I V r ' ' '' ' - ' THE OREGON SUNDAY JOURNAL, PORTLAND, SUNDAY , MORNING, NOVEMBER 19,' I9U '
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I if CASES of emensency th best
, thing to do flrit should be known
by every woman, as well a every
, man and child, in the country..
Ylslta from the doctor' could be avoid
ed, eufferlng lessened and lives' saved
If we all knew what-to do- first when
an accident occurs. People, women
especially, becqme panlc-atricken when
there is an accident; they do not
know' what to , do; they lose their
heads, and very often In their effort to
help do the wrong thing something
that causee great suffering alnd often
. resuha In serious Injury.
Here are a few simple rules to fol-
low fn caees that are apt, to 'occur any ,
daythings to do flrsthefor the doe
tor arrives, if it is necessary to send for -him.
For a burn, rub sweet ' oil over the
urfece, Olive oil or linseed is good.
Jf you cannot get either, cover the sur
face of the burn with bicarbonate of
'soda (baking aoda) that has been
dampened with water or witch hazel, At
A LITTLE THING
THE other day a friend of mine
met me. She was very hoarse
-and explained, or Whispered,
that she caught cold while
standing at her door talking to a
"hasty visitor." She said that she was
only going to talk a mlnuie she re
fused to come in and she stayed twentyl
It Is a very little thing to keep your
word, but 9W, how important!
Do you Just drpp in for a minute and
stay an hour? Pt you say that you
are going and then stay and stay 7
Let me emphasize this little thing to
you. If you are running over the road
to return a book and are Invited in,
go In. It is only right that you should
not keep a friend standing out unpro
tected even for a minute. It Is not
right for you to .chill a house while
you thoughtlessly continue a conversa
tion. ,
' "Oh, I'm' going to stay only a min
ute," you will say. Your friend believes
you, and gives no order for deferring
ADVICE ON SOCIAL .
CUSTOMS
SOLUTIONS TO SOCIAL PROBLEMS
The Salutation
1-NBSAR Mrs. Adama
I I in correapondin" with a woman
friend la it proper to addreaa her
"tear friend" T ' ' , .' I
The term used depends upon your re- .
latioa with the woman. If you are a
mere friend, you may address her as ,
"Dear- Miss Blank." Should you' be
very intimate, "IJear Edith" would be
a proper form. ,
Desires a Position ;X
Dor Mrs. Adama. -' .s
Will yoii please tell me whatto do? I
am a girl IT years oia ana nave no parania
or brothers or sister. I Uv with my
ceuatni but the Is so
i unkind to me.
want to set some work, and . the only thing
X want to do la to work in a telephone
office. Do you think I eould keep a poal
tloa as telephone operator? .1 have had'
very little schooling, .as my mother died
vhtn T ii vtrvjmilL 1 POOR OIBLN
I feel sure that you eould obtain and
keep the kind of position you desire.
You will never know what you can do
until you try, so I advise you to start
right away to seek for employment.
If you are anxious for more education,
?ou should attend . a night school, and In
hat war your chances for a better posi
tion will bo greater., ,..-,::.;
Giving a Dinner
Dear Mrs, Adams. '(.
I am a man who Is without a home.
Many young glrla la- thla vicinity have
been extremely kind to me aad to, ahow '
. my appreciation, I ahould like to entertain
them at a dinner. It la. not eon-
vrnlent for m to give It In my rooma. 1 J
Would t be -all right to take them to a A
. .botalt v . .... THIRTr. -
, You oould show your appreciation in
. no better way. However, It is necessaryi
, that you have a chaperon If the party!
Is to be made up of unmarried persona
- that ta possible to obtain.
Keep the burn' covered from . the air, ' ,
' and If It be .very sever go at once or f
send for a physician: . FvS 'h';""
. Fainting or losing consciousness is n- :
other common Occurrence.' It l caused
by the blood leaving 4he brain, and la
sometimes Quite serious).
( The flrsf thing' to do Is to lay the
patient flat with the head down, so the
' blood Will naturally run back Into the
'brain. If the patient it standing and
faints, lay her on the floor ir on a
conch. . -.''', ' '
If she be seated, tip the chair back
until her head rests on the floor, then
apply cold water to the; forehead and
cross the eyes, smelling salts or cam
phor to nostrils and get her to drink
little aromatlo spirits of -ammonia,
twenty drops In a- tableapoonful . of
water, or aome mild stimulant, feathe
the wrists with cold water and loosen
the clothing. Give the patient plenty of
fresh air. "
. In case of . sprain, bathe .lt wttSk
dinner or luncheon. Then you stay
and stay.. The ' soup grows cold, the
roast dries' up and the Ice cream be
comes warm. In the mind of your friend
there is 1 a slight uneasiness. She 1
polite and Invites you to dinner.
"No, thank you, I am Just going," la
the reply; and then you Just don't go.
I have cited this one and I am sure
that my readers will recall similar In
stances. -
There is another case which requires
promptness in word and. action. If you
are visiting friends' or relatives for a
few days, go when you said you would.
You have no idea, how an uncertainty
or a postponement of a departure will '
disarrange plans. Little matters around
' the hoiffle, other arrangements of your
hostess or her family are greatly af
fected by your stay and departure. Go
when you say you will.
In other words, my dears,, keep your
word. It really amounts to that. Per
haps It requires a little disconcertion on
your part to suggest a departure. ' And
right here let me say that my y hesitat
lng ones stay because they are half
urged by others. But the lack of a
'decided plan or aohedule, to me, speaks
for a haphasard way of living. This
Is not successful In the long run.
It Is such a 'little thing. Tour wor
can be made to count for nothing or for
much. . Which shall It bet
It Is your place to escort the chaperon
to the hotel and to seat her at your
right . . j..'.- . r
Gifts for Baby
Dear Mm. Adams.
Will you kindly tell a youn man what
gift would be suitable fer a new baby T ,
, , R. S. W.
The gift may be- a dainty dress, a
Cloak, eap or tiny bit of Jewelry. Very
frequently an intimate friend or a rela
tive starts a bank account for the Utile
,one. ... ; . ,:.-. ,: - .
y j The JJse of t Napkin i. 1
Dr Mrs. Adams. '
. Will you kindly aay something about the
. use of a napkin, so, that I may tiow it to a
. (rlend who la not aa cretul aa he might
bet '.,:, (BLUB- EYES.
1 The napkin must not" be spread out to .
.Its full extent over the lap or 'Chest, r
and tucking it in the top of the waist
coat is a most reprehensible act. To
unfold the napkin once and lay It across
' the kneee Is enough. At the conclusion
of a meal In a restaurant or at the ta-
. ble of a friend . the napkin should be
filaced unfolded on the table when rls
ng. Thla rule Is not followed when vis
iting for a day or two in a friend's
house. Then the guest should do aa the
hostess does. - .
Recalling Invitations , ' " 1
t'Dear Mrs.' Adam, i w-.'. y
t . If thr baa been an illneM In a tfamily, v
Is It proper to recall wedding lnvttatlonf
,If ao, how Is thla donet EUGENIA.
When a death, an Illness or an ac
cident neoessltatea the cancellation or
postponement of a wedding celebration
for, which invitations have been Issued, ;
(the parents of the bride notify the In
vited guests of the change In the pro- 1
gram by promptly issuing printed cards
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water as hot as can be borne, let th
injured part oak Sn hot water and
bandage it , very tightly to keep the
welling down. When bandaging.
long strips ; of muslin or antiseptic
gause; wind around the sprained mem
ber, overlapping the edges and pulling
it aa tight and firm as possible.
For nosebleed or a hemorrhage from
the pose, bend the head back as far as
possible.' raise both arms and place Ice
or very cold compresses on the 'fore
head. ' 7r ' ' ; ' . '
Should the hemorrhage continue, get
the doctor as quickly aa possible. Chil
dren very often suffer from nosebleed.
This le caused by too much blood being
suddenly forced to the head, or a sud
den shock. -! .''.'
Such cases do not lasf very long,- for
as soon as the pressure' of blood lare
moved the bleeding a tops. In 'any case
have the patient ketep the mouth closed
and breathe through the nose. - The
blood inside 'will coagulate and the
hemorrhage cease.
Hiccoughs can. be stopped by taking
a drink of water wrthout breathing be
tween the awallows. ;
. An old rule for . this Is to- take nine
swallows of water without taking , a
breath. This Is a reasonably sure cure.
V wellin down. Whi band.ging. ua II VV TS I
but not infallible. Should the spasm
continue, summon a physician.
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recalling the Invitations or announcing
the postponement of the wedding. Such
announcements can be put out by a
stationer, who, in almple lettering,
1rlnts on cards, the else of those used
n correspondence, the terms of recall,
s follows: : a.-.
Owing to the sudden death of Mr. Thomas
Blank's father. Mr. end Mrs. Thomas
blank beg to recall th oard Issued .for
their daughter's wedding.
Enemies
Ytaap Mra. 'AAamo.
. What ahould be don In a eae Ilk thla? '
A woman -invited two person along with
othtr gueat to hr bom. On th night of
ths entertainment, she. - not knowing th
Drat two women wer acquainted. Intro
duced them. , Now It' happen that they
' had been enemlt for some tlm and wer .
not on speaking Urms, PUZZLED.
A gueat is not at liberty to refuse
recognition of an introduction made by
.the host or hostess, though the person
' Presented, should be an enemy. It will
Injure no one's dignity to bow politely.
. as if meeting for the first time a total
stranger; and then any further inter
course csn be tactfully avoided. ,
XX Friehf s Guest ';X:X'.
'. Deaf Mr.- Adnm. '"-.r"5 :-
I ihoulaV Ilk to know If It Is proper t :
call on a friend' gueat without an (nvlta
vtlon from the friend to do ao. MABSL.
If a guest is a- friend of yours, you
may call without an invitation; other-"
wise, you should wait for on to be
given. j
: At the Wedding Breakfast
Dear Mr. Adam. '-a . A A'
At our daughter's wedding ahull w have '
email ublea for th breakfast ? WIU you '
. tell m which on the bride and bridegroom
should eeeupyf i . .
' - Should th brld rut th eakt - t
. MOTHER AND FATnBR.
The bride" and groom and their at
tendants should occupy the center one
Of the small tables. .
i it U not usual to have the bridal oak.
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flFJdtJ?ajmon.ibfJvintittg
at a wedding breakfast; but If suoh ta
' the case, the bride make the first cut
and the slices are given first to those
at the bridal table. T
Breaking an Engagement
Deer Mrs. Adam.
When It Is abtolutely neoeaaary to do SO,
how la a dinner engagement broken?
A MAN.
A letter should be sent as soon as
possible to the hostess, either by spe
cial delivery or messenger, giving the
reason and expressing regrets.
Acknowledging a Gift
Dar Mr Adam. :
Jt hav read that It I proper to acknowl
c glftana soon aa they have been re
ceived. Nw, luppna one arrive Juat as ...
th brid la departing for ber honeymoon.
What ahould. be don tbtnT IN DOUBT.
As soon as convenient after reaching
her destination, the bride should ac
knowledge the gift. -
Formal and Informal Invitations
Dear Mra. Adams.
Will you pleaie tell me how to answer
formal and Informal . Invltatlonat
MARIA ANN.
, Every Invitation ahould be answered)
In the same form as that In which It is
written. If the invitation Is In the
'first person, sn informal, friendly note,
the answer 'should be informal and. In
.. the first person; If written in the third
person, the snswer, likewise, should be
In the third person, ss should th answer
to any Invitation that is engraved.
Traveling the Stairs O
-Dear Mra Adama- r ,'
. Plea tell m who-precede when a -"
man and woman go up or down the
'. stalief - -i - i
Won't you pie aay omethlnr about '
-- th courteay a man ewe hi wire?
- W. P.
Going down a'fllght of stairs the man
...precedes so that Itn case the woman
trips he may catch her. In ascending
the steps she precedes.
It is true that in many houses the men
forget to show the respect due to the
wife, mother and sisters. No one can
afford to do the injustice to his better
self of allowing himself to become care
less toward those wirh-whom he lives,
or to neglect the small sweet courtesies
that should be found in the home. If
anywhere. It la the home etiquette
that makes the publlo etiquette what
it should be.
A Precedence
Dear Mrs. Adam.
When enteritis the theater, does the
lady precede the gentleman or vloe
veraaT
Alio what it proper when entering- a
church, both at home and In a atrange
townT
SUBSCRIBER.
The lady precedes.
When there Is an usher present, th
woman'" precedes: otherwise the man
walks ahead of the woman If the aisle
la not wide enough to permit them to
walk together. Of course, In one's own
church an usher will not escort you to
a seat, and In this case the woman may
be given precedence.
A Second Marriage
I
Dear Mr. Adama.
I have bean a widow for tit yeart, and
expect te ba married next month,. Would
It be proper for me to have my white
aatln wedding dreaa made over for the
oecaalonT ANXIOUS.
On the oocaalon of a second marriage
a bride must not bo dressed in pure
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white. She may wear a traveling gown,
or, if her wedding is to be elaborately
celebrated in church, a handsome recep
tion costume is suitable. A toilet of silver-gray
or mauve cloth, ellk. satin or
velvet would be moat appropriate.
Desires New Friends
Dear Mr. Adams, "
Soma time ago I rad on of your anawerc
to, a girl Who had no frlenda and you
atked her to aend vou hr name and ad
dreaa, ao that you could make her ac
quainted with aome. Would you alio be
kind enough to do that for ma If I ahould
end In my nam? 1 alia! I aoon te 11 year
of ag and would like vary much to meet
omjnlc nw people.
"A WALLn-OWER."
The case to which you refer was a
speclflo one, which I do not care to dis
cuss.. - -
I cannot take the responsibility of
finding new friends for my readers; that
depends entirely upon personal effort.
Surely, .you come in contact with new
friends through business, church or your
own homo.
The Engagement Ring
.. Dear Mrs. Adam.
1 WU you plea tell ma upon which finger
th engagement ring should be placed T
AIM atat whether- a plain or aet ring , ,
should be and for such a purpos. A. B.
Th engagement ring Is placed on the
third finger of the left hand. Either a
plain or a set ring Is used for the pur
pose, but as a rule the latter la given.
1 Calling on Several j
Dear Mrs. Adama.' ... ..
. la It perfectly proper for a young man to -
eall on vera! ladle on th aam waning
at their bomet M. '.-..,
It would, be proper to do U the
women reside In the house where you,
call. r , '
r Hat and Coat for Aftcfnoon
Dar Mrs., Adam. ;-:-J. .'
1m a allk hat and a frock; eoat sjorn by m
man to a
rorouu asiernoon iuhcuvii r .-,
CoveCtfa ditto
ANSWERS TO BEAUTY
QUERIES 5
REPLIES to letters sent to the
writer of this department will'
be printed in regular order; but
no replies in print may be expected in
leas than three or four weeks.
Correspondents desiring immediate
replies to queries may get them by
inclosing a atamped self-addressed
envelope. Personal inquiries will re
ceive prompt attention if accompanied
by a atamped and addressed envelope.
Large Ears
Dear Mrs. Evme.
Will you kindly ten m whether butter
milk la good tor freckle T If ao, how la It
UaedT '
Is there any remedy far large arT
BEATRICE.
Buttermilk Is excellent for bltachlng
the 'skin and fading freckles. Bathe
the face with it the same as you would
with water twice a day. Allow it to
dry on the skin.
There la no way to reduce the slxe of
the ears : but with the present style of
hair dressing you can make them lesa
conspicuous oy covering them with the
hair.
' Spots vn Nails
Dear Mra. Symea.
Pleaa tall ma what make pie have o
many whlta apota on my fingernail, How
eaa I remove therat MARIE.
A bruise, lack of care or. ill health
can often be traced as the cause of
white spots on the nails. You cannot
remove them until they have reached,,
the end of the nail, when you can filet .
them away.
To Improve the Complexion
Dear Mr. Syme.
Will you tell me What I can do to rtd
my race of enlarged pore and blackhead T
My tao 1 in an awful atat of Irritation
all the time. Thla aecmaato be earned by -aarg
pimple and Ingrowing halra, which
ax vary painful, , JRED WINU.
By diligent treatment you will be able
to Improve your complexion. Cleanse
your skin thoroughly every night before
retiring with a pure soap, hot water
and a complexion brush, but be sure,
to rinse thoroughly with cold water, so
that the pores will not be left open.
After drying the face, mop it with
witch hazel.
Massage with cold cream, and the
above treatment will remove the eplder-
mis, or the outer skin, which has grown
over the hairs.
Aa soon aa a pimple appears bathe it
with hot water and, after putting the
kin dry with a aoft towel, apply the
cream for which. I am giving, th recipe:
FosattI Cream for Pimples
Extract of violet ................. 10 drop
Sweet almond oil 1 drama
Sulphur prclpltat Ii (ralna
. Lanolin 7i gralna
Oild of slno I temples
Tea '. : ' X..-
Dear Mrs. Symea.
Will tea harm th complexion any? t
never- drink coffee or cocoa, conaequently
X drink a great deal of tea. Ia there any
thing else I could drink that would ba
mora beneflclalT ALICE.
The amount of harm done by tea de-'J
penda to a great extent on the way ln
whlcU it is made and the quantity .'
which is taken.
Tea Improperly made Is so capable of
doing a great amount of harm to the
digestive and nervous systems that em
phasis must be laid on the necessity of.
making it properly.
The water ahould be, freshly boiled;
the teapot heated so that the water will
be maintained at the boiling point; 1
teaspoonful of tea is allowed to th cup.
.The tea ia measured out, put in the tea
pot and the requisite amount of boil
ing water poured over it. It Is then
allowed to stand on the kitchen table,
not the range, for two minutes, and
should- then be strained Into th teapot
for the table and served.- Unless the
tea loaves are strained off, the infusion
continues for seme time. This extracts
. the tannlo acid and the bitter princi
ples. In addition?- the prolonged Infu
1 slon dissipates the volatile oil to which
much of the fragrance of a good tup of
tea is- due.
A cup of hot water may bo substituted
for tea occasionally. .
a:a- i Face is Sagged
'-. Dear Mrs. Byrnes. - :' vA'i ...
My face haa a decidedly drarged appear
a nee. that la, droopi at the l.dca of
- noa and side of mouth.- Also, hav two
deep line between the eye. I hardly
think my face should hav auch an aged;
look, aa I am -but 30 yeara old. I have-
.; had a great deal of trouble and Worry In
my Ufa, which probably accounts for HAV'
If you ahould aUKKeat nuiawt. will you
kindly give me detailed Instructions, n s i
maasaglug Improperly may do mora harm .
-than goodt - &. V, A. '
-There Is nothing like worry to de
stroy one's youth. - If you wish to get
' rtd of the "drawn look" you must stop
worrying. ' What good doe it do you.
anyhow f Do not live in the past, but
live in the present. Count your blessing
-; Of today. - i
1 I think massage with cocoa butter will
- Mth.OiL .
Sor a lot for your face. The massage la)
most effective when it follows a wash
ing of the face in hot water. The tips
of the fingers should be dipped lntl
cocoa butter, which may be melted, and' !
the face pressed In firm, slow strokes.
Begin by placing the Angers on the Jawv
and drawing the skin upward in a slant-,
ing direction to the ears, the movements. "
belng continued for -about two mlnutes.
Another beneficial movement is made by
placing the fingers at the outer point of
each eye and drawing them alowly up-',
ward and outward to the roots of the
hair; so that they croaa the temples la'
a slanting direction. . '
Superfluous Hair
1
Dear Mr. Syme.' ' - ' "Ji '
X. Plea tell m om eanaes of opei-v
fiuoua hair. . T , '
a Does constant face ataamlng produce a
growth of hairf ,
1. Will peroxide of hydrogen Ueed on the j
fac1end to Increase the growth at halrf i
. , . ENID. A .-.
L Friction, animal fat and the appli
cation of oils to the skin will produce '
superfluous hair, , "
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, S. Mo. Peroxide Is used to bleaoh ths)
hair. -
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. Large Veins ' iXm
Dear Mr. Synaes. ' .
Can you tell me If eoeoa butter will ,
maka my face plump .If it I maeiagea -
well into Itf My cbeeka are vary thla.
Will it cause hair to growT
la there anything to be don for a noe
that gota red all the time! My no Is
th trial of my life. If I drink Sot tea
or eat a hearty meal or come la from th
cool air to a warm room, my noaa gats
very ted and burns until I can feel It
throbbing. . ,
What can be don for large vetna In h
hands? If I get nervous it eeema that all
my blood muat run to my band, for th t
veins stand out Ilk cord. They r not i.
big all the time. . - CARISSUatA.
Yes, cocoa butter : will fatten th
cheeks. It will not cause hair to grow.
Indigestion and poor circulation of the -blood
are evidently the cause of your
red nose. I advise .you to drink a oup of
hot water one hour before each meal.
iEmt leas. food, but chew every morsel of
It thoroughly. Avoid alcoholic drinks. (.
To stimulate the circulation of the blood,,
massage the nose gently several tlin
a day. ". -
I prescribe massaging for your hands..
It would be well for you to join a gym-;
naslum, where your system will be toned,'
up and your blood will circulate prop-,
erly. ... .. -
Face Is Fat
Dear Mrs. Symea ' ' '
Will you kindly ten me bow to redua
th flesh on uiy facet It la entirely too ;'
, fat. 7
Also ugget something good for enlarged
porea In the (kin. . . A REAUElL
It is never advisable to get rid of the
fleh on the face, for when the ftesi
ia gone the skin is usually left wrinkled
and - the person looks about ten yeara
older. - - - : -; -
To prevent the pores from becoming
too large yOu 'Should always remembaa
to rinse the face in, clear cold water
after cleansing it in hot water.' Tho
following recipe should help you: -
Lotion for Enlarged Joreg ".
Boric acid ...;.;4 t dram "
Distilled witch baxel ounces "
Apply with a nice ef eld llnan or a bit
-of absorbent cotton. , ,
Large Fores j
Dear Mr. Symea. '
1 hav very lera pora ever my (ere
Head, noaa and chin, which arc Ailed wlU '
a hid yellow aubitaaco. Th more S
aqueea out th more rapidly it trows. '
1 am very particular about my face aadj
alaray use a complaxlon brush.
. , A WESPERATTB OIRU
Cleanse your face every night beforel
retiring with a pure soap, hot water .
and the complexion brush. Be sure that
you rinse the faoe thoroughly. After
drying the skin use the lotion for whloA
I am giving the recipe; . - ;
Astringent Lotion ,
Alum
Alum ...,.,,,,., , u ,,
TO grains
Almond milk (tblckl XA ounce -
Rosewater ' I Ounce .
tlssohj th alum In th rosewater, then
pour gently Into th almond milk, tua .
constant agitation.' :.. ... -.
For the Hair
: Dear Mr, gyme. . - '
Will you pleas tell me omthtng to
ell and soften my hair, aa It I vrry dry
. and hardf ANXIOUS.
1 suggest that you use brtlitantm for
th hair, i You can buy It already pre
pared or you can hav it. made up ao
cording to the following recipe; t
j ' Sweet almond -oil .,..;....(. fluid enre
Alcohol ..,.,..,,,.,...,,. i; fluid oun
- , Olyrerln v....... ,,.,..., fluid eunae ,
iOll ef oa geranium ' Is n-;
Scars From Pimples 1
DeAr' Mr..i Pyitie, !
Will you kindly irg."t ina'mmt t
: my face, which bits aral '"'
leit from pfnoileaT fA- .
J- Th scan will gra.1uny ri..iij
The following.-' recipe will hftly it
. them .(jirtckly ; .
Eirlc acid.........'......... 41 r "
milln 1 t
Awly Ware reliriii.
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