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HO In the world deserves more
comfort than the sick or con
valescent? Even when, In
health, tlvey are the least con-
sidered
otsume
Illness,
persons In the household, they
a mysterious dignity after an
and, If they be so minded, they
may repay a thousand slights while
supported by their momentary position.
That Is all very sordid, Indeed, and
we must really take It for granted that,
sick or well, every one Is made as com
fortable as possible; but, of course, the
convalescent must needs have many lit
tle out-of-the-way things that would not
be of any use to the "up and well" of
the family.
A nurse iz taught the many "little
tricks of the trade," tie details which
tend to hasten the recovery of the pa
tient. She learns to make the bed with
out disturbing the sufferer, a feat not so
very difficult after all. She learns to
feed her when she Is weak, and as
strength returns she helps her In little
ways to help herself. But this knowledge
Is somewhat expert and may not be
learned In a moment by the home nurse,
be It mother, aunt or friend.
THE AMATEUR NURSE
account of this
I thought you
truu-J like to hear i
little about the
re.idvmade conveniences which prove so
use! A In case of Illness, especially about
serving meals to those In bed. Every
one has suffered more or less, and every
one knows what agony it is to have
meals' served without proper arrange
ments. The tray is always placed precarious
ly upon the knees of the unfortunate;
most of the liquids spill on the counter
pane and soon the weight of the dishes
become too tiresome to be borne. To
overcome' this difficulty and to make
feeding time a pleasure to the sufferer
a pillow may be placed on the lap. It
will do much toward supporting the
weight, and it will present a more even
surface, so that the dishes will be com
paratively afe.
For those who can aftord them there
are still more satisfactory appliances
old In the shops at comparatively small
cost, when the comtort they provide i
taken Into consideration. There is the
table with very short legs that rests on
either side of the recumbent figure;
but, best of all, there Is the table
that rests on the floor and extends
over the bed. This Is steadier, and
no motion of the patient can pos
sibly upset its equilibrium. It Is so
made that it may be arranged at dif
ferent heights, and may be turned even
at an angle to serve as a book rest or
desk. No one could want a more comfort-bringing
appliance than thisand It
Is a present that would be received with
joy by any one.
A WARM YARN JACKET
As ill people must be fed, and as the
dishes must stand while the tray. is be
ing prepared, a hot-water plate is a
great help to botl. .iurse and patient.
it Is a tin frame that holds a china
plate, but between the plate and the
base of the tin there is enough room
for about a pint of hot water. This
will keep all the food warm for a very
long time.
Another useful gift for a convalescent
Is the knitted Jacket of yarn. This la
quite as warm aa required, but it need
only extend to the waist line, so it will
not wrap around the figure nor fall In
uncomfortable folds, as long wrapper
Invariably does. When the Jacket la
softest floss and made with a slightly
open neck It It occoming and comforta
ble, , The dainty ribbon run through the
stitches around throat . and- sleeve
give an added touch of gaiety that will
make It most attractive to the Invahd."
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THE CHAPERON
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AST winter some Jolly young peo
ple decided to adhere to con
ventionality and take with them
a chaperon while they went on an
evening sleighing party. The vehicle
was a sort of carry-all, with two seats,
one on each side, down 'the entire
length of the wagon, and of course
there was no top. The young people
all piled in, and last of all came the
'poor chaperon, who was given a rather
crowded place at the end of one of
the seats.
"With a great Jingling of bella the
party was off. Miles of country were
covered and the gay ones laughed and
sang till suddenly some one asked,
"Where Is the chaperon?" They all
looked at her place, and behold! it was
vacant. No trace of her was found; no
sound of her had been heard! Imagine
their consternation! They had lost their
link wfth conventionality, but besides
this they had let a poor woman fall out
in the snow, and they had no Idea where
the catastrophe occurred. They re-'
traced their steps, and, of course. by
found' her in the end. The details are
of no 'especial interest. The point is
that the unhappy fate of this chaperon
was not out of the ordinary.
. Whether the unfortunate woman be a
mother, a sister or even a grandmother
of the girl or-glrle she Is chaperoning,
she will find the poet very uncomfort
able one, Besides the responsibility (and
there is a certain amount! she has all
the discomforts. While the girls are
dancing end laughing far Into the night--the
lonely chaperon i must sit MP end '
look wide awake in spite- of her wearl
, ness. - She knows that the young people
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vill not take a moment from their pleas
ure to even come to her and say a l
pleasant words. Of course, she Is prob
ably seated with other chaperons, some
times many of them: but the time hangs
heavily on her hands. It takes many
memories of her own youth to make the
Ideal chaperon the unselfish bejng that
she is!
But all this In praise of the chaperon
and nothing of her duties!
According to the European Idea a
chaperon Is necessary for every , young
girl all the time. No unmarried weman
goes out In the street even at midday
without another woman to accompany
her. No engaged couple may talk for
two minutes without the presence of the
chaperon. She Is a constant attendant
on the unmarried girl.
FOREIGN CUSTOMS
In the eastern countries, even after
marriage, a woman Is not permitted to
walk on the street alone. She must al
ways have at her heels a "garde de
dame," a companion who accompanies
her upon all occasions when her husband
Is not present.
These rules have arisen from certain
conditions existing In the countries where
they are In force. Happily, the girls of
this country are not so closely followed,
while the married woman Is perfectly
free. Nevertheless, s. chaperon is nec
essary even here. Snould a man ask a
young girl to go with n:m to the thea
ter, he must also Invite an older woman
to accompany her It may be an older
sister of his nr hers, It may be his or
her rnotber or a mutual friend. Some
third peraon etiquette demands. The
same rule holds when he Invites her out
to dinner in the evening or when he asks
her to lunch in a hotel It is permissi
ble In most places, however, for a girl
and a roan to lunch at a confectioner's
shop. This is a distinction that Is very
fine. Most girls, too, are allowed to go
t matinees with men after they have
passer Jthelr debutante year". Vhts Is -a
.matter for individual taste.
Of course there must be a chaperon
' en . all house parties or club, parties,
while even at' subscription dances they
are necessary. . -. 4 , .
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The Use of Glycerine
NOW that winter is approaching It
Is well to review the ordinary
cures for chafed skin and such
cold-weather Irritations. First In the list
comes glycerine. All skins will not bear
the use of this really powerful remedy,
and the remembrance of this fact is im
portant. The application of glycerine causes a
burning sensation, produced by the fact
that glycerine absorbs all the moisture
In Its vicinity, thus drying and parch
ing the nerves. Many women, especially
mothers and nurses, are Igndrant of this
fact and apply It, raw as it Is. to the
tender skin of babies. This makes them
suffer a very real pain, and to allay
their seeming agony they often make a
second application. Before applying, it
should always be diluted with water, and
It should never be used except by tligjie
with whom It agrees.
Children should use some weaker and
less irritating solution, such as one of
the many cold creams, or one of the tal
cum powders.
In the South, where dancing parties
are very frequently arranged, a com
mittee of men Is dele-sated to drive
to the chaperons' hous" and take them
to the place where the dance l- to b
held. With such pol le attentions the
chaperons are likely 'o he very Indul
gent as to' late hours, particularly as
their return horn is comfortably as
sured. The duties of a chaperon are a little
difficult to define. She must see that the
party does not become too hilarious,
she must know where her charges are
PERPLEXITIES SOLVED
J'isiting One's Fiance
I? IT proper for an enframed young ladv
from out of the city to vlalt the folks
of the man she la engaged to, or Is it more
proper lor mm to visit her folks? In her
tan. how long should her visit last?
VERT ANXIOUS.
Thee Is nothing Improper In a
young girl s visiting the relatives of
her hance. As to the length of the
visit, that depends entirely upon how
long she is Invited to stay. If no
definite time has been StateoX take
It for granted that you are Invited
for a week at the most. It Is per
fectly proper for the man to visit
your family, too. If you so desire, pro
viding your mother or sister Is there
to act as chaperon. When people are
engaged there is a : certain relaxation
of formality, but the couple should com-i
ply with the laws of 'conventionality.
Business and Society
la tt proper for a gtrl to accept her em
ployer's invitation out to lunch?
STENOGRAPHER.
Of course, I am taking it for granted
that your employer Is a man. It la far
.better not to mix business relations
with social relations.
An Invitation to Call (
Should a girl ask a man Wo come to see :
her? ; DOLLT DIMPLES.
Theoretically, a man has no rlght'to
(presume that he-IB . be received by ;
MORNING, ' NOVEMBER 29, .f905
Beauty
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Mrs. Symes'
, WING to the large amount of
mall received and -the- limited
space given tills department.
it Is absolutely Impossible to
'nnswer letters In the Sunday Issue fol
lowing their receipt. The letters must
be answered In turn, and this ofttlmes
requires three or four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an Im
mediate answer must Inclose a self-addressed
stamped envelope for a reply.
This rule must also b complied with
in regard to personal letters.
Hair Turning Gray
l am verr younj and my hair l turn
ing ry. Please advlae m what to do.
DISTRACTED.
I am very sorry, but Icannot give you
anything which will really keep hair
from turning gray. I suggest, however,
that you use the walnut strain pre
scription, which I am giving below.
Walnut Stain for Hair.
Four ounres of walnut mklm. beaten to a
r.ulu. to which la adrled uura alcohol. 16
ounces.
l.ft ataml eight day, and strain. Then ap
ply, aa any other d.va. with a small brush.
Apply Gasoline
What shall I Jo? Mv child has contract
ed parasites In school. They are all over
her head, and I don't know how to (ret rla
of them. Advlso me at once, MART L.
1 am very sorry I could not answer
your letter Immediately, but as my cor
respiindence Is so large each note has to
wait Its turn to be answered.
and whom they are with, and she must
generally make kers)U responsible for
the gcod behavior of ach and every
one. For this reason the chaperon
should be a woman o dignity and de
cision, and It is usually required that
she be married, indeed, this require
ment Is a very good thing, for If she
can persuade ht:- husband to accompany
her she will have a companion In mis
ery. This is a vf-ry skefrhy outline of a
chaperon's duties, hut one that I hope
will Indicate how necessary she Is.
girl unless be first asks her permission
to call upon her. If, however, a girl
desires to have him call, she may tell
him where she lives without directly
asking him, or else she may tell him
that she would be glad to have him call
without stating any special day. If he
tries to set any particular time. It is far
better, until he has made his first call,
that you should insist upon the dates
being undecided. This will in a way
acquit you uf anxiety to see him.
Answering Invitations
How soon
awered ?
should
Invitation be in-
DOUBT'i:u
All Invitations should be answered
as soon as possible after they are
, received, for it gives the host and
hostess time to invite some one else
If you do not Intend to accept, and It
also shows that you have received
It. It Is only a question of courtesy.
Hats and Luncheons
At a luncheon party, does a woman take
off her hatT CURIOUS.
It depends very much- upon the na
ture of the luncheon. If It Is n In-1
formal party or an lntlma,te friend,
and she asks. you to remove your hat,
it Is perfectlr proper . you todo
so. It you are gojng to a formal
luncheon, tak It for granted that you
lfe your hat onyour toesd. You also
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Wash "your child's head In gasoline,
and if after the first washing the v
sites do not disappear, repeat the proc
ess. Gasoline not only cleanses the
hair, but it kills all Insects.
Hair Grower
You will obW m by puhliahlng a pre
scription to promote the arowth of tna
hair. H. A. L.
The following Is a recipe for an excel
lent hair tonic:
An Excellent Tonic.
Phenol .-wH d
Tlnctura nux vomica gram
Tlnctura cinchona 1 ounce
Tincture of cantharldes U dram
Coloxno oun;"
Sweet almond oil ouncee
Apply to the roots of the hair with soft
ponito once or twice a day. This lotion l
tipeclally food for very dry hair.
A Depilatory
Will you kindly give ma something to re
move miDernuoua hair?, I have a 'pretty
xood complexion, but this little fJo''th.
bo annoylnc ANNA J.
I am sure you will like the formula I
am giving you. Follow myl directions
closely and you will find the depilatory
satisfactory.
Formula for Removing Hair.
RulphMe of soda or calcium aul-
pniae
Chalk
100 rralna
100 grains
Mix thoroughly and keep dry In well
coiked bottle until wanted for use. Take
enough to make a rest, am) add warm wa
ter to It until the proper consistency la se
cured. Spread over the hairy surtace. and
allow to nvr.ain for from one to five min
ifies, according to the nature of the growth
and the susceptibility of the akin; then
wear gloves until you go Into the
dining room, although you may re
move your coat in the dressing roo:n
provided for the purpose.
Formal Invitation
In a formal Invitation
an informal way?
an.wor4 in
MABEL..
It is an Invariable rule that, in cor
respondence, an answer should be
written in the same form as that
adopted by the first writer. With this
rule in mind, an invitation written In
the third person must be answered
in the same way.
Mourning Etiquette
How long should I
mother?
wear mourning; for my
r n. l.
Mourning for one's dearest relations,
husband or parents, Is usually worn
two years, when second mourning
may be adopted. However. It is only
necessary to wear crepe six months
and to adhere to the strictest rules
of mourning for one year. After that
a little latitude may be allowed.
This Is for a woman. A man seldom
wears mourning for more than a year,
no matter who the deceased may have
been.
Of course, all Jewelry worn during
the period of mourning should be
black enamel or Jet. although pearls
are permissible for second mourning.
Gold should be avoided, and stiver Is
best If it is oxidized. Wedding and
engagement rings are always worn,
no matter how deep the mourning
may be.
Secret of Health
T
J keep In good health it Is neces
sary to have-regular hours for
eating and sleeping. Meals should
be arranged to be served at the same
time each day, and there should be no
hurrying. Go to bed at a set hour
snd rise regularly.
A cold bath Is a very great aid
toward maintaining health and beauty,
but If it is too great a shock to the
system then a tepid bath will do. Do
not. however, neglect the morning beta.
It Is a great deal easier, of course, to
start taking at cold bath In summer than
irt winterany way to contract the
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; Do not eat between meals it is In
jurious to the complexion and to the
general health. Even afternoon tes is
not at 411 good for tha average woman
or man. - -
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crape off with a blunt blade a papa
knW. '?T example. It should be removed,
as in ever "case with a depilatory," wheal
' tha burning . sensation la produced. Too
. long contact with tha skin should be
avoided, and Immediately after the halt
has been, removed the denuded surface
should be gently washed with warm water
and a eold cream or 4 bland, oil, applied
to prevent irritation.
Bust Too Much Developed
Please tell me something to reduce the
bust. I am only It years old and don't
want to be so muteh develop;. Please
tell me something that act quickly.'
m. a. h.
I am not giving you anything with
which to reduce your bust, because If
you once do It you can never get it
back again to Its normal size. Do not
worry If you are overdeveloped a It,
In only one year longer it will be deslr
able for you to be so developed.
Tou can take stretching exercises and
rolling exerciRes. which will tend to
reduce superfluous fat, but I cannot ad
vise you to do anything which I. know;
you will regret all the rest of your life.
A letter like yours is one out of about
00. and surely you don't want to be en
tirely unreasonable. Take my advice,
my child, and be thankful that you.'
health Is so good that you are normally
developed, and. above all, do not tak
any drugs.
A Tender Skin
Winter Is coming and at that time ef
year my face and hands chap so badly.
Can you give me good cream T My stela
la very dry nd it w '1 not take powder.
I am afraid to use the creams advertised,
as I am sure hey will promote a growth ;
of hair. DISTRESSED.
1 am giving you a recipe that you may,
use upon your face and hands to prevent
chapping. I would also suggest that you.
use orange-flower skin food, only do not
leave it on your face all night More
ly spread It on and wipe it off wltM
a soft towel. Really, a eream will not
cause hair to grow. It is only une
wonted friction of the . skin thai
causes it to grow.
Chapped Hands and Face.
Tincture benzoin 30 drops '
Glycerine 1 ounces
Rosewater I ounces'
Rub this on night and morning.
To Darken the Hair.
Tan you please suagest something UB
darken .tha hair without' hurting . the ;
growth? I have been told of green tea.
but do not know how to use It. I would)
a-ioreciate it if you would state direc
tions ANXIOUS READER.
The best thing of which I know tat
darken your hair is the walnut stain.
It will be far more useful to you than
green tea, and I think you will Ilk
it better. Do not use It on your hair
i viqll you have tried it on a Strand .
of our hair, so that you can see if
the color suits you. Allow the strand
of hair to lie in the sun for a few
days. Apply the stain to the hair
with a small brush. , V
You will find the recipe in my answer
to "Distracted" in todgy's paper.
Recipes for Sachet add Eyelash
Grower
Will you please publish" a good seohet
powder? One that contains ylotet and eo me
tritis, ehte to prewrve ii odor, llave yoia
Muue simple remedy for scant y1h
,Th best sachet powder that yoa
can use Is a mixture of violet and
orris root In. equal quantities, - The)
orris will help ta preserve the , fr
grance of the violet and it wilt not
grow stale. In fact. It may be use t
, over and nver again by-simply lay
ing It la th' sun- for a few hour
to freshen U.y'V: f':;,'"J ";
As to scant eyelashes. I suggest tht
you ue sweet Oil Of.vK'il ever)"'
flight,' Neither one will d any' ) '
If It gets Into th eyes, anj t :-. art
potrt beneficial, . ' ' , '
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