Page A3 Iuly 23, 2008 Survey Looks at Black American Values, Lifestyle Counters long-held misconceptions A ccording to one o f the larg - est-ever studies o f B lack A m erica, 70 percent o f A frican A m ericans alread y have a plan fo r th eir fu ­ ture. The survey by Radio O ne Inc. and Y ankelovich, a Chapel Hill, N .C.,-based research firm, inter­ viewed 3,400 A frican A m ericans betw een 13 and 74 years o f age and provides the most detailed snap shot o f African A m erican life in the United States today. The study finds strong group identity across age and incom e brackets. It also discloses a com ­ prehensive and nuanced look at how African Am ericans feel about many aspects o f life in America, and cautions against a sim plistic reading of B lack America as a mono- lithic group. It show s that blacks are divided evenly on how they liked to be described, with 42 percent prefer­ ring to be called “B lack” and 44 percent preferring "A frican A m eri­ can.” Ask ö Real People, Real Advice advice cola inn known fo r its fearless approach to reality based subjects! \ ii A study on Black America finds faith can lower the level o f everyday stress. Dear Deanna! My teen daughter drinks a lot and I think it’s a problem but others seem to think its okay because she’s a freshm an in college. H er grades are average, she has no sense of responsibility and I ca n ’t seem to get through to her. She is very rebellious and although I hate to say it, she's horrible and nasty when she’s drunk. I c a n ’t recall the last tim e she was sober. I need to tear her away from her loser friends and get her som e help but everything I’ve tried has failed. —A n o n ym o u s; D allas, T exa s Dear Anonymous: A lcohol abuse is n ev er a c ce p t­ able. You need to im m ediately get s o m e h e lp fro m A lc o h o lic s A n o n y m o u s. Y es, y o u n g s tu ­ dents new to co lleg e drink and party but y o u r d a u g h te r’s p ro b ­ lem is a m ore intense an d d an g e r­ ous. H er problem s are m ore than the co lleg e ex p erien ce and she needs to take a break, get h erself to g e th e r and go sc h o o l o n ce sh e ’s clean ed up her act. If not, your money will go dow n the drain and sh e ’11 co n tin u e on a fast track o f self-d estru ctio n . Dear Deanna! At on e tim e, I w as low in my life, la c k in g s e lf e stee m and self- w orth. D uring th is p erio d , I m et my h u sband and I settled ju st to have a man. W e’ve been to g eth er for alm o st five years and now I see h e ’s not the m an for me. He has verbally abused me, had a f­ fairs and I’ve let him stay. His bad fin an ces are an o th er story. I see the excuses I’ve m ade and I’ve ack n o w led g ed my blam e in this relatio n sh ip . Am I being selfish and am I w rong to break up w ith him ? —R e a d y to S ta r t O v e r; B a l­ tim o re, M d. Dear Ready to Start Over: T h e re ’s nothing w orse than se t­ tling for less w hen you have o p ­ tions to w ait for the right thing. Y ou’ve exhausted your tim e, your patience and personal se lf for a few years. Y o u ’re rig h tly ju s ti­ fied in w anting to clean up this m ess and start a clean slate. H e ’s not attached on a deep em otional level so it sh o u ld n ’t su rp rise or T h e a v e ra g e h o u s e h o ld o f those surveyed had three people in it, half o f w hom lived in a single fam ily hom e, o n e-th ird in a p a rt­ m ents, o n e-th ird in the suburbs and h a lf in cities. A m ong 29 to 74 year-olds, one-third were m arried; 61 p ercent w ere paren ts, five p e r­ cent o f 13 to 17 y ear-o ld s w ere p aren ts, and h alf o f all parents w ere sin g le parents. From an educational and eco ­ nomic standpoint, 34 percent o f those surveyed who were 18 or older had some college or a two- year degree, 21 percent h a d a B A o r higher, 40 percent had an annual income under$25.(XX)and one-third more than $50,(XX). T he digital divide has faded. Sixty-eight percent o f those sur­ veyed are online (com pared to 71 percent o f all A m ericans), and two- thirds o f them shop online. Among teens, over 90 percent are online. Black identity rem ains strong across al I age and econom ic groups. W hile 56 percent o f those surveyed have “all” or "alm ost" all black friends, only 30 percent said they prefer being around people o f the same race. Discrim ination rem ains a very real part o f black life in America. W hile 24 percent said they had been p e rso n a lly d isc rim in a te d against in the past three months, 82 percent said they believe it is “im ­ portant for parents to prepare their children for prejudice.” Sixty-seven percent overall said they believe the history o f slavery is a key way in which blacks are different from other groups, but one-third also say that too much em phasis is put on the oppression o f blacks. A m ong other findings in the re­ port: 83 percent o f those surveyed have health insurance, a m ajority (66 percent o f w om en and 52 per­ cent o f men) has family doctors, and 40 percent o f Blacks who go online search the internet for health and medical information. 83 percent o f those surveyed describe them selves as C hristian, though only 41 percent go to church at least once a week. 70 percent o f w om en and 59 percent o f m en b e­ lieve that faith in God is m ore likely to help them recover from a serious illness. 72 percent want to learn more about how to invest. 50 percent believe banks and other financial institutions do not understand their needs; and only 8 percent trust credit card com panies. shock him when you let him know it’s over. Y es, you sh o u ld file for d ivorce, take the lead on the se p a­ ration, say g oodbye and keep it m oving. Dear Sibling: Dear Deanna! Your brother is grown ju st like you and this gam e will continue as long as both o f you allow it. If you were able to have enough conversation to get to the point o f him moving in, you can have ju st as much dialogue to get him out. All you have to do is give him a tim eline and let him know that he has to get a jo b and start saving. Then start the next plan that involves him getting his ow n place, getting out and o f course, keeping it moving. I let my b ro th er m ove in w ith me and my househ o ld has been a w reck. He has show n no in te n ­ tions o f getting a jo b . H ow ever, he eats enough for tw o people, leaves the bathroom a m ess and thinks he has a built-in maid. This w asn ’t part o f the plan w hen I agreed to help him get back on his Ask Deanna is written by Deanna feet. T his has been going on for M. Write Ask Deanna! Email: m onths and I’m at the end o f my askdeannal @ yahoo.com or 264 rope. W hat do I do at this point that S. 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