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k NE of tha rooet tryln of moth
er's problanM la what to ox
..with hor convalescent -Child.
During . the period Of Uttlo
Betty or Billy's iUnesa it Is not hard
to nurse the little one,, for whUs a f WW
Is really Ul it can be kept ia bed, given
rnedlolM and npurtohment- at . aUtod
hours, tended carefully, and there too
nursing ends.
But when Miss Betty begins to feet
hotter, after the palm baa left, when
her apprtKe betfns to return and she
feels like, getting up, then it is that
mother must takiavery precaution to
keep her reasonably quiet and from
dangers of taking rold or overexertion.
' In caring for the convalescent child
there should be a regular order of pro
cedure carried out every day. Serve In
bed a light, dainty breakfast, consisting
Of fruit, cereal toast and a cup of hot
milk or any easily digested, nourishing
foodQ -
Ijtt the tray bo dainty In arrange
tnent and th food seasoned to suit the
taste. After breakfast allow half-an
hour for rest, then give the oath.
This can be done while the onild la
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. than three or four weets.
, Correspondents desiring Immediate
.replies to queries may get them by
Inclosing a .stamped self-addressed
envelope. Personal Inquiries will re
- ceive prompt attention if accompanied
by a stamped and addressed envelope.
., A bout an Exercise
Dear lira Armas.
wnen exerclalnc by raisins'
raising the arms
above tile head and than swinging them
down to- touch the to, how Ions should
tha Ana-era ba held at tha toaaT Ham
t many limes should the action be re
i pealed? , .,. ANXIOUS.
I It Is not necessary to keep the rln-
fers on the floor any length of time,
he exercise should be practiced two
'or three times s day. Each time you
should atop as soon as you begin to
(eel tired. ' - ; -
Wants to Grow Taller
Dear Mrs. Byrnes.
I am It years old and only 4 feet 10
incnea tan. uo you tnina eireicoina- ex- .
frclaea would make me grow - a lit tier
have a long, thin face, what can.! do to
make it round and atoutT Does cocoa
butter make hair grow en tha faceT My .
face is very dry, and I am afraid to use '
It. ,-. .. ,. I. F. 8. V
I advise roil to try the stretching
exerclsbs. Always make-- tha most of
'your height when standing, sitting
and walking.
If the framework of your1 face Is
naturally long you can do nothing to
, change Its shape. However, by wear- .
Ing high collars and avoiding all lines
which would Increase She lenrth of
: your race, your appearance .will 'be
greatly changed. m
Cocoa butter will not cause hair to
ro w, so you may use it on your face
..witn aafsty, i;':-;'f .;v.ip-iivv;
HasUscTPeroxlde. '
Dear Mr. Byrnes. . -"' '.'"'
1 shall. -tie moat grateful to you If you
can give me some sdvloe In regard to my
hair. . :: ' . ...-..... . . ...
last April I waa fooltah enough to use1
peroxide to mske It, lighter. Orhilnally it
J?rjr .P."" r hrown. and I am
shade again. VM'. pr,M' '
. BJnS? ',?,r'! 'i h" eniy 'darkened m Inches
and It will take more than three years for
It to color the full length, 2 Inches.
If you can recommend a coloring that la
harmless and will . bo efficient you will'
earn my everlasting gratitude. '
I have gleaned, other knowledge from
,. your column, and 1 feel you can surely
help me out of my dlffloulty. -. X. Rj
1 do not advise you to use a dye on
your hair, for I am sure the result!
would not bs satisfactory, instead,
try to darken your hair by applying -kerosene
to It every day. This will
not only darken the hair, but It will '
aot as a tonio. vv :; 'V'v'''.;;-',';1
U To Reduce the Abdomen '
Dear Mrs. Byrnes.. -1 ( ' '',
Plaaaa tall m what T nan a. m. '
dues the bust T It Ii. I think, oJl of
proportion to , the reat of my body. ' I ,.
am 20 years old, I feet 4 Inohee tall.
i.w.e,gh 117 pounds.- Mr bust measures
.14 inches, my wsist IlVi and my hips'
,w . Plcaae tell me what my measure-
mente ahould be; also pleasa tell me
What will reduce the abdomen.
1 ' - ' ANXIOUS. :
Tou would be out of proportion were;
rou to reduce your bust. A woman 1
rest 4 Inches In height should measure
at Inches around tbe bust. 24 Inches
round the waist and 87 or 38 Inches'
around the hips. ' -
,(To reduce the abdomen, stand erect.
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Answers to Beauty Queries
still in bed. Take car that the portion ,
of the body not being bathed Is covered
with - a soft blanket, and vise warm
water, changing that ta the fcasla
often, so that it will keep at aa even
temperature,, ,
Now come the hours when, the child
must be amused, I.,,. .....
The mother may play that she Is the
physician and writs ' out an "amuse
meat prescription" for the day, divid
ing the time into half-hour periods.
Let the program be arranged in this
manner: 8 to 9.30 o'clock, cut out paper
dolls; 9 30 to 10. build a block house; 10
to 19.30, color pictures In an old maga
zine; 10.30 to 11. play with dolly. At
this hour give a little nourishment, a
glass of milk and a couple of crackers,
or a cup of broth. ,
' Play hours continue until luncheon,
or the child can then be dressed and
' allowed to sit up in a chair or play
about the room until the hour for the
afternoon nap arrives.
When mother can spare the time from
' household duties she may read to the
little Invalid; but be sure to choose
clasp the hands over the abdomen, con
tract the muscles of the abdomen and
bend at the hips six times, keeping the
muscles well contracted throughout the
bending. Rest by taking three deep
breaths between each exercise.
To Develop the Bust
Dear lire. Byrnes.
Will you kindly tell me bow to make
the bust larter.T . .
ml ML'.U 7o SooVft.nVrr-
Will you tell ma
riease tell me wnst to ao to increase tne
thickness of' my hair. . ORACK B.
There Is nothing better than deep
breathing for developing the bust. If
you will remember to All your lungs
to their greatest capacity every time
you breathe, you will soon see an Im
provement If you .ever have an opportunity to
do housework, you will find that
cleaning windows, sweeping, dusting,
etc., will develop the arms. If you do
- not have this opportunity, practice
the movements even though you are
not engaged In the actual work.
Swinging - Indian clubs will also In
crease the muscles in the arms.
To develop your legs, practice the
following exercises: Stand erect, raise
yourself on your toes end then bend
the knees. Do this twelve times every
morning.
, To Increase the thickness of your
hair, rub castor oil Into the scalp
every other day, but massage the
acalp dally and brush your hair for
ten minutes, giving it firm and even
: strokes. ..,.
' ' Falling Hair
Dear Mrs. Byrnes.
, Uy hair is falling eut se fast that If I
do not soon get a tenia I shall be bald.
-Kindly tell m what I can-do for It. My
hair ie naturally, very dry. , WORRIED.
1 Following Is the recipe for a tonlo
which wtll bring your hair up to a fine
condition if you rub tha lotion Into th
scalp ones or twice a days ,
?henol H dram
Incture nux vomica. 4.... ...1 grains
Tincture cinchona., .1 ounce
Tincture of oantharldes. dram
Cologne ....................4 ounces
sweet almond oil ...s ounces
Desr Mrs Byrnes. !' -"
Will you kindly tell ma what causes sties
; and give me a good ouref . MARTHA.
The) appearanoe of sties Usually means
lhait the system la run down. Hot ap- ,
plications of borio aold solution will
-sometimes check them If used early. If
, pus hs f ornied, the sty must be opened '
. by an Incision parallel to the edge of the
ltd. This should not be attempted by
any one except a physlcfcmy.;,c .. yfyifc
Eczema s
J Dear Mrs. Bymea.---'-----"'-"--'-- !-4tJe7
My little boy's face and hands are cov
ered with marks Whioh make me think hs
- hss ecxama. Will you kindly tell me what
, to do for hlmt , . ANXIOUB MOTHER.
First of all, take every precaution that
the dlseass Is not transferred to any
other member of the family, Ecsema is ;
Such an obstinate affection that the
patient should at once seek the advice of
a good physician; for the longer ths die
ease lasts the more difficult its cure be
" comea .. . ;, .
'The Use of Soap '
Pear Mrs. Byrnes
Do you think It Is well to use sosa en the '
face every day? Home persona
tell
Use It and others say It Is not dvahle
It la a question whether ths dally use
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cheerful stories, and never ones that
are sad or depressing In any way. 4 '
In tbe morning and again ait hour be
fore bedtime air the patient's room
thoroughly.- by ;. opening; ...the . windows
wide for ten minutes. Be sure that the
child Is covered all over In bed, with
an extra quilt if the weather be cold,
so there can be no danger of a sudden
chill.
Give the convalescent, especially If
she be a delicate child, a warm sponge
bath just before going to bed. Follow
this with a thorough rubbing with warm
olive oil all over her body and limbs.
This simple, safe home treatment works
wonders If given a thorough trial. In
case the child Is very nervous and rest
less at night, give an alcohol rub just
before turning out the light. This In
duces sleep, besides being a general
stimulant for the entire system.
And now, good luck to you in tha
oare of your restless, peevish, conva
lescent child.
of soap on the face Is advisable. Soap
should never be used on the face in
winter Just before going out 'of doors,
as this would cause a roughening of the
skin. When the hot tub bath is taken
the face should be well washed with
eoap and hot water, plenty of friction
being applied by means of the face
towel, after which the face, Is thor
oughly rinsed with pure - water This
win open me pores 01 tne sain . ana
h0uld bo followed hw tha uaa of cold
J It"- U"y ? tendency to dry
the skin. It should not be used too often.
After it has been used, however, you
should rub a good cold cream Into the
skin. '
The Cold Bath
Dear Mrs. Byrnes
Do you think the cold bath Is rood for a
peraont What does It dot A READER.
For persons In good health a cold dip
on rising in the morning Is excellent
It creates an appetite, accelerates tbe
circulation, arouses the nervous system
and produces decided exhilarating ef
fects in those who sre strong enough to
react after it The immersion should
. not last longer than from three) to fifteen
seconds. The bather must rub herself
vigorously while In the tub, and follow
the bath with brisk toweling and plenty
of friction. She ahould then take mod
erately active exercise 'for fifteen to
twenty minutes. .
Exercise and Colds
Dear Mrs. Byrnes. ' "
Do you think a cold can be cured by ex
ercise Jn the open alrT - CURIOUS.
. With the exception of deep-seated chest
tolds. In ths early stages a cold may
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WWywyiWIS' K&eyUtX4fr
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. A IDEAL GUEST
I HAVE spoken frequently of "Tiost
,. esses and - Of 3 entertaining at Its
best. Todayi X shall ' talk of tho
other side of this Interesting story the
guest ' and "the proper way to allow
others to entertain you. ; .
It Is no great matter to be' sociable sad
successful for an hour or two. I am
referring today to the guest for a week
end or' longer. To be able to demon
strata kindness, thoughtfulness, gra
clousness and good breeding' for a few
weeks Is a test of real worth. .
When you arrive at your destination
you should plaosyourself In the hands
or your hostess. The customs of the
. household should be followed ss nearly
as possible,: and If you do not know
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' ADVICE ON SOCIAL
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orten be nipped In the bud by a few
hours of hard work in the open air. In
half a day the nasal ducU and respira
tory system will throw off irritating
matter that would take much longer
time if the patient remained Indoors and
relied on the action of drugs alone.
Recipe for Cold Cream O
Dear Mrs. Srmes. ' .
Will you kindly giys me recipe for
cold cream that will not make the hair
grow on ths facet F. w.
Here la the recipe (for a ocftd cream
which you will find satisfactory:
Kentucky Cold Cream
Roeewater
. 4 ounces
Almond oil.
6permacetl
White wax.
4 ounces
1 ounca
1 ounoe
Dandruff, Freckles, . Etc
TJear Mrs. Brmea.
I have had dandruff on my head for
two years. Please give me a cure and
tell me how ofien 10 wash my hair.
Please publish a cream for'pale freckles.
I want something that will make my akin
smooth, but will not cauae hair to grow.
Ia rosewater and glycerin good, for the
bands T X. T. Z.
If you wll! rub a little castor oil Into
your scalp every night, the dandruff
. will soon disappear. After applying the
oil the hair should be brushed for ten
minutes. As a rule, the hair should ba
washed once every four weeks.
Following is tihe recipe for a splendid
freckle cream:
Petrolatum ounce av
Lanolin (anhydroua) 1 ounoe av. 1
Hydrogen peroxide 1 fluid ounce
Aretlo acid.. 1 fluid dram
Tea; and a little bensoln added to
them will whiten the skin. -
them, you should Inquire of your Jiost
ess. Tbe hours for dining, the Sunday
regimen, etc., are Important facts that
you must make yours. A guest should
never disrupt tbe plana of a household.
When a hostess suggests one of two
courses of action or choice, ; the Ideal .
guest does not answer in an undecided
way. 'Nothing is more unsatisfactory
when a person is asked If ha prefers
white meat or brown than a reply that
"It doesn't matter." This la very leak
ing in tha little amenities that speak
of good social training
If a guest Is asked for his or her pref
erence in tha matter of entertainment,
the answer should be decided. To say '
"Why, 'It really doesn't matter. What- - ;
ever you think." la rude. A choice baa
been requested and there should be a',,
prompt, decided reply...'.-1'. '.-.. ;K
- A guest 'should ba eourteoue to all .
other guests In the house. Even though .
two persons are not friends outside,
there should bs a poIKe, courteous treat
ment under the aama roof. It ia duo V
the hostess. ';': ::"..sV- 'ri'yy.
Before leaving the roOm In the morning
a guest should hang up all garments, t
throw the bed clothing over tne chairs
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and open tha wlndowg. It Is the unusual
woman who travels with her maid thess
days who can do these things fop her.
The servants in the house In which a
guest Is should Siot be overburdened.
If any bills are contracted outside the
duty of entertaining, a guest should see
that all accounts are settled before de
parture, or request that bills be for
warded. ,
In many households It Is the custom to
tip tha servants who have given any
attention to a guest.; Some persons be
stow money, others articles of personal
value. Any overtipping Is vulgar.
Wben, the guests take leave a little
apeeoh of appreciation la necessary. The
different members of the family should
be bidden farewell, and within a week
after the return a little note of thanks
for entertainment should bs sent If a
Small gift or souvenir can be grace-,
fully presented, it Is not unappropriated
Solutions to Social
Problems
The Wrong Spoon
DEAR Mrs. Adma
Whit should 1 do'WIien I fln that
I ra mini the wrong spoon at a
coune dinner T Should I lick It and put
It back so. that as.ose-wiH-notloei.lt or
should I spologlie to the boitoaa and lt "
fir another spoon t J. H. C.
I think an apology Is flue me if yoa
have asked the above query in Jest.
If you are truly ignorant about the
proper procedure, let me say that you
would attract much attention 'to your-,
self If you followed either method you
mentioned. It Would be better to con
tinue using the wrong spoon. When re- ,
moving the dishes the servant will no
doubt notice your error and will supply
the proper spoon. -
. ISMBSBBM f
c From One to the Other
Dear Mrs. Adams. .
Will you kindly help US OtltT My sir!
friend and I are very muoh pussled. For
vera I months my sir! friend went with
a young man who came to see her twice
s week, and of course Z was at her home
when he came. Taicins a liking to me. he
gave her up and went with ma. I never
aid anything to htm, he came to me on
hie own eccord. Then after he went, with
mo a little while he turned around and
went with the seme girl again, and of .
course my girl friend didn't want him,
and he la trying to go with me again. '
"Will you kindly tell me what you think of
a case like thlsT tUZZLED.
i think that you girls do not under-
j-r- rr-. j? Jn
J j- -S.Z.'...."
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1 ;m,
but
1 stand the young man. He, no doubt,
wishes to be friendly with both. Each
one of you has taken his attentions too
seriously, and, therefore, a Jealous feel- ;
Ing arises when he wishes to be atten
tive to both. Why not be content to
have a friend and companion In com
mon? - .
A Selfish Person
Desr Mra Adams.
My chum., who is a very alee girl In many .
ways, is very aelftih. If I do not comply
with all her winnea and give up my own
- way, she gets sulky. Would It be jwlae to
aay anything to her about har selffshnea?
Then. too. I am always the one to pay for :
. our pleasures. She says It Is just a loan, .
and there is nothing I can do when she
" puts tt that way. Would it be best to give
up the friendship of such a gin? MART.
At first I felt like telling you to
give up the friendship: but then, upon
second thought, I believe you could
be a great help to the girl. At least
you can try. - First of all. if her wishes
j are unreasonable do not give in to
her. She may sulk, but a few lessons
will soon show her. wherein She is
. wrong. Deal with her gently, and
kindly, but always be firm In what-
aver stand yon 'take. Break her tiabiff
of borrowing money wnicn may never
tbe paid back. If she hasn't enougH,
tnopey, don't go on with your plana
ThtoJnay ha .a little unpleasant at
ths time, but you will do her a lot oC
good if you will be able to point ou
ulr innta and then helD her to
build up a atrong and noble character,
' An Engagement Ring "J
Dear Mrs. Adams. , J)
I am a young girl of 18. and having nss ;
become engaged, I . want to ask yos .
whether 1 1 would be eonaldered ImpropeS .
tor me to glva my beloved aa engage-
meat ring. . .
,. is it necessary to sign one's real aama
to queries? . .
00 m-ea-a--answer gjg
No. - Although It Is not a customary
thing, there are girls who give their
-41 nees engagement rings. ,
If vou refer to ouerles sent to 'ma ts J
Is not necessary;--"-,-'- r -
All letters which come within my
province of social customs ars answered
The First Anniversary
Desr Mrs. Adams. - .- M ' ' ',
Could you give me a few Ideas for tel-
ebratlng a firet anniveraary of one's wed.,,
ding and how Invitations may be wordrd :
for a home affatrT About twenty peieonS. -,
will be invited. A CONSVANT rAaIjer. , .
One year after the original ceremony
it will probably not be a difficult matter)
to arrange for a reunion of the bridal
party, and this alone will make the oe
. caslon a memorable one. As one year
of wedded life brings the cotton anni versary,
the invitations may be sent out
" on squares of fine cotton cloth written
with indelible Ink. Tbe following form
may be used: -.a... j, ...
jtio. ' Uil.
Mr. snd Mrs. Warren B. Bmlth
request the pleasure of your company
on the firat anniveraary of their marriage,
, oa Tuesday evening, November third,.
, at elEht o'clock, . '
.-, ' U t'atk placa. .
Decorate the rooms with vines, plants
and branches. Over these put a quantity
of fluffy cotton flakes. . 1
. The dining room table may be covered
with thin layers of cotton instead of a
linen cover. The centerpiece may be a.
Jardiniere wrapped with cotton and filled
with the kind of flowers that were used
at the event of a year ago.
There ahould be a wedding cake, con-
t m f nt.i m .In. a nljkMt Af mnnAV and SV . .
thimble; all young persons, knowing tho,
meaning of these symbols, enjoy tha '
time when the bride cuts the cak :;
, Sending a Gift 1
. Dear Mrs. Adams. v- :.
Is h proper to give a present upon re- '
eelvlng an announcement T
I received an. Invitation to s wedding re-
caption, whloh I cannot attend. Hnould I
send my : present by mesengerT How
shall I word the letter? A READER.
I presume you mean a wedding an
nouncement, . Tea, it Is cults proper to
send a gift upon tha receipt of suoh a
card. , " i :
It is always better to send a gift by
messenger. It is not necessary to writ
a letter; but you should send two oS
; your visiting card to ths bride's par -1
ents on the day of the reception. .
Setting the Table - : j
Dear Mrs. Adams.
Where shall I place the bread and but
ter plates and butter spreaders? Alao tell
tn hm th. knlvu tnrUm anil anAnni
should be placed. I do not have any rv- v
ants... ..... 'v-; .. lONOHANf. -
The bread and butter plats la placed! .
to the left of one's plate, just above ths
forks, which are plsced, with the points
of the prongis turned up, to the left of)
the plate. To the right of the plate lie
the knives, their sharp edges turned to
- ward the plate. The butter spreaders
should be placed. On the bread and but-';
ter plates. Next to the knives is laid
the soup spoon 'and next to this lies, tha
yster fork, m ;;.,,.?,::;,; v-v
Her Parents Object
Dear Mrs.. Adams. . t . '
I am a real young girl and have been !
going with a young man for three years., j
My parents object to me going with him. '.,
I expeot to marry him some time In the ,
future. Will you please give me youf x
Y advice? ''-;:v,..ri',, f i;-,:, M. iS. Gk "
If you pay : no' attention to you
Sarenta' advice, what good will mln
o you? The only thing I can say, la
,that if you are too young to realise)
the-seriousness of the matter you
parents, who. after all, have your iiw
terest at heart Think over the ob
jections they have mode to tho youns;
man and sea If they are not reason
able. ' ,
A Husband's Title M
f, Deer 'Mrs. Adams. - - - -
WIU you kindly tell me If It Is prope
to sddreia a doctor's wife aa "Mra. loo
V"tof Smith"? ,':u;,-(.:r-i.'-' ; M. I
No. There Is no reason why Mrs,
Smith should share her husband's tlti.
Btie should ba addressed ss "Mrs. 3.
Smith," . . .
Offering Thanks f
'. Dear Mra Adams,
'!' Do you think It Is out of place for me
to thank s young man for taking me to (lie
theater or any other place of oinn-nn T .,
. , -.,. CIONLiKs.a-
; Not at all.' It Is only courteous th .
y you show your appreciation of bis ki"
v aess. . :;':!. ''--ri,. ' .
- ' A Business Acquaintance
lar Mrs. Adama
There Is a yount mas who e"m lnl
our ofllre frequnlly. I hava nv.r V i
' Inirndnred to him. Hhould I anow tny a-,,:.
, ot recognition when J mt fcim "
. street? t . ., , ' VH.
"'It you think the tnin wnull r? " '
you, a formal sow wouii i i i. t. .
,..