F e b ru a ry 9, 2000 Page A 4 (E lje P o r t h u t b ( ß h e e r u e r Opinion P o r tla n d Articles do not necessarily reflect or represent the views of (Elje J p o rtla u b (D b a e ru e r Letters to the Editor ■MM he ^ p o rtla n b (Oli serrici" USPS 959-680 E s t a b lis h e d 1 9 7 0 STAFF E d it o r C in h ie f , P u b l is h e r Charles II. Washington E d i T o R Larry J. Jackson, Sr. B u s in e s s M anager Gary Ann Taylor C opy E d it o r Joy Ramos C r e a t iv e D ir e c t o r Dear Editor, In honor o f the upcom i ng Valent i ne ’ s Day holiday, I w anted to share with y o u r re a d e rs s o m e in te r e s tin g in fo rm a tio n I le a rn e d from an “instruction m anual” o f sorts on the subject o f love and m arriage. I m ean, really, w hat is the secret to love? W hat is the way to a happy m arriage? These are questions that have been asked and answ ered m any tim es. Some o f the answ ers have been wise, many stupid. Few o f them have shown the way to being happy in love and marriage. The “m anual” I studied gave real, dow n-to-earth, applicable tools to actually use and apply to find the right partner, to create a happy union and im prove upon that m arriage. It was based on the w orks o f A m erican p h ilo so p h e r an d w riter, L. Ron H ubbard and d ep en d s uniform ly upon com m unication. Here are som e o f his tips on selecting a partner, and on som e causes o f conflict: • W h atisth e”com m unicatinglag” o f the individual? W hen asked a question, how long does it take him or h e rto register and return (not ju st talk back, but to actually answ er the question presented)? T he length o f tim e intervening betw een the tim e a question or rem ark is addressed to a person and the person answ ers the original question or statem ent is know n as his “com m unication lag.” T he fast answ er tel Is o f the fast mind. M arital partners w ho have the sam e communication leig (meaning their rate o f response to questions or rem arks address to them is sim ilar) will get along. W here one partner is fast and one is slow, the situation will becom e unbearable to the fast partner and m iserable to the slow one. In the book, Hubbard goes on to describe how a person can decrease this lag and quicken response time, making a happier partnership. • A “com m unication line” is the route along which a com m unication travels from one person to another. A m arriage can go on the rocks when the line betw een partners is cut or blo ck ed , such as a th ird person in terferes, on e person w ithholds com m unications from the other, one person cuts com m unication to the other by “clam m ing up,” one puts u n n ec essary or p a in fu l com m unication on the line, etc. Jealousy com es about because o f the insecurity o f the jealous person (the je a lo u s y m ay o r m ay not h av e foundation). This person is afraid o f hidden com munication lines, and will do anything to try to uncover them. T he other partner thinks he o r she is entitled to have open com munication lines with anyone, whereas thejealous marital partner insists that these lines be shut down. The resultant quarrels and disputes can be violent. • A fam ily that doesn’t continue to create itsel fas a family will cease to exist a sa family. Some people believe a m arriageor family will hang together through no effort o f its own. It w o n ’t. You have to realize that a m arriage is som ething you have to create into ex istence and keep created, and when you stop w orking at it, it will cease. • W hen in doubt, com municate. By stu d y in g L. Ron H u b b ard ’s courses in Scientology, my husband and I have gained some very useful and applicable advice, not only for building a very sound m arriage, but also for addressing the day to day problem s that crop up in a marriage. As a result, we enjoy each others com pany as much today as the day w e met! Sincerely, Angie DeRouchie Dear Editor, Recent new s accounts have detailed th e p lig h t o f h o m e o w n e rs w ho discover that unused oil tanks are leaking oil into surrounding soil - e v e n th o u g h th e y th o u g h t th e p ro b le m h ad b e e n c o r r e c te d . According to a January 5 article in The Oregonian, “State officials suspect that hundreds ofhom eow ners face sim i lar problems from contractors looking to make quick m oney closing residential underground oil tanks.” O t the more than 200,000 residential tanks in O regon, three-fourths have been abandoned and at least h a lf are thought to be leaking oil. A ccording to DEQ officials. According to new legislation that took effect in O ctober 1999, Oregon law now requires homesellers to have the oil pumped out o f any abandoned tank known to be on the property before the property is sold. To help residents com ply with retaining a state law and remove the uncertainty and c o n fu sio n a s s o c ia te d w ith retaining a contractor, NW Natural w ill refer residential co n v ersio n custom ers to Spencer Environmental fo r a fre e o il p u m p an d decom m issioning consultation. The offer is good until M arch 31. W e Thought your readers m ight be interested in knowing more about the dander o f leaky tanks and this hassle- free w ay that they can rem ove a potential environmental hazard while sw itching to natural gas- a preferred fuel source due to its decreased costs and increased com fort and reliability. Attached is additional inform ation on the program. W e’d be happy to h e lp a rr a n g e in te r v ie w s w ith representatives from NW N atural, S p en ce r E n v iro n m en tal an d the O re g o n D E Q , as w ell as lo cal h o m e o w n e rs w h o a re ta k in g advantage o f this hassle-free w ay to rem ove their leaky tanks. Ill follow up with you shortly; in the m eantim e you can reach m e at 503- 248-9468 Nathan Olsen,for NW Natural Shawn Strahan Juneteenth’s Liberation 4747 NE Martin Luther King, Jr. Blvd. Portland, OR 97211 503-288-0033 There are tw o hearts B elo nging to two people They beat as one. Som etim es. They beat out o f rhythm . Som etim es But whether they beat w ith the beat lo e e th e r Or beat like they're fo llo w in g their ow n »eat They beat as one. T h e W hite s pretend the beat's theirs T h e B la c k s pretend the beat’s theirs N either w ould dare adm it they w an l what the other has W h ile they stand bunched together on the banks o f the moat o f loneliness T h e W hites on one bank, the B la c k s on the other Its still waters keeping the apart. Y e t bondin g them together. T h e y stare at each other. T h e y drool at each other. Preach ing truth to their sou ls; I want what those people have A n d a ll the w h ile the A s ia n s loo k and laugh w hile they sharpen the spear T h e y ’re getting ready to d riv e into their h e arts. Another look at juvenile (in) justice Forty-six years after desegregation o f our n atio n ’s public schools, stating data shows that African American students have suffered disproportionately from suspension, expulsions and corral punishm ent in U.S. classroom s. W rites Dr. Leroy Purnell, deanoflaw at Northern Illinois University: “While the disciplinary process in a public school is not a crim inal trail, it is one in w hich the possible sanctions justifies a significant level o f due process protection.” In other words: Black kids are being introduced early to a crim inal process as jail intervention, rather than education intervention, becom es the norm in A m erican’s school discipline process. It is no leap o f im agination to surm ise that students who are pushed out o f schools w ithout an education safety net are m ore likely to indulge in antisocial behavior, which can lead to arrests and more unwanted pregnancies w hich can lead to few er life options. Because o f draconian drug sentencing laws and the nasty residue o f the U.S. “w ar on drug users,” 13 percent ofblack men, com pared to ju st 2 percent o f w hite m en, are disenfranchised from the right to vote thanks to a tag o f “convicted felon.” Even more disturbing is that nearly one in three A frican A m erican males in age group 20-29 is under crim inal justice supervision on any given day, including being in prisoner ja il, on probation or parole. T he stats for female inmates, most o f whom are also first tim e, non-violent offenders are equally disturbing. Today, the 1965 V oting Rights A ct cannot protect our youth from losing voting privileges because o f felony convictions, not like skin color that disenfranchised their grandfathers two generations before them. W ho needs a poll tax, w hen y o u ’ve got rap sheets? A new C olum bia Uni versity study, “ The C olor o f justice,” now reveals that African A m erican youths are m ore than tw ice as likely as their w hite counterparts to be transferred out o f a juvenile ju stice system and tried as adults. Said the co-author, “ the imbalances this study reveals are stark, vast and deeply disturbing,” com m ented Dan M acallair, the associate director o f C olum bia’s C enter for V iolence Research and prevention.” . .. There is a double standard: throw kids o f color behind bars, but rehabil itate w hite kids w hocom m it com parable crim es.” It should be noted that in D ow ner’s Grove, IL ju st last w eek, Caucasian students tw ice took a bom b to school and still avoided jail. T he ju d g e said he was “tro u b le d ... but posed no threat to other students.” In Decatur, six boys were expelled fortw o years, without the option o f alternative schooling, because o f 16-second first fight. They will be prosecuted this year for their alleged participation. Before o f Rev.Jesse Jackson intervened, these boys w ere kicked into the streets to sink or swim w hile they served there: sentence.” In California, Proposition 21 is another example o f draconian juvenile policy attem pting to becom e law. If approved by voters this M arch, the measure would allow prosecutors, instead o f judges, to decide w hether a juvenile be tried as an adult for a violent crime. Said Jackson, “It’s hard to avoid the conclusion that the U.S. system o f punishm ent isn’t about crim e or justice, but rather is about social co n tro l... The human costs are incalculable. Y oung people arrested for drugs are brutalized once in jail. Prison becom es their university. 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