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FOR the attractive hand there la re
quired aoinethlng more than soft,
white fleah. There must be an
evidence of care In the well-"
shaped, carefully groomed nails, with
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ADVICE ON
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HOW TO INTRODUCE
WilKX introducing a friend to
other people there are a few
very Important things to keep
In mind. Remember that an
introduction can never be to simple
nor too definite.. The words must be
spoken very distinctly, without any ver
bal flourishes. Do not give any oppor
tunity to the hearers to misunderstand
the name, or to fail to grasp it at all.
One thing is important: the toian is
always presented to the woman, the
younger person to the one decidedly
older, and the unmarried woman to a
matron. The woman's name is always
mentioned first. "Mrs. Carleton, let me
present Mr. Blank." is the simplest and
best fprm of introduction.
' BYequently. when a man Introduces
another, man to a woman, this form
may be -slightly varied. "Miss Brown,
1 wish to present Mr. Earl, who is very
anxious to meet you,1' may form an r
easy way to vary the usuaU conversa
tion. When Introducing members . of your
family the form may be slightly less
conventional. "Mother, this is Mr.
White," Or "Miss Canby. I think that
my father has not had the pleasure of
meeting you," is a graceful way. Oc
casionally a .hint of the identity of In
terests of a person may be linked with
bis name. "Mrs. Arden. let me present
tr. Richards, who- is interested in
rhe condition of the poor In the East.
You will probably have much about
which to falk," will place the strangers
on an interested basis at once.
Never should a woman be led around
a room full of guests to be introduced.
The men should be conducted to her.
A debutaJite should be led to the elderly
matron- or chaperon at a dance; at the
tide of i. friend the younger woman re-,
itfives introductions.
It Is better to adhere to the regular
forms of introduction than to depart
from the prescribed way and to produce -a
vggue misunderstanding.
Remember that the persons whom you,
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out hlcbthe first attribute! are uee
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Now, ft course, the good condition of
jour tiaua may lie secured by cara. and
frejjuent vtelts to the specialist, but the
meaning of thla little talk today la.
"Every woman her own manicurist."
More than that, I am goins- to hold out
a tempting offr of ten minutes a day
as the prWe of Beautiful nails.
The ordinary working outfit Is not ap
pallingfor the extensive manicure sets
have a great many superfluous Instru
ments which can be dispensed with by
the woman to whom time is valuable.
Scissors, a feather file, an orange-wood
stick and buffer are all that you will
need to attain good-looking nails.
Before beginning operations, a cleans
introduce are not on a friendly basla
with each other, and must address each
other on totally different grounds. Al
ways give the necessary Information In
an Introduction. "Oousln Tom" must
be given his full name, and "my friend
Mary" might be married: therefore, she
must be Introduced In this capacity.
It Is allowable In this country for a
married woman to uee the word hus
band in Introducing him. In Europe the
prefix Mr. la always used.
There is a prevalent' idea which has
crept 'nto the customs of society that
people under one roof, enjoying the hos
pitality of one hostess, need no Intro
ductions; but the hostess who Intro
duces thoroughly and gracefully will
prove more successful and decidedly will
be more appreciated by the guests.
The Introduction fs auch a simple af
fair, and so necessary, that it Is as
tonishing how many women bungle it
by awkward and embarrassing handling
of the subject. There is no necessity
for mistakes; there should be an easy
mastering of the simple facts, after
which I promise that the approach of a
person claiming an introduction will not
be the cause of consternation on your
part.
S lutions to Social
Problems
When Her Friends Call
D
i EAR Mrs. Adams.
I am (co'.nw to have a girl friatid
visit me for a week or no. Rhe ha
li tends here with whom I am not acquaint- '
ed. I want to know If I should remain in
the parlor (or a while after meeting her
frlenda.when thev calk and then leave, or
should I stay with them all the time they
are present? She Is an old friend of mine,
havlna; known her ten years, and I want to
da the riirht thing by her. ANXIOUS.
You should talk with your friend's
acquaintances a little while after
meeting them, making them feel wel
come in your home and then excuse
yourself. If they insist upon your
remaining with them, you'mayodo so.'
Addressing Brotlifr's Compan
ions Dear Mrs. Adams. N
1. Mv brothers have plenty of.youn tne
company. Is it bet that i should address
them all as "Mr." ?
i. What should T aav to a votinr man
wTienj he lettvea me after havinc skated .
ih him for a while?
J. Is it neceaearv for a vuns man to take
me horn when I am ehareroned, hv an
older slater?. A RE.TOER,
1. Unless you are very intimate .
THE OREGON SUNDAY JOURNAL PORTLAND, SUNDAY
&m&m mMHeM MiitiRm itm:$ : ; ,
ing bath of warm water and ft good
pure soap are neceasary. This prepares
the way for easy work. If hard water
be your fate, add a tiny pinch of borax
to the solution! I advise a dip Into,
olive oil for brittle finger nails. This
nourishes and moistens them with a
lubricant that approaches the natural
oil.
After two minutes of this troatment,
dry the fingers and shape the nails
with the file, one surface of which
tftould be smooth, to prevent any
roughening of the under side of the
nail. Your nails should follow the out
line of the fingertips, extending Just a
little beyond the cushions. If your fin
gers are square, you may point the
SOCIAL CUSTOMS
with your brother's chums you
should address them all as "Mr."
2. It Is the young man's place to
thank you for the privilege. After
he has done this, you may express your
pleasure.
3. If the young1 tnan has escorted
you and your sister to any place of
amusement, it Is his duty to accom
pany you both home.
Attentive No More
Dear Mrs. Adams.
How would you advise me to act toward a
nan whom I went with constantly for
nerly two years and a short time g"o
stopped juvlng ny attention to mT When
we meet he li as nice to me as he ever
was. Why. do you think, did he act tli!
way? How can I make him like me again?
Conduct yourself the same as vou
did in the past. Not knowing the
circumstances, it Is hard to tell why
the young man has treated .vou so.
You can do nothing to make him
care for you. I don't think you would
want a man's love if it were not
freely given.
After a Dance
Dear Mrs. Adams.
1. After danafna- with younr mn thev
usually , gay. "I enloyed that dance verv
much, ' or. "Thank you for the dance."
What should the young lady reply?
J. A few week ato a youna man whom
I met at a party asked me If I had a
steady fellow. I told him no. and he ak-d
me If I would be his (teadv compsnv. and
before answering; him I take the liberty of
writing- to you to find out what It mean?.
Can I go with any one. or just with him?
S. I received a Christmas eift from a
young man, and as I did not know what
would nleaae him I did not return the com
pliment. Was that rude of me? Should I
have found out what he wanted? EMMA
1. The young lady may reply: "The
pleasure s mutual, I assure you, Mr.
A.," or, "I enjoyed It, too."
2. 1 have never found out what the
term "steady company'' really means,
hut I have an Idea that the young man
vwould liko to have the privilege of de
voting his ttme and attention to you,
-and vice versa. If you know that he is
a man of good character, you might al
low hitn to call upon you, but do not let
him monopolise your time. Until you
are engaged to be married you are at
liberty to accept attentions from other
men.
3. The receiving of a gift does not
necessitate the giving of one In return
for it; so that your act was not at all
rude.
Hour for Entertaining
Dear Mrs. Adams.
1. I am a girl 1 veara of site. Is It
proper for me to entertain a boy of my own
me until 10 30 o'clock?
2. Mv sister and I are acquainted with
a. young- man who works In a telerraph of
fice In our town, when pnasln by he
often Invite- us- In for a little chat. We
have accepted his invitation aeveral times.
Is thla improper? '
3 T it all right for us to accent She
rompanv of boys rtepnina up to us on the
street if we hve mt them?
4 T have -been keeetna- company with a
-euna: man for abou a month He teems
to prefer my lister, who la pretty and
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nails slightly to Improve the appearance
of the outline.
With an orange-wood stick, carefully
push back the cuticle to bring the
half moon at the base Into view. This
mark has always been a sign of
beauty, and you should never allow
the white crescent to be eclipsed by
the ridge of skin.
Obstinate stains can be removed by '
an application of peroxide of hydro
gen, which forms the basis of nearly
every nail "bleach." A soft cloth or.
better still, a piece of absorbent cot
ton on the end of the stick will re
move any dark stains. Clean the
under surface as well as the top.
Another dip into the water and a
charmlne. while 1. althouch nice looking,
am rather unlet Shall I be frank and ask
Mm If he prefers her. or simply dlsmira
him?
6. A boy friend of mv sitter made an
engagement Kh her. but did not fulfil it.
Later, be called her on the telephope. made
some excuse (or hit absence, and asked
to call agatn. Should she have allowed
him to call?
Would It be all right for ua to wear
pink and blue pumps with nlnk and blue
dresses to the opera?
TWO ANXIOUS GIRLIES.
1. Yes. If your parents do not object.
I. A WTong impression Is made Vhen
girls make a habit of visiting men
friends In their places of business.
3. It would be very Indiscreet for you
to allow them to do so. If they are
anxious to ba with you, let them make
an engagement to call.
4 T'robably you are allowing Jealousy
to creep Into your heart. Why should
vou care if your boy friend is kind to
your sister? I should think It would
make things pleasanter for you all to be
friendly. Do trot maki yourself unhappy
by harboring foolish thoughts.
5. If the boy had a reasonable excuse
for not keeping the engagement, vour
elMer should have accepted it and given
him permjrsion to call again.
6. Ves.
Sorry Now
Dear Mrt. Adams.
I have been going with a young man for
a few veara. ajid we were engaged to be
man led. but for aume reason I got angry
with him and to(4 him to consider our en
gagement broken. He his never considered
it so. and hs of.en told me that he did
not. I now Bee that I was in the wrong,
and I love him aa much at ever. He wants
to come to aee me all the time, and I
would Ilk to have him but am to ashamed
of myself for not trusting him. What shall
1 do about It? MISS WORRIED.
If you were at fault and you both still
care for each other, why not allow him
to call on you and then offer explana
tions and apologies?
Roy and Girl Love
Dear Mra. Adams.
1. I am a boy about 19 years old and love
a girl of 16. Do you think It proper tor me
to kiss hr good-Dye when I call on herT
3. Wo have known each other since we
were children, so don't you think It would
be ah right for ua to go out together at
night without a chaperon?
I Would it be proper for ut to become
engaged, or do you think we are too young?
W. B. HOPEFUL
1. It is most Improper for a young
man to kiss a girl when he is not en
gaged to marry her.
2. It would not be proper, because you
are both too young to go out unchaper
oned. 8. You both are too young to think
about marriage, and should consljer
each other In the light of a friend.
Un gentlemanly Conduct
Dear Mrs. Adams.
Is It proper for a younr man to kiss a
Slrl a hahd when he Is not In love with
er? What Is the proper thing to do when
he Intlste In Ji'e of her protests?
Is a girl considered engaged to mtrrv be
fore the gentleman rivet her a ring? When
a girl falls out mith her sweetheart and
the ttill caret for him and ht Is too stut-
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drying will prepare the nails, already
visibly improved, for the final polish.
Hub a nail powder made of the fol
lowing ingredients on the surface,
using the soft chamois buffer:
Talcum powder, one-half ounce;
pumice stone, pulverised, two ounces.
Ml thoroughly; add fifteen grains of
carmine and a few drops of oil Of
rose. If a perfu.me Is desirable. Sift
through silk. bolting cloth.
lest too high a polish be attained,
the palm , may be briskly rubbed over
the nails, bringing an attractive,
healthy glow to the surface.
Is It worth ten minutes a day? Try
It for one week, and you will never
neglect the opportunity for beautiful
nails. They are within the reach of
every woman.
born to pay any attention to. her, what It
the rroper thing to do? lie ignores all
I'-Ueit. but the thinks he atlll cares for
her? A SOUTHERN QIRL.
in days gone by the kissing of a
young woman's band was considered a
courtesy, and it was the custom for men
to do so. Today it i considered quite
Improper, and it Bhould not be necessary
to remind a gentleman more than once
that he is taking liberties when he does
so. If a man cannot show a girl the
respect which is due her, he Is not
worthv of her friendship.
A girl Is to consider herself engaged
to be married if she has promised a man
to become his Ivlfe, whether she re
ceives an engagement ring or not.
A girl should have pride enough to
withhold from actually begging a man
for his love. His silence should be proof
enough that he does not care for her.
Informing the Girl .
Dear Mrs. Adams.
I am 1 year . old and going; wllh a young
girl of 1. Should I. when asking permission
to take her to a theater or any place of
amusement, tell her where I wish to go?
F. H S.
YcsNthls is a courtesy due her and
her chaperon.
Birthday Gift
Dear Mrs. Adams.
What would you suggest as a birthday
present for a girl friend of mine? I have
known her a year. Would a hatpin be ap
proprlete? OREBNT.
If you are not engaged to the girl, it
would not be proper to give her jewelry.
Gloves, candy, flowers or books are
gifts which a young man may, with
propriety, bestow upon a girl friend.
Mother Objects
Dear Mrs Adams. , .
1 am a girl or 16. and have ror tne las.
year been corresponding with a young man
of 20. I only care for him as a friend, but
my mother objects seriously to my keep
ing tip thla correspondence, yet she has
objections to the young man. What stiould
1 do about It. and how can I inform him
of what my mother wishes without hurting
the young jnan's feelings? ANXIOl'S.
By all means do as your mother wish
es and write a note to tha young man,
explaining her objections. I a:n sure he
will understand that your first duty is
to obey your mothnr, and will therefore
be reasonable enough not to feel hurt.
Giving Introductions
Dear Mrs. Adnms.
j. Would you kindly tell me If it is broper.
when Introducing a girl and txtf between
th agt of 15 and 16. to give their first
name??
2 Which Is - proper to say. Mister or
Master, when Introducing a boy about IS
year" of age?
S When a bov asks me to skate, what
shall I say If I care to. and what shall I
eay If I loVt care t,o? NAN.
1. Yes; the first and last name may be
given.
2. It would be more complimentary to ,
the young man to say Mister.
3 If you give an affirmative answer
tav. "I shall be glad to skate, Mr.
Smith." "I don't think I care. to skate
Just now, Mr. Jones." will, be sufficient'
for a negative answer.
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ANSWERS TO BEAUTY
QUERIES
OWTN'O to the greal
mall received and
apace given thla
great amount of
id the limited
department.
It is absolutely Impossible to
answer letters In the Sunday Ihsub fol
lowing tholr receipt. The letters must
be answered In turn, and this ofttlmes
requires three or four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an lm
' mediate answer must incloee a self
addressed stamped envelope for a reply-
This rule must also be compiled ,
with In regard to personal letters.
To Gain Flesh
Dear Mrt. Bymet.
I am too thin and would like to know
what I can do to get fat . Will olive oil
help me? What can I put with It to Im
prove the taste?
What can I take to make mv shoulder
broad and to develop my hipt and the .
calvet of my legs?
What la the remedy for a double chin?
J. M. A.
Olive oil is excellent for increasing
the flesh. To make the taste of it pleas
ant, pour the Juice of a lemon or orange
or grape Juice Into a tumbler, then add
the oil and then put In more Juice. Drink
as soon as it is prepared. The external
use of olive oil will help, too. Massage
the skin with It once or twice a day
Deep-breathing exercise and exercise
with dumbbells Will broaden your
shoulders.
To develop your hips, try the follow
ing exercise:
To Develop the Hips.
Stand alternately on each foot, swing the
free nmh pendulum fashion from the hips
hi h time allowing it to go at far forward
arM backward at poeelhle.
This exercise will develop the calves
of your legs:
Hie on the toes, count five; lower the
body until the heels almost touch the floor;
repeat eight times, touching the floor with
the Jieela only on the eighth count. Repeat
the name exercise, rising on the heels.
To cure a double chin, massage daily,
using the following movements:
FYom point of chin, with open hand preat
firmly downward, throwing the head back
ward at the same time. Bathe the chin and
throat frequently with cold water.
Obstinate Pimples
Dear Mra. Symea.
Is it possible for me to get rid of some
yery obstinate pimples that will not ripen?
I want something that will alto prevent
them from returning.
Wliat win drive away a red spot caused
by poison Ivy? PERPLEXED.
Bathe the pimples with a soft piece of
hnen dipped In hot water, dry and gen
tly apply the cream for which I am giv
ing the recipe:
Fosatti Cream for Pimples.
Extract of violet io fl-r0ns
2W.J lmnd "li lU drams
Sulphur precipitate T& grains
1-a.nolin ; grains
nxlda of sine t scruples
To avoid pimples, keep the skin clean,
the blood in good condition and do not
eat rich food.
To remove the red spots, apply an
ointment made of
Boric acid 48 grains
LnolIn i ounce
To Redden the Hair
Dear Mis. 8ymes
Please tell me what t eliall do to tarn
my hair red. It is black and I used to get
l dyed brown. Do you know of anything
besides a dye? ' FLORENCE GILBERT.
I know of no way to redden the hair
except by using a dye or stain.
Using Cocoa Butter
Dear Mrs, Hvmes.
I read In a recent paper that cocoa batter
was good for making the cheeks fat. Will
vou kindly Inform me how to uxe It? Do
you have to melt it before using, and do
you have to have a mussage cream to use
with It?
. .raJL vo" use . the cocoa butter and a
blackhead preparation at the same time
without harming the face?
A FRIEND IN NEED.
The . cocoa butter must be! melted
slightly by holding it over heat. Take
a little of the butter on the tips of the
fingers and then massage the cheeks
gently. The butter is a massage
cream, hence there Is no reason for us
ing the latter also.
Yes; use one every alternate day.
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A rranging
air
Dear Mrs Symet.
1. How should a girl of 17 wear her hair?
2. How can I make my evebrows and
lashes darker without harming them?
W. M. E.
1. In the most becoming manner,
avoiding all extreme styles. Hair rib
bons should not be discarded by a girl
of 17.
2. The eyebrow pencil may be used
to darken the brows and lashes with
out doing any injury.
Double Chin
Dear Mrs Fvmes.
wi l you kindly let me know bow to re
duce a double chin, and what to do for
enlarged pores? I use a good cleansing
cream and a mastsge cream about once a
week, but It makes my face to greasy ana
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does little good. Mrs. B- F. aL
To help reduce a double chin, prac
tice the following exercise:
I. .Ntami errct, In military position. Place
the hands lightly on the hips, Angers for
ward. Drop th chin slowly on the collar
bone; then throw the hewd back with
1iick. even movement that Is not a Jerk,
but yet puts all the muscles tnto quick;
play. Reuea. ten timet a. Turn the heed
qubkly tc the right tl.l the chin it jutt
w te right shoulder; then book again :
H'peat ten times; then turn the head te
the left In the xamo way. Repeat ten timet.
Do not tire the muscles of the neck, hut
gradually increase the number of exercises
dally, until you uui practice each one about
fifty timea without after discomfort.
For the enlarged pores and oily skin,
use this recipe: ,
Hnraclc acid 1 dramJ
Distilled witch hazel I ounces
flosewater Jounces.
Do not use any creams on your face,
for your skin does not need thsm; it
Is oily enough. . ,i
Cold Cream
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Desr Mrt. Hvtnet
What it the nam of a good cola eresns
that I may buy at tome drug store? M
skin is very sensitive, and powder, and
and
old cream make It scaly. DO you knoi
of any powder that will look smooth when
put on? I have tried all kinds of talcum
and other powders. UREtfORIA.
Once more I must repeat that I
cannot recommend any .proprietary
article. If your skin is inclined to be
scaly, you should use an emollient. I
think olive oil rubbed into the skin at
bedtime will do more good than any
cream you might use. There ars
many persons who are not able to us
powders on their faces on account of
the drying effect; probably you r
one of these. '
Thick Lips
Would you kindly advise me what to d
fur thick lips that have been caused by
bltlr.g? ,
You have given a remedy of celandine
leaves for removing auperfluous hair. Will
you please tell me if tha hair will return,
or It it will hurt the skin In ttme?
My eyelashea are falling out. Would
you pUae give me a remedy to prevent
this, or one that would make the eyelashes
grow thick?
On my nose there are little red blotches
that are vrry sore. Would you kindly till
me what I could do to cure them?
MART.
If you will stop the habit of biting;
the lips and apply tannin to them
every night, they will become ft nor
mal size once mure.
The celandine leaves will do no -harm
to the skin, neither will it rt
move the hair permanently. 1
Vaseline will prevent the eyelashes v
from falling out and will increase
their growth. Use the best quality,
so that no harm will be done if any
should accidentally get in the eyes..
Bathing the nose with a lotion mtd
of boric acid and witch hazel may
prove soothing and In time heal tue
blotches. ,
To Build Up the Chest
Dear Mrs. Symea. ' i
Will vou kindly advise tome method ta.
adopt or name some exercise to strengthen
and build up the chest? I am a, young
married woman. Ut yeara o.d. and do not
think It la Quite time for me to be atoeu-'
shouldered, although I am a great deal to, .
but 1 ache so, between my shoulders that ,
I can scarcely stand or sit with nir
shoulders held back. Can yon tell me hoar
to remedy this fault? HOPELESS. '
If you will spend fifteen minutes
every morning, upon rising. n exsr.
cislng, you will find a great Improve
ment In yourself after a reasonable
amount of time. Stand before in open
window, take a deep breath through)
the nostrils, keeping the mouth tight
ly shut, hold the breath for several
moments and then breathe It out ' '
again, slowly and steadily. This ex- i
ercise will develop the chest. To
t-tralghten your shoulders the follow
ing exercise will prove helpful: 8tnc
erect and raise and lower the shoul- " 1
ders in a circular motion. To relieve I
the pain between your shoulders, have ;
your back massaged with olive oil. t.-
Red Face and Nose
Dear Mrt. Svmei
I am troubled with redness of face and t
noec. Would you pleate tell m the cause
and alto a cure for It .,.:
What can I Ut remove frecklesT .1
OLIVE) D. i
Probably the redness is caused- by In- 5
digestion. This being the case, you "J
should diet and take medicine prt- f
scribed by your family physician. If t
poor circulation of the blood Is at th !
bottom of the trouble, massage your f joe
dally and take plenty of exercise.
To get rid of the freckles, use the (
lotion made by the following formulas t
Lemon and Glycerine Lotion. ;
Citrie acid tlemon) 4. ,',,,. frame-.. '
Hot water ,...,,,....,...........- 11 'in.t
Borax ,.,..:..,.i......-.i. 1 rt'u
Red- rote petals ...i.. ..... J euwa
Glycerine I u ' i
'. Dissolve the arid and borax hi the !; . v -'.-Infuse
the petals fa.' an Heart ' 1
through a Jllv b after tl l'if ,
hours: decant the clear nrtrta M tt th
glyoerlne. 4ply as ofttn sure;, .