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State
Revenue and
1RS Set Up
Saturday
Help Hours
T he O reg o n D ep artm en t o f R evenue
is team in g up w ith the In te rn a l R ev
enue S erv ice (1RS) to o ffe r tax a s s is
tance in P o rtla n d on ten c o n se c u tiv e
S atu rd ay s th ro u g h tax filin g season.
S tate R evenue R e p re se n ta tiv e s w ill
jo in 1RS re p re se n ta tiv e s for “ C u sto m er
A ssista n c e D ay s" in the P o rtla n d 1RS
o ffic e u n til A p ril 10. H ours o f serv ice
w ill be 8:30 AM to 12:30 PM.
T a x p ay ers can ask q u e stio n s o f both
sta te rev en u e and 1RS re p re se n ta tiv e s,
and o b tain form s to file th e ir retu rn s.
T he 1RS also w ill o ffe r free fe d e ra l/
sta te e le c tro n ic filin g . To o b ta in this
serv ice ta x p a y e rs m ust b rin g th e ir in
f o r m a tio n s u c h as W - 2 ’s, 1098 s
(m o rtg ag e in te re st sta te m e n t), 1099’s
(re fu n d sta te m e n t), and o th e r d o c u
m en ts.
T he P o rtla n d 1RS o ffic e is lo cated
at 1220 SW 3 rd A ve b etw een Je ffe rso n
and M adison av en u es. T he re p re se n ta
tiv es w ill be set up in the lobby.
F or a d d itio n a l in fo rm a tio n , ta x p a y
ers m ay c o n ta c t Tax H elp at 503 /3 7 8 -
4988. From Jan u ary th ro u g h A p ril, the
to ll-fre e n u m b er w ith in O reg o n is 1-
8 0 0 -3 5 6 -4 2 2 2 . S p an ish sp e a k e rs may
call 5 0 3 /9 4 5 -8 6 1 8 . F or TTY (h earin g
or speech im p a ire d o n ly ), the year-
ro u n d to ll-fre e n u m b er w ith in O regon
is 1 -8 0 0 -8 8 6 -7 2 0 4 . In Salem the n u m
b er is 5 0 3 /9 4 5 -8 6 1 7 . T hese num bers
are an sw ered by m ach in e o n ly and are
not for v o ice use.
Dear Friends and Relatives,
tu re N a tiv e A m erican and o th er a rts
isd o m o f th e E ld e r s ,
and c ra fts ta b le s, as w ell as v alu a b le
I n c . e x te n d s a s p e
cia l w elcom e for you and c u ltu ra l and co m m u n ity in fo rm a tio n
from o u r sp e c ia l group o f c o -sp o n
yours to jo in us on V a le n tin e ’s Day
s o rs .
for the first o f o u r sp e c ia l se rie s o f
S p e a k e r s w ill in c lu d e S o p h ie
m u ltic u ltu ra l g a th e rin g s title d “ An
G eo rg e (Y ak am a n a tio n ) who re c e n tly
A fte rn o o n W ith W isd o m O f 1 he
re c e iv e d the c o v e te d H eritag e A w ard
E ld e r s .” O ur F e b ru a ry c e le b ra tio n
from the N a tio n a l E ndow m ent for the
w ill fe a tu re w isdom and sto ry te llin g
A rts a s a m a s te r b e a d w o rk e r an d
from N a tiv e A m erican and A frican -
b a sk e tm a k e r. M am a O m o Ty F le tc h e r,
A m e r ic a n e l d e r s , a n d s t i r r i n g
e x e m p la ry A fric a n -A m e ric a n e ld e r
rh y th m s o f m u sic, re g a lia and dance.
w ill sh a re w arm re m in isc e n c es o f her
It w ill be h e ld from noon u n til 5 PM
g ra n d p a re n ts and the cu ltu ra l valu es
on S u n d ay , F e b ru a ry 14 at P S U ’s
th at w ere p a sse d from g e n e ra tio n to
S m ith M em o rial C e n te r in the B a ll
g e n e ra tio n in h er fam ily. R ose H igh
room (1825 SW B ro ad w ay , c o rn e r
B e a r, A la sk a n A th a b a sc a n and c o
o f SW B roadw ay and M ontgom ery
fo u n d e r o f W isdom o f the E ld ers, w ill
in d o w n to w n P o rtla n d ).
sh a re in d ig e n o u s e ld e r s ’ v id e o - r e
W e p la n to d e m o n stra te and h o n o r
c o rd e d m essag es from W O T E ’ 1998
I the ric h n e ss o f N ativ e A m erican el-
O ral H isto ry C o lle c tio n g ath ered th is
I d e rs ’ h e rita g e and c u ltu ra l v a lu e s.
su m m er in S outh and N orth D akota.
At the sam e tim e , we w ill learn from
T he p ro g ra m also fe a tu re s the M artin
and a c k n o w le d g e the e x e m p la ry s ta
H igh B ear M em orial Sun D ance D ru m
tio n o f P o r tla n d 's A fric a n -A m e ri
m ers and A rlie N e sk e h i, N avajo m u
can e ld e rs in a sp e c ia l c o m m e m o ra
sic ia n and sto ry te lle r. R hythm ic A f
tio n o f B la c k H isto ry M onth.
ric a n -A m e ric a n d an ce b eat by B obby
Jo in us at noon fo r lu n ch . O ur
F o u th e r and F rie n d s as w ell as m usic
food b o o th w ill featu re In d ia n tacos
from N ico W in d , N a tiv e A m e ric a n
an d A f r ic a n - A m e ric a n fo o d . O u r
sin g e r, ro u n d s out an a fte rn o o n of
N ativ e A m e ric a n ra ffle w ill fe a tu re
s tirrin g w o rld rh y th m s.
a L e g e n d a ry P e n d le to n B la n k e t, a
W e hope you and o th e r m em bers o f
N ativ e A m e ric a n hand drum , n a tiv e
yo u r co m m u n ity can jo in us on S u n
artw o rk , p o ste rs, bead w o rk and o th e r
day a fte rn o o n so w e can h o n o r you
c ra fts. T he g a th e rin g w ill a lso fea-
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An A fternoon with fi
& Wisdom of th e E lders^
Photo courtesy o f S ta te Historical Society o f North Dakota
w ith a N ativ e A m erican song and round
d an ce. A lth o u g h w e are a sk in g c o n tri
b u tio n s at the do o r from $5-$2O , se
n io r c itiz e n s re c e iv e free ad m issio n .
We a p p re c ia te yo u r h e lp in g us to pass
th is in v ita tio n alo n g to y o u r commu-j
nity .
Pilamiya (thanks),
Rose High Bear
Children’s Museum Capital Campaign Gathers Steam
F rie n d s o f th e C h ild r e n ’s M u se u m
a n n o u n c e d t h a t it h a s r a i s e d
$ 5 ,1 2 5 ,0 0 0 th ro u g h a m a jo r c a p ita l
c a m p a ig n th a t b e g a n tw o y e a rs ag o .
T h is a m o u n ts to o v e r h a lf o f th e $ 9 .9
m illio n n eed ed to b u ild a new M useum
at th e fo rm e r O M S I site in P o rtla n d s
W a sh in g to n Park.
T he planned M useum w ill rep lace the
M u seu m ’s cu rren t fa c ility in S outhw est
P o rtla n d , w h ic h se rv e s 9 5 ,0 0 0 v isito rs
an n ually. “ W e ’ve sim p ly o u tgrow n our
o ld fa c ility ,” sa id V e rn e S ta n fo rd , the
M u se u m ’s p re s id e n t. “ O u r p ro g ra m s
have e x p a n d e d o v e r th e y e a rs, b u t the
b u ild in g h a s n ’t.” in a d d itio n , the old
fa c ility , w h ich w as o n c e a n u rs e s ’ d o r
m ito ry , is not fu lly a c c e ssib le to v isi-
Happily Ever After
B y D r . D ominique M arguerite
CoNTRiBurtNt; W riter
You fell in love. The relationship was ex
citing, and the future was full o f promise. Y ou
felt alive. After a few weeks, months, or years
o f cooperation, adjustment, and weathering
conflicts, large and small, your partner no
longer treats you the way he or she used to;
you feel bored, angry, or repulsed. Whatever
the course o f events, you have become aware
that the relationship as it seems now is insuf
ferable.
The spirit o f our times gives you the option
to leave and start all over again. Maybe you
have children, or many years together Maybe
your personality, family or tribal culture re
quires you to “work it out.” You may feel
compelled to stay because this is your second
or third intimate relationship and you fear the
next would end the same.
At the beginning o f an intimate relation
ship, parts o f ourselves are brought to life
by the partner. You act or feel in ways you
never did before. Did you start hiking when
you had been a sofa spud? Did you, a shy
person, find yourself talking far into the
night? Something in the beloved awakened
facets o f your personality. But over the
course o f time, what had been shared at the
beginning o f the relationship becomes op
pressive. Your male partner is moody or
overly sensitive. Your wife is opinionated
or overly critical. He or she, who once was
loved, becomes detestable. This is a very
painful time, as intense as the time o f fall
ing in love, but in a negative way. What to
do?
You now have the opportunity to become
allies in facing the dark, conflicted, and re
jected parts o f each other. As we grow up, we
adjust to the environment the best way that we
can, and that means giving up or repressing
parts o f our nature. If an outgoing child is
bom into an insular family, he or she may
pull inward, yet marry an outgoing person.
There will come a time when you will need
to own that side o f yourself.
It is not uncommon that the very aspect of
your partner’s personality that attracted you
will be the one to drive you crazy, unless and
until you recognize it is part o f who you are.
That which you see in your spouse actually
belongs to you. Your main reproach may be
that he or she is cold, or selfish. It is time to
ask yourself: What in me is cold? What does
selfishness awake in me?
To be successful in a relationship, you
need to have a lot of self-knowledge and to
continue to learn as the union develops.
Each o f us brings a personal and cultural
history to a relationship. We bring a per
sonal and interactional style, as well as a
whole gamut o f unconscious expectations.
To get to know yourself can be a scary
process because humans naturally prefer
the security o f the familiar. Self-knowledge
is easy to put off in our striving o f the
familiar. Self-knowledge is easy to put off
in our striving to build a relationship, but it
cannot be put off forever.
Try this. Form an alliance with your part
ner. Commit to help each other explore
who you are. Don’t think o f it as solving a
problem or debating pros and cons. Make
the time, and take the time, to talk and listen
to each other with great care. No answers
allowed, only questions and encourage
ment to keep talking. Drain the well of
bitterness, give voice to personal thoughts
on topics large and small. Conversation
means truly listening and taking in what the
other person is saying. By doing this, you
allow each other equal opportunity to in
fluence the relationship. Eventually, you
may be able to discuss areas o f conflicts,
with understanding o f the other point o f
view as the goal. Where possible, negotiate
solutions to conflicts or agree to accept
differences within the relationship. Then
live happily ever after.
Dr. Dominique Marguerite is a Jungian
psychologist in private practice.
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to rs w ith d is a b ilitie s and does not m eet
the c ity ’s se ism ic sa fe ty sta n d a rd s.
R e m o d e lin g o f th e o ld O M SI b u ild
in g a n d new c o n s tru c tio n w ill b e g in
th is fa ll, a c c o rd in g to D e n h a rt. The
a rc h ite c tu ra l firm o f T h o m a s H a c k e r
a n d A s s o c ia te s h a s b e e n re ta in e d to
d e sig n th e new fa c ility . It is e x p e c te d
to o p e n in la te 2 0 0 0 an d w ill a c c o m
m o d a te an a n tic ip a te d 2 4 0 ,0 0 0 v is i
to rs a y e a r.
T h e c a m p a ig n c o in c id e s w ith the
C h ild re n ’s M u se u m ’s 5 0 lh a n n iv e rsa ry
th is y e a r. F o u n d e d in 1949, th e M u
seu m is th e o n ly su c h fa c ility in the
P o rtlan d a rea that focuses on the le a rn
in g s ty le s and c re a tiv e n e e d s o f c h il
d re n from b irth to 10 y e a rs o f age.