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Dear Deanna!
I ’m in a relationship and I think my
jealo u sly is going to ruin things. My
girlfriend is attractive, friendly and o u t
going. It drives m e crazy w hen I see m en
m isinterpret this as flirting and start
trying to get w ith her. I have to control
m y self because I’ve m ade m y se lf look
like a fool several tim es by ju m p in g on
guys w hen there w as no need. H ow do
I deal w ith this? —Rob; Detroit
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w hen she keyed m y car. She keeps
harassing m e so bad that I get so angry
that I feel like hitting her. W hat do I do?
—Sean; A storia. N. Y.
Dear Rob:
You have a serious issue that needs to be
addressed. This w om an is not your w ife
and you're taking things in the w rong
direction. You can begin to get a handle on
this by sharing your feel ings and working
together to pinpoint her behavior that
bothers you. If this doesn't help, you
personally need to seek therapy to iden
tify the root cause o f your insecurities.
Dear Deanna!
I w anted to drop you a few lines about
m y ex girlfriend. W e broke up because
I d id n ’t w ant her anym ore and ju st told
her the relationship w as over. I replaced
the locks and changed all m y phone
num bers. She c a n ’t accept the fact it’s
over and took things to another level
salvage our 10 year marriage. He told me
that he w as very sorry for w hat he has
done but I could have reduced the pain
it I h a d n ’t follow ed him to the hotel and
caught him. He says all m en cheat at
som e tim e and it’s a m an's DNA. He
then pointed out our m ale friends that
cheat and nam ed a few celebrities. If
things d o n ’t w ork out is this w hat I have
to look forw ard to in a m arriage? —
The car repair should be easy unless you
d o n ’t have car insurance. A s for your
stalker, m ost o f the blam e is on you. She
is reacting this w ay because apparently
you caught her o ffg u a rd w ith the b reak
up. Y ou d id n ’t “ m an-up” w ith respect
and concern nor did you behave in a
G odly fashion. It w as your resp o n sib il
ity to end the relationship w ith an ex p la
nation and closure instead o f d um ping
her cold turkey. U nless you w ant to go
to jail, take out a restraining o rd er and
keep y our m outh shut.
Dear Deanna!
I learned that m y husband has been
cheating on me. I am currently trying to
decide if I can forgive him and if w e can
Y our husband is sorry indeed because
he got busted w ith another w om an and
tried to flip the script and put the blam e
on you. All m en d o n ’t cheat and infidel
ity has to do w ith lust, im m aturity and
being selfish. If he and his friends all
have cheating in com m on, th e y ’re birds
o f a feather that sh o u ld n ’t be m arried.
Y our husband has confirm ed h e ’s a
cheater and h e ’ll cheat again. Ify o u find
y o u rse lf in another relationship w ith a
good m an, give him a fair chance and you
w o n ’t be disappointed.
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