Page AS September 21. 2005 Inspired ,r Positive Change continued from Front H aving traveled outside o f P ort land them selves, the trio is hoping to e n c o u r a g e o th e r y o u th to broaden their horizons, physically and spiritually, by show ing them w hat life is like in othercities. W hile the M illion M ore March is the ulti m ate destination, it’s the conversa tion and sights along the way that will help m ake the trip m em orable. “If you d o n ’t get a chance to leave here, you d o n ’t get a chance to change. W hen 1 cam e back to Portland, I w as a com pletely differ ent person,” said De G roove, a form er student at Howard U niver sity. "Y o u ’ll get a chance to see the spectrum o f our race. Y ou’re com ing back w ith a story to tell.” By being part o f the M illion More M ovem ent, the youth will have an opportunity to feel the pow erful energies put forth by African Ameri can leaders such as M inister Louis Farrakhan, Rev. A1 Sharpton, and Rev. Jesse Jackson, am ong many others. T he y o u n g P o rtlan d leaders w ant kids to see an environm ent where black people are making posi tive contributions. They say part of the problem is that w hen people have m ade a difference in their lives through education and activism they tend not to “return to the ‘hood,” w here they could serve as encouraging exam ples to others. “W e w ere seeing a lot o f youth in our com m unity with no role m od els,” Friday said. W ashington said the only dif- ference betw een a college graduate and a high school dropout is hav ing respectable associations with other people. But if those people have moved elsew here, youth d o n ’t have the needed exposure. A nother issue, they said, is the prevailing inner-city problem of be ing raised in a broken home. “W e com e from a generation of Tim Washington Jr. (from left), Xavier Friday and Omari De Groove are taking a group o f young men to Washington, D.C. for the fatherless boys - they d o n ’t have Million More Movement. photo by M ark W ashington /T hf . P ortland O bserver fathers to look up to. It’s our re sponsibility to take these brothers on the block and have them use their intelligence for more than frac tions,” X avier said, m aking refer ence to drug use. T he issue ties into one o f the fundam ental m essages set for M illion M ore M ovem ent - to be a father w ho takes tim e for his R A N C H E R S children. Through the Portland Inspiration Project, peer mentors can help youth at a level different than what is set by traditional com m unity leaders. “W e try to be an exam ple for our role m odels,” W ashington said. “W ith this w hole project, w e’re try ing to change our thinking about each other and ourselves.” A fter their cross-country trip, the group has plans for park functions and working with the Boys and Girls Club. A docum entary will also be Rancher’s Reserve “Restaurant created during the trip so that those Cut” Top Sirloin Steaks w ho couldn’t m ake it can view the Boneless. Cap-off. Bone-in. Or Sirloin Petite Steaks. experience. SAVE up to $ 1.70 lb. SAVE up to $3.50 lb. CLUB PRICE In order to m ake the trip acces sible to disadvantaged youth, the group needs cash donations. T o help out, call 650-799-7464 or visit w w w .esface.com /tour for more in formation. SAFEWAY Pork Shoulder Country Style Ribs intim acy. 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