May II, 2OQ5__________________________________________ Dear Deanna! My boyfriend of four years cheated on me at least 10 times. At first we had an open relationship and we saw other people and later began getting serious about each other. Although he continued to cheat, he showed me love and came home at a decent time. Now he’schanged and is always around. I love him but 1 keep thinking about the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater.” Ask o Î,!C ^O rtlaub ©bsCTUCr____________________________ him about ballet, he can do a few chops and a couple o f drop kicks and keep on trucking. Dear Deanna! My wife cheated and broke up our home 6 years ago. I paid child sup­ port but she was vindictive and kept my kids from me. My daughter is pregnant and ran to me because her mother kicked her out of the house. I took her in but she disre­ spects me, and throws up the past and I want this to stop. —James —In Love and Confused Dear Confused: Once is too many times for cheat­ Real People, Real Advice An advice culmini known for ing. You play ed a part in this drama because of the tone in which this its fearless approach lo reality-based subjects ! relatio n sh ip began. He d isre ­ spected you but you allowed it. Count your four years as a learning and m ade to feel like h e’s gay or experience and find a man that’ll som ething. How do I choose be­ respect you like the deserving tw een ballet and football for my queen you are. You’re too good to son? —Motherof A Dancer; Pitts­ be seventh fiddle to a man that’s burgh supposed to be yours. No, he won’t Dear Mother: stop cheating and you’re a sucker Hello out there! W hat does your if you stick around. son have to say about all of this Dear Deanna! o r is he a f r a id o f h u rtin g Help me with this problem before som eone’s feelings by making the my husband has a fit. 1 enrolled decision him self? If your son my 10-year old son in ballet les­ enjoys football and ballet, let him sons but my husband w ants him do both and help your husband to play football too. He wants me see that your son is happy. W hile to take my son out o f dance class y o u ’re at it, enroll him in karate because he ’ s afraid he ’ 11 be teased too. This way, when kids tease Todd; Milwaukee, Wise. Dear James: No matter how old your daughter is if she’s under your roof, she has to abide by your rules. Put your foot down and let her know what the deal is and start the process of explaining and healing from the past. It’s not too late to share good val­ ues with your daughter that your silly ex-wife never had to begin with. Stay firm and do what you need in o rd er to ensure your daughter’s a better mother than your ex-wife was. Ask Deanna is written by Deanna M. Write Ask Deanna! Email: askdeannal @yahoo.com or 264 S. LaCienega Blvd. Suite 1283 Beverly Hills, CA 90211. Website: www.askdeanna.com Northeast Housing Project Finished Celebration planned A lo n g te rm p la n to en d hom elessness in Portland com es alive this month when Prescott T errace, 5725 N.E. Prescott St., opens 48 units o f permanent hous­ ing. R esidents o f the new develop­ ment will have access to on-site services and a com m unity-cen­ tered ap p ro ach to h ealth and housing. Portland’s Bureau of Housing and Community Development says with the Prescott Terrace opening, there are now more than 1 (X) perma­ nent housing units opened within the first five months of a 10-year plan to end homelessness. Nearly another 100 units are under devel­ opment. Prescott Terrace is a collabora­ tive effort with funding from fed­ eral, state, county and city agen­ cies, all focused on providing hous­ ing and intensive services for people who have been homeless for long periods of time. The public is invited to join elected officials from the City of PageA5 Festival Focuses on Health N a tu ra l a n d h e a lth y lifestyles will be celebrated Saturday and Sunday during the Oregon Convention C en­ ter in Portland. “Natural Style: A Sustain­ able Living Festival” is a pub­ lic event showcasing natural health and wellness; sustain­ able home and garden ideas; fashion; alternative transpor­ tation; food; and green prod­ ucts and services. A T riM et hybrid bus; n atu ­ ral gardening and hom e im ­ provem ent o p tio n s; an eco- fashion show ; o rg an ic c o o k ­ ing d e m o n stratio n s and sam ­ pling; socially responsible in­ vesting o p tions; and a k id ’s activ ity area w here they can learn about su stain ab le p ra c ­ tices in a fun in te rac tiv e way - a r e e v e n ts th a t p ro m is e som ething for ev ery o n e in the fam ily. E ntertainm ent and speak­ ers; a children’s activity area; and offer workshops, dem on­ strations, and fam ily-oriented, interactive educational displays - are also part o f the event. All w alks o f the su sta in ­ able lifesty le w ill be re p re ­ sented. The focus is on e d u ­ c a tin g the c o m m u n ity no m a tte r w h a t s u s ta i n a b l e practices are already in place in th eir lives. Meet Professional Services Project Managers City of Portland - Bureau o f Purchases You are invited to attend a Professional Services Outreach Event! Come and meet project managers from Portland area agencies and learn about professional consulting opportunities in business, finance, insurance, and the legal fields. Where: Portland Building, 1120 SW Fifth Ave, 2nd Floor, Room B When: Thursday, May 19, 2 to 4 p.m. Parking validated for SmartPark garages. Gregory J. Wolley Bureau of Purchases 1120 SW Fifth Ave, Rm 750 Portland, OR 97204 P h o n e; 5 0 3 -8 2 3 -6 8 6 0 Fax: 5 0 3 -8 2 3 -5 5 3 9 E -m a il: g w o lle y @ c i.portland.or.us Please RSVP Gale Hussey @ 503-823-5057 Oregon Air National Guard $ 2 0 ,0 0 0 In student loan repayments $ 1 0 ,0 0 0 Cash Bonus before 5 -1 1 -0 5 Over $800/M onth Educational Benefits Travel Opportunities • Paid Technical Training Contact your local Air National Guard Recruiter to determine eligibility. Prescott Terrace opens this month in northeast Portland, offering 48 units o f housing as part o f a 10-year plan to end homelessness. Portland and Multnomah County in attending the inauguration of Prescott Terrace during an open house on Friday, May 20, from 10 a.m.to 11:30a.m.. Refreshments provided. RSVP to M ic h e le C o n n o rs at micheleco@cascadiabhc.org or call 503-238-0769 and dial “0” for the operator. a /tre o » Hip-Hop Summit Opens Dialogue continued from Front positive,” Crews said. Featured musical guests at the concert will include all local artists - Soul Plasma, Urban Truth, Con­ c re te E v a n g e list, D arin n a Muhammad. Laquisha Hankens, Cathedral Kids, Mike Knight,Con­ fidence, and Solemn. “For people that have a passion, that want to bring change, this is a call o f action,” Crews said. “It’s kind of like a rally. Come, be in­ formed, and be empowered to make changes.” For more information, call 503- 259-7109. Natural Too Many Suspensions, Expulsions for Black Students continued from A4 dent achievem ent. I f a student is pulled out o f the classroom , they are deprived o f academ ic instruc­ tion and can easily fall behind. C learly, there is a connection betw een repeat disciplinary re­ fe rra ls and acad em ic failu re. A ccording to the Oregon D epart­ ment o f E ducation’s 2003-2004 Report Card, 11.7 percent o f A fri­ can A m ericans dropped out o f Portland Public high schools d u r­ ing the 2002-2003 school year com pared to 7.1 percent of their w hite counterparts. When you look at stu d e n t a c h ie v e m e n t within Portland Public Schools in that same year, 47.7 percent of all African A m ericans students met or exceeded benchm arks in En- glish/L anguage Arts com pared to 74.1 percent o f C aucasian stu­ dents. In math, 39.9 percent of African American students met or exceeded benchm arks in com ­ parison to 70.6 percent o f their w hite counterparts. The J R P report offers an array of strategies to address this issue. Some of the recommendations in­ clude identifying the problem and tracking the data, recruiting and hiring more diverse teachers, de­ veloping a strong professional de­ velopment program that includes comprehensive training on cultural competency and effective class management techniques, encour­ aging more parental involvement, setting clear and objective guide­ lines around disciplinary proce­ dures to minimize subjectivity and eliminating zero tolerance policies. If we are serious about eliminat­ ing the achievement gap and set­ ting high standards for all students, we must consider all the factors that affect student learning and achievement. Lack of teacher train­ ing and professional development, inadequate resources, institutional racism, and subjective use of disci­ plinary referrals are critical issues that deserve our attention. Our children's futures lie in the balance. North Africa Conference Opens The international conference “The Berbers and Other Minorities in North Africa: A Cultural Reap­ praisal” will be held at Portland State University from Thursday, May 12 to Sunday, May 15. Kamal Salhi, a professor of French from Leeds U niversity in England, will give a lecture on rethinking postcolonial cultures. Jane G oodm an, an assistant pro­ fessor o f C om m unication and C ulture from Indiana U niversity will present inform ation about songs, global circuits and c u l­ ture. For more information, call 503- 725-8789. 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