Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Friday, November 6, 2015 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Family offers little sympathy after online boyfriend’s death FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE years ago. Mom currently lives with Dear Abby: I am a 20-year-old my husband and me. We have a woman. A few months ago, my great relationship with her, and she ER\IULHQG P\ YHU\ ¿UVW ER\IULHQG never speaks ill of my father. She has committed suicide. I feel absolutely moved on, found a new direction in destroyed. life and a new boyfriend we all like The problem is, my family doesn’t very much. regard my feelings of grief seriously Dad moved in with the woman because our relationship was started he cheated on Mom with, but their and maintained online. We lived Jeanne several states apart, and while we Phillips relationship fell apart. He has never stopped speaking ill of Mom. When never met in person, we talked every Advice things aren’t going well for him, he night and video-chatted many, many causes trouble by showing up at times. My feelings for him were real. I broke down when I heard the news, and Mom’s workplace and making a scene. He’ll I still hurt, but my family thinks I’m over- also come over to our house unannounced to reacting. They can’t understand how a rela- talk badly about her. He was a great father until a few years tionship with someone online can be serious. How can I make them recognize how much ago when all this trouble started. I feel torn pain I’m in? The fact they refuse to recognize between trying to continue a relationship this loss hurts me so much more. What do I with him or cutting him out of my life like a bad daughter. What should I do? — Caught do? — All Alone In Louisiana Dear All Alone: Please accept my In The Middle In California Dear Caught: Your father’s behavior sympathy for the loss of someone you cared about so deeply. That your parents would is sick. Depending upon how disruptive minimize your feelings is sad, but it says he is when he shows up at your mother’s more about them and their level of sensitivity workplace, suggest she consider getting than the depth of your relationship with him. a restraining order preventing him from Many serious relationships have started acting out that way. She must have a very online, and marriages as well, and I under- understanding employer to have tolerated stand you are left mourning all the things that it, because that kind of disruption has been known to cost people their jobs. might have been. And when your dad shows up at your At 20, you are no longer a child. You can ¿QG HPRWLRQDO VXSSRUW HOVHZKHUH 7DON WR home unannounced, speak up. Tell him you your clergyperson, if you have one, or look and your husband don’t like it. Make clear online for a grief support group you can join. that his nasty comments about your mother There you will be able to safely vent about aren’t welcome, and neither will he be, unless your feelings with others who understand KHFDOOV¿UVWWRVHHLIDYLVLWLVDOOULJKWZLWK everyone. His misbehavior continues because what you are experiencing right now. Dear Abby: My parents divorced four you have allowed it. DAYS GONE BY BEETLE BAILEY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY MORT WALKER BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Nov. 6, 1915 Bitten by a mad dog, which he later killed after it had run amuck and become a real menace, Finis Kirkpatrick, son of R.F. Kirk- patrick, is now receiving treatment to coun- teract any danger of the development of the dread disease through the laceration. Young Kirkpatrick was attacked by the dog Thursday afternoon at his father’s ranch on the reserva- tion north of the agency. The animal, a female Airedale, had come to the ranch twice during the morning and had acted strangely. During the afternoon it came back and savagely attacked the hogs and chickens on the ranch, then killed two Shepherd puppies and bit their mother and attacked another dog savagely. Kirkpatrick came to the rescue of his dogs barehanded and it was while trying to pull the mad brute away that he was bitten on the arm. +HZHQWDWRQFHWRWKHKRXVHVHFXUHGDULÀH and shot the animal. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Nov. 6, 1965 3RVWDO RI¿FLDOV VSHFXODWHG 7KXUVGD\ whether it was a torrid love letter or a care- OHVVO\WRVVHGPDWFKWKDWFDXVHGD¿UHWREUHDN out in a curb side mail box across the street IURP WKH 3HQGOHWRQ 3RVW 2I¿FH :HGQHVGD\ afternoon. Quick action by the Pendleton ¿UH GHSDUWPHQW LV FUHGLWHG ZLWK SUHYHQWLQJ any mail from being destroyed. Postmaster Lynn Ranney said only a couple of letters were scorched around the edges. Workmen at Shafer Radiator located nearby saw smoke FRPLQJIURPWKHPDLOER[DQGFDOOHGWKH¿UH department. A cloth bag, which is hung inside the metal box to catch the letters, had been burning for some time, Ranney said. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Nov. 6, 1990 As the process to form a new Eastern Oregon mule deer management plan gains speed, the very real possibility of total limited entry appears to be emerging as the state’s solution of choice. That’s a solution that had many avid hunters and interested audience PHPEHUV ¿UHG XS GXULQJ D KHDULQJ KHOG LQ Pendleton Monday on the draft of a Mule Deer Management Plan. Opposition to the plan was voiced by many of the nearly 100 people who attended the hearing — ranging from charges that public comments have no bearing on the ¿QDOSODQWRFRQFHUQVWKDWDFKDQJHLQKXQWLQJ policies will be ineffective as long as habitat management is out of the Oregon Department of Fish and Wildlife’s control. THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the 310th day of 2015. There are 55 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On Nov. 6, 1860, former Illinois congressman Abraham Lincoln defeated three other candidates for the presidency: John Breckin- ridge, John Bell and Stephen Douglas. On this date: In 1632, King Gustavus Adolphus of Sweden was killed in battle. In 1854, America’s “March King,” John Philip Sousa, was born in Wash- ington, D.C. In 1861, Confederate President Jefferson Davis was elected to a six-year WHUPRIRI¿FH In 1928 LQ D ¿UVW WKH results of Republican Herbert Hoover’s presiden- tial election victory over Democrat Alfred E. Smith ZHUHÀDVKHGRQWRDQHOHFWULF wraparound sign on the New York Times building. In 1934, Nebraska voters approved dissolving their two-chamber legislature in favor of a nonpartisan, VLQJOH RU ³XQLFDPHUDO´ legislative body, which was implemented in 1937. In 1944 %ULWLVK RI¿FLDO Lord Moyne was assassi- nated in Cairo, Egypt, by members of the Zionist Stern gang. In 1956, President Dwight D. Eisenhower won re-election, defeating Demo- crat Adlai E. Stevenson. In 1962, Democrat Edward M. Kennedy was elected Senator from Massa- chusetts. In 1977, 39 people were killed when the Kelly Barnes Dam burst, sending a wall of water through Toccoa Falls College in Georgia. In 1990 DERXW RQH¿IWK of the Universal Studios backlot in southern Cali- fornia was destroyed in an DUVRQ¿UH Today’s Birthdays: Actress June Squibb is 86. Country singer Stonewall Jackson is 83. Singer Eugene 3LWW 7KH -LYH )LYH LV Singer P.J. Proby is 77. Country singer Guy Clark is 74. Actress Sally Field is 69. Pop singer-musician Glenn )UH\ 7KH (DJOHV LV Singer Rory Block is 66. Jazz musician Arturo Sandoval is 66. TV host Catherine Crier is 61. News correspondent and IRUPHU &DOLIRUQLD ¿UVW ODG\ Maria Shriver is 60. Actress Lori Singer is 58. Actor Lance Kerwin is 55. Rock musician 3DXO%ULQGOH\7KH6XQGD\V is 52. Education Secretary Arne Duncan is 51. Actor Ethan Hawke is 45. Basket- ball player Lamar Odom is 36. Actress Emma Stone is 27. Thought for Today: “The illiterate of the future will not be the person who cannot read. It will be the person who does not know how to learn.” — $OYLQ 7RIÀHU $PHULFDQ ZULWHUIXWXULVW. PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE