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Preventing The High Painful Cost Of Divorce
A n y w ay you lo o k at it, divorce
hurts.
F or s p littin g couples, there arc
m onths o r even years o f em otional
agony as the re la tio n sh ip begins to
crum ble. F o r the ch ild re n , there are
years o f adjustm ent as they grapple
w ith “ reasons” w h y th e ir parents arc
no longer together. S ecretly, they may
share in feelings o f g u ilt, somehow
feeling p a rtia lly responsible fo r the
break-up.
In a co u n try where now alm ost
one out o f every tw o marriages is
tion o f m arriage its e lf - alm ost 75%
o f divorced women rem arry. The heart
o f the problem seems to lie w ith the
age old question o f love. People sim ­
“ lo ve ” dictated by n o th in g m ore rea­
sonable than aberration.
“ T h e th ir d k in d w e f in d in
p ly fa ll in love w ith the w rong part­
ners.
I f d>c trend is to be s ig n ific a n tly
reversed, w hat we need c o lle c tiv e ly is
not a s h ift in attitudes tow ard divorce
so m uch as a better understanding o f
that m ysterious co m m o d ity that has,
d o w n through the ages, launched
destined to end in divo rce , it is clear
that we arc m issing som ething. The
cost in terms o f em o tio n a l pain and
battles, united countries, and sent sen­
sible men and wom en p in in g .
B u t is there som ething m ore we
co u ld understand about love? Yes, as
it happens.
In
p e re n n ia l
disrupted lives is ju s t too high.
A dded to that, divo rce has a f i ­
nancial price tag that places a heavy
burden on o u r econom y. The US O f­
C h r is tm a s A t U m o ja
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p le n ty ," he says, “ ta b lo id lit e r a ­
tu re is d e v o te d to i t and its tr a ­
v a ils ; i t cra m s the c o u rts w it h
u rg e n t p le a s fo r d iv o r c e , w it h
c r im in a l a c ts and c i v i l s u its ; i t
sends c h ild r e n w e e p in g in to the
c o rn e r a w a y fr o m q u a rre ls ; and i t
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la u n c h e s fr o m its h o m e s b ro k e n
y o u n g w o m e n and m e n .”
T hrough his research, H ubbard
discovered ways to reduce the lik e li­
b e s t- s e lle r ,
D ia n clics, by L . Ron H ubbard, we
fin d w hat is perhaps the m ost s ig n ifi­
cant new vie w o f love to emerge fo r
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hood o f people fa llin g v ic tim s to c o m ­
pulsive love.
A n d in that, perhaps there is a
b rig h te r hope fo r m arriage on the
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Researchers p re d ic t that nearly
h a lf o f to d a y’ s ch ild re n w ill not liv e
c o n tin u o u sly w ith both b io lo g ic a l
fice o f C h ild S upport E nforcem ent
estimates that S2O-S3O b illio n in ta x­
payers’ m oney is paid out annually to
support children because noncustodial
parents have ignored fin a n c ia l re­
decades.
A ll love is not the same says
H ubbard. “ It has been discovered that
d icrc are three kinds o f L o ve between
w om an and man: the firs t is covered
parents. In divo rce , it is the c h ild re n
w ho are the hapless v ic tim s o f c ir ­
cumstances they d id n ’ t create and
w ho are tossed about in em otional
sponsibilities.
Experts look to m any causes fo r
under the law o f a ffin ity and is the
a ffe c tio n w ith w h ich m ankind holds
tu rm o il they cannot c o n tro l. F o r the
c h ild re n and the ch ild re n to be, i f fo r
risin g rates o f d ivo rce . Despite our
liberal society, there appears to be
little d is illu s io n m e n t w ith the in s titu ­
m ankind: the second is sexual selec­
no other reason, learning about love
is an im p o rta n t educational re q u ire ­
m ent fo r life in o u r m odem w o rld .
tio n and is a true m agnetism between
partners; the th ird is c o m p u ls iv e
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