THE SUNDAY OKEGOMAN, PORTLAND, JULY 13, 1913.
Work and Love Are the Two
Great . Factors in the Develop
ment of a Woman's Heart and
in the Awakening of Her Brain
Lave Plays an Important
Part in a Business woman's
6
!3ir Those Who Claim That Love
P jt - Is a Thing' Apart From the
' ' J "f -' Business Girl's Life Reveal
' ilpggljw Their Lack of Understand-
i !llr-, in Feminine Psychology.
BY RITA REESE.
THERE are those who do not quib
ble over the old poetic aphorism
that love Is a woman's whole ex
istence. Those who think a. business girl
should carefully put her beart away In
cold storage when she pins on her
qulll-trimmed hat and sallies forth Into
a man's world to make one more unit
in the millions who are working for
their daily bread and the bread that
is to feed the mouths of a whole fam
ily are mistaken.
In short, someone has suggested that
I write on the part love plays in a
business girl's life is it a thing apart,
one of the eternal verities of life that
must be put aside as not belonging to
the new sphere in which a woman
finds herself when she begins to be self,
supporting?
I say no, and most emphatically.
And even I go further. I question
very much whether any woman, until
she has started out to work, really
knows how to appraise love, the love
of a man who tolls on year after year
to keep a home going and the woman
lie loves comfortable and happy.
Few Know Real Love.
Until the average sheltered woman
at home knows what It means to make
a living for a family, the hard, uncom
promising toil of the man who wears
the family harness and draws the fam
ily load I hold that no such woman
knows or can know how to put the
real value on real love.
If this be treason to the sheltered
woman who stays at home, let her
make the best of It let her ask her
Bister who goes out to work if these
words are not true. A woman said
a significant thins the other day along
these lines. She is a woman who in
the last two years has started to work
to help her husband meet the expenses
of the family. I used to think she was
a hard, unreasonable woman, but I was
not prepared to And the change in her
that work has wrought.
Her eyes filled with tears as she told
me her story. Not the soft-sheltered
BY DOLORES STANTON.
IT COSTS the women of New York
upward of $5,000,000 a year for
what men rudely refer to as war
paint the cosmetics that go to make
women beautiful, or horrible, or half
way between.
Mrs. and Miss New York use about
2 2,000,000 pounds a year, or 1,000,000
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woman's ready tears, but the honest
tears of self-reproach; Borrow for
things that are past and Irremediable.
She said: "Until I started to work I
had no idea of the load my husband
carried. I used to go to him at the
end of the month and tell him I wanted
so much money, laying the bills of the
month before him. If he hesitated I
did not taunt him with not having the
money to give me to keep the home and
our children going.
"I did not know why he used to look
at me so. I could not understand the
depths into which he sank but now I
do.
"I know what it is to make money,
for he was taken ill and the burden of
the family was shifted to my shoulders
and when he was ready to take It up
again I had learned my lesson and I
have pulled with him ever since to help
iignten the load.
Money W Forthcoming:.
"I wonder that he could have cared
for me; that he was as patient as he
was year after year when he was work
ing, trying to do the impossible. While
I sat supine and only urged him to get
the money not knowing and not caring
where he got It the money was forth
coming.
"All that has changed since I have
gone to work. It has taught me lesr.ons
of patience and understanding and arm
pathy and pity for any man who is try.
ing to do his best to carry a load that
is too heavy for him."
"Why," she said, "I never really knew
anything aoout real love until I under
stood what a man pays for love. It may
oe ennerent m otner parts of the coun
try, but In a big city, when the small
Balarled man marries, he deliberately
slips his head into a noose that will
keep him going in the treadmill for the
rest of his life, unless he happens to
marry a girl who has worked and who
has a sense of justice and honesty de
veloped to the place she can share the
work witn him, carry her part of the
load and make it possible for a real
companionship , to be established be
tween them.
"Love may be a woman's whole ex
pounds a month, of powder, rouge, cold
cream, nail polish and the like.
The figures seem remarkably large,
but the estimates for the average
woman are based on the calculations of
several experienced druggists.
Life Because Work Makes Her Put
igher Valuation on
istence, but I'd like to add, as a sequel
full of wisdom, work is her whole edu
cation in how to love a poor man In
telligently and appreciatively.' "
And I think she Was right. Instead
of the business girl understanding less
about-love, she knows more. More of
the real struggles a real man makes to
provide room for love In his life, and
what sacrifices he willingly makes for
the woman whose "heart interest" is
the pulse of his heart. ''
Some one has said that the American
man is "all head In his office and all
heart at home."
It is a definition that may be as aptly
applied to the American business wom
an. When she goes to work she puts her
entire mind into the matter and con
centrates on what is before her. When
the day is done she closes her desk, and
why should she be expected to carry
her business with her during her hours
of relaxation any more than does
man?
Home Best to Women.
ii a nome is the best asset to a man
Is It not even more a necessity to
a woman? I think It Is.
There are no economic conditions
that can keep a woman from having
some sort of a home, if she is the
right sort -of woman. Home building
to a woman is as Instinctive as nest
building is to a bird.' .
Find any business woman you may
and follow her from her office. She
may not be married, but If she has
any sort of happiness, you'll discover
she has made a home somewhere.
Maybe it Is In her hall bedroom
maybe It is In a tiny flat; but you'll
find it, and in it there are adopted
interests to take' the place of children.
The children of the slums are hers;
the newsboys on the corner are her
boys, and the poor derelicts she meets
in her business know where to come
for sympathy and help and an understanding-
that helps them to face life
with, fresh courage. .
Never was a woman in the world,
married or single, who was anything
or a woman who didn t mother some
thing.
I read an article not long ago In
which a newspaper man gave statistics
of the various charitable societies kept
going by the working women of New
York. This society and that one, he
showed, owes its real vitality to the
interest of women who are employed
in the business world all day. Women
that some might think would go home
at night too tired of the world tc
concern themselves with it any more.
Not so.
These women find their recreation.
their pleasure, in forming societies for
business girls where the younger sis
ters are heartened with a little fun and
relaxation; in societies where boys are
urged to work toward higher ideals;
in clubs where the civic duty and prida
make ior a better city.
Woman's Heart Invulnerable.
In these cases has work hardened
any of the fine women whose enthusi
asm is making New York a bettet
city year after year?
I think not!
Nothing in the world can shut love
out of a woman's heart. So those who
claim that love is a thing apart from
So far as the number of women using
cosmetics is concerned. It Is conserva
tively placed at 400,000, or about one-
sixth of the female population of the
city. It is assumed that the other five
sixths are too young or too old, too
statement their lack of understanding
of feminine psychology.
The love of one man may not come
to the business woman, just as it fails
to come to many a woman who stays
at home waiting for Cupid to call. But
love is a tremendously large territory
and the question often resolves Itself
finally into this: "Does the lack of a
personal love not often give a woman
a bigger and finer nature?"
The situation of the business woman
in New York rather Inclines us to be
lieve that in many cases this is true.
The love that, undiverted into one chan
nel, enriches the whole field with its
richness and refreshment, is its own
Justification.
But granted, on the other side, that
the business girl is to be loved and
loves, does that make her any the less
competent in the work-a-day world?
I think not.
If it did, haven't we the world old
proverb about the- man in love who has
a mind only for the object of his affec
tions; whose shortcomings are condoned
because the whole world loves a lover
and has a pity and sympathy for him
until the love anchor is safely cast and
he is moored safe in "a home of his
own with a wife to work for."
Girls' Books "Balance.''
Why, if a business girls mind does
wander a bit, say when the new moon
is slim and young and the air tender
should she be pointed out as a crea
ture incompetent to trust with a col
umn of figures to add or a cash reg
ister to juggle?
Maybe her heart wanders a bit, but
her subconscious mind does not, and a
final analysis of her week's work usu
ally reveals the fact that her books
balance.
And even if she "falls dead in love'
and moons to the place she is abso
lutely inefficient, she's still an asset
to the world as a whole, for she is
adding to the happiness of all creation.
and what her work lacks her lover
probably g-ains, in that he is working
all the harder to make It possible for
him to support her and the home he
is planning for her.
There are many who regard the busi
ness girl as an anomaly. They think
that once she is in an office there is
no place for her in the home. This
Is manifestly untrue. Most of the girls
who go to work every morning are
the very ones who spend their noli
days busy and happy at home, pre
ferrlng home to any outing in the
world.
These same girls go home with
happy faces at night because they have
a fresh appreciation of the fireside's
simple enjoyments. They can value
domestic peace since they know what
the world of business and turmoil is
like.
Since they have learned to work they
have a new value for play and can
play in a whole-hearted way, that the
woman who is idle never learns to
feel unless she gets busy and useful
making a living.
If love were an issue apart from
the necessities of life, if it did not
have to be classed with food and drink
and fire to a woman's nature, then
there might be an argument advanced
for and against the matter in hand.
Accidents Make Women Work.
The accident of prosperity, or lack
of it, places a woman In life. It puts
her with those who work or those
who are sheltered in a home, but even
this does not change her fundamental
woman nature.
A business woman may develop all
the qualities that make her a power
in the man's world, but she signally
is undeveloped and her life unfilled
If the love side of her nature be un
fed. Business is a matter that involves a
woman's brain: love is distinctly an
attribute of her heart, and no woman
ever was born absolutely without af
fection and the craving for love.
Most of the women today who are
careful or too- careless, too beautiful or
too plain.
The age limits were conservatively
fixed also, it being assumed that no
female begins using powder before she
is 12 or continues after she is 72.
Twelve million pounds of cosmetics
in a year does seem a whole lot, but
you remember that a woman who uses
them rarely comes back from a shop
ping tour without having made some
purchase, however small, in the way of
cold cream or powder.
The weight per person per year
amounts to about 25 pounds and the
True Affection
need of those they love. Most often
it s a realization that the man she
loves is physically unable to carry the
burden alone that inspires a woman to
suggest sharing it with him.
Why should this unsex a woman or
make her less feminine? It is the
peculiarity of the woman's heart to
develop fastest under the hardest
strain. A woman's love does not grow
less, but rather increases when it is
more able to serve the beloved one.
Another thing: the matter of keen
ing a house is in itself rather a com
plex business undertaking, requiring
quite as much clerical skill to run as
any girl brings to bear upon the usual
omce work. And there is yet to be
heard a charge that housekeeping
makes a woman hard and unsympa
thetic. There is no education for a woman
so feminizing as work. Fine needle
work, we used to hear, was a "lady
like" accomplishment. Maybe it did
develop a fine sense of touch, an ex
quisite color appreciation in the eye,
but business experience, to my mind,
develops a woman's heart and her
brain until she comes into the highest
estate of being a woman.
Gives Broader Outlook.
It makes her not only more under
standing of the burdens the average
man carries, but it gives her a broader
outlook on life and develops in her a
new sense of sisterhood for all women
who work, and with this she is able
to gauge the value of a woman's friend
ship as she never is able to do when
she is thrown with a "borrowing neigh
bor" or an acquaintance she meets at
a bridge game or at a literary lunch
eon or a tea.
Women form their firmest friendships
in the business world for other women.
I think it is in the business world
alone that a woman may develop a
platonio friendship for a man.
There she is not self-conscious. In
the home or in the social world she
meets men and is taught to regard
them as possible husbands. In the
working world she comes to gauge a
man for other qualities: for there, for
the first time, she meets men on a new
footing the relationshiD of business.
In the business world she meets so
many men she is more keen in her
judgments of the one man. She comes
to know men as they are, without frills
ana under no delusions about the glam
our or tneir "society side." When a
woman sees a man day after day in
the office she comes to know him as he
is; his weaknesses as well as his fine
qualities. And she soon is able to strike
a Mental balance sheet, totaling up all
tne men sue meets.
No creature could use one orsran and
leave another organ wholly untouched
without having: a onesided develop
ment. If a woman uses what senti
mentalists have -long told us was the
"woman's heart" to the exclusion of
the woman's brain isn't it logical to
assume that the brain turns over nat
urally enough and goes to sleep and
goodnes knows what the heart does.
Read the newspapers and draw your
own conclusion from the stories print
ed there In which idle, useless women
with nothing to do figure.
If an idle brain is the devil's work
shop, then the same satanic highness
must hold high carnival and carry on
a continuous cabaret in the heart of
the idle woman. Judging by the mis
chief such a one is excited to do.
. If for no other reason that that it
makes for her own peace and happiness
to be occupied, a woman should be al
lowed to work. She isn't crowding any
body out of the business world. Don't
you believe that?
Work for Everybody.
There is work for everybody who
wants work to do. If they can do the
work well. Maybe not employment in
the same block where they now" live
but work Bomewhere.
The woman who Is encouraged to
stay idle because she'll take the bread
out of some poor girl's mouth by try-
cost per person 113.63. If you are about
to advance the objection that there
are many of the 400,000 women who
could not afford a dollar a month for
beautlflers. Just remember that there
are thousands of other women who can
afford a dollar a day and, what's more,
who spend that sum for skin veneer.
It would take at least 250 railroad
cars to carry all this make-up, but as
most of it is produced in Manhattan it
Ian t necessary to pack It aboard trains.
It goal from factory to face, as an ad
vertisement might say, with very little
travel in between.
As for the bulk of a year's supply it
would Just about make a full size
model of the Statue of Liberty, and
she's a lady whose face often looks as
if she'd like to have a good massage of
some cold cream that would take the
salt out of her copper pores.
Elg-hty-six Pounds for an Actress.
A separate tabulation has been made
of the amount of make-up used by a
woman of the stage. The glare of the
lights demands heavy applications, and
an actress uses more than three times
as much on the stage as she does off,
assuming that she tries to look like a
human being on the street.
The stage figures slven in this ar
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Ing to do something is stupid if she
listens to any such nonsense.
We work for more than money. The
body is more than raiment. Just as
the spirit is more than food. We work
for work's sake, and for our own de
velopment. And the woman who works develops
her brains and relieves the pressure on
that absurd and I often wonder if It
isn't an imaginary organ the old
fashioned heart.
The real heart is the seal of the af
fections. But what affections worthy
of being dignified by the term ever got
stultified because a woman started to
use her brains?
Finally: What part does love play in
a business woman's life?
I say it plays the most important
part. For it is natural for all who love
to want to serve.
And while it may not be necessary
for all to go out and accept an office
position and this is what is usually
meant by "the business world" love
is not changed in the least.
If love be a delicate African apricot
with a bloom that the business world
Cosmetics Required Yearly by
Average Woman.
(Some women, of course, use
little or none, but there are
others who keep up the average.)
Articles. Pounds.
Cold cream 6
Face powder 6
Talc t 10
Dry rouge li
Lip rouge v,
Eye black
Nail polish .- i
Total 25Vi
tide are for what is called "straight
makeup." An actress playing character
parts uses considerably more than S6
pounds a year, more being necessary
in building up wrinkles and such
things. The table does not show a very
large amount of lip rouge allotted to
actresses. That is because the red
grease paint takes the place of It to a
great extent.
Stage women spend Jess for cold
cream, which they use in huge quanti
ties, than do other women. They find
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brushes off, then let us have none of
such love!
Real love is the most enduring: thing:
in the world. Fire cannot sear it,
neither can many waters quench it. It
is set as a seal on the heart of those
worthy of it.
Love Softens Heart.
Love does not make a woman hard:
rather, it makes her soft of heart and
tender of understanding. Neither does
work make a woman put less of a valu
ation on love, but rather more, since
she sees how bravely love often strug
gles and without assistance.
Neither does work make a woman
less motherly and womanly, but rather
more so.
Work and love are the two great
factors in the development of a wo
man's heart and in the awakening of a
woman's brain.
Shame on those who would have us
believe that the business world is less
than a fine, fair battlefield on which
each man and each woman shows the
mettle of which they are made!
the cheaper creams, at about 50 cents
a pound, as good as if not better than
the fancy creams for which society
women pay $2 or $3 a pound. Stage
folk, both men and women, use cold
cream as a foundation for the rest of
their makeup, and, after the perform
ance, as a cleanser for the skin. It
costs an actress about $1 a month for
cold cream, even at 60 cents a pound.
Here are some figures on the subject:
treed by a woman of the stage In a year:
Articles Pounds.
Cold cream ........... 24
Flesh grease 2
Red grease 2
Blue crease
powder 24
Dry rouge .. ........ m ............... lx,i
I-Jp rouge ..............-... hi
Black cosmetic 2
Liquid whiting SO
Powdered whiting 10
Total 88
Costs women $5,000,000 ' to dodge pale
cneelts:
Articles
Cold cream
Face powder
Talc .
Rouge
Lip rouge
Eye brack ........
Kail polish ........
Pounds. Cost.
2,400.0'0 1,6'0.000
2.4rt0.000 H00.O00
4.OO0.0OO
1,200.000
tioo.000
aoo.ooo
7o.00
600.000
B00.UO0
300,000
300.000
U00.OO0
Total
. 10,200,000 $5,055,000
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