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OK ALL exercises intended to
teach grace and beauty, dancing
In the most useful, for tt brings
Into play every muscle of the
body and lend to even thb most un
graceful people poise and dignity. There
fore, the little girl who learns the steps
of fancy dancing in early youth is very
lucky, for by th time she is 15 years
old she will have none of the ungalhli
ness that belongs to the awkward age,
and she will have an erect carriage,
which will be In itseit a rare beauty!
And teaching-children-to dance is not
a very difficult feat. It Is only a matter
of a few steps, which they themselves
will soon amplify Into a really pretty
picture.
The first position which they must
learn is to stand perfectly erect, with
heels together and th toes pointing
out. This la the foundation step of all
dancing and tha position from which all
future steps are taken.
THE IMPORTANCE OF THE
COUBTESY !
The next is one llttla step forward,
with the b'ody swayed in a graceful
manner, or one step back with a slight
Inclination. This last forms the cour
tesy, and you have no Idea how im
portant this Is In after life. Many a
time at a formal entertainment and at
balls, where the host and hostess or the
patronesses stand at the door to receive,
every one courtesies instead of shaking
hands. It is a great saving of strength
for both receiving party and guests. So,
of course, one must learn to courtesy
gracefully, for It will nt do to merely
bow, nor will it, do to incline the head.
The whole body must bend prettily.
This much learned, why not teach the
The Etiquette of Christmas
Gifts
CHRISTMAS presents to many rep
resent the most Important prob
lems of the year, for not only
must they be purchased, but they must
be carefully selecte'd, wrapped and sent
to their destination. All of this takes
time, and sometimes many amusing con
tretemps arise from the custom of giving
presents. And there Is etiquette, too, that
must be observed, for there are only certain-
things that men may present to
girls, there are certain formalities ahout
cards and the like, and there are laws
about the time the gifts are to be sent
and how they are to be conveyed from
the donor to the recipient, ?.
There was once a rather impecunious
young man who was very much In love
with a young woman, and when Christ
mas came around he realized that he
must give hr something, but the prob
lem was what? His limited meanslor
bade any of the ordinary gifts and, be
sides,' he wished to show his regard by
giving her something that was really
nice and, perhaps, a little out of the
ordinary, "go al last he found a brWlanV
tdreai He' would give her-sycake of very
good soap,: Wo he sepifred the town to ,
find the best, and finally discovered a -
kind that suited both his taste and his
pocketboolc This he dispatched t her.
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if ' :
barn danca? It la very popular .t pres-
ent, and, as it must be done in a grace-
ful way. It is decidedly good exercise for
confldent of the wisdom of his choice.
But. unfortunately, the girl did not
know th thought expended upon the
little offering and did not know of the
very small sum of money the young
man had at his disposal, so she was
very angry, and took the gift as a per
sonal insult to her cleanliness a
thought that the poor man could not
have foreseen.
It really Is quite a pathetic little tale.
Is It not? But. according to the rules of
etiquette, a man may give a girl to
.whom he Is not engaged only three
things books, candy or flowers. Any
one of these may be as handsome as
could be desired, and any one of them
may cost as much money as the young
man may care to spend; but Mrs. Grun
dy haa decreed these many years that
nothing else may be given by a young
man to a young woman unless they be
engaged to be married. In that case he
may. with propriety, give her any pres
ent, no matter how . magnificent, save
that it must not be wearing apparel or
anything really useful Jewels, neck
laces, rings but not even a pair of silk
stockings.
A "ONE-WAY" RULE
A girl seldom gives a man a present
unless he be her flancs. She heed feel
no hesitancy about accepting- the tnree
prescribed gifts from any and every roan
she knows, and she need not worry
about giving something In return. Mtn
give presents to girls, out gins are n
called upon to send men presents unless
they want toj'ln that case they may .
give books, a sofa cushion, bits of em-V
broidery, or handknit neckties. The ap
parel rule does not define what men
may recelvs from girls. .
i Presents are usually sent by messenger. "
- by mail or byexpress.accordingtohelry
sis and the dtstspcev of V their dest!na-l
7 Hon. .When they are to bis delivered -fer
THE OREGON SUNDAY JOURNAL, PORTLAND, SUNDAY
G oncerninc Health and Beauty
By
the little beginner. Kor this, start in
tne original position with heels together
and toes turned out, take one step for
a messenger they should be sent the
day before Christmas or early on Christ
mas morning. Of course, no one would
dream of giving a friend a present and
asking her to carry it home herself.
Even if your friend comes to call while
you are doing up the very gift you have
Intended for her, it must be laid aside
until she has gone, when you will send
it or take It to her house.
The gift Is to be a pleasant surprise,
and must come without any trouble on
the part of the recipient. Furthermore,
never expect or ask her to open your
gift in your presence. It is putting a re
straint upon her that is not courteous.
Also, never give to any one a present
that Is not done up in paper, and at
tractively done at that. Do not send out
your gifts as they came from the store.
They, are far more acceptable it they
show some little personal touch; and
when narrow red ribbon may be pur
chased for 1 cents a piece of twelve
.yards, and when It is so seasonable and '
pretty, surely it is worth using for the
precious little packages.
A card should be sent with every gift,
and should be tied to the outside with,
ribbon if the package is to be delivered
by messenger or personally. It need not
necessarily be an engraved card. It may .
be one of the numerous and dainty lit
PERPLEXITIES SOLVED
i Should Not Be Done
8 IT proper for a romg man sad young
wootaa to stand talking onitn VIT
OL1VS.
I
Nol If the young man has anything
to say to the girl then he should Join
her and. walk with her at least a few
steps. Men-and women should never
stand on the street to talk. , The street
Is a public highway and not a drawing
room, ' . ; " ' "
MRS..HLNRY SYMES
ward with the right foot, bring the left
up with a slight hop toward the front
and then put it down In front of the
'right foot. This is repeated, and then
the couple swing oft into a walti step.
The dance in, after all, nothing but the
first and second positions endlessly re
peated. With the steps used in dancing one
must also learn to contror the arms
and hands so that both feet and hands
will move In perfect unison and the
body should always be held In an erect,
yet graceful position. This is one of the
principal points in dancing, for while
beautiful steps may be taken, they will
be of no avail unless the arms are
equally graceful. Then, too, the head
must be held In an unstrained and nat
ural positior, no matter how intricate
the steps may b: whl.e the hands must
also be at rest. All of this is conducive
to self-control, or rather to the perfect
control of all the muscles separately and
distinctly.
GAINING GRACE
It Is almost needless to point out the
perfect poise and the equilibrium ac
quired by the dances, for with the In
tricate steps.'one foot must be made to
support the entire weight, while the
head and arms must be depended upon
to maintain the center of gravity. It
is, therefore, well worth while for llttla
girls and boys to begin dancing even
before they are 8 years old. It Is an ex
ercise they will enjoy, and the trouble
It takes to initiate them Into Ita dlffl-,
cultles wlU be well repaid when the
awkward age arrives.
tle cards or tags that are always sold
In such great variety at this season of
the year. A bit of holly, caught In the
ribbon, shows that time and thought
have been expended upon it, and makes
doubly valuable the offering.
And when your friends show you their
gifts take a Httlo time to admire them
and do not always compare their pos
sessions with your own.
Learn, too. not to look upon Christmas
as a time for getting all you can for
as little as possible, and do not regard
It as an exchange. If you are really fond
of Mrs. Robinson send her some little
gift. If she does not give anything to
you. and If Mrs. Jones around the cor
ner," that you did not bribe, does, do not
worry. Nothing made her do It and she
probably did it from the same motive
that made you offer a remembrance to
Mrs. Robinson. And remember that it
is far better to give presents to no one
than to give a lot of useless things to
your rich friends, thinking that yo will
get back better trian you gave. Regard
the holiday as a feast and look upon the
presents as pledge of friendship and
nothing more Bearing these two facts
In mind, you cannot go wrong, either
In the Intricacies of the law of etiquette
or in the better and more laudable law
of love.
Should He Visit Other Girls?
Is tt right for a man who la engaged to
a girl to so osJIIng oa other StrlsT Uy
young man la always calling on my friends, i
ad I do oo think it is nice. ANXtu
Wbfte, not considered improper in any
way, it is certainly not a very consid
erate thing to dou If he wishes to go
calling on your frierlds, he should tag
you with him. Talk ta-l pirn ouletly
about -it and And out what hs wishes
MORNING,, DECEMBER 13, 1903
to do. Tell hhn, lie does not show you
proper respect. Understand, however,
that this will not hold unless you are
really engaged to the young man un
less he has asked you to marry him.
If you are following that pernicious
practice of keeping company, then you
have no control over hiB actions.
Christmas Presents
Ii It necessary for me to p'nd ChrlMmaa
present! to all my frtetvls who send them
to me? I hsvs not so much money as they
have and I find it very hard to do.
CLARA.
It is not necessary to sand presents
to any one If you do not desire to do
in. If you would like to show them
that you have not forgotten them at
Christmas time, then write each one a
nice Irttle note wishing them the com
pliments of the season. Do not feel
embarrassed if you receive presents
from persons whom you have not re
membered with a gift.
Is it Necessary?
Should a man take oft his hat to an
other man when h meets him on the
street? FRED.
It I not considered necessary that he
do so unless the other man be accom
panied by a lady or unless he be much
older. In that case, of course. It Is a
question of respect. It is perhaps bet
ter to always bow politely when speak
ing to any. one.
All About Gloves
FASHIONS in gloves come and go.
Sometimes they are long, some
times they are short, sometimes
they are half length. But, no matter
what their length, If they do not lit eas
ily, the hands appear short and clumsy.
The fingers of the glove should be quite
as long as the fingers of the hand.
Besides, tight gloves do not last,
which Is an economical consideration.
Refined and thoroughbred women never
wear gloves too small for them, and
many Insist on a glove large enough- to
wrinkle, which may be taken off or put
on In an Instant. Kid gloves wear
much longer when they are properly
put on the first time. "It is quite a
science," said a charming woman. "The
hand should be perfectly clean, dry and
cool. Never put on gloves when the
hands are moist or too warm."
First push In the four lingers, leav
ing; the thumb out and the rest of the
glove turned back over the hand. When
the fingers are on. thanks to tho gen
tle movements of the other hand, draw
on the thumb with great care, placing
the elbow on the knee. After this, draw
back the wrist of the glovo and button
the second button, continuing this all
the way up. Then return to the first
button, and you will see how easily It
fastens without cracking the kid. which
often happens if buttoned first. Besides
this, the buttonhole will not bo
stretched, which Is of great Importance
If one wishes the glove to look well as
long as it lasts. Never rull gloves
off by the finger Hps, hut by the wrists.
they will thus be turnrd wrong side
out, and the moisture communicated
from the hand be quickly evaporated.
When they are dry, put them carefully
away In a proper place. Otherwise,
they will shrink, split easily, and be
come useless. Never roll up gloves. Place
them at full length in a. box or per
fumed sachet. Light gloves should be
put away between two pieces of white
flannel to preserve them from contact
with dark gloves, which might stain
tbem- , w
. Black kid gloves are renewed by ap
.flying with a feather a few drops of
good black Ink In a spoonful of olive;
oil and drying in the sun. Light gloves.
If tnly slightly soiled; may be cleansed,
with flour. If much soiled, use neufa
line. In buying gloves examine the jeama
wlL f the stitching shows a. drawn ,
White place on the kid they will be eas
ily torn, will last only a short "time and
n ver look well. 1 1 . . -
Silk-and woolen gloves are much
warmer than kid. For very cold days
fu'r-llnd gloves may be used), or woolen
gloves drawn ver kid ones. ,
.
M
Aids to Correspondents
OWING to the large amount of
mall received and the limited
space given this department, it
is absolutely impossible to an
swer letters in the Sunday Issue follow
ing their receipt. The letters must be
answered In turn, and this ofttimea re
quires three or four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an
immediate answer must inclose a self
addressed stamped envelope for a re
ply. This rule must also be complied
with in regard to personal letters.
Circulation Very Poor
My blood does not circulate, my feet am
always rold at night, ana my nose la very
red all the time. Please tell nio what to
do- Mrs. B. B.
I think your trouble is due to lack of
exercise. Get out in the open air a
much as possible, take long walks and
deep breathing exercises. It' may be,
too, that you wear your clothing too
tight. This very often stops the circu
lation of the blood and causes much dis
comfort. I am giving you here a recipe
for a lotion to cure a red nose.
Lotion for Red Nose.
I'owdered calamine 1
Zinc ottde so
dram
grains
Glycerine . li aram
Cherry-laurel water 4 ounces
This lotion should he well ahsken before
It Is mopped on the nos. It may be used
both morning and evening.
To Reduce the Weight
I am a girl eighteen years old and weigh
170 pounds. Will you please tell ms In
your next Sunday's paper what I can do
to reduce my weight? M. W.
To reduce your weight the best thing
to do is to take plenty of exercise and
diet yourself. Any directions for exer
cises that are given on this page will be
good for you to try. Here is a diet
list to reduce the weight:
Rules for the Reduction of Flesh.
Avoid all starchy and sweetened food, alt
cereals, vegetables containing sugar or
starch such aa peas, beans, corn, potatoes,
etc. Have your bread toasted; sprinkle It
with salt Instead of using butter. Milk. I
regret to say. If It be pure and good, la fat
tening. Skimmed milk may be drunk. Hot
water is an excellent substitute for other
liquids. Add a little of the juice of limes
or lemons to it. tf your choose. Limit your
sleeping hours to seven at the outside. No
naps. You must take exercise.
MA? TAKE.
Fish Nearlv all fresh fish, boiled.
Muts Iean beef, mutton or lamb, chick
en, game (sparingly).
f!pKS Rolled or poached on toast.
Farinaceous Stale bread, dry toast or
crusts (sparingly).
Vegetables Spinach, lettuce. celery,
cresaes, asparagus, cauliflower. onions,
white cabbage, tomatoes, radishes, olives.
Deaserts Ripe fruits only acid variety
preferable.
Drink One cup of tea or coffe. with
out milk, cream or sugar, or one glass of
pure water, sipped at end of the meal.
ML ST NOT TAKE.
Roups, salmon, blueflsh, eels, salt fish,
pork, veal, sausage, made dirges, fats, po
tatoes, macaroni, outmeal, hominy, apices,
rice, beets, carrots, turnips, parsnips, pud
dings, plus, pastry, oa4u. sugars, sweets,
milk, cream, malt or spirituous liquors,
bprrs, sweet wines, champagne.
If you cannot walk at least five miles a
day. and do not wheel, go to one of the in
stitutions where mechanical massage Is
given, t-everal of my correspondents report
excellent results from this method of get
ting the vigorous exercWe they require. The
system is thoroughly wholesome and not ex
pensive. In reducing flesh one fact to rec
ollect is that -at 1.1 carbon. Oxygen de
stroys or burns out carbon. You must con
sume the carbon by the dstygen you take
through your lungs. The more exercise
the more oxygen and consequent deatruotlon
of fat by the one healthful method of cur
ing obesity.
The more starch and sugas you eat. the
mora carbon to burn away.
Bust Developer
Please give me a bust developer, as my
bust Is small? J- J. B.
The following recipe is one for an ex
cellent bust developer. Use as directed
and you will find It most beneficial:
To Develop the Bust.
Lanolin 1 ounca
Cocoa, butter ounce
8eet almond oil 1 ounce
Put In small bowl set In hot water until
melted. Beat together and cool. ,fiach
night after laying hot cloths 50 bust, rub
it In by massaging gsntly and thoroughly
in a circular direction for fifteen minutes.
Large Pores
I have been told that when putting on
powder one-should alwas s Brst apply a good
cream, la this aof f
People tell me 1 have a very fair ekia. but
I doaot think so. as I hava some large
porss. These I keep as clean as passible,
washing mr face with warm water evsry
night and applying one ot the past chains -known.
Mv health Is very good, and I can- .
. not Imagine those large pores to be tha
cause of internal trouble. tthi -are ot f
vend larga but I would, like be rid ot
theti. Vo you ' tbiak this Is possible?
nmn. J , CONSTANT KKADER.
i Teu can never ejtpict to get rid of
large pores if you continue to use pew-'
I
der on your face. The powder sink
Into the pores, and although you
cleanse them with cream you can never
get all the powder out, therefore you
understand my reason for saying the
pores will always he large aa long a
you use powder.
Bloom of Roses
Will vou kindly publish you- recipe for
Bloom bf Rosea attain, aa I did not see it
the last time It appeared. Have tried other
recipes you have published and they were
fine. Thank you in advance. M. L. K.
I am giving you the recipe you de
sire. Thank you for your kind words
of appreciation.
Bloom of Rosea.
Hosanttln
White wax
fipermacetl
"White petrolatum
Alcohol
. T7 grains
114 ounces
. So grains
. JSO grains
M Buld dram
Perfume to suit.
Dissolve the dye In alcohol, add this so
lution to the fata previously melted and
Incorporate the whole together, continuing
the stirring until the mixture has cooled.
To Fatten the Cheeks
My cheeks are so very thin that evary
one imagines I am In poor health, when la
reality f am not. Can you give ma any
thing to fatten my face, for It la very
annoying to havs people sympathise with
me when I do not need It. A READER.
To make the cheeks plump rub a good
skin food in with the following move
ments: To treat the right cheek, place
tho thumb of the left hand Just beyond
the corner of the mouth on the left
cheek as a brace. Make rotary move
ments upward and outward, beginning
at the corner of the mouth and making
three diverging; lines of manipulation
over the cheek. With the right i hand
treat the left cheek. About six timeg
over each cheek is sufficient.
For Tender Feet
I have a position which compels me ta
stand on my feet all day. By night my
feet are so sore and tired I don't know
what to do. Can you give me something .
to ease them ? R. V.
Here la a recipe for a lotion which
will be very good for you to use on' your'
feet:
Tor Tender Fet.
Wash the feet in oold water night and
morning nibbing dry with a rough towel,
after which mop on the following solution:
Salicylic acid H ounoe
Icool 4 ounce
This is not only refreshing, but will
often prevent disagreeable perspiration.
Hair Tonic
What can I do for my hair? It Is falllne
S. 1P?.'dtu"J' x,? de anything
you tell me. for I don't want to get bald.
MADGE.
To prevent the hair from falling use
the following recipe for a lotion. Be
sure to rub the mixture thoroughly into
the scalp, else it will do no good.
For Falling Hair.
,of nui vomica...., I ounce
Xo, 5..rir. IJ2SS
efAthyhalr!r1 Um k to' the rooi.
A Question
I Inclose a prescription for a cure for
warts. I have sent to different druggists
all over the country and they all sar they
never heard of para form. Please tell ma
t u l. o I can get the prescription
nlled? FANNT. .
Paraform is not a misprint, aa I am
sure that yeu must by this time think
It to be. it is a listed name of the
powder of formaldehyde, and - tit
warts it is mixed with collodion to
make a paste. I hope you will have
no further trouble with it. ' , .
Blushing
I would appreciate very much If you
would have published ra your columns soma
Information a" regard blushing
y ANNIE H.
There Is nothing to do to overcome
blushing but to learn to forget your,
self. Self-consciousness is the whale
cause of the trouble, and it can only be
checked by will power, r
From a Girl
I am a young girt In my tn', Wr"V.-
are beginning to form around mv r.. -i
and nose, can you gve me - " ,
to get rid o( thm ? ' I'XMAiiuit.n
: : A very. good cure for wrinkles is nii ' -ot
the following Ingredients:
' Xhire for 'Wrinkles!,
? Rosewatef .,, , u, 1
Simple tlnclur. of t"iiHn ,.J . - s
"- Altar et roses.,.,.., ,..,.',.(..,. I o ,
e Tut the Mr In' t-asi Ait
:f (tincture of -a ". a d-t-e at ,a l., AH
' attar roata an 1 .!;. t