<riu |Jn rtlan b ©bscruer August 31. 2005 Ask ö Real People, Real Advice S ii advice column known fo r its fearless approach to reality based subjects! Dear Deanna! My best friend has becom e a rude and arrogant person and I'm be ing affected. She has a nasty per sonality and people have stopped being friends with me because they think I’m like her. We have a 15 year friendship and it’s not that easy to end things. I feel torn betw een tw o evils and it’s caus ing me stress. W hat is the best way to handle this dilem m a? — A ngel; Las Vegas, Nev. Dear Angel: You didn’t wake up one day and see this situation for the first time. With the lengthy friendship you know exactly what you’re dealing COURAGEOUS HÏIIK1N U IH IIÍI1 S Page AS with. Obviously something has partying w asn't worth it. Do I need happened to make you unhappy to do this by writing them a letter, a and now you’re unsure what side call on the phone or should I go of the fence you want to be on. If home and tell them? you have an issue with your long M ichelle; -A tlanta, Ga. term friend, address it. If there are Dear Michelle: issues w ith others not wanting your You need to respect your parents friendship, address that as well and and their efforts and give them keep it moving. the courtesy o f a face-to-face dis Dear Deanna! cussion. You d id n ’t act respon I’ve messed up my entire first year sibly and failed to appreciate their of college. I haven’t gone to classes sacrifice to send you to college. and now it’s time to tell my parents. You should be asham ed o f your I ’ m afraid because now I want to do self. Talk with your parents hon the right thing and not waste their estly and share the reasons that money anymore. I’m embarrassed caused you to waste th eircollege because I know I’ve let them down. money. The next step is a sincere I'm behi nd in my studies and all the apology, a com m itm ent to fulfill your obligations if they finance the rest o f your education and a prom ise to re-pay the w asted school term once you graduate. matter. However, in this instance, your delivery and tone can be the turning point for this friendship. Place yourself in a neutral envi ronm ent, have a peaceful attitude Dear Deanna! and sim ply share your reasons I’ve been friends with a lady for a for not w anting a relationship. long while. Recently she’s been Then you should highlight the pushing me to take things to a new positive attributes o f your friend level and begin dating. I really like ship and she should understand her as a friend and would like to and respect you more. keep it that way. W hat’s the best method to share this without in Ask Deanna is written by Deanna sulting her self-esteem? —Anony M. Write Ask Deanna! Email: mous; St. Louis, Mo. askdeannal@yahoo.com or 264 S. LaCienega Blvd. Suite 1283 It’s best to be honest with your Beverly Hills, CA 90211. Website: thoughts and feelings about this h w w , askdeanna. com Dear Anonymous: SAFEWAY Ingredients for life. Members o f the 555"' Parachute Infantry Battalion, the first and only African American paratroop battalion in American history, peer through the open door o f the Troop Carrier Command C-4 7 over Southern Oregon. Oregon’s Lost World War II Hero E d ito r ’s note: Thanks to Roger Brandt o f Cave Junc tion, Ore. fo r the follow ing story: One of Oregon’s most im portant World War II stories celebrates its 60th anniversary this year in a tradition of obscu rity because no one is certain the exact location of where it happened. The soldiers who played out this dram a were paratroopers from the 555th Parachute In fantry Battalion, the first and only African Am erican para troop battalion in American history. A lso called “The T riple Nickles” the battalion served the U.S. Army from 1944-47. 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