Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Thursday, May 7, 2015 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Cancer diagnosis is unlikely to thaw grandmother’s heart FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER Dear Abby: I recently found out my parents’ marriage wasn’t a healthy my grandmother has been diagnosed one. But only recently has it begun to with lung cancer and has elected not affect me emotionally. It isn’t that I to treat it. The doctors give her a year blame myself, but that I’m afraid of at the most. My dilemma is whether how my own romantic endeavors will to extend just one more olive branch. fare. She has never been a “warm and Recently, I was told about my fuzzy” type of grandmother. She was PRWKHU¶V LQ¿GHOLW\ , ZDV DOZD\V cold and distant when I was in my curious and suspected that one or Jeanne teens and 20s, and downright mean Phillips both of them had affairs. But now when I was in my 30s. If I try to talk more than before, I worry about Advice to her at family functions, she turns ¿QGLQJ ORYH /RYH LV VRPHWKLQJ ZH away and begins a conversation with all seek, and I believe we all need, but someone else, not even acknowledging that I don’t see myself as able to handle that kind I’m standing there. Last year at a family of heartbreak. reunion, she took several photos with my I understand why Mom did it — that’s mom and sister, and when it was suggested part of what hurts me. I’m angry that they I join them in the photo, she walked away would masquerade a failure “for me,” that before one could be snapped. I’m not the only failure being their “relationship.” I think my family member or grandchild she behaves anger is valid. My family has screwed me up this way toward. None of us knows why. emotionally and it started long before I knew Do I try one more time, suspecting the what was going on. What should I do? — diagnosis hasn’t softened her heart and that Screwed Up In Oregon I’ll again end up with hurt feelings? Or do Dear Screwed Up: When children are I assume that nothing I do now will change raised in a household where the parents’ words who she is and that I will have no positive, and actions are different, they cope either by happy memories of her? — Invisible In believing only what they are told (even if it Kansas contradicts what they see happening) or only Dear Invisible: Frankly, the chances of what they see. While it can interfere with your grandmother transforming into someone forming healthy relationships later in life, it’s warm and accepting don’t look promising the way they keep themselves sane. because she appears to be a punitive and You are right to be concerned, and I hope unhappy person. However, if you feel you you will discuss this with a licensed coun- might have regrets if you don’t try once more selor or therapist because if you do, you will to connect with her, then make the effort ¿QGLWKHOSIXO so that when she dies, you’ll know you did Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van everything you could. Don’t do it for her; do Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and it for yourself. was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Dear Abby: Ever since I was young, Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com which was not that long ago, I have known or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. DAYS GONE BY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian May 7, 1915 Over 200 strong Umatilla county people made the trip to Celilo falls yesterday aboard the steamer Annie Comings, had the pleasure of a river ride that was as delightful as it was novel for those aboard, and participated in the great celebration at Big Eddy. The steamer reached the scene of the festivities just in time to join in the program which was witnessed by a crowd estimated at 10,000. Miss Thelma Thompson of Pendleton and Miss Sadie 2OLYH *ULI¿Q VSRQVRUV IRU WKLV FRXQW\ ZLWK other young ladies from over the northwest, dedicated the canal by each pouring a bottle of Umatilla river water into the canal. This ceremony was a pretty one and was conducted XQGHUWKH¿UHRIDEDWWHU\RIPRYLQJSLFWXUH cameras and a squad of newspapermen with kodaks. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian May 7, 1965 The Umatilla County Fair Board has rescinded its order that the Peace Pipe Museum must move from fairgrounds building No. 1 during August. Kem Tellefson, fair board chairman, informed D.W. Bliss, president of the Umatilla County Historical Society, in a letter dated May 3. Tellefson also accepted Bliss’s offer of last week of space in the museum building during the fair for a rock show. The decision ends six weeks of apprehension on the part of historical society members that they might lose the Roger J. Bounds Indian collection because of the order. Bliss said the borrowed collection would leave the city and probably the state if the order stood. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian May 7, 1990 Riverside gave coach Kevan Pratt his 200th KLJKVFKRROEDVHEDOOYLFWRU\LQWKH¿UVWJDPHRI a doubleheader with Pilot Rock Saturday, but he’ll have to wait a while longer for number 201, thanks to Rockets pitcher Tucker Hodgen. Riverside took advantage of a bundle of Pilot 5RFNHUURUVWRWDNHDYLFWRU\LQWKH¿UVW JDPH ZKLFK ZDV VKRUWHQHG WR ¿YH LQQLQJV by the 10-run mercy rule. Hodgen faced the best-hitting lineup in the Columbia Basin Conference in the second game but struck out 14 Pirates in a 4-2 victory that kept Pilot Rock hopes alive for a spot in the District 7A playoffs. THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the 127th day of 2015. There are 238 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On May 7, 1915, in an incident that sparked inter- national outrage, a German U-boat torpedoed and sank the British liner RMS Lusitania off the southern coast of Ireland, killing 1,198 people, including 128 Ameri- cans, out of the nearly 2,000 on board. On this date: In 1789 $PHULFD¶V ¿UVW inaugural ball was held in New York in honor of Pres- ident George Washington, ZKR¶GWDNHQWKHRDWKRIRI¿FH a week earlier. In 1824, Beethoven’s Symphony No. 9 in D minor, Op. 125, had its premiere in Vienna. In 1928, the minimum voting age for British women was lowered from 30 to 21 — the same age as men. In 1939, Germany and Italy announced a military STONE SOUP BIG NATE and political alliance known as the Rome-Berlin Axis. In 1942, U.S. Army Gen. Jonathan Wainwright went on a Manila radio station to announce the Allied surrender of the Philippines to Japanese forces during World War II. In 1945, Germany signed an unconditional surrender at Allied headquarters in Rheims, France, ending its role in World War II. In 1954, the 55-day Battle of Dien Bien Phu in Vietnam ended with Vietnamese insur- gents overrunning French forces. In 1975, President Gerald R. Ford formally declared an end to the “Vietnam era.” In Ho Chi Minh City — formerly Saigon — the Viet Cong celebrated its takeover. In 1984, a $180 million out-of-court settlement was announced in the Agent Orange class-action suit brought by Vietnam veterans who charged they’d suffered injury from exposure to the defoliant. Today’s Birthdays: Former Sen. Pete Domenici, R-N.M., is 83. Rhythm-and- blues singer Thelma Houston is 72. Actress Robin Strasser is 70. Singer-songwriter Bill Danoff is 69. Rock musician Bill Kreutzmann (Grateful Dead) is 69. Rock musician Prairie Prince is 65. Movie writer-director Amy Hecker- ling is 63. Actor Michael E. Knight is 56. Rock musician Phil Campbell (Motorhead) is 54. Country musician Rick Schell is 52. Rock sing- er-musician Chris O’Connor (Primitive Radio Gods) is 50. Actress Traci Lords is 47. Singer Eagle-Eye Cherry is 44. Actor Breckin Meyer is 41. Rock musician Matt Helders (Arctic Monkeys) is 29. Actress-comedian Aidy Bryant is 28. Actor Actress Dylan Gelula is 21. Thought for Today: “Be a philosopher but, amid all your philosophy be still a man.” — David Hume, Scottish philosopher (1711- 1776). BY JAN ELLIOT BY LINCOLN PEIRCE