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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ
Moody new husband shows
warning signs of an abuser
FOR BETTER OR WORSE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
B.C.
BY JOHNNY HART
PICKLES
BY BRIAN CRANE
BEETLE BAILEY
BY MORT WALKER
GARFIELD
BY JIM DAVIS
Dear Abby: I was single for four
years and recently remarried. I didn’t
intend to marry again, but then I met
“Bob.” He was so kind and attentive
that I was attracted. He proposed to
me every day, several times a day, and
eight months later I married him.
Bob moved here from out of state
ing me by not doing what I tell you”;
— Hypersensitivity: is easily in-
sulted, claiming hurt feelings when he
or she is really mad. Rants about the
injustice of things that are just a part
of life;
— Verbal abuse: constantly crit-
icizes or says blatantly cruel things
— degrades, curses, calls you ugly
Jeanne
has been challenging. My daughter Phillips names. May also involve sleep depri-
lives with us and is in college.
vation, waking you with relentless
Advice
Bob’s mood swings have been
verbal abuse;
drastic lately. He doesn’t want me to
— Sudden mood swings: switches
talk to anyone else, do anything without him from sweet to violent within minutes.
(hang with my friends, my daughter, etc.). I
This is only a partial list — there are 15 in
have a great job and work part-time in the eve- all, which is too long for this column. Howev-
nings to make ends meet. I try to stay calm, er, they can be precursors to serious physical
but he yells, uses profanity and is highly ma- violence.
nipulative.
Urge your husband to get counseling for
I am at a loss. I would like to help him, but his depression and insecurity. If he refuses,
his depression is tearing us apart. I also believe then be smart and contact the National Do-
he is addicted to marijuana. He has threatened mestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or
suicide, but I don’t know if he would actually online at thehotline.org for help in safely sep-
go through with it.
arating from him before your husband’s be-
Abby, I have worked very hard to get havior escalates.
where I am. I know I need to take care of my-
Dear Abby: At a black-tie-optional wed-
self and my daughter, but I don’t want to just ding, is it appropriate for a man to come wear-
throw this away, either. Help! — Torn In Two ing a cowboy hat and keep it on at the dinner
In Texas
table? — Curious In Palm Desert
Dear Torn In Two: Without more infor-
Dear Curious: Hat etiquette decrees that
mation, it’s hard to tell whether your hus- it should be removed when a man is indoors.
band’s depression makes him act the way he
does, or whether you have been seduced by (at stargazermercantile.com), “If you’re in a
an abuser.
restaurant that serves anything that isn’t coat-
Among the warning signs of an abuser are: ed in barbecue sauce, it’s probably best to lose
— Pushes for quick involvement;
the hat.”
— Isolation: tries to isolate you from
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Bu-
friends or family members;
ren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was
— Makes others responsible for his/her founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con-
feelings: The abuser says, “YOU make me an- tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or
gry” instead of “I am angry,” or, “You’re hurt- P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 5-6, 1915
That which would be termed “an old fash-
ioned dancing party” was held by the West
Side folk New Year’s eve in Hermiston when
dancing started early in the afternoon and
continued until the New Year had been well
ushered in. The building formerly occupied
by the Western Land & Irrigation company
has been transformed into a modern dance
hall and was artistically decorated with the
season’s evergreens. The west siders are not-
ed for their unique entertainments and there is
apparently no limit to their novel ideas.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 5-6, 1965
Carl Threet, born to Mr. and Mrs. James
Threet of Pendleton at 4:43 p.m. Sunday, Jan.
3rd. The boy, who weighed nine pounds, four
ounces, joins a brother and sister at the Threet
BLONDIE
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
household. Threet is the pastor of the Southern
Baptist Church here.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 5-6, 1990
Elwood Patawa was re-elected chairman
of the Board of Trustees for the Umatilla In-
dian Tribes in an election that required nine
Eight of the nine board members attended,
hour election. Patawa was elected on the
third ballot by a 5-3 vote over Bill Burke. He
was elected for the ninth time since 1981, but
not before board members were allowed to
comment on their choices for the top posi-
tion for the Confederated Tribes of the Uma-
tilla Indian Reservation. Videll Bronson and
Andy Dumont voiced a need for change and
brought up Patawa’s recent decisions to re-
sign and then rescind his resignation. Bron-
son said Patawa’s indecision may mean “he’s
tired and needs a rest.”
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
Today is the sixth day of
2015. There are 359 days left
in the year.
Today’s Highlight in
History:
On Jan. 6, 1540, En-
gland’s King Henry VIII
married his fourth wife, Anne
of Cleves. (The marriage
lasted about six months.)
On this date:
In 1759, George Wash-
ington and Martha Dandridge
Custis were married in New
Kent County, Virginia.
In 1838, Samuel Morse
successful public demon-
stration of their telegraph in
Morristown, New Jersey.
In 1912, New Mexico be-
came the 47th state.
In 1919, the 26th president
of the United States, Theo-
dore Roosevelt, died in Oys-
ter Bay, New York, at age 60.
In 1941, President Frank-
lin D. Roosevelt, in his State
of the Union address, out-
lined a goal of “Four Free-
doms”: Freedom of speech
and expression; the freedom
of people to worship God in
their own way; freedom from
want; freedom from fear.
STONE SOUP
BIG NATE
In 1945, George Herbert
Walker Bush married Barbara
Pierce at the First Presbyteri-
an Church in Rye, New York.
In 1950, Britain recog-
nized the Communist gov-
ernment of China.
In 1963, “Oliver!,” Lionel
Bart’s musical adaptation of
the Charles Dickens novel
“Oliver Twist,” opened on
Broadway. “Mutual of Oma-
ha’s Wild Kingdom” pre-
miered on NBC-TV.
In 1974, year-round day-
light saving time began in the
United States on a trial ba-
sis as a fuel-saving measure
in response to the OPEC oil
embargo.
In 1975, the original ver-
sion of “Wheel of Fortune,”
hosted by Chuck Woolery
and Susan Stafford, pre-
miered on NBC-TV.
In 1994
Nancy Kerrigan was clubbed
on the leg by an assailant at
Detroit’s Cobo Arena; four
men, including the ex-hus-
band of Kerrigan’s rival, To-
nya Harding, went to prison
for their roles in the attack.
(Harding denied knowing
about plans for the attack.)
Today’s Birthdays: Poll-
ster Louis Harris is 94. Re-
tired MLB All-Star Ralph
Branca is 89. Author E.L.
Doctorow is 84. Country
musician Joey, the CowPol-
ka King (Riders in the Sky)
is 66. Former FBI director
Louis Freeh is 65. Rock
singer-musician Kim Wilson
(The Fabulous Thunderbirds)
is 64. Singer Jett Williams is
62. Rock musician Malcolm
Young (AC-DC) is 62. Ac-
tor-comedian Rowan Atkin-
son is 60. World Golf Hall
of Famer Nancy Lopez is
58. Rhythm-and-blues singer
Kathy Sledge is 56. TV chef
Nigella Lawson is 55. Mov-
ie composer A.R. Rahman
is 49. Actor Danny Pintauro
(TV: “Who’s the Boss?”) is
39. Actress-comedian Kate
McKinnon (TV: “Saturday
Night Live”) is 31. Rock
singer Alex Turner (Arctic
Monkeys) is 29.
Thought for Today:
“Simplicity is an acquired
taste. Mankind, left free,
instinctively
complicates
life.” — Katharine Fullerton
Gerould, American author
(1879-1944).
BY JAN ELLIOT
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE