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May 26. 2004
Dear Deanna!
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I in 22 ;iiui learned that the m an w ho raised me is nix my
yo u r children. G et the governm ent involved. The
real lather All these years, I had no idea he could be a
stepdad. 1 feel em pty as I now look at him asju st another
g overnm ent c a n ’t find O sam a B in Laden but they
have a good track record o f catching deadbeat dads.
man instead o f my dad. How d o I deal with this and keep
C ontact y o u r local child support enforcem ent agency
from hurting his feelings? - N .T ; Boise. Idaho
to start the process. D o n ’t feel guilty about getting
y o u r child su pport entitlem ents. T hink o f the phrase
Dear N.T.
“B aby N eed a N ew P air o f S hoes.”
All D addies c a n ’t be classified as Fathers. Y our step
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dad may not be the sperm do n o r, but h e ’s the one that
Dear Deanna!
fed you, clo th ed you and kept a ro o f o v er y o u r head.
I m sick and tired o f m en disrespecting m e because o f
Look at him lo r the good he has done. D o n 't cheapen
my w ardrobe. III w ant to dress sexy and w earh o o ch ie
his effo rts because he lacks the official title o f “ Real
o r revealing clo th es to the m all o r grocery store, then
D addy. You m ust care for him if you are concerned
I should have this freedom w ithout m en trying to run
about his feelings. Be g lad he w as in the hom e foryou
lam e pick up lines on m e o r assum e I ’m easy. W h at's
and not on a child support poster.
y o u r su g g estio n ? - Dressing Sexy; Nashville, Tenn.
Dear Deanna!
Dear Dressing Sexy,
I’m a 27-year-old single parent w ith 4 children by 3
The m all and gro cery store is n ’t the place for you to
men. I ’m not on w elfare but I w ork 2 jo b s because o f
shake w hat y o u r m am a gave you. R espect y o u rself
my lim ited skills. I still struggle to m ake ends meet.
and o thers by d ressing appropriately w hen y o u ’re in
H ow d o I find the fathers and get them to help m e? -
public places. Y ou attract w hat you project. Y ou can
- Struggling; Queens, N. Y.
w ear w h atev er you w ant, but rem em ber men are
visually stim ulated and if you dress to m ake yo u rself
Dear Struggling,
look ch eap and easy then y o u ’re setting y o u rself up
Y o u ’re a positive role m odel and a good exam ple for
lo r unw anted attention. If the shoe fits, w ear it.
P hîjtos by M ark W ashington /T hf P ortland O b . sfrvi . r -
Ethiopians Celebrate Anniversary
M ^ d en tified
Students pictured last week in a
photo enjoying a recently com
pleted mural at Roosevelt High
Schtxil are not the artists who cre
ated i t The mural, capturing the
diversity o f Roosevelt’s students
and faculty, was largely made pos
sible by the tireless work anti dedi
cation by the school’s art teacher,
Roger Friedel. Portland State Uni
versity student Anna Agsten and
'lessor Isaka Shamsud-din also
helped create the mural with stu
dents from Roosevelt High School.
A rea residents are invited to jo in
the O regon E thiopian C om m unity
O rgan izatio n in celeb ratin g tw o
decades in O regon and southw est
W ashington w ith tw o days o f fes-
tivitiesover the M em orial Day week
end.
T he scheduled ev en ts include a
d in n er to benefit the organization,
a concert by one o f the m ost c e l
ebrated E thiopian perform ers, and
a youth and adult so ccer tou rn a
ment.
T h e d in n e rg a la o n Sunday, M ay
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Dinner Gala
Sunday, May 30 • 6pm
Polish Library Assn. Hall
Soccer Tournament
Sat-Sun, May 29-30
Jefferson High School
Concert
Saturday, May 29 • 9pm
Madison High School
3 0 a t6 p .m . w illincludeatraditional
E thiopian art auction, poetry read
ings, and a presentation by Dr.
B adege B ishaw , co-founder o f the
E thiopian T ree Fund.
T h e so ccer to u rnam ent, both
Saturday, M ay 29 and Sunday, May
30, is at Jefferson High School, 5 2 10
N. Kerby. T he concert is on S atu r
day at 9 p.m. at M adison High
S chool, 1125S.E. M adison; and the
d in n er is at the Polish Library A s
sociation H all, 3832 N. Interstate
next to K aiser Perm anente.
D O N ’T
W o r r y . T
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Actors Whitney Badon (left) and Emily Camel-Harris star in their '
video production project through Jefferson High School's Club
Drug Awareness Project. They are pictured with teacher Phil
Hopkins, who plays a doctor in the video.
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