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Aging and Memory Resources
Health event
scheduled
Saturday
African A m erican seniors and their
fam ily caregivers can once again com e
together and learn about resources
available to them and hear from speak­
ers w orking in cutting-edge health pro­
grams that positively impact their com ­
munities.
A Hold O nto Your M emory: Aging
and M em ory in the African Am erican
C om m unity conference will be held
Saturday, Sept. 6from 9a.m .to3:30p.m .
at Portland C om m unity College C as­
cade Cam pus, 705 N. K illingsw orthSt.
The second annual event is spon­
sored by V olunteers o f Am erica O r­
e g o n , T h e L a y to n A g in g a n d
A lzheim er’s disease Center at Oregon
H ealth and Sciences University and
the Urban League o f Portland.
The free conference is dedicated to
addressing the concerns around health
disparities o f African American seniors
and their families. Free transportation
Dear Deanna!
I think I’m in a relationship
that is one-sided. In the be­
ginning my boyfriend and I
shared a lot, communication
was good and we talked about
our goals. Now we don’t do
anything recreational unless I
make a suggestion and pay
for everything. I keep trying
to love him, support him and
find out what’s going on. He
won’t respond but he won’t
be rude nor leave the house.
I’m very confused and these
mixed signals make it worse.
How do I get through to him?
—Going Crazy; Toledo, Ohio
Dear Going Crazy:
Your boyfriend has simply
fallen out oflove with you. He
thinks he’s being nice and
respectful but he’s really be­
ing dishonest with you. He
has some pent up feelings and
thoughts that will only come
out if you ask direct ques­
tions. You should ask him to
share his feelings about the
relationship, find out where
you stand and if he wants to
be with you. Don’t make as­
sumptions but rely on his di­
rect response and actions and
be willing to take the good
with the bad.
Dear Deanna!
My cousin is dating someone
but they have an open rela­
tionship and have been known
to date other people. They
still have a good relationship
because they are upfront with
everything. Now, her boy-
Corliss McKeever o f the African American Health Coalition and Tiffany
McKenna o f the Marie Smith Health and Social Center support the
“Hold On To Your Memory" health conference Saturday at Portland
Community College's Cascade Campus.
Ask ö
Real People, Real Advice
An advice cot mini
known fo r its fearless
approach to reality
based subjects!
friend is interested in dating
me on the side. I am also
interested in him but I don’t
know how my cousin will
react. I know it wouldn't be
anything serious because they
often joke about the people
that try to come between
them. Should I date him any­
way? —Anonymous; Dallas,
Texas
Dear Anonymous:
This is not the solution if you
want something meaningful
in a relationship complete with
respect and sincerity. You al­
ready know going in that you
would have your cousin’s left­
overs and everyone else’s be­
cause h e’s a recreational
dater. Then you have to ask
yourself if this man is worth
the confusion withyourcousin
and family drama that will be
sure to follow. Choose some­
one else to date unless you
purposely want to be second
fiddle with no options.
Dear Deanna!
I’m engaged to a good man
and we love each other. He
cheated on me and got some­
one pregnant and I stuck by
his side from the beginning to
the end. He has no plans of
leaving me but the child’s
mother doesn’t understand
that. She’s using every trick
she can think of but he won’t
budge. We are getting mar­
ried soon. Am I supposed to
sit and watch or is there some­
thing I can do to help him? -
-Committed; Hickory, N.C.
Dear Committed:
It’s good that you're standing
by your man and even better
that you’re getting married.
Your future husband obvi­
ously told this woman things
she wanted to hear because
there’s a baby and she has
hope. Your husband is the
key to this puzzle. He needs to
establish a paternity suit, make
child support decisions and a
custody arrangement. You
need to support him while he
puts things in order and then
go into a clean marriage with
no tjaggage.
Ask Deanna is written by Deanna
M. Write Ask Deanna! Email:
askdeanna I @yahoo.com or 264
S. LaCienega Blvd. Suite 1283
Beverly Hills, CA 902! I. Website:
is also available thanks the sponsor­
ship o f T riM et’s Ride Connection.
T o p ic s in c lu d e tra d itio n a l and
co m p lem en tary ap p ro ach es to d e a l­
ing w ith ag ing and m em ory loss.
W o rk sh o p s and reso u rce in fo rm a­
tion will also ex p lain how som e m edi­
cin es can play a large ro le in the
p rev en tio n and m anag em en t o f ag ­
ing and m em ory loss.
Participants can leant and take part
in hands-on dem onstrations in stress
and d ep ressio n , healthy soul-food
cooking, acupuncture, and horticul­
tural, arom a and massage therapies,
with an em phasis on better ways to
com m unicate with a doctor.
A free healthy soul food lunch will
be served at noon with entertainm ent
provided by local storyteller & drum ­
m er Nyewesi Askari.
O therevents will include free health
screenings, sample com puter games
that stim ulate the brain, and an intro­
duction to "m indfulness” mediation
practice, w hich helps reduce stress.
For more inform ation, call Tiffany
M cKenna, director of the M arie Smith
Center at 503-802-0453.
Activist
Appointed to
School Board
The Portland
School Board has
selected an activ­
ist for the His­
panic community
to serve an open
seat on the volun­
teer board.
M artin G on­
zalez of north
Portland will take
the position va­
cated by Dan
Ryan, another
north Portland
resident.
Gonzalez is the
former executive Martin Gonzalez
director of the
Portland Schools Alliance and was recently hired
as an outreach coordinator for TriMet.
"Martin Gonzalez has been deeply engaged with
schools in Portland for many years," Director
David Wynde noted, "he brings great experience in
engaging parents and families who have not tradi­
tionally had a voice in the district. His integrity,
intelligence and commitment to to all students will
serve the district well."
Gonzalez will serve until June. If he wishes to
run for a full four-year term, he will have to file for
election by March to be on the May Primary ballot.
Public Servant
Ted Winters
Remembered
Was founder o f
prison ministry
M arc "T ed” W inters, husband o f Sen.
Jackie Winters, R-Salem, and a form er aide to
G overnorsTom McCall and Bob Straub, died
Aug. 26. He was 84.
A memorial service will be held at the State
Capitol on Friday, Sept. 5 at 2 p.m. The
service is open to the public.
"W inters was a devoted husband, father
and dedicated Christian w hose life was a true
testam ent to the pow er o f the hum an spirit
and faith in G od," said Senate Republican
L eaderT ed Ferrioli o f John Day. “He will be
missed and rem em bered by many. O ur hearts
and deepest prayers are with Jackie and her
family.”
Ted W inters w orked for the state o f O r­
egon for 15 years, including seven years as
staff to Govs. McCall and Straub. M ost
recently he was a legislative assistant to his
wife.
D uring the M cCall adm inistration, he
served as the director o f the State Econom ic
Opportunity O ffice where he helped to es­
tablish the H ousing D ivision w hich later
becam e the O regon H ousing and C om m u­
nity Services Department.
He assisted with the creation o f the O r­
egon D epartm ent o f Human Resources, and
also served as G overnor's liaison to the Model
Cities Program and Portland M ulti-Service
Center. He established state om budsm an
program s for nursing hom es and correc­
tions.
As a private citizen, he founded M AJAC
Institute and New Life Christian Netw ork,
Inc., a post- prison m inistry for w hich he
served as executive director. He, along with
Jackie, served "Jackie's Ribs" to thousands
o f O regonians.
A published author, he w rote short sto­
ries as well as two autobiographical books.
Never Kill Lions and Lifer. The books related
his rem arkable life story of transform ation
and redemption.
His unique transform ation from a life of
crim e to a governor’s aide, made a positive
difference in the lives o f people around the
world. In 1972, Gov. McCall stated "no indi­
vidual has given stronger proof o f Reform a­
tion than Marc P. W inters".
He is survived by his wife; son Mark;
d a u g h te r T h e re sa ; ste p so n s, A n th o n y ,
Marlon, Bill and Brian McClain, 11 grandchil­
dren, three great-grand children and several
nieces and nephews.
In lieu o f flowers, the family requests that
donations be m ade in his honor to Family
Building Blocks, 2425 Lancaster Dr. NE, Sa­
lem, OR 97305, a non-profit child abuse pre­
vention program serving high risk children
and their families; or the Y atim aG roup Fund,
8 9 1 23rdSt. NE, Salem, OR 9 7 3 0 1, a non-profit
that helps care for children w ho have been
orphaned in Tanzania because o f HI V/AIDS.
www,askdeanna.com
Verdict Finds Workplace Racism
con tin u ed
fro m Front
and used cars annually.
"W e need people to be in­
formed about w ho not to do busi­
ness w ith,” he said. “Ashbury is
one o f those com panies that have
shown a total disregard for people
o f color, seniors and gay and
lesbian com m unities.”
The Thom ason Auto G roup i n
2(K)1 paid 11 form er em ployees
$2.5 million after the Equal Em ­
ploym ent O pportunity C om m is­
sion upheldclaim sof racial, sexual
and religious harassm ent and
found the com pany had tolerated
a hostile work environm ent.
A witness for the dealership
o w n er said m anagem ent took
steps to com bat racial harass­
ment, according to court papers.
A ssociated Press contributed
to this story.
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