Dear Deanna! I feel as if I’m always treated like dirt. I play by the rules, respect people, and stay out of trouble. Every time I turn around, a girl­ friend is stabbing me in the back and men always play me or think I’m stupid. What am 1 doing wrong to continue attracting people that hurt me like this. Am I a bad judge of character? —Anonymous; Dallas, Texas Ask o Dear Anonymous: Yes, y ou’re a bad judge o f char­ acter because you've placed your need for acceptance higher than y o u r p e rs o n a l s e lf - r e s p e c t. People treat you the way you allow them. You need to look in the m irror and seek happiness in yourself rather than people. At the end of the day, d o n ’t lose any sleep, hold your head high and Page AS a:i!‘’|Jo rtlan b © bseruer December 28, 200S Real People, Real Advice An advice column known for its fearless approach Io reality based subjects! realize you deserve better. Dear Deanna! I’m losing my husband to a co- worker. I understand that men and women work together but I think something else is going on He spends too much time with this woman, gives gifts to her children and constantly brags about her accom plishm ents. When I talk to him about this, it causes an argument and he ac­ cuses me of being insecure. How do 1 deal with this situation be­ cause I can’t take it anymore? - Sad Wife; Detroit Dear Sad Wife: If your husband is providing and you do n ’t have any evi­ dence then you need to get a grip. O bviously y o u ’re not content with your placem ent in life and the other woman is m aking you get your A-gam e in order. H ow ­ ever, if h e ’s taking m oney out o f the household and getting d e­ fensive when you address it, then yes, som ething is going on. Put your foot dow n, give him an ulti­ matum about his behavior and keep it moving. household is none o f my busi­ your ex-w ife and her husband im ­ ness but we have children and m ediately. Let them know your I ’ m concerned. The c h i Idren don ’ t c o n c e r n s an d p r e s e n t the like him either and they tell me c h ild re n ’s inform ation and make that he m istreats them by yelling sure the children a re n ’t playing and m aking p h y sic a l th re a ts. games. A voidjail. and em barrass­ T heir m other is so in love that she ment by handling this like a m a­ looks past this and chooses the ture adult or y o u 'll m ake m atters man over the kids. W hat options worse and it simply isn 't worth it. do 1 have before 1 talk to this m an? Ask Deanna is written by Deanna —Paul; Jacksonville, Fla. husband. W hat goes on in their You need to have a m eeting with M. Write Ask Deanna! Email: askdeannaKrPyahoo.com or 264 Dear Paul: S. LaCienega Blvd. Suite 1283 High em otions, jealousy, distrust Dear Deanna! Beverly Hills. CA 90211. 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