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Dear Deanna!
I m th e b a b y s itte r fo r m y n e ig h ­
b o r a n d th e k i d ’s f a th e r is s ta r t­
in g to m a k e h in ts th a t h e w a n ts
^lo rtla n ò (Observer
A sk
a re la tio n s h ip . H e h a s g iv e n m e
flo w e rs a n d w e s h a r e d a b o ttle
o f w in e w h e n h is w ife w a s o u t
o f to w n . H e ’s p u ttin g p re s s u re
o n m e to b e in tim a te b u t I d o n ’t
fe e l c o m f o r ta b le in h is h o u s e . I
n e e d to ta lk to h im to see w h a t
he w a n ts fro m m e a n d w h a t h is
p la n s a re fo r h is m a rria g e . H o w
d o I h a v e th is d is c u s s io n ?
—
S tre s s e d B a b y s itte r; C h a r le s to n ,
S .C .
Dear Babysitter:
Real People, Real
y o u r s is te r is s o m e o n e y o u g re w
u p w ith a n d y o u k n e w m o s t
th in g s a b o u t h e r b e f o r e s h e
ch eatin g and looking for m en w hen
y o u n eed to co o l o f f an d slo w it
d o w n a bit w h en y o u ’re aro u n d
they h an g o u t w ith m e. I am not
m o v e d in. T h is d e c is io n is q u ic k
a n d to th e p o in t. I f i t ’s y o u r
h o u s e , y o u r r u le s a n d y o u r
them . T h e se are y o u r frien d s an d
g o in g to w a ter d o w n m y lifesty le
rig h t n o w an d m y frie n d s are
y o u n eed to still sh o w so m e re ­
T h e o n ly d is c u s s io n y o u n e e d
b o y frien d s are a cc u sin g th em o f
h a v in g a hard tim e w ith this. T h e y
sp ect an d re g a rd fo r the d iffe r­
e n c e s in y o u r re la tio n s h ip s, o r
lack th ereo f. A t th e en d o f the
m o n e y , th e n sh e n e e d s to sh a p e
u p o r s h ip o u t. If y o u h a v e so m e
jo in t a g re e m e n ts , th e n y o u n e e d
say th at I am actin g lo o se and as
i f l d o n ’t h av e any m o rals. I th in k
d ay , e n jo y y o u r life an d re a lize
th e y ’re tied d o w n to b alls and
to c h a n g e s o m e lo c k s , m a k e
that e v e ry o n e is re sp o n sib le fo r
c h a in s a n d a re je a lo u s . A m I
n e w ru le s a n d try a g a in b e fo re
s e n d in g h e r p a c k in g .
th e ir c h o ice s. Y o u rs ju s t a p p ea rs
w ro n g ? - H a p p y an d F ree; O n ­
line R ea d e r
m o re fun rig h t n o w
Dear Deanna!
A n advice colum n know n fo r
its fearless approach to reality
based subjects!
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I am fresh o u t o f a long term
re la tio n sh ip an d 1 really en jo y m y
sin g le life and freed o m . M y g irl­
frien d s all e n v y m e and now th eir
Ask Deamui is written by Deanna M.
Write Ask Deanna! at the email
T h e m en o f y o u r frien d s are in se ­
askdeannal@yahoo.com or 264 S.
cu re an d o b v io u sly d o n ’t k n o w LaCienega Blvd. Suite 1283 Beverly
th e ir w o m e n as w ell as they think.
Hills, CA 90211. W ebsite:
If y o u r b e h a v io r is a ffe ctin g them .
w w askdeanna. com
Dear Happy:
to h a v e is th e o n e a s k in g fo r
y o u r c h e c k fro m h is w ife a n d
e n d in g y o u r s e rv ic e s . T h is m a n
o n ly w a n ts y o u fo r se x b e c a u s e
h is w ife is a w a y w o rk in g a n d he
s e e s a w illin g b a b y s itte r . D o n ’t
be fla tte re d by th e w in e b e c a u s e
Them
th a t w a s p a rt o f h is g a m e to g e t
GE
y o u to g iv e it up. Y o u d o n ’t
n e e d to d is c u s s a n y th in g w ith
h im e x c e p t th e fa c t y o u ’re n o t
in te re s te d a n d h e n e e d s to fin d
a n o th e r b a b y s itte r a n d k e e p it
m o v in g .
Dear Deanna!
M y s is te r h a s m o v e d in w ith m e
a n d i t ’s a to ta l d is a s te r. S h e is a
lia r, a th ie f a n d a m a s te r m a ­
n ip u la to r. 1 a m u s e d to a c a lm
life th a t d o e s n ’t in v o lv e a n y o n e
o p e n in g m y m a il, a n s w e rin g m y
p h o n e a n d a c tin g as i f th e y liv e
in a h o te l w ith ro o m s e rv ic e .
I ’m g o in g to p u t h e r o u t b u t I
h a v e to fa c e d ra m a fro m m y
fa m ily b e c a u s e s h e ’s to ld th e m
a p a c k o f lie s. O u r fa m ily is to rn
a n d sh e a lre a d y h a s e v e ry o n e
on h e r sid e . H o w d o I e v ic t h e r
a n d s till s a v e fa c e ?
-A n o n y ­
m o u s ; L o s A n g e le s
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