PageA6 il’‘^Jortlanò (© bseruer___________________________ lune 2 9 . 200s Blues to Heat Up July 4th Weekend Music, fireworks support Oregon Food Blues diva Mavis Staples. Affordable entertainment and a good cause will fill the downtown waterfront with festive crowds this weekend for a four-day J uly Fourth celebration. G am m y A w a rd -w in n in g bluesman Buddy Guy, leg­ endary Chicago harmonica ace Charlie M usselw hite, Afro-pop superstar Oliver M tukudzi, N ew O rleans acoustic roots-rockers the subdues, and blues divas Mavis Staples and Shemekia Copeland will highlight the 2005 Safeway W aterfront Blues Festival, presented by First Tech Credit Union. Dear Deanna! Real People, Real Advice A ii advice eoliiiiiii known /o r its /earless approach Io reality-based subjects! I’ve been dating a guy for four years and he claim s that he loves me. However, I often wonder how we can love one another when we really do n ’t know each other. We never go out together although we spend time at each o th er’s home. He blames it on his job. It’s true he w orks a lot, but I feel that if you really want to be with som e­ one y o u ’ll make time. I turned 40 on my birthday and feel its time to move on. —J e a n ette; O n -L in e R eader Dear Jeanette: T here’s a huge com m unication gap in this relationship. I t’s odd to be with som eone for four years and still fall short on quality time. H e’s sim ply not into you but y o u ’ve made it easy for him to be in this relationship. You should get a new attitude and lay your cards on the table and express your desires. If he still w ants to be dead w eight using his jo b as an excuse, then hit the road and d o n ’t look back. Dear Deanna! My husband caught me in our home with som eone else a month ago. I was in acom prom ising situ­ ation that he walked directly into. W ATERFRO NT PARK He im m ediately started packing his bags and has been staying in a hotel. I want to apologize to him and try to work things out but he refuses my calls and w on’t re­ spond to my e-m ail. How do I handle this? —P a tricia ; D etro it Dear Patricia: You got exactly what you deserved. You can apologize all day long but you also need to seek forgiveness and pray to your Heavenly Father for strength and a fix it plan. Dear Deanna! I’m a single pastor w ith no kids and never been married. I met an attractive fem ale that I chatted with for over45 m inutes although I was w ith som eone else at the time. I gave her my business card and she gave me her e-m ail ad­ dress. She told me sh e ’s been seeing som eone for 2 years. I sent an online greeting with hopes of hearing from her. I ’ve never felt like this before and w onder if it’s appropriate? —W ise O ne; O n-Line R eader Dear Wise One: You’re already disqualified from a relationship with her because she has a mate. She displayed limited interest with the e-mail exchange because instead o f responding, she can simply delete your messages. Don’t be discouraged. You should translate these elevated feelings into p o sitive thoughts. If she doesn’t respond, instead of rejec­ tion, consider the experience a blessing and wait for the woman you deserve. A sk D eanna is w ritten by D eanna M. Write to A sk D eanna! via Email: askdeanna I @ ya h o o .co m o r 264 S. L a C ien eg a Blvd. S u ite 1283 B everly Hills, G4 90211. W ebsite: w ww, askd ea n n a . com M i s s \ \ back with her 6th album Ihe CookBook. The first single, "Lose Control" features R & B princess Ciara and hip-hop motivator Lal Man Scoop. Album also features additioi|id pioductiop> by long tim£ and cotiaborafcr I imbalapd and The Neptune’s. Special guests include Tweet, ' L a r g e s t B l u e s F e s t iv a l W e s t o f t h e M is s is s ip p i OVER 1OO SHOWS • FOUR STAGES • BLUES CRUISES • JULY 4TH FIREWORKS ____ The star are among dozens of world-renowned blues artists who will perform at the 18th annual event Friday, July 1, to Monday, July 4, from noon to 10 p.m. each day and night at Tom McCall Waterfront Park. On July 4lh the evening ends with spectacular fire­ works over the Willamette River. The festival is the largest blues festival West of the Mississippi and annually at­ tracts more than 120,000 blues fa n s, w ho tra v e l fro m throughout the world to hear performances by more than 100 blues artists on four stages. The 2005 event will spot­ light W omen in Blues, Gos­ pel Blues, and the blues- based music o f the Gulf Coast states o f Texas and Louisi­ ana. The festival will also fea­ ture a special tribute to Ray Charles. Admission is $5 per person per day plus two cans of nonperish­ able food. All festival donations benefit Oregon Food Bank’s work to eliminate hunger and its root causes. For a detailed line-up of events and information about festival blues cruises on the W illamette River, visit the Waterfront Blues Festival website at waterfrontbluesfest.com. P R E S E N T E D BY F ir s t T e c h C r e d it U n io n I antasia. Slick Rick, Mike Jones, Mary J Blidge, Grand I’uba and Lil Kim. riuHJH THE COOKBOOK A V A IL A B L E 7 /5 /0 5 "I really do think this is my best album. I was inu. really great space with ibis album. I played LU Kim the album the other day. and she m id uu jfAvas incredible and that tberewas not one wu/g on it she didn 7 like. " V lis s x W W W . 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