May 12, 1949, the Soviet Union lifted the Berlin Blockade, which the Western powers had succeeded in circumventing with their Berlin Airlift. On this date: In 1780, during the Revo- lutionary War, the besieged city of Charleston, South Carolina, surrendered to British forces. In 1870, an act creating the Canadian province of Manitoba was given royal assent, to take effect in July. In 1922, a 20-ton meteor crashed near Blackstone, Virginia. In 1932, the body of Charles Lindbergh Jr., the kidnapped son of Charles and Anne Lindbergh, was found in a wooded area near Hopewell, New Jersey. In 1937, Britain’s King George VI was crowned at Westminster Abbey; his wife, Elizabeth, was crowned as queen consort. In 1955, Manhattan’s last elevated rail line, the Third Avenue El, ceased operation. In 1965, West Germany and Israel exchanged letters establishing diplomatic relations. The Rolling Stones recorded the inal version of “(I Can’t Get No) Satis- faction” at RCA Studios in Hollywood. In 1975, the White House announced the new Cambo- dian government had seized an American merchant ship, the Mayaguez, in international waters. (U.S. Marines gained control of the ship three days after its seizure, not knowing the 39 civilian members of the crew had already been released by Cambodia.) In 1982, in Fatima, Portugal, security guards overpowered a Spanish priest armed with a bayonet who attacked Pope John Paul II. (In 2008, the pope’s longtime private secretary revealed that the pontiff was slightly wounded in the assault.) In 1986, the military action-drama ilm “Top Gun,” starring Tom Cruise and Kelly McGillis and released by Paramount Pictures, had its world premiere in New York. Today’s Birthdays: Critic John Simon is 91. Composer Burt Bacharach is 88. Actress Millie Perkins is 78. Rhythm-and-blues singer Jayotis Washington is 75. Country singer Billy Swan is 74. Actress Linda Dano is 73. Actress Lindsay Crouse is 68. Singer-musician Steve Winwood is 68. Actor Gabriel Byrne is 66. Actor Bruce Boxleitner is 66. Singer Billy Squier is 66. Blues sing- er-musician Guy Davis is 64. Country singer Kix Brooks is 61. Actress Kim Greist is 58. Rock musician Eric Singer (KISS) is 58. Rock musician Billy Duffy is 55. Actor Emilio Estevez is 54. Actress Vanessa A. Williams is 53. Actor Stephen Baldwin is 50. Actress Rhea Seehorn is 44. Actor Mackenzie Astin is 43. Country musician Matt Mangano (The Zac Brown Band) is 40. Thought for Today: “Mistrust the man who inds everything good; the man who inds everything evil; and still more the man who is indifferent to everything.” — Johann Kaspar Lavater, Swiss theologian (1741-1801). PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE