A p ril 14. 2004
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Reader from Portland:
Ask
/ received an opinion from a
reader in Portland, Ore. who felt
the Ask Deanna.’ column encour
ages relationships to bust. That
is not true. My stand is i f a rela
tionship is not working, contains
physical abuse, mind games,
trickery or infidelity, then life is
too short and you need to keep it
moving. For marriage, which is
a sacred bond, you seek forgive
ness, counseling, God's divine
intervention and healing. How
ever, extreme m arital break Real People, Real Advice
downs or those with societal vio
An advice column known fo r
lations may be on the last leg
its fearless approach to reality
even after going through the
based subjects ’
process o f reconciliation. Sepa
ration or divorce then becomes belief that people go through many
the outcome after the last resort. of the same situations but have
Dear Deanna!
I read in your March 29, 2004
column about the lady finding
condoms in her fiance’s pocket. 1
agree with you that if he had the
condom s, they belonged to him.
My boyfriend did the same thing.
He told the same lie and 9 months
later had a baby by an o th er
woman because he was in the
street messing around. 1 left him
when it happened.
- Jackie;
Topeka, KS
Dear Jackie:
It’s good you were able to make a
strong decision that was good for
you. Your comments confirm the
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Dear Tyronne:
Please know I am too blessed to
be stressed. For anyone to send
an e-mail or write a letter to Ask
Deanna! indicates a serious con
cern or problem in their life. Ask
D eanna! c a tc h e s re a d e rs o ff
guard because some people have
a hard time accepting hardcore
tru th . T h e y p re fe r g u e ssin g
gam es, beating around em pty
bushes and lopsided feel good
honesty. For your rendezvous,
your wife should have been with
you or should have known about
it. Advice, suggestions and rec
ommendations considered direct,
frank, crass and most importantly
honest will continue to flow and
spades will be called spades when
necessary.
Helping Neighborhood Pride
Clean-ups are response to recent violence
A variety ofaetivists and com
munity groups are launching a
pilot project aimed at restoring
pride, prosperity, and peace of
mind to north and northeast neigh
borhoods recently rocked by a
series o f gang-related shootings.
A pair of neighborhood activ
ists with the support of the North
Northeast Business Association,
C leaner Image M aintenance,
SOLV, the Northeast Coalition of
Neighborhoods, and a variety of
local neighborhood and business
associations are behind this un
usual neighborhood clean-up ef
fort.
“Nothing is Impossible’ is de
signed to bring communities to
gether to meet and greet their neigh
bors while sprucing up neighbor
hood properties, including those
different outcomes. Keep reading Ask Deanna is written by Deanna
the column and please know your M. Write Ask Deanna.’ Email;
support is greatly appreciated.
askdeanna I @ yahoo.com
or
Dear Deanna!
I' m the man from the column dated
Feb. 4 who was spotted in a res
taurant by my w ife’s best friend.
These women w rite to you with
one side of the story and you take
a fem inist approach and beat
down the men. You must be bitter
or had your feelings hurt a couple
of times because you come off
like a man hater. Yes, I was in a
restaurant with a female but noth
ing happened other than dinner.
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write: DeannaM, P.O. Box 88847,
Los Angeles, CA 90009. Website:
www.askdeanna.com
abandoned and neglected proper
ties, while raising funds for future
programs aimed at building commu
nity, decreasing criminal activity, and
keeping neighborhood youth away
from gangs and guns.
Cleaner Image Maintenance, a
local company specializing in com
mercial maintenance, has pledged
support of the effort in the form of
workers who will train and super
vise volunteer work crews cleaning
and maintaining businesses and
properties throughout the neigh
borhood.
On Saturday, April 17, volun
teers will begin canvassing neigh
borhoods offering clean-up and
light maintenance services such as
raking, windows, washing vehicles
and
hedge
trim m in g
to
homeowners, property owners and
businesses in exchange for a vol
untary pledge. All pledged dona
tions will stay in the neighborhoods
they are raised in, and will fund
future organized neighborhood
projects. Boise, King, Humboldt,
Concordia, Vernon, 42nd Avenue.
Irvington and Woodlawn neigh
borhoods have already pledged a
commitment.
Work begins on Saturday, May
1 and will continue through the
summer months.
Individual and business volun
teers are still needed for cash and
supplies donations, as well as work
crews.
For information, contact Gary
Marschke at 503-284-9013 or 503-
869-8578orgmarschke@comcast.net
orBridget Bayer at 503-998-5121 or
e-mail bridges@easystreet.com.
—Tyronne; Chicago, IL
Candidates Tackle
Police Accountability
A m ayoral and com m is
sio n e r c a n d id a te 's forum ,
hosted by the A lliance for
Police and Community Ac-
i ountability, is from 10a.m. to
noon on Saturday, April 17 at
the YWCA, 1111 S.W. 10,h
Ave., 3rd floor conference
room.
The public event brings Tom
P otter, Jam es P osey, Phil
Busse, Nick Fish, Sam Adams,
W oody B ro a d n a x , Ja so n
Newell, Randy Leonard, Frank
Dixon and others to answer
m oderated questions about
police reform and community
policing.
Agenda Set for Neil Kelly Day
The Rotary Club of Albina
will be awarding three scholar
ships to high school seniors from
the north and northeast area at
a Neil Kelly Day Awards Lun
cheon from 12:30 to 1:30 p.m.
on F riday, May 14 at
Shenanigan’s on Swan Island at
4575 N. Channel Ave.
The North Northeast Busi
ness Association will present its
Neil Kelly Distinguished Ser
vice Award and other awards
to community businesses and
individuals.
The keynote speaker is State
Sen. Margaret Carter, a long
time African-American com
munity leader from northeast
Portland.
For more information, visit
www.albinarotary.org.
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