" ' "' ,niE OREGON SUNDAY-JOURNAI. TORtLAND,; SUNDAY- HOBNIN& 'NOVEMBER 1.- (90S '. ' , ' ' - "" . . '
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directolr fashion hai had
an influence upon the feminine
flgruce. upon the way of dressing
the hair, upon the manner of
van mg; it has also had a decided ef
fect upqiMhe way ofcarrylng- the head.
A woman cannot ntand in a slovenly,
careless way and still look well dressed,
even though her clothes be of the latest
cut and of the most expensive materials.
It is sajd that If a man holds his head
o that the back of his neck comes In
contact with his collar he cannot be
In m. wrong position. The same, applies
to woman, except, of course, when aha
Mrs. Symes,
OW'INO to the great amount of
mail received and. the limited
space given this department.
It is absolutely" impossible to
answer letters in the Sunday issue fol
lowing their receipt. The letters must
be answered' in turn, and this of t timer
requires three or four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an
Immediate answer must Inclose a self
addressed stamped envelope for a re
ply. This rule must also be complied
with In regard to personal letters. .
Lotiot: for Oily Hair
INOTICEP in the column, of your caper
where yoa recommend the us. of am
monia lor oily balr and alau the f ol
io wing .prescription: Powdrd blcarbonMe
of soda, borate of sod, eau de cologne, al
cohol and water. Would like to try both
the ammonia and the formula If you will
tell ni how much ammonia to um and now
much and how ottn may the formula be
used- without injury to the hair.
OZARK.
I mention ammonia because it Is a
very good Idea to put a teaspoonful
In a basin of water whenever you
shampoo your hair. It takes out the
soil and it tends to make the hairless
oily. Be sure that you only use it in
the fljst water. After that the hair .
should be rinsed in clear, waters.
As to the , lotion you mention con
taining the ingredients you state, it
should not toe used oftener than every
. third day. .for otherwise it will make
the hair dry. When applying it
"merely wet thevtlps of the fingers end
ruh on the scalp.
' An Explanation
I do not quite understand your prescrip
tion fnr aaire tea. Would you make an
In fusion of the green tea and the sage
- tea and then adit the alcohol, er do' you ,
put the- ease dry - In the alcohol T ion
frequently give this jrcrlptlon for gray
, hair. ' Mrs. W. M.
' . I should, make an infusion of sags
tea and green tea, and then I would
mix in the alcohol. I am sorry that
it was sppoorly given. ' , '
; Too Fat . . v... V.
Kindly, tell'm. of some Way to red ore
fat. I nave quite a lot of exercise, such
a mnnlnif- up sod down step., but don't -.
have much air. j I aeldom eat meat, but do
eat potatoes. Do rou tblnk potatoes and '
Is wearing the fashionable Dutch neck.
If she adopts this style, she may re
member, however, that her looks depend
upon the curve of her throat Let her
keep this in mind: If the chin Is
held well up and the head is thrown
slightly back, the half low neck la beau
tiful and gracofut: but if the head la
carried forward and the back of the
neck slopes, she had better adopt some
other style of dress.
If the head is properly held, the
shoulders fall Into line. There are some
gymnastic teachers who do not tell the
children to "throw the shoulders back"
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Aids to Correspondents
milk would cause It? . Do you think play,
lng basketball Would help
ANXIOUS
J am printing qh November 8 a series
of exercises which, i think, will re-,
duce.your weight. If you wish to
grow thin do not eat potatoes or
.drink milk. Meat is not fattening,
nor are green vegetables. Any exer
cise which you take, such as playing
basketball or any outdoor sport, will
tend to decrease yeur size.
Refused Information
Will you please tell me where I enn i get
a rouge? , MINNIE.
I cannot express In strong enough
terms that I cannot tell any one
where to buy anything, either "through
the columns or through private let
ter. My only advice Is always go to
the best drug store in your locality,
A Whitening Lotion
Will you kindly tell me It the whitening
Jotion which you have suggested ' for the
land, would do for the face, or would -It
be irritating to the akin? Will you
kindly repeat the prescription for me?
CURIOUS.
There Is nothing about the whiten
ing solution which should Irritate the
skin in any way. It can be used. as
well for the face as for the hands or
atiy . part of the body. - This . Is the
formula:
Small cucumbers.. ..v .' '
Olive oll.t 4 ounces
I.anolln ............. ............ 1 ounce
' White wax........... I dram
Spermaceti 1 dram
Heat olive oil. Slice up the cucumbers,
sot removing the peel. -ami place them
with the other ingredients in the olL'
Ieave for twentr-four hours, strain. -
A Few Perplexities
1. Would vou be kind enourh to "rive me
your advice In regard to my skin? It Is
very rough and flabby and the pore, are
very larre. I. there any preparation which
very larre. I. there any preparation which
mill reduce) the norea to the nnrmel alu
in :
nt a.
and aieo tigRten. me aainr i. uo you Know
of anything that will make the face' plump?
. S. la bathina In hot water food for
in.
a Kin or must i use com waterr k.. a,
. 1, 1 am giving you herewith a
recipe for a lotion which you; may
apply with ebsocbent otton to your
face. It should soon decrease' the
slse of the pores: One dram of borlo ..
acid, four ounces of. distilled Switch
liaxeL These are mixed together and;'
.kept bottled until used.
(a really difficult thhig to do), but in
struct thetA how to carry the head.
knowing full well that with the head
in proper position, the shoulder blades
necessarily flatten.
The dresses of the moment are draped.
When the gown is properly worn each
line is perfect, each fold is In place. If
the figure droops, however, every line
will be wrong and every .curve pro
duced by the skill of the artist who de
signed the gown will be misplaced.
There Is no use . in having 'beautiful
clothes if one does not know how to
wear them. Often we hear people say:
"Mrs. So-and-so has such lovely things,
but she puts them on as though her
maid threw them at her and they
stuck."
When a gown Is badly worn It does
not always mean Ignorance; It frequent
ly means carelessness.
It is hardly necessary to point out
how greatly a good carriage improves
.the health. When the shoulders are al
lowed to drop, when the head Is held
forward, the lung are unable to do
their work. Many a woman complains
of weariness and nerves when all she
needs Is a few long, deep breaths with
1. Washing your face In hot water
and finishing with a dash of cold
should make the skin more hardy. I
do not wish to give you a massage '
cream to make it plump, for it might
also enlarge the pores which you are
trying to reduce. Never, use hot
water without finishing with a dash
of cold, but never' depend upon cold
water alone to cleanse your face.
The Best Skin Food
Please give me your best formula for
skin food. One that will not grow balra.
My akin Is dry and I would like to
massage my face. MARRIED.
The best massage I have for the fs.ee
Is the orange-flower skin food,' for
mula for which I am giving you. I
assure you it will not cause any hairs
to grow.
Orange-Flower Cream.
(A Skin Food.)
Oil of sweet almond......;... 4 ounces
White wax drams
Spermaceti .dram.
Borax J. . Oram.
Glycerine ounce.
Orange-flower water............... I ounce.
Oil of neroll TS drop.
Oil of blgarade (orange akln)...l( drops .
Oil of petjt grain U drops.
Melt the flrrt three Ingredients, add the
Slycerlna to the orange-flower water aa
Iseolve the borax In the mixture; then
pour It .lowly into the blended fats, stir
ring continuously.
Two Prescriptions-
""A
hat can I do? When Dimple, disappear
also a great many moles upon my face.
r , . SPOTTED.
I ani giving you a formula for a
salve which, I think, will remove the
little scars left by-pimples, and I am
also giving you a prescription for a
whitening lotion, which you may daub
upon the prawn spots on your face:
. Salve for Scars.
I-anoIln t drams
Ointment of blnlodide of mercury., t dram
. Rub In well once a day.
For Brownr SppttrrZ''-
Cltrte acid (lemon) JWim
Ht water.... .........v.. .... 11 ounce.
Iioeax J dram.
Red roe petals X... ....... 1 ounce
Glycerine Jounce.
' Dissolve the acid and borax In the water;
Infuse the- petal, for an hour; strain
through : a jelly ,b after twenty-four
tinura: ' decant the clear portloa and add
; the glycerine. Apply a. often as agreeable.
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head and shoulders held in the natural
and proper positions,'
The Pierrot ruff, that are so much
worn at present demand correct car
riage of the head. . I saw a woman the
other day wearing such a ruff, but she
had crushed the delicate tulle flat,Tunder
her chin, and the effect was most un
attractive. She who wishes to preserve
this dainty addition to her costume will
remember, for economy's sake, to hold
her head-wp, and in the doing she will
contract a habit worth even suffering to
acquire.
As for the dlrectotre street suits, with
their collars high in the back, could a
more ridiculous picture be conceived than
a woman with her head so held that the
coat stands out by itself in the back?
The lines of tr-e "creation"" are ruined,
her hat does not harmonize with her
costume, and, oltogcther, she would do
well to return to the trmeworn Mother
Hubbard style.
Have you ever tried holding your head
atralght up and walking as though you
owned the earth? It Is surprising what
a feeling of self-respect and independ
ence it gives one. It does Apt take very
long to really form the habit, and once
correct carriage is acquired, the most
homely person looks handsome, the
most dependent spirit learns self-reliance.
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"Man and His Hat"
THE subject of "man and his hat"
must of necessity deal not only
with the man In the act of salu
tation, but also with the woman how
she must receive his bow and on what
occasions she may require him to re
move his hat In her presence.
A young woman -who lived In a coun
try town had always believed that she
was blessed with perfect vision till she
one day solemnly bowed to a cow in the
street, thinking she was speaking to one
of ber acquaintances. She was undo
celved as to her sight, but the Incident
proved that she knew the first principles
of when to bow.
Comparatively few 'people know that
woman does not wait for man to speak
first. To speak first is her privilege.
She is at liberty to recognize an ac
quaintance or not, just as she prefers.
When she bows to a man he. should
raise his hat from his bead in acknowl
edgment of her salutation.
TOUCHING THE HAT
There are a great many men -In the
world who merely touch their hats to
a woman. The first time one of them
does this the woman must accept it,
but she need never again put herself In
such a position. A footman touches his
hat when be receives an order from his
employer, 'masculine or feminine. A
gentleman, ' when bowing to an ac
quaintance, raises his hat. A footman
must follow the recognised training for
a footman when he Is on the box. On
the street he is gentleman, if he be
haves like one.,- .
' Should a. woman meet en acquaintance
- who ia smoking, she" should wait until
he removes his pipe, cigar or cigarette
from his month before bowing to him.
' If he -sees her approaching he will do
so at once. ' She is not supposed to
speak to him until e does. , -
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Restful
A MAN requires at least six hours'
sleep every night, while a woman
can hardly set along with less than
eight, although It Is better for a man to
have eight hours' sleep and a woman
ten. Many people find, however, that
rising early In the morning not at dawn,
but comparatively early is a cure for
nervousness ana Irritability. There is
something about getting up late and
hurrying through the process of dress-,
lng that tends to start the day wrong.
Care and thought should be spent on
the fitting of the bedroom. Heavy up
holstered furniture should be discarded,
so that there will be no dust In the at
mosphere. No one can expect to have a
clear and healthful complexion unless
she sleeps with the window wide open
and the room full of fresh air; '
Tbe bed should be of metal and" the
mattress should be of hair. When pos
Should a man meet another man on
the street he need not remove his. hat
to bow unless the other man be accom
panied bya woman. In that case both
men remove their hats. !
It is hardly necessary to ssy that men
never" wear their hats In the house If
women are around or not though an
office building Is their own domain, as
It were, and there they may do as they
please.
If several men are in a hotel elevator
and a woman enters, all the men at
once remove their hats. In the elevator
of an office buildings they may keep their
hats on their heads unless they are
talking to a woman.
A gentleman never talks to a woman
wltjj his hat on. unless they are walk
ing oh the.street together. It he should
meet her and they should stop for a
little chat, he holds his hat until he
leaves her.
Toung- men usually raise their hats
when they bow to an older man. Any
man. young or old. when entering a
restaurant or a theater, with or with
out a woman, carries his hat Ira his
hand.
While we are on the subject It might .
be well to discuss for a moment the
question of cutting an acquaintance. A
woman should never do so unless there
be some really good reason. It is a poor
Perplexities Solved
w A Hostess' Duty
THERE is a young girl who is gotng to
at ay with me. I want to know if I
should receive with her all of ber
seller., as she knows a great many people
In tnl. town. CHAPERON. '
There is no reason for you to receive
w,lth your young guest at all times,
' although of course you must remain at
hand during the evening, as long as
v.. ..nor. fi&t to stav. If they are
J totally unknown to, you. It might be bet-'
ter if you would meet them, and then
' ' you may leave the young people - to
their own devices. If you are partlo- ;
ulsrly requested by your guest to re-
main ana tain o ncr j-"
course it Is your duty. It all depend
upon- how" much older you are than th
girl who Is going to visit you.
A New Neighbor
T have lately rem. to a new neighbor-.
haod. and sr neighbor! has asked me to a ,
Sleep
sible, sleep with the blinds drawn, for
morning light hurts the eyes; arrange
to ave blinds that allow the air tp cir
culate through the room. Should the
room be too cold', add covers to the bed.
Severe weather should not be an excuse
for closed windows. No one who has
tried sleeping in a well-ventilated room
for" a week would willingly go back to
the suffocated feeling one has when
waking in a poorly aired apartment. It
Is best not to have the bed covers too .
heavy. For this reason" in cold weather
one alr of blankets are sufficient when
supplemented by an eiderdown quilt.
The latter is light and, sufficiently
porous.
Sleep might be divided into three
grades. The first and best of all is the
sleep of, the really tired person eyes
close as soon as the head rests tm the
pillow and the whole night passes by
revenge to stop speaking to any one for
some minor offense. Should a woman
desire to entirely drop a man from her
list of acquaintances, she may Ignore
his presence, but such a procedure Is
likely to cause many embarrassing sit
uations, and, unless the matter Is seri
ous, it H better to Jet the offense pass.
A gentleman never cuts' a woman. He
bows to any one who speak to him.
There are many times when a woman
speaks to a man, mistaking him. for'
some one else. A gentleman thus spoken
fo will understand the. situation, and
though he should acknowledge the salu
tation, he will take no advantage of a
mistake. Should he wish to be Intro-,
duced to her. he goes about it In the
usual formal way, with the aid of some
mutual acquaintance. A gentleman will
never take advantage of a woman,
whether she be his equal or not. and he
will never cause her any discomfort or
embarrassment.
All of the rules of social ' usage, so
called etiquette, are planned to protect
woman: When in doubt about what to
do. remember merely that fact, and you
can not go wrong. When a gentleman
may save a woman embarrassment or
annoyance, whether he has been formal
ly Introduced or not, he will do what he
can to aid her. but afterward he will
take no advantage of his momentary
position.
party. ' I do not know her as yet. Would
you advise me to attend? M. K. '
Of course, as lonas you are the more
recent arrival, it Is the hostess' duty
to calt upon you before sending the
invitation, but should she have failed
to do this, it would be a pretty courtesy
to pay her the first calt and "merely
kfave your card. ,1 should certainly ac
cept the invitation in any case, but be
sura that you Tay your party call with
in, the prescribed eight -days. :
fc f JFtdJing , Presents ". p
I ' am going' to be married, alnd a great
many -people have sent me Wedding urea- .;
nt. 8om are from people I haTdly know.
- Is It necessary to send, aa Invitation te
every one who has sent me a present? W.
n0t bU"DISTRACTKD.: ;
, Because your friends have sent you,
wedding presents.tt; ! not 'necessary for'
seemingly In a moment, and when m'drn
ing eomes tbe lucky sleeper wake, re
freshed. The second sleep is the dreamy sleep,
unrefreshlng and unhealtbful. It Is best
to work hard , all day, even do manual
labor, to avoid this weary rest.
The third is the uneasy dose in which
the brain is conscious of all the sur-
roundlngs and where tbe faintest noise
arouses the sleeper. This is sometimes
called "sleeping with one ear open," and
if is a very good name.
To sleep best, do not eat a heavy meal
Just before retiring. JDo not let the
brain work too incessantly without
rest, and do not become overtired.
One may obtain the best effects by
sleeping without a pillow. It is in. this)
way that the' head la straight and the
lungs are best able to expand with each
breath.
Removing Ink Stains
From toe Hands
THE purple stains caused by han
dling a typewriter ribbon may. be
removed from tbe hands with a
cloth wet with pure alcohol. This treat
ment saves the necessity of a prolonged
scrubbing, and is far less injurious to
delicate fingers. What a comfort this
knowledge will be to the stenographer
whose ribbon must always be changed
just about the end of the day!
you to aeftu an Invitation for them to
come to the house, but it would be
nice to invite them to the church. How-.,
ever, if the Invitations are already out
when the presents are received, tt la
too late for you to do anything. Take
It for granted that your acquaintances
sent you the gifts out of the goodness
of their hearts and not to get as Invi
tation to the wedding.
Condolences
I wish to send a little token of mv arra-
pathy to a friend who ia In trouble. Should
I. writ, an expression of my condolence, ea
ine xbc ox my visiung card, or on me
back, or Is It neeeaaary to write a little
note? WOULD-UKE-TO-KNOW.
It Is better form to' express your emo
tion in a note rather than on a visiting
card; but if you are Intending to call
upon the friend and leave your card,
then you may .write the single wont
"sympathy" upon the face of It. In
the case of ' a mere acquaintance' it
would not be bad form to send s card, '
although it would be much better to
write a note.
Necessary Tipping
When I am visiting my friends I. It nee
esaary to give tip. to all of the people nhs
have waited upon me? VISITOR.
That Is a verydifflcult question, and
One thgt cannot, be answered by one
single rule. If you are s frequent vis
itor at a house. It is not necessary every
. time to give tips, to every bne.VIn that
case you may remember them with a -little
gift at Christmas or any other hol
iday if you wish. - If. however, you are
a visitor once in a long while, tt Is
- better a pay them for- the extra trou- -ble
you. have given them. Particularly
Is this so if you required a special serv
ice of a maid or valet. It alt depends
upon the number of servants in the
house. Later on I hope to write aa
article on this subject. - ; . :, "
Calling Day
Wkea ' making a visit during en 'at.
home" day sow long should I star ?
..'J '(''''"' I0.Vn ANT.
It Is not cuatonjarjr to iirema! longer"
than fifteen minutes,' If you are a very
intimate, friend,-. the time nilfiht be
tended to half an hour. If you are p r.)
Ocularly desirous of talking to. ,
hostess, rail en. your friend .wfcn
many of her friends are not pre-. ,