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I'HINO many years fnninhiO
gowns were limn ami every one
lind tf. know how to manage a
train, bosh in the house and in
the Htret't But thtn carao the mas
culine girl with Ivir skirts of walking
Ipngth, her severe shirtwaist and her
free-and-easy stride ; so the feminine
woman wna almost lost, and aa for
trains, they w?re forgotten. But now
the tyrant Fashion bus decreed ,tlmt
feminine styles must return; that whole
gowns must be accepted and that trains
must be worn by Ihe old and the young,
the thin and iie nearly-fat. A lost art
must la revised. What help is there
for us? Artists are modeling long
gowns, while the once-victorious shirt
waist and walking skirt have been van
quished and put to llight even among
the byways and hedges.
And with the long skirt has come the
necessity of relearning the manage
ment of the train. Woman must
learn to walk and to stand. She must
learn to cntr a robin and to mount a
fUsht of stairs. And in the difficult
feat of recalling a forgotten art 1 want
to help lu. r.
it is necdkiss to tell any woman to
keep the length of her gown in mind.
It seems to be second nature, and even
If Khf has not worn long skirts for
nts Mitfedtp rit6i uteris ndi
Training for Children
, , HH.DRFN should be goen and
-not heard,-' was probably a
j very useful bit of admonition
a tew generations ago, but
certain it is that at the present time it
liaa fallen into innocuous desuetude.
Nevertheless., it was a cood rule, and
Etiil iS.
Last rummer I spent at a hotel which
happened to b" overrun with kiddies of
ail ages, and not one in the whole num
ber had what I would consider eve
passable manners. Now, chihlrerl may
be as spoiled ps thctr parents aVJow
thorn to he '.n their' own hom-es, but
Is H fair to inflict then upon strangers?
In the hotel of which I speak there was .
a large sun parlor especially for the use
u the. guests who preferred the shelter
of the house to the brilliant sun out
doors. Would it not seem that they were
entitled to that much comfort? I should
have thought so, but the mothers of
the numerous children evidently thought
otherwise, for th? parlor was filled with
children until ijuite late In th evening.
They plajed bjall -ind tag, they ran and
snrleked until trying to rest was as Im
possible as attempting to count the
sand on the beach outside. This Wits
only one example of the many that have
come to piy attention. -
Children always want to"ilay where
grown-ups are sitting, but surely there
is rn one who would admit that-they
could not so far. control their -off spring
Ha to keep them' In the playroom al
lotted to thenn Furthermore, it is not
good " tor, ehlldren tfy nlnv nroutwt
grown people. They should be mad to
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many years it takes but a moment for
her to become . accustomed to the
change. That is a peculiarity of fem
ininity. The only part thai she will find html
is the handling of the narrow skirt of
the present, for it 1h really no easy
thing to do even for those highly
educated in the art. A gown of only a
yard or so in width must be so held
that It does not drape the figure too
closely. This is considered vulgar and
must be avoided. It ntust also be held
so that it is clear of the .ground all
round. To carry it thus it Is necessary
to revert to the French method of
holding It with both hands. This Is
satisfactory, and. when it Is gracefully
done, it is not an ugly fashion.
When carrying a muff, of course, using
two hands is not a possibility, unless
one. is an octopus; so one hand must be
made to s rve. In that case, let it be the
left, and while the skirt may be well
gathered up see that the lines are all
us straight as p..-i?ll,lo and that, it Is
not pulled too closely. When standing
they cm enjoy themselves without do
ing any damage.
The first jIcs on a child should learn
Is obedience, Jjn: second respect. Do
hot complain that Johnny is so sliy
tliat he will not recite for your friends.
It is a remarkably good trait and de
serves commendation, not lamentation.
Do not teach the child to show off. it
is not good for liim -- it makes him con
ceited, and it spoils his childish un
consciousness of self. Krep him in the
background as much as possible and
the result wjll be a polite and respect
ful child.
Do not correct Jlarla in public, either
before grown veople or other children.
It is undignified and does n0 good. Wait
tint 11 you may talk to her quietly and
alone; then explain her fault and tell
her what she should have done. Above
all, do not punish either John or Maria;
when other children are around, even in
such a harmless way us sending him or
her from the-room, it Is decidedly dam
aging to the self-respect and does no
good. If either of the children misbe
haves when your friends are present,
then a whispered word will send him
from 'the room, but there is no need to
make the act conspicuous.
TitE VALUE OF EXAMPLE
As the children grow older, do not let
them be rude to each other, and, above
ail. do not let two little girls whisper
seorets when a third little slrl is pres
ent. Boys are always more or less rude
among themselves, though - they may
early learn the laws of hospitality.
Teach them to settle their differences
on neutral ground, and they will never
forget th lesson, very; useful one In
after life.
1 do not think that discourtesy Is In
herent In children. I am sure It is some
what of an acquired art, and must, -therefore,
be checked as soon as it ap--pears.
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-About the matter of ifiTerf upVliig.' A
child wlf often ask a quest lonbecaue
he really wants to know. It Is easier to
-answer It aniT exptalaT'poIUely that yon ;
.ire talking to some one else, than 1
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C oncerning Health and Beauty
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always let the skirt drop, even lf it
trails on the ground. Holding the skill
while the figure is in repose Is .not a
pretty posture and should be avoided.
. Trailing skirts are really not intended
to bo hold at all, so when in the house
always allow the train to lie a train.
Nothing Is more ungraceful than to see
a woman holding a long rkirt when she
i.s crossing r dancing room or hotel
floor. Why have skirts made so they
will reach the lloor if they are alwajs
to he hehi at short skirt length'.'
Sometimes during the present day the
er trailing .skirts arc long lu front,
hi Hint even to cross the room seems
impe.-siblc. In that ease ii j. iprffi1 per-mLv-iMe
to hold it u; directly In the
niiiMIe of the front, hut always do this
so that it does lu-t spoil the lilies of
ut Air li iinininR W hen going upstairs
hold !!o- skirt in front with both hands,
ivvrr hold the troin. for the long skirt
h never seeu to such adva nt age as im
ii - stair v n v. It Is In that position that
its long line I-; per fei ion.
Instructions to "Slop Interrupt lug"' lu
such a case you are interrupting your
self. How many times, too, does mother
interrupt Johnny while he Is busily
playhiK. to get some tiitle, or look for
a lost article. He cannot say 'Don t
Interrupt." for tlwii he Would be called
naughty and impertinent.
Yes, mothers can be rtids to children,
and most frcejuently ar''- And who eNe
have the children to learn manners from
excepting mother? A set of titles of
conduit cannot be remembered when
no practical example is givl'n. Can a
baby remember to say please when no
body says please when addressing him?
And the innumerable questions that
children ask are not Intended to tease.
Jf you were set down in a strange
world, where you understood nothing,
would you not ask questions, too? I am
sure you would; so why blame the baby?
Table manners are a very essential
part of a child's education, and the wise
mother takes many dais to teach the
rudiments of proper l andlinz of spoons
and forks, taking up one little point
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PERPLEXITIES SOLVED
A 'Very Rude Young 'Man
rlLTj yoo nleaSP fclvp me your' orln-
' Ion In this Matter? I Invited -jl
Vvung nian lo fcunday evenu.K
supper to joiu uii. uiiio .iok-. mi-. n i
had invited, lie diu not appear at the ii:i.
af;VOinLtd. aid t liave im, i,tati a iiord
freiin mm since. Don't ou tliink life should
have given me hi excuse? DlGNtl'lKP
Mrs. Syfiies has handed me your let
ter, and- I take great pleasure In
answering It, "I want to call your at
tention,, however,' to the fact that let
ters cortcerning etiquette should bo
sent to Mrs. Chester Adams.
If the young man you mention was
unable to accept your invitation, he
should have IntornuM you at once and
xV,atIre't ths cifruiLiataiiues.
Not Urgent
I It neerssary forrthe husband to be
T -pfeseiit-at Bff wlfri fJFS "al h.,rne''T
xf.wuivr.p.
i Although it Is not absolutely neces
A wary,.. the iTidfreum should try to
Mrs. Henry S ymes
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y9JXsr JPswtv? To o
each. day. .No one may ;,atn every
thing in a minute, inn toililien mvst
cat nie, ly t.eioio I hey make pleasant
guests iii oth-r p. ol'1."h douses. Teach
tie m to take hid one piece ,..f bread at
a time, never to take a ;,econd portion
when some of the tirst remains on their
plates, end to n-k politely for w'al they
want.
Teach them to !,. quiet when older
people ate u round, and when they go out
to lunch explain to them, po tfley will
remember that they should thank their
hostess for having had them at her
house.
Thin. too. a child from the time he Is
able to write at all is perfectly able to
write his own notes of thanks, ard
should bo encouraged to do so. Only by
constant practice can he learn thclaws,
of children's or grown-ups' etiquette.
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be present at his wife's first "at
home. ' However, if his business calls
him away, the wife should make his
excuses to her guests.
Do Xot Embarrass the Child
I'o yeu think It Is better to punish a
child for misbehavior heioiw cunitmny or
shauld I wait until 1 have her alone.'
MOTHER.
lf the chl.M has done no gicat crime
and only a lew words urfe net essary. It
is all light to speak to her before com
pany, hot should she need a good scold
ing, wail until the guests have leu.
The Proper Form
What Is the i-rc'ii r way. to write an ac
eiptaie e o a i i i;ivn tiy a uileH i'i--s-hbait
and tm wife- RTfUKXT.
In answering an Invitation' ot m
IPa4, whether it Inr -mit -by nr person
with a. title, or whether It Is sent hy.
an ordinary Mr. and Mis., the form of
the acceptance fehould be the; asms aa
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the imitation itself. For Instance.
If the invitation reads; Honorable and
Mrs. So-and-so request the pleasure of
Mini' presence, etc.. tho answer should
be: Mr. and Mrs. .So-and-so accept the
kind invitation uf the Honorable and
Mis. So-and-so... To insure using the
right form, just refer to the invita
tion you received and you will not
make a mistake.
A Question of Correspondence
N it ritfliT fei- a Kiel to ask a man to
ceriesiw.a.t with ter? IN' NOCK NT.
All such Hups to friendship must be
left to the man. It is not a girl's
place to take the Initiative, and, al
though she may accord him favors,
she should not offer them. If the man
o i e. S ? Jim
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Mrs. Symes' Aids to Correspondents
O
WTNO to the great amount of
mail received and the limited
space given this department, It
i. absolutely Impossible to an
swer letters in the Sunday issue follow
ing their receipt. The letters must be
answered In turn, and this ofttimes re
yunes three or four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an Im
mediate answer must, . Juclose a selt
addressod stamped envelope for a le
ply. This rule must also be compiled
with in rogaid to personal letters.
Tu Slruighjen Hair
I an mju i. II me au thing that mu
flainhtin in hair.' I have Hied a. lot of
tlifns. but they don't do much fcuoil.
I'haie ansiwr huea and 1 will be 'M
thaiiUt'ul to iiiu. K. I-
1 unt very sorry to tell you that there
is -nothing, to my knowledge, thai wi;l
straighten cm ly hair. I advise you n 't-
to try any tiling, for it may i nil 1;:
growth.
Where to Purcluist
In our formula for walnut stain it Lli.-
for walnut skin.-. Kindly tell me wli'-ie
caa purchase them? ('Ot'N"MY.
1 cannot give you the addtesi
any one from whom you lutit1!! ! " -
chase the walnut skins, but almost any
drug store has them for ah
K'ecik Eyes
t l.ae very weak eyes an.l h.
hi
told thin l. lie acid Is Very ... d ' u' '"""
Wit! sou Inform nie how tj u,' 1
AN viol .-.
Here is a recipe for a lotion 'ditalii
, Ing boric acid. It Is an excellent rem
edy for weak eyes:
Eye Lotlcn.
lsorie acid ' '"-
lioliinis water 1 i,lnt
Pot hiirie net,! in- 1,h:ii. I'our w iter
In.
amJ allow quite to diss.-i-e ee.oi w v
tllng.
ine-n strain, and use trie ""'
'.ion.
IFould Mar Beauties
Please publish a recipe for ie.,siiic tl .-
butt rapidly; also a remedy far uVci ea:
a high Inatet) and one lu v. hu. n the ainm.
lil.oNUh.
I do not exactly understand your
letter. You ask me for Instructions to
mar two of the greatest heautles of
a woman,.- You wish to decrease the
elite of the bust, which you wJti never
b able to get back again to the nor
mal size.-- This will not only- causa
you regret ta after life, but if you
succeed In veur ellort you may. mate
rially Injure your health. .1 do not
think that you quite realize what you,
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really wishes to write to you, he will
easily find some excuse for doing so,
and, lf he writes, you may answer his
h tters. if, however, the man of whom
you speak Is a more or less Intimate
frlnd. who Is going away for any
length of time, then you might sug
gest that, if he i anything new or
fit all Interesting, he should write to
you. In that case it is not an invita
tion to correspond, but merely a sug
gestion that your friendship be main
tained. 11' hen Eci ling Cheese
t,.,. i,.n me the nroiier nay to eat
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whether with the
fork?
Never
with th
cheese to the mouth
Always use a fork.
oo nvey
lingers.
ask for. Surely you would not wish
n, do an) thing so unwise.
You also want to know how to de
eiease a high instep. The arch of the
loot is a very useful, besides being a
v,!v l.eai.tilui. thing, and it is impos
Mhie t.t dcrease Its size without
ht.-iktii it down, which is extremely
, Furthermore, a broken-down
ia-t.p m.i never be entirely cured
ami wi.i always be an inconvenience.
1 dot, v see how an instep could be
i .:-!,. for It is a natural beauty,
aad ,, ,. that i.s impossible to attain,
tm-ugii .tttitiehil means.
1 am guing you a bleach with
vi ,;,h t, whit; n your arms. Be sure
,, u. , p nie lotion out of the hands of
, aildi'- u ami ignorant persons, for bl
, Yori.h- of mercury is a deadly poison.
Liquid Whitener.
,i , tously boiled and
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lOiaip
1 quart
30 drops
1 ounee
A. ..h.,
of stne
1 i le ef I
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20 St
rains
rops
I)y. 1'aneaire's Bust Developer
Wih miu chase give me the recipe for the
to.ti io l.wloi, the bust? 1 have heard
i.i.inv neibons aeenk hithly of it.
GRATEFUL
1 think oa i-erer to the Dr. Vaucaire s
n inc. so I am giving you the formula
for same herewith:
Dr. Vaucaire's Remedy for the Bust.
Fluid extract nf iralega 2 drams
!.acto-pho.chaie of lime !M drams
Tim-tore of I' tuiel 2t-s drams
Simp!.. rup , IS ounoe
The dose is t,o 3outspoontul with waer
befure each meal.'
Cannot Give Names
Will you kindly issue In your paper the
names uf ou.v beauty experts In this city?
A SUBSCRIBER.
it is impossible for me to Kiv any .
names, either In the column or by per
sonal letter. I have mentioned njany
times before that my column is nof,or
advertising.
Stain for the Hair
Will you give me something to make my
hair a pretty red shade? MAKOA.KKT.
i The best thins; to give the effect you
desire in the henna stain. I ant giving
you the recipe, feeling sura you will like ,
It. Before applying ft to the hair, tiowv
ever, trv it tlrst on a atranil of halrtso
that you will get a desirable shade.
Henna 'Hair Stain.
take one minrx nf henna leT. steep
lo a pint of botilng water fnr twenty wiln
.utea, Let staMd until Jt aets solid. Btrmla
ji t
p ill
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Causes of Thinness
THINNESS is very often caused b
insufficient nourishment, or by
fatigue, either physical or mental,
by nervous and bilious temperament or
a melancholy disposition. Remember
the old adage that "Bones and a sweet
temper never dwell under the same
roof.-' And the other well-known ad
vice. ."Laugh and grow fat." Retire
early, rise late, hut always at a regulae
hour. Take exercise. Have your meals
served each day at the sums hour an4
eat good food abundantly, but not ta
excess. Food that is easily digested,
such as soups, tapioca, oatmeal, gruel
and rice, are best.
Meat must occupy a secondary placa
In this diet, and must be of good qual
ity. Breakfast should be composed ot
coffee with plenty of cream, or choco
late, two eggs and plenty of bread and
butter. At lunch eat potatoes, besides
the rest of the usual menu, and at dinner
eat heartily, but avoid indigestible foods.
the liquid. Apylv to the hair by the kid
ef a small sponge.- The henna will some- t
limes slain the seaip. but the stain ca
eailly be removed by oap and water.
Shampoo for Light Hair
ill you please give me somethtaf will
when I can wash light hair? t don't
want anything that wilt darken t. .
The following is a recipe for a sham
poo for light hair. 1 think you will
tind it satisfactory:
Shampoo for Light Half.
White eaatile soap. In shavings...
1 ounce
Water
. . . ! ounces
l'otaaelum carbonate.
Borax
Cologne water
Bay rum
. w grains
.120 rralne
. s eufices
. i ounces
Dissolve the soap In the water and add
the other ingredients. Hub well into the
rocU. Rinse thoroughly in several waters.
Then dry carefully.
Three Questions Asked
Will you kindly tell me what to do for my
complexion, it la oily and wrinkled" Also
what shall I do to develop my legs. They
are rtralfrhl up and down and very thlnr
BESS R.
I am giving you. below, two recipes
one for curing oily skin and ona for
removing wrinkles.
For Oily Skin.
Kaniah all rich and greasy foods, for diet
has a Kt-eat Influence rs the eonditlcm of
the skin. wiDlnv off the face occasionally
with diluted alcohol iK per cent, sirengtb)
Is henenrial In the case of an oliy skin. A
few drot.s of ainnionhi or a plm-h of boras
n the water with which the face is washed,
Is almi helpful. i
Lotion for Premature Wrinkles.
Alum powdered.. 70 cram
Almond milk (thick) Vi ounce
Rosewater ounces
Dissolve the alum In the rosewater, then
pour srentlv Into the ahncid milk, will
i-ontant as:ltstton Apnlv with a soft ltnea
eloth everv night before retiring.
To Fatten the Legs.
Eierclse Is the best possible method ef en
larxlne the legs. Ionx walks will soon pre
dure results. A gymnastic feat which la
said to be a certain enlarger for the lower
limbs is to stand on one foot. and. with the ,
other leg held out as nearly at a rifbt
angle to th body as possible try
touch the knee to the Soar, : ,
Tired ' Knees
t am very fund of dani-lnf. but mv knee
get very lire... Is lhre stty in I taa
overcome this? t.IMffr,
Wear rubier aupporta on them, 'rt.e-s
-may-be -fHirf hased at any j,Ue !
-surgieat spplianees ar sold. U wj. 1
do yOUjno harm to wear th -,''
,all the time; a they are h f e' t
half elastic and will not I, f i ', .
your comfort. ,J , j
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